Teach Me How To Adult

Public speaking is one of the most common anxieties — surveys show up to 75% of people fear public speaking. And that’s not the only thing fear holds us back from. Fear of judgment, failure, change, coming off as “cringe”… our fear of fear keeps us from reaching our full potential. But as today’s guest Judi Holler explains, our goal shouldn’t be to be fearless. The goal is to be courageous. To be scared, and do it anyway. It’s hard to get uncomfortable, but it’s even harder to never try. This interview is a must-hear pep-talk for reframing our relationship with fear, caring less what other people think, and building confidence so we can show up as our fullest selves. Whether you dream of a life on stage performing or delivering keynotes, or you want to be able to present at work or make a toast at a wedding without having a panic attack, becoming a confident public speaker and saying yes to scary things will level up your life.Judi Holler is a keynote speaker, podcaster, best-selling author, and entrepreneur. She’s built a hugely successful keynote speaking business and a top 13% podcast on iTunes, sharing the power of the CEO mindset and her powerful talks for living a courageous life without regret. Judi has been featured in Forbes and Success Magazine, she’s a Second City Conservatory alumnae, and she is the hype girl that everyone needs in their corner.Join us as we chat about: How to exude confidence Overcoming the fear of judgment to embrace the cringeReframing your relationship with fearHow to fear our fear lessThe power of vulnerability Judi’s steps for overcoming stage fright How to prepare for a big presentation/performance Should we show up before we’re ready?What we can learn from the principles of improv Our show is produced by:Gillian Berner, Host, Producer & EditorOlivia Nashmi, Audio EngineerCarolyn Schissler, Designer & Web ProducerSara Valentine, Content ProducerFor advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. How do you maximize your REM sleep, and what's the optimal bedtime to get to bed? Sleep is an ongoing struggle for me, so I'm throwing it back to some much-needed advice from our chat with sleep expert Alanna McGinn. She breaks down what you need to know about sleep hygiene, and how to hack resetting your sleep cycle when you travel to a new time zone. Alanna is the founder and lead sleep expert at Good Night Sleep Site, host of the ‘This Girl Loves Sleep’ podcast and author of ‘This Baby Loves Sleep’. Alanna and her team of sleep consultants are certified through The Family Sleep Institute and have helped thousands of families around the world overcome their sleep challenges and establish healthy nighttime habits. Alanna is the resident sleep expert for publications like Forbes, Maclean’s and Today’s Parent, and the media sleep expert on Cityline, Breakfast Television, CBC Radio, and more. Listen to our full episode with Alanna here.Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes.Follow Alanna:goodnightsleepsite.com@gnsleepsite@alanna.mcginnOur show is produced by:Gillian Berner, Host, Producer & EditorOlivia Nashmi, Audio EngineerCarolyn Schissler, Designer & Web ProducerSara Valentine, Content ProducerFor advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Comparison is the thief of joy, but we’ve never lived in a time of greater social comparison. We compare ourselves on every metric: our jobs, our relationships, our homes, our bodies, our social following, our vacations, our money. Summertime especially can bring up a lot of comparison. It seems like everyone on social media is having the most fun on a beautiful trip with an epic group of friends and impossibly fit bikini bodies.  It’s easy to forget that we’re looking at a highlight reel of everybody else’s lives, comparing their best curated moments to our worst. Here’s the thing… most of the time when we feel like we aren’t enough, or don’t have enough, the people we’re comparing ourselves to don’t even have a life we’d actually want. The grass isn’t greener on the other side. The grass is greener where you water it. Join me for some vulnerable real-talk on: The fake side of what we see on social media Comparing our family life, relationship status and friend groupsWhy you don’t need to stop following everyone you compare yourself to Using envy as your compass and inspiration for what you really want Overcoming the capitalist idea of competitionHow comparison leads to scarcity and lack mentality How to rewrite the stories we tell ourselves Recognizing what you ACTUALLY want VS what comparison tricks you into wantingCarving out your own unique path of successOur show is produced by:Gillian Berner, Host, Producer & EditorOlivia Nashmi, Audio EngineerCarolyn Schissler, Designer & Web ProducerSara Valentine, Content ProducerFor advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Welcome to this week’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. How do we set boundaries and protect our