How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett

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Jan 28, 2025 • 52min

“Will You Be My Boyfriend?” The 10 Green Lights that Trigger Instant Attraction in Wonderful Women

How do you make her want YOU to be her boyfriend? It’s simpler than you think. Just show her these 10 “green lights.” In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett teaches you 10 attraction triggers that help women see you as boyfriend material. And these are NOT sketchy pickup moves. They’re practical strategies to showcase your most authentic, confident self, and create true connections. Because women are drawn to authentic gentlemen!You’re about to learn…03:32: Green Light No. 1: How to Be Authentic and Spark a Romantic Connection09:29: Green Light No. 2: How to Lead a Date with Confidence12:42: Green Light No. 3: How to Play Up Your Passions to Stand Out from Other Guys16:17: Green Light No. 4: How to Talk About Your Future in a Compelling Way19:48: Green Light No. 5: How to Be Playful and Create Instant Chemistry26:16: Green Light No. 6: How to Flirt in the Way Women LOVE, without Being Cringey30:04: Green Light No. 7: How to Ask Great Questions that Keep Conversations Flowing34:40: Green Light No. 8: How to Talk About Your Ex the Right Way37:48: Green Light No. 9: How to Tell a Story that Helps Her Open Up to You40:24: Green Light No. 10: How to Make Her Laugh and Feel Instantly Drawn to YouListen now, apply these techniques, and find your dream girlfriend!FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES:http://www.datingtransformation.com/contactTO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:Connell@datingtransformation.com
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Jan 23, 2025 • 54min

Exclusive! How to Win on Dating Apps—Secrets from the Man Who Invented Swiping, Tinder’s Jonathan Badeen

Ready to finally get great matches on Tinder? Who better to guide you than the man who invented swiping and changed dating forever: Tinder’s visionary co-founder, Jonathan Badeen. Back in the day, Jonathan was struggling to meet women and get dates. (Sound familiar?) He launched Tinder in part to help his own love life, and the world has never been the same. In this exclusive interview with dating coach Connell Barrett, Badeen shares the lightbulb moment when he came up with the swiping idea, reveals the biggest mistakes men make on the apps, and explains why he would absolutely swipe right on Minnie Mouse.In this episode, Jonathan and Connell talk about:2:37: Why Tinder is for More than Just Hookups14:01: The Aha Moment when Jonathan Came Up with Swiping17:26: Why Authenticity is What Women Want—on Tinder and in Real Life26:33: The Real Reason You’re Not Getting Good Matches30:15: The Myth that “Dating Apps Just Don’t Work”34:04: How to Inject Fun into Your profile to Get Women Messaging You First35:47: How Shy Guys and “Nerds” Can Win on the Apps47:01: Why Jonathan Would Swipe Right on Minnie Mouse and Swipe Left on “The Godfather 3”Listen now for wisdom from the man who changed dating—and start landing great Tinder dates today.FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES:http://www.datingtransformation.com/contactTO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:Connell@datingtransformation.com
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Jan 21, 2025 • 42min

10 Invisible Red Flags that Get You Rejected: Which Mistakes Are YOU Making? Plus 10 Fast Fixes

Ever had a woman ghost you, friend-zone you, or suddenly lose interest—and you had no idea why? Odds are, you accidentally pushed her away. There are 10 invisible red flags that turn women off, and most men don’t even realize they’re making these mistakes! In this episode, dating coach Connell Barrett reveals these attraction-killing errors and shares easy, practical fixes for each one.Here are the 10 red flags that turn women off:04:29: #1 Hiding Your Authentic Self and Being Someone You’re Not06:03: #2 Coming Off as Insecure or Needy09:20: #3 Long, Awkward Pauses in Conversations11:26: #4 Lying or Exaggerating About Your Life14:35: #5 Using Canned, Rehearsed Pickup Lines16:01: #6 Touching Her Too Much…or Not Enough!18:42: #7 Planning Boring, Forgettable Dates22:38: #8 Failing to Be Playful and Fun26:39: #9 Bringing Up Your Ex the Wrong Way29:56: #10 Trying Too Hard to Impress HerListen now, to turn red flags into green lights—and get a great girlfriend!FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES:http://www.datingtransformation.com/contactTO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:Connell@datingtransformation.com
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Jan 16, 2025 • 30min

What to Write on Your Bio: 7 Secrets for Way More Matches! Plus: Steal These 10 Funny, Flirty Prompts

Do the apps frustrate you because you just don’t get many good matches? Here’s the problem: Your bio is boring women! Let’s fix this fast. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett shares his 7 secrets for writing an online-dating bio that womenlove—and that’s authentic to YOU. Using his simple formula, you’ll finally get good matches on Tinder, Bumble, or Hinge. Plus, his 10 funniest bio prompts will get women giggling… and swiping right.You’re about to learn:02:40: Why Authenticity is Your Online-Dating Superpower4:43: The Bio Mistake that Costs You Matches—and How to Fix It6:00: Don’t! Do! This!8:45: The Right Way to Flirt on Your Profile12:00: The 3-Line Bio Formula that Women Can’t Resist15:01: How to Write About Yourself in an Attractive Way17:50: The Flirty Line that Gets Her Messaging You First20:55: A Hinge Hack to Triple Your Matches23:01: Connell’s Top 10 Funniest Bio Lines that Women Love—Steal Them!Ready to flood your inbox with good dating leads? Listen now and write a bio that will bring you a BIG step closer to meeting your future girlfriend.FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES:http://www.datingtransformation.com/contactTO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:Connell@datingtransformation.com
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Jan 14, 2025 • 43min

Ask the Dating Coach: ‘HELP! She Wants Me to Baa Like a Sheep During Sex. What Do I Do?’

