Don’t be afraid to Talk - Podcast with James Lumumba

In this episode of the "Don't Be Afraid to Talk" podcast, James is joined by Ilaria, a trauma-informed coach, to discuss people-pleasing. The conversation explores the idea of honoring oneself in relationships, whether they be romantic, familial, or friendships. Ilaria emphasizes the importance of questioning whether a connection is real if one feels they cannot honor themselves in it. The episode aims to inspire listeners to take charge of their wellbeing and grow as human beings through conversation and listening. Questions: 1.    What is People pleasing? 2.    What is at the root of people-pleasing? 3.    What are the signs You Might Be a People-Pleaser 4.    How can People Pleasing Hurt You? 5.    How does this create nonhealthy relationship Patterns? 6.    What is the distinction between Being Nice vs. Being a People-Pleaser 7.    What People-Pleasing Looks Like 8.    How to stop being a People Pleaser Follow Ilaria Petrucci: WEBSITE: ⁠ https://ilariapetruccicoaching.com/ INSTAGRAM: ⁠ https://www.instagram.com/ilariapetrucci_coaching/ ⁠FACEBOOK: ⁠ https://www.facebook.com/groups/stoppleasingstartliving/ LINKTR: ⁠ https://linktr.ee/Ilariacoaching If you would like to share your story and help inspire others or have a perspective on Mental Health, please contact me for our conversation. Follow The Show: INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/dontbeafraidtotalk/ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/Dontbeafraidtotalk/ WEBSITE: https://www.podpage.com/dontbeafraidtotalkpodcast/   Your Mental Health information line - Ireland Mental Health Ireland: 01 284 1166 Pieta House: 1800 247 247 Suicide or Survive (SOS):  01 272 2158 Aware: 1800 80 48 48 Samaritans: 116 123 LGBT Ireland: 1800 929 539

Raiya is a Transitionist, Reiki Master & Energy Worker, Student Midwife, and Herbalist. In this episode, Raiya shares her story of loving someone with a man with Bipolar Disorder The loss it created and the forgiveness and love that it gained 💚 Follow Raiya Iverson: INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/earthsideholistic/ WEBSITE: https://www.earthsideholistic.com/ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/EarthsideHolistic/ LINKTREE: https://linktr.ee/earthsideholistic If you would like to share your story and help inspire others or have a perspective on Mental Health, please contact me for our conversation. Follow The Show: INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/dontbeafraidtotalk/ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/Dontbeafraidtotalk/ WEBSITE: https://www.podpage.com/dontbeafraidtotalkpodcast/   Your Mental Health information line - Ireland Mental Health Ireland: 01 284 1166 Pieta House: 1800 247 247 Suicide or Survive (SOS):  01 272 2158 Aware: 1800 80 48 48 Samaritans: 116 123 LGBT Ireland: 1800 929 539

How often do we consider the emotional image of a parent and the impact it has on a child's development? We had an incredible conversation with Stephanie Carlinia, a clinical psychologist and trauma specialist from the Netherlands, who provided valuable insights on this topic and more. From parentification to emotional immaturity, join us as we dive deep into the emotional aspects of parenting and their consequences on children. Stephanie led us through a fascinating discussion on parentification and its symptoms, revealing how it can rob children of their joy and even lead to feelings of guilt. We also explored different types of emotionally immature parents, such as driven and passive parents, and the effects they may have on a child's self-worth and sense of security. Furthermore, Stephanie shared her thoughts on healing from parental rejection and the importance of becoming a better parent to our inner child first. As we wrapped up our conversation, we touched on the concepts of reactive versus mature parenting, self-regulation, emotional safety, and the role of a therapist in the healing process. With her expertise and compassionate approach, Stephanie encourages us all to reflect on our own parenting styles and prioritize emotional well-being for both ourselves and our children. Don't miss this insightful and transformative episode with Stephanie Carlinia. In this episode we speak about the 4 Types of Parenting types: The Emotional Type of Parent The Driven Type Parent The Passive Type Parent The Rejecting Type of Parent What does each look like and How you can start working on each Follow Dr. Stephanie Carinia: INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/psychologiststephanie/ WEBSITE: https://www.psychologiststephanie.com/ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/psychologiststephanie If you would like to share your story and help inspire others or have a perspective on Mental Health, please contact me for our conversation. Follow The Show: INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/dontbeafraidtotalk/ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/Dontbeafraidtotalk/ WEBSITE: https://www.podpage.com/dontbeafraidtotalkpodcast/ Your Mental Health information line - Ireland Mental Health Ireland: 01 284 1166 Pieta House: 1800 247 247 Suicide or Survive (SOS): 01 272 2158 Aware: 1800 80 48 48 Samaritans: 116 123 LGBT Ireland: 1800 929 539

