How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett

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Dec 3, 2025 • 38min

The Truth about Liquid Courage + 9 Ways to Make Sobriety Your New Edge in Dating (Part 3)

Dating sober raises real questions: Will women find you less interesting without alcohol? How do you handle social anxiety at bars or parties without “liquid courage”? And is liquid courage even real? In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett answers 10 questions from sober (and sober-curious) men, revealing how to unlock core confidence, enjoy great dates, and make sobriety your new edge in dating.WANT TO MEET YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND IN 90 DAYS OR LESS? BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO SEE IF HIS 1-ON-1 COACHING IS RIGHT FOR YOU: http://DatingTransformation.com
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Nov 27, 2025 • 33min

I Approached Models in Miami Stone-Cold Sober… and Everything Changed (Sober Dating, Part 2 of 3)

Most guys need alcohol to approach women. But what if meeting women in bars actually gets easier when you’re sober—if done the right way? In Part 2 of his Sober Dating series, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett shares his 5-step framework for reaching a fearless flow state when out meeting women, no booze required.Episode Highlights:01:58: What Happened When Connell Approached Models Sober10:03: Getting “Drunk” on Action: the Natural High that Beats Booze13:48: The 5 Master Steps–Your Framework for Confidently Approaching Women23:25: How Robbie Went from Frightened to Getting 5 Numbers in One Night29:30: The Truth about What to Say When You ApproachBOOK A FREE CONSULT WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW YOU CAN APPROACH WOMEN WITHOUT THE CRUTCH OF ALCOHOL: DatingTransformation.com
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Nov 25, 2025 • 53min

I Chose My Girlfriend Over Johnnie Walker: Love Lessons from 1,000 Days Sober (Part 1)

If you struggle with dating, you’re probably addicted to something. Maybe it's “liquid courage,” or settling for so-so relationships, or choosing porn over approaching women. In this 3-part sober dating series, dating coach Connell Barrett shares his 1,000-day journey of sobriety—and offers 3 steps that can help you beat almost any addiction. Whether you want to date sober or get out of your comfort zone, this inspiring episode shows you how to upgrade your love life.Episode Highlights:06:54: How a 30-Day “Booze Break” Became 1,000 Days—and a Whole New Life13:04: “This Is Not Me”: The Moment Connell Knew He Had to Change19:01: The Liquid Courage Lie28:00: The Lasting Way to Destroy an Addiction37:30: Three Steps to Kick Any Habit—and Transform Your Dating ConfidenceFOR A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL BARRETT TO SEE IF DATING COACHING IS RIGHT FOR YOU: Go to DatingTransformation.com
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Nov 19, 2025 • 30min

Ask the Dating Coach: ‘How Do I Start Conversations with Women without Making It Awkward?’

If you struggle to start conversations with women, this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend” will help. While taking questions, dating coach Connell Barrett gives you a simple, reliable ice-breaker you can use anywhere to talk to women—without it feeling awkward. He also reveals how much height and looks actually matter to women (hint: not much!). And you won’t believe what one guy is willing to do to his body to become taller.Episode Highlights:01:32: “Connell, How Do I Make Women Chase Me?”08:25: “How Do I Start Conversations without Making It Awkward?”11:55: “What Actually Makes Women Attracted to Men?”17:30: “How Important Are a Guy’s Looks to Women?”22:57: “Should I Get Leg-Lengthening Surgery to Become Taller?”DO YOU WANT TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND? BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING: http://www.DatingTransformation.comEMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, "DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON'T": Connell@datingtransformation.com
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Nov 13, 2025 • 27min

The E=MC² of Dating: How to Be Charismatic to Women (Even if You’re Shy or Introverted)

Do you feel like you’re just not charismatic? It’s frustrating to see outgoing guys succeed with women, while you feel stuck. But what if you could become charismatic to women today, without changing who you are? Dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett reveals his Charisma Code—the 3-part formula that helps introverts become magnetic to women. Get ready to discover the E=MC² of dating to unlock real charisma.Episode Highlights:01:48: The Charisma Code Formula: AE + P + Pl = Charisma02:40: How Connell First Applied it for a Great First Date07:37: Authentic Expression (AE): Why Your Uniqueness Unlocks True Charisma12:42: Presence (P): How to Get Out of Your Head when Talking to Women19:05: Playfulness (Pl): The Flirting Secret Women Want You to KnowBOOK A FREE CONSULT CALL WITH DATING COACH CONNELL BARRETT TO LEARN ABOUT HIS 1-on-1 COACHING: http://www.datingtransformation.comEMAIL CONNELL AND HE WILL SEND YOU A FREE COPY OF HIS BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: Connell@datingtransformation.com
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Nov 11, 2025 • 27min