It’s time to “Ask the Dating Coach!” as Connell Barrett takes your questions. If you struggle with what to say on dates, Connell shares three essential flirting moves to help you spark romantic connections. (Farewell, Friend Zone!) He also reveals why women prefer nice guys over so-called alpha males. And a listener has a “sheepish” question about talking dirty in bed.Highlights from this episode:01:51: Andrew Asks: “A Woman Wants Me to Baa Like a Sheep in Bed. What Do I Do?”03:19: How to Talk Dirty Without Feeling Awkward08:57: Zach Asks: “Am I Too Nice? Do Women Only Want to Date Alpha Males?”11:25: Why the “Alpha Male” Is a Total Myth13:48: How Kindness, Confidence and Authenticity Will Help You Get a Girlfriend24:30: Barry Asks: “Why Can’t I Get Past the First Date?”25:52: Connell’s Aha Moment that Made Him Magnetic to Women31:07: Three Flirting Moves to Escape the Friend Zone and Land Second DatesHit play and start transforming your love life todayFOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES:http://www.datingtransformation.com/contactTO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:Connell@datingtransformation.com
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Jan 9, 2025 • 40min

Dating Apps Are Broken—Inner Circle is the Fix! Find Love Using this Innovative App (Featuring David Vermeulen)

Burnt out on dating apps? The endless swiping, the lack of quality matches, the fake profiles—it’s exhausting! But Inner Circle is changing the game. Equal parts social club and dating app, Inner Circle is built for ambitious singles who want to swipe less and connect more, forming real, meaningful relationships. In this episode, dating coach Connell Barrett welcomes Inner Circle’s founder David Vermeulen. He shares how his innovative platform helps successful, driven men and women connect authentically—first online and then IRL at fun, exclusive events in cities like New York, London, Paris and Rio.With Connell and David as your guides, you’ll discover:4:46: The Dating Horror Story that Inspired David to Start Inner Circle6:38 How Inner Circle’s Technology Virtually Eliminates Fake Profiles7:55 Why the Platform’s IRL Events is “Where the Magic Happens”10:43 A Game-Changing Strategy for Introverts to Meet Women in the Real World11:25: Connell’s One-Sentence Dating Mantra that Will Transform Your Love Life19:29: How “Tinder is Like McDonald’s,” in David’s View27:41: Why Quality Matches Always Beat Quantity30:54: How to Decide if She’s Worth a Second Date33:36: A Simple Writing Tip to Make Your Bio Magnetic to Women35:32: David’s Surprising Rule for Online-Dating Success: “Opposites Don’t Attract”Ready to finally connect with women on a dating app that actually works? Listen now!LEARN MORE ABOUT INNER CIRCLE:https://about.theinnercircle.co/CHECK OUT INNER CIRCLE ON INSTAGRAM:https://www.instagram.com/innercircleco/DOWNLOAD THE INNER CIRCLE APP:https://apps.apple.com/us/app/inner-circle-dating-community/id838136374FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES:http://www.datingtransformation.com/contactTO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:Connell@datingtransformation.com
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Jan 7, 2025 • 1h 18min

Forget Resolutions! Here's Your New Year's REVOLUTION: 5 Game-Changing Dating Strategies to Attract Your Ideal Girlfriend in 2025

The new year is here, and now’s the time to attract your dream girl. But not knowing where to start can feel overwhelming. You need a clear, tested plan for success. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett shares 5 proven strategies that practically guarantee you’ll find love in 2025. These aren’t flimsy resolutions you’ll abandon by February. They’re bold, revolutionary daily rituals to authentically connect with wonderful women.Using Connell’s tested moves, you’re about to learn:01:30: Why Resolutions Fail—and How to Build Rituals that Get Dating Results05:45: What Women Really Want—Authenticity!—and How to Give it to Them14:20: How to Truly Connect with Women Who are Your Type24:18: A Morning Ritual that Supercharges Your Motivation and Confidence38:10: The Daily Practice that Virtually Guarantees You Will Find Love in 202551:10: The Online-Dating Secret to Skyrocket Your Number of Quality Matches1:08:30: What You MUST Do Today to if You Want a Great GirlfriendYour dream girl is waiting—don’t wait another day to start your journey. Listen now!FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES:http://www.datingtransformation.com/contactTO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:Connell@datingtransformation.com
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Jan 2, 2025 • 1h 6min

From 10 Years of Loneliness to Landing His Dream Girl Allie: How Jake Found Love—and How You Can, Too!