own needs, while showing up for the people we love and being a good friend? For people-pleasers, that balance feels impossible. But this week, we're throwing it back to a helpful perspective shift from psychotherapist Kristina Virro on how to prioritize your needs while still being considerate of others with the "my needs, your needs, our needs" framework. Kristina is a Registered Psychotherapist and Holistic Nutritionist, who is dedicated to reducing stigma around mental health and helping people learn effective strategies to feel less stuck and more empowered. She provides psychotherapy and nutritional counselling at her wellness clinic, Fresh Insight, and she has shared her expertise with major outlets like CP24, Canadian Living, and Global News Live. You might have seen her on social media, where she’s amassed over 100,000 followers on TikTok for her no-bullshit real talk about therapy and mental health. Listen to our full episode with Kristina here!Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes.Follow Kristina:  @therapykristina @kristinavirrofresh-insight.ca/kristina For advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

What’s your relationship to money? Is it rooted in fear? Scarcity? Shame? Abundance? Generosity? It turns out, all the hot stock tips and budgeting hacks are only half of the equation… for a lot of us, the missing ingredient is improving our mindset around money. Approaching your money management from a place of empowerment, compassion and self-worth can make all the difference for your financial success, and embracing that financial success can unlock new opportunities and impact in your life: After all, money is a gateway for other areas of growth in your life. But money is still considered taboo for many, and it can come with all sorts of judgment and anxiety. So we called in Nicole Stanley, the Founder & Head Financial Coach of Arise Financial Coaching. After battling crippling financial anxiety in her early twenties, Nicole enrolled in her first personal finance course and made changes to go from 30K in debt to building over a quarter-million in net worth for her family at age  27. Arise Financial Coaching has now served over 600 clients and has been featured in TIME, Yahoo Finance, & CNET.Today’s episode is a must-listen reframe if you struggle with financial stress and toxic money patterns. As Nicole says, the way you earn money becomes half of your life… and the way you spend money becomes the other half. Tune in to hear more about:Financial habits we should be starting early, no matter how much money we makeHow Nicole moved her family from debt to an impressive net worth on a modest salaryOvercoming toxic frugality and financial diet cultureHow to budget while still living a life you can enjoyThe energetics of money and what we believe about itHow to overcome scarcity and develop a positive, generous mindset with moneyThe differences between financial stress and financial anxietyNicole’s refreshing take on “lifestyle creep”The Steps To Success money frameworkLeveraging the power of compound interestResources mentioned in this episode: How To Start Saving Money (Today!) How To Recession-Proof Your Finances How To Budget How To Invest Your Money How To Make Passive Income (And Make Your Money Work For You) Happy Money by Ken HondaFollow Nicole: On Instagram: @arise.financial.coachingArise Financial CoachingOur show is produced by:Gillian Berner, Host, Producer & EditorOlivia Nashmi, Audio EngineerCarolyn Schissler, Designer & Web ProducerSara Valentine, Content ProducerFor advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

I have a hot take: Boundaries are giving a lotttt of people a permission slip to be assholes. They’re being mis-used to control, manipulate, and justify selfish behaviour. As therapy speak and buzzwords take over the internet and group chats, the overuse can lead to misuse, and a lot of these ideas have become convoluted and misrepresented. (Guys… not EVERYONE is a narcissist, and a disagreement doesn’t mean you were being gaslit.) Boundaries should start with a respectful dialogue, but these days they’re being used as excuse to ghost, cancel people, always get your way, and avoid dealing with real issues. Don’t get me wrong, as a newly reformed anxious people-pleaser, learning about setting proper boundaries has legit changed my life. But bailing on friends or suddenly cutting off loved ones when you don’t get your way to “protect your peace” isn’t actually how healthy boundaries work. Boundaries are an amazing tool to protect our wellbeing and our relationships. They should be rooted in kindness and respect, they should aim to bring us closer and build bridges, not walls. And they should always be about the actions you will take to keep yourself safe, not controlling other people or making demands.So join me as I go offffff on:The most common ways boundaries are being unfairly usedHow power and control can masquerade as boundariesHow to *actually* set