Finding You: with Dr. Brad Reedy

Dr. Reedy talks about how being right is the opposite of being a Self. He talks about how children and parents can get stuck in the battle over who is right and who is wrong. He talks about how trying to be good and right is the enemy of personal growth. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr. Brad Reedy talks about entitlement in children and offers a unique perspective. He explains how terms like "spoiled," "selfish," and even "entitled" are used by adults to shame children so that the adult doesn't have to own and deal with boundary setting. He explains barriers to setting boundaries and encourages parents to do their own work to improve in this area. He also talks about how parents are shamed through labels like "helicopter-parent," "enmeshed," or even "codependent." Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr. Reedy discusses the dynamics of trust and forgiveness as it relates to parenting a struggling child. He talks about how trust is something we own and decide to give away on our own time schedule. He talks about how healing and forgiving are at the discretion of the hurt part, not the one doing the hurting. He empowers parents to own their feelings a not be responsible for how others interpret them. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr. Reedy talks to parents about various types of resistance in therapy and how best to engage their children without making it worse. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr. Reedy talks about the 8 Tools he has seen made the biggest impact on the children and families he has worked with for the last 23 years: I statements, listening, clarifying intent, avoiding imperatives and polarizing language, developing a practice of compassion, and taking time-outs. He shares stories and examples of each of the tools as well as how they help foster differentiation in relationships. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr. Reedy discusses the shift from the identified patient model to treating the family system. He talks about seeing beneath the symptoms to the underlying wound that is being expressed. He also invites parents of struggling children to model vulnerability and openness in the therapeutic process. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr. Reedy answers questions from siblings, friends, and extended family members of Evoke participants about wilderness therapy, siblings, and mental health. Some of the topics included here are how to support a loved-one while in treatment, how to deal with a sibling at home resistant to family therapy, and how to deal with guilt for sending a child to treatment. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr. Reedy discusses the hot new book "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck by Mark Monson. He talks about how the book offers an accessible entry to some Buddhist concepts like radical acceptances, the inevitability of suffering, detachment, and the beginners mind. He also talks about some of the book's limitations and short comings, specifically the lack of insight on how to effectively deal with resistance. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr. Reedy talks about the challenges that occur when co-parents don't support each other. He discusses strategies and tools for creating cohesion. At the center of the idea is that if one becomes focused on the other parent, it can increase division and polarizations. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr. Reedy talks about who can benefit from attending 12-Step support groups. The benefits of attending, sharing, working the steps and having a sponsor are reviewed. Dr. Reedy suggests that the 12-Steps could benefit everyone regardless of their specific circumstances. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.