Feeling stuck in a dating dry spell? So was Jake. At 30, this shy, nerdy engineer (and proud Creed fan) felt too afraid to talk to women. And he hadn’t had a girlfriend in a decade. But with personalized guidance from dating coach Connell Barrett, Jake learned how to confidently connect with women on the dating apps and IRL. In one whirlwind week, Jake went on five first dates. “That’s more than I’d had the entire previous year,” he said with a laugh. Then he met bright, bubbly Allie, who’s now his girlfriend. “I knew she was the one.”Channeling Creed, this episode will take your love life… higher! Connell and Jake discuss:09:30: The Missed Approach Opportunity that Ignited Jake’s Breakthrough13:35: The Mindset Shift Every Man Needs to Attract His Dream Girlfriend16:30: How Jake Landed Five Dates in Just One Week17:28: The First-Date Aha Moment that Led to a Sexy Make-out20:25: A 15-Minute Ritual for Instant Confidence22:06: How Connell’s “80-20” Flirting Rule Helps You Know What to Say to Women34:17: A Playful Teasing Move that Builds Attraction on Dates40:45: The Wordless Approach Technique that Works in Loud Venues45:38: How to Help the Right Woman See You As Her Dream Guy58:19: Connell’s No. 1 Daily Dating Tip to ApplyWith Allie as his partner, Jake’s decade of loneliness is behind him.Listen now and start your journey to finding the girlfriend you deserve!FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES:http://www.datingtransformation.com/contactTO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:Connell@datingtransformation.com
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Dec 31, 2024 • 29min

Which Dating App is Right for YOU? The Top 7 Apps to Swipe Right on Love and Find Your Soulmate

With over 1,000 dating apps out there, it’s hard to know which one is right for you—and which will waste your time and money. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett reveals his top 7 apps that he and his clients used in 2024. Whether you’re looking for meaningful connections or fun, casual dates, this guide will help you find the perfect app to help you get matches and dates… and even find your soulmate!Here’s what Connell covers in this episode:1:30: Why Choosing the Wrong App Costs You Matches and Dates2:45: No. 7: The League—it’s About Quality, Not Quantity4:45: No. 6: Why Badoo is Great if You Aren’t Hollywood Handsome7:11: No. 5 and No. 4: Match and eHarmony—Which Long-Term Relationship Platform is Better for You?12:45: How Coffee Meets Bagel Will Help You Get Coffee Dates with Your Type of Women15:15: No. 2: Bumble’s Latest Innovations that Make Finding Love Easier than Ever19:07: No. 1: The Top Dating App of 2024 is… Hinge! Here’s Why Every Man MUST Be on Hinge22:37: Bonus Tip: A Clever Way Hinge Can Help You Succeed on Other Dating AppsTune in now to turn your swipes into sparks—and matches into love!FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES:http://www.datingtransformation.com/contactTO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:Connell@datingtransformation.com
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Dec 24, 2024 • 1h 12min

Bummed About NO Good Matches on the Apps? These 15 Quick Fixes Will Turn Your Profile into a Match Magnet (Live Coaching with Zach)

It’s Christmas, and Santa Connell has a gift for you: Matches galore on the dating apps! Because endless swiping and ZERO matches makes you say, “ho, ho, NO!” It’s getting old, right? In this episode of the “How to Get a Girlfriend” podcast, dating coach Connell Barrett helps his client Zach fix the same issues that frustrate you. Zach—a personal trainer and 40-year-old single dad—learns 15 proven online-dating moves to turn his phone into a date-generating machine. And hey, the more good matches you have, the sooner you can attract a wonderful girlfriend who loves you for you.Here are some of the strategies Connell shares with Zach. You’re about to learn:6:41: How to Maximize Online-Dating Success with Minimal Effort (15 Minutes Daily!)8:49: Why Being a Single Dad is a Feature, Not a Flaw—and How to Talk about it On Your Profile14:35: Connell Crafts a Clever, Authentic “DILF” Prompt for Zach that Women Will Love17:49: The 3 Photos Every Man MUST Have on his Hinge, Bumble or Tinder Profile21:08: The Secret to Writing Funny Prompts that Make Her Message YOU First23:18: Boosting your Profile: When, Why and How to Do It27:07: From Matching to Texting to Getting the First Date, in 3 Simple Steps30:04: How to use Video Clips to Skyrocket Your Matches32:15: The 5 Big Profile Mistakes You Didn’t Know You Were Making55:43: Hinge Hack: How to Write Poll Prompts to Triple Your Matches1:01:17: How to Date Without Drinking Alcohol and Still Have FunHit “play” now and start getting good matches on the apps.FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES:http://www.datingtransformation.com/contactTO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:Connell@datingtransformation.comQuotes"Transparency fosters genuine connections and sets clear expectations." - Zach"The focus on self-improvement paves the way for deeper connections and fulfilling relationships." - Zach

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