a healthy boundary Melissa Urban’s traffic light framework for boundary-settingScripts for kind and gentle boundaries How improperly using boundaries leads to avoidance Why selective enforcement is hurtfulResources mentioned: Listen to episode 88 with boundaries expert Melissa UrbanOur show is produced by:Gillian Berner, Host, Producer & EditorOlivia Nashmi, Audio EngineerCarolyn Schissler, Designer & Web ProducerSara Valentine, Content ProducerFor advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. Okay here us out... breakups don't always need to be dramatic, and you can co-create an amicable next chapter for you and your ex-boo with conscious uncoupling (thanks Gwyneth!) Of course breakups are never fun, but this week we're throwing it back to the key lessons that will help you have a healthy breakup with honesty, compassion, and maybe even... friendship? If you're over the ghosting era and want to lead with humanity the next time you need to end a situationship, longterm partnership, or something in-between, take notes. Listen to the full episode here.Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes.Our show is produced by:Gillian Berner, Host, Producer & EditorOlivia Nashmi, Audio EngineerCarolyn Schissler, Designer & Web ProducerSara Valentine, Content ProducerFor advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

You can have it all... but not all at the same time. We’re conditioned to believe that we should have it all — a career, a family, good health, a social life, nice things, without having to give anything up. But everything has its season. So the real key to “balance” is figuring out what you want to prioritize right now, and what can take the backseat.  For this week's No Dumb Questions, we're kicking it back to this rerelease tackling the question of how to balance and prioritize everything when you’re feeling overwhelmed and stretched too thin. Join us as we chat about:The myth of having it all and the truth about balanceThe “seasons” we're in right nowThe best advice from Shonda RhimesThe difference between “legitimate overwhelm” and “lifestyle overwhelm”Mel Robbins’ antidote to overwhelmIdentifying lies we tell ourselvesHow to actually prioritize what's important right nowOur show is produced by:Gillian Berner, Host, Producer & EditorOlivia Nashmi, Audio EngineerCarolyn Schissler, Designer & Web ProducerSara Valentine, Content ProducerFor advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. We're often our own biggest bullies, but our self-talk can determine our happiness, confidence and success. So it's time to rethink how we think about ourselves. Your thoughts become actions, and they can determine everything in your life. So join us as we throw it back to a hit of advice on how to change your inner dialogue and reframe self-criticism.  Listen to our full episode here.Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Contrary to what we’re taught our whole lives, there’s more than one way to engage in sex, love, and relationships. But what does that look like? Today’s episode is an open and vulnerable conversation with Hayley Folk, a sex writer on a mission to create safe spaces to talk about sex and pleasure. It’s especially important during Pride Month to de-stigmatize sex and sexuality, eradicate judgment, and create safe communities to explore pleasure and identity. So we’re diving deep into ethical non-monogamy, kink, sexual health, boundaries, consent, dating apps, and how to communicate what you want with honesty.I chat with Hayley Folk, a sex writer whose work has appeared in magazines like Cosmopolitan, Refinery29, Elite Daily, and more. She’s the founder of Naked Folk, a publication and podcast that covers the uncomfortable conversations we should be having about sex and relationships. Trigger warning: After the first hour, we talk about the impact of nonconsensual sex and assault. If this is something you’d like to avoid, you can stop listening after the 1 hour mark. Tune in to hear more about:Ethical non-monogamy 101: Polyamory, open relationships, swinging and moreHayley’s journey coming out as queerBoundaries and communication for healthy non-monogamous relationshipsMeeting other couples, unicorns, or open partners on apps or play partiesThe “one penis policy”Dealing with jealousy and storytellingHow to get comfortable with dirty talkConsuming ethical pornDemystifying BDSM and the kink communityPhysical VS verbal kinksThe importance of aftercareNavigating sexual incompatibilityConsent, respect, and sexual health educationI hope you learn something new about yourself or the spectrum of sexuality from this convo! Follow Hayley:https://www.instagram.com/hayley.folk/?hl=enhttps://www.nakedfolk.comhttps://www.instagram.com/nakedfolk/?hl=enOur show is produced by:Gillian Berner, Host, Producer & EditorOlivia Nashmi, Audio EngineerCarolyn Schissler, Designer & Web ProducerSara Valentine, Content ProducerFor advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube