How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett

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Sep 16, 2025 • 52min

Become a Magnetic Flirt on First Dates in 3 Simple Moves (Live Coaching with Matthew)

Awkward silences, small talk that goes nowhere, the dreaded “I’m just not feeling” text. Bad dates suck! In this live-coaching episode, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett helps his client Matthew go from the nice, lonely guy who runs out of things to say to a magnetic flirt who women cannot resist. Discover the 3 flirting moves that Matthew is using to create playful, authentic chemistry on dates. Listen now!FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO FIND OUT IF DATING COACHING CAN HELP YOU ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND:http://www.datingtransformation.comWANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:Connell@datingtransformation.com
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Sep 11, 2025 • 37min

“His Coke Dealer Came to the Date!” 5 Funny Dating Disasters to Keep YOU from Being Her Horror Story

Want to know what NOT to do on a date? Dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett shares five cringe-worthy dating disasters. From the investment banker whose cocaine dealer made a surprise appearance, to Connell’s double-decker bus ride straight to the Friend Zone, these cautionary tales will help you avoid becoming her next dating nightmare.Highlights—Err, Lowlights?—of this Episode:05:34: MURDER, SHE WATCHED: Maybe Don’t Show Her Your Student Film Where You “Kill” Someone12:03: BUS RIDE TO THE FRIEND ZONE: Why Grand Gestures Just Don’t Work20:54: AREOLA GRANDE: Because There’s No Good Time to Ask Her Nipple Size25:50: FIRST DATE, LAST RITES: “Here Are Pics from My Grandma’s Funeral. So How About a Second Date?”31:25: COKE-BLOCKED! Meet the Banker Who Brought His Coke Dealer as a Plus-OneBOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-ON-1 COACHING:http://www.DatingTransformation.comEMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: Connell@datingtransformation.com
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Sep 9, 2025 • 42min

Will You Find True Love—or End Up Settling? It All Comes Down to ONE Thing

Have you ever deleted a dating app in frustration? Or stopped yourself from following up after being left “on read”? Quitting too soon only leads to settling—or staying single. The solution is resilience. In this episode, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett reveals how grit and tenacity can help you land more dates, build confidence, and find the relationship you want. Love or loneliness—the deciding factor is resilience.BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-ON-1 COACHING: http://www.DatingTransformation.comEMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON'T”: Connell@datingtransformation.com
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Sep 4, 2025 • 32min

The Shy Guy’s Advantage: 5 Approaching Secrets to Help Introverts Confidently Connect with Women

Approaching women as a shy, introverted guy can feel terrifying. But that shyness is actually your hidden advantage. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett reveals 5 powerful shifts to help introverts confidently meet women in real life. You’ll also discover his go-to icebreaker that almost always works.BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-ON-1 COACHING:http://www.DatingTransformation.comEMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON'T”: Connell@datingtransformation.com
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Sep 3, 2025 • 32min

You’re Making a HUGE Mistake on the Apps—Fix It Now! + Steal My Hinge Prompt for More Matches

If you struggle on the apps, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett reveals the big mistake that costs you matches and dates—and how to fix it. Plus, Connell shares his best Hinge prompt ever. Then he unveils the 3 must-have prompts every profile needs to FINALLY make online-dating work for you.Highlights of this Episode:01:00: Online Dating is NOT Dating—Here’s What It Is03:01: The Real Reason You Struggle to Get Quality Matches05:18: What Don Draper Knows about the Dating Apps07:42: Connell’s #1 Hinge Prompt—and Why It Works18:47: The 3 Prompts You Need on Your Hinge, Bumble or Tinder ProfileBOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-ON-1 COACHING: http://www.DatingTransformation.comEMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKSBUT YOU DON'T”: Connell@datingtransformation.com
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Aug 26, 2025 • 58min

5 Texting Mistakes Women HATE! + 5 Ninja Text Moves to Get Her Pursuing You

You know what sucks? (Besides every Kid Rock song.) When a woman you’re texting leaves you on read—and you have no idea why. In the finale of dating coach Connell Barrett’s “Textual Healing” series, you’ll learn the 5 hidden texting mistakes that turn women off. And you’ll get 5 advanced moves to become a texting ninja. Plus, Connell reads a message thread from his own phone to show you how to text your way to a first date.You’re About to Learn:03:44: The #1 Texting Mistake that Kills Attraction13:08: The Texting Cadence that Prevents Canceled Dates17:33: Why Being Mysterious Is a Dating Dead End22:23: The “Resurrection Text” that Brings Dead Matches Back to Life26:58: The Flirty Way to Confirm Dates by Text35:49: How “Callback Humor” Builds Chemistry and Connection45:21: Connell Breaks Down His Own Text ThreadDO YOU WANT TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND? BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING:http://www.DatingTransformation.comEMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”:Connell@datingtransformation.com
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Aug 19, 2025 • 1h 1min