From Boring to Banter! 5 Flirty Banter Secrets that Create Instant Romantic Chemistry

Are you unsure how to flirt with women? Dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett shares 5 flirty banter secrets that help you create chemistry, avoid awkward silences, and get her into you. These simple techniques work both in-person and on the dating apps. It’s time to go from boring to being great at banter.Episode Highlights:2:11: Secret #1: How to Tease Her without Crossing the Line6:48: Secret #2: Make Her the Seducer (A Fun Roleplay that Women Love)10:40: Secret #3: The 5 Best Banter Topics that Ignite Chemistry17:12: Secret #4: How to Spark Attraction with Sarcasm20:28: Secret #5: The Playful Pivot: Never Run Out of Things to Say Again!TO TAKE YOUR DATING RESULTS TO A WHOLE NEW LEVEL, BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING:http://www.DatingTransformation.comEMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”:Connell@datingtransformation.com
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Nov 6, 2025 • 38min

“She Dumped Me for Her Ex! What Am I Doing Wrong?” Your Trickiest Dating Questions Answered

Have you ever liked a woman who chose a total jerk over you? It stings and makes you wonder, “What does he have that I don’t?” In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett helps a listener learn why the woman he was dating went back to her toxic ex—and what to do differently to attract the wonderful relationship he deserves.Highlights of this Episode:01:31: The Real Reason Women Sometimes Choose Jerks Over Good Guys07:12: Why Nice Guys like You Can Date Wonderful Women—If You Do One Thing26:15: How to Fearlessly Ask Out Your CrushTO TAKE YOUR DATING RESULTS TO A WHOLE NEW LEVEL, BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING: http://www.DatingTransformation.comEMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: Connell@datingtransformation.com
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Oct 30, 2025 • 30min

From No Dates to 2 Dates a Week: New Strategies to Fill Your Dating Dance Card

Has it been months—or even years—since you had a first date with an incredible woman? In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett explains why your options are scarce, and how to fix it. He’ll walk you through three proven ways to meet women so you can go from zero dates to two quality dates a week.You’re About to Learn:02:25: Why You’re Dateless (and Why It’s About to Change)04:55: How Connell Went from Lonely to Landing 3 Dates in 3 Nights07:03: A Trio of New, Powerful Ways to Get an Abundance of DatesTO TAKE YOUR DATING RESULTS TO A WHOLE NEW LEVEL, BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING: http://www.DatingTransformation.comEMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: Connell@datingtransformation.com
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Oct 28, 2025 • 29min

How a Shy, Lonely Software Engineer Learned to Flirt and Found his Dream Woman—and How You Can, Too!

If you struggle to talk to women or feel stuck in the friend zone, you need to hear Tony’s story. A shy, single dad and software engineer, Tony was dateless when he began working with Connell. By learning how to flirt with women and bring confidence to every date, Tony met his dream girlfriend, Jennifer. In this episode, he shares the exact shifts and flirting techniques that helped him succeed—so you can find love, too.Episode Highlights:01:54: Why Tony Felt Women Didn’t Want Him03:31: The Self-Doubt Voice that Keeps Men Single—and How to Silence It12:36: Steal the “Time Traveler” Online Dating Opener that Got Jennifer’s Attention17:36: How Tony Escaped the Friend Zone on His First Date21:20: The First Date that Changed Everything27:53: Tony’s Take—the One Move Every Shy, Single Guy Should MakeTO TAKE YOUR DATING RESULTS TO A WHOLE NEW LEVEL, BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING: http://www.DatingTransformation.comEMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: Connell@datingtransformation.com
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Oct 23, 2025 • 31min

“Nice Guys Are Sexy—if They Do This One Thing.” A Maxim Model’s Dating Secret

Do you worry you’re “too nice”? Tired of seeing women date jerks? It’s time to own being a nice guy! The truth is, women actually prefer kind men over “alpha males,” if you make 3 key moves. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett shares these tested tips. Plus—the powerful lesson he learned from a Maxim model. Nice guys can finish first with women, and this episode shows you how.Episode Highlights:04:41: Move #1: Ignore the “Alpha Male” Myth09:05: What 64,000 Women Actually Want in a Man (It’s Not Looks or Money)16:13: Move #2: Be a Man with a Game Plan20:26: Maxim Model: “Nice Guys are Sexy, if They Do One Thing”22:24: Move #3: Direct the Date to Quickly Spark AttractionTO TAKE YOUR DATING RESULTS TO A WHOLE NEW LEVEL, BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING: http://www.DatingTransformation.comEMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: Connell@datingtransformation.com

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