Women Can Tell If You Watch Too Much Porn—and it’s Destroying Your Dating Life (with Frank Rich)

Ever wonder why you feel insecure around women? In a raw interview, thought leader and podcaster Frank Rich (“The Super Human Life”) joins dating coach Connell Barrett to reveal the hidden culprit that may be hurting your confidence: porn addiction. Rich opens up about his own battle, and explains how watching too much porn leads to objectifying women and kills dating motivation. He also shares his 5-step roadmap to freedom, so you can live and love authentically—without porn or shame.02:44: Why Porn Addiction is Not What You Think11:46: How Porn Replaces Real Romantic Connection15:59: Frank’s Raw Story: From Shame to Redemption24:40: The Hotel Incident that Changed Everything29:25: Why Facing Consequences Is the Key to Defeating Porn Addiction41:35: The 5-Step Roadmap for Rebuilding 48:08: The Subtle Tells Women Pick Up On within MinutesLISTEN TO FRANK RICH’S SUPER HUMAN LIFE PODCAST: Available on all major podcast platformsCHECK OUT HIS INSTAGRAM:@‌CoachFrankRichJOIN FRANK RICH’S COMMUNITY:Visit http://Skool.com/rebootyourlife for his community helping men quit porn and rebuild their livesBOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO SEE IF 1-ON-1 DATING COACHING IS RIGHT FOR YOU:http://DatingTransformation.com
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Aug 12, 2025 • 31min

Do Women Ignore You on the Apps? Use My ‘Back to the Future’ Opener for a Date by Saturday

Do women on the apps rarely reply to you? Dating coach Connell Barrett reveals his “Back to the Future” opener—the playful icebreaker that’s helped clients spark conversations, set up dates, and find girlfriends. He gives you the exact words to send so you can stop getting ghosted and start connecting. “This is the best opener I’ve come up with in my 20 years of studying online dating,” Connell says. Steal it today—your future girlfriend will thank you.Episode Highlights:01:28: How Connell Created the “Back to the Future” Opener—His Best Ever04:51: What to Write, Word for Word11:10: Do This to Make the Exchange Ever Flirtier15:35: How to Lock in the Date, with ZERO Chance of Flaking23:45: How Shane Used the Opener to Meet His New Girlfriend27:51: The Secret Behind Why the “Back to the Future” Opener WorksBOOK A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO SEE IF HIS INNOVATINVE COACHING METHODS ARE RIGHT FOR YOU:http://DatingTransformation.com
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Aug 7, 2025 • 49min

Stop Getting Ghosted! The 10 Texting Commandments that Get Women Writing You Back (Textual Healing, Part 2)

Tired of getting ghosted? Do your texting conversations die faster than a fruit fly? In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett shares his 10 Texting Commandments—his tested rules to get women texting you back and saying yes to dates. Yea, thou SHALT obey these holy rules, and ye shall soon get ye some dates!The 10 Texting Commandments:04:00: Thou Shalt Give Authentic Value07:15: Thou Shalt Not Over-Read the Texting Tea Leaves15:51: Thou Shalt Follow the ‘Three Times Rule’12:49: Thou Shalt Not Fear the Double-Text22:45: Thou Shalt Change Her Mood, Not Her Mind26:12: Thou Shalt Text Her Leading Up to the First Date31:40: Thou Shalt Lower the Bar for How Good Your Texts Must Be34:08: Thou Shalt Ask Her Good Questions37:26: Thou Shalt Use Photos, Videos and Voice Notes40:35: Thou Shalt Ask Her Out43:02: Bonus Commandment! Thou Shalt Text Her the Day After a DateREADY TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND? BOOK A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL:www.DatingTransformation.comWANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL'S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON'T”? EMAIL CONNELL:Connell@datingtransformation.com
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Aug 5, 2025 • 44min

How to Stop Settling in Love: A Therapist Explains Why You Choose the Wrong Relationships (with Jason VanRuler)

Have you ever settled for a woman who wasn’t what you were looking for, but you felt she was the best you could do? Licensed therapist and author Jason VanRuler reveals how hidden childhood wounds quietly shape your dating choices—and how to finally heal and move forward. You’ll learn why men settle, how to escape a “shadow” love life, and get a plan to help you finally find the relationship you really want.Episode Highlights:07:12: The Panic Attack Connell Once Had about Dating and What it Reveals14:45: The Psychology Behind Settling in Love and Life25:45: How to Stop Living a “Shadow Life”28:54: How to Enjoy the Process of Dating36:16: The “Business Partner Test” to Know if She’s the One38:58: Where Introverted Men Should Go to Meet Quality WomenTO DOWNLOAD JASON’S FREE ‘LIFE AUDIT’:http://JasonVR.comREAD JASON’S BESTSELLING BOOK ‘GET PAST YOUR PAST’:Available on AmazonFOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO SEE IF DATING COACHINGIS RIGHT FOR YOU:http://Datingtransformation.com

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