Living with mental illness sucks! It’s draining, stigmatising, and scary. It impacts our well-being, our relationships, our focus and drive. Because I’ve lived with mental illness for over 30 years. Depression, Anxiety, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) and Burnout are all challenges I’ve been working through over the years… and I still am! Simons share is a personal story about living with OCD Importance of Talking about Mental Relationship with Alcohol Simon is also Cognitive Behavioural Therapist Follow Simon Rinne: WEBSITE: https://mindful-men.com.au/ INSTAGRAM:  https://www.instagram.com/mindful.men.aus/ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/mindful.men.aus If you would like to share your story and help inspire others or have a perspective on Mental Health, please contact me for our conversation. Follow The Show: INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/dontbeafraidtotalk/ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/Dontbeafraidtotalk/ WEBSITE: https://www.podpage.com/dontbeafraidtotalkpodcast/ Your Mental Health information line - Ireland Mental Health Ireland: 01 284 1166 Pieta House: 1800 247 247 Suicide or Survive (SOS): 01 272 2158 Aware: 1800 80 48 48 Samaritans: 116 123 LGBT Ireland: 1800 929 539

Impostor Syndrome is characterized by a set of feelings of self-doubt about one's skills, talents, and competence, and/or a persistent fear of being 'found out' or exposed as a 'fraud'. From time to time or throughout their career, academics suffer from Impostor Syndrome, forcing some to never reach their potential and others to leave academia altogether.  Dr Emee Vida Estacio is Author | Psychologist | Founder, Self-Publishing Made Simple Follow Dr Emee Vida Estacio: INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/emee_estacio/ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/selfpublishingmadesimple YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/@thepamecode6302 If you would like to share your story and help inspire others or have a perspective on Mental Health, please contact me for our conversation. Follow The Show: INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/dontbeafraidtotalk/ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/Dontbeafraidtotalk/ WEBSITE: https://www.podpage.com/dontbeafraidtotalkpodcast/ Your Mental Health information line - Ireland Mental Health Ireland: 01 284 1166 Pieta House: 1800 247 247 Suicide or Survive (SOS): 01 272 2158 Aware: 1800 80 48 48 Samaritans: 116 123 LGBT Ireland: 1800 929 539

I've navigated many transitions in life that include major moves to new countries, changing jobs, relationships, and building a business.   The most profound season I've walked through is extended singleness which leaves me childless not by choice.  This loss has touched every area of my life and in the depths of grief, it changed the confidence I had in myself and most things in the world.  It was super hard and not pretty, but I leaned into this difficult season and have come out the other side .... not perfect, yet stronger....not fully healed, yet healing. I am experiencing joy again, have the energy to create, and see better days ahead.  I want the same for others and know there is a path forward.  I'm here to walk with you and witness what needs to be witnessed so that healing can start to happen.  Get in touch with Naomi Geidel WEBSITE: https://www.naomigeidel.com/ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/acreativepurpose/ LINKTREE: https://linktr.ee/acreativepurpose FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/acreativepurpose/ If you would like to share your story and help inspire others or have a perspective on Mental Health, please contact me for our conversation. Follow The Show: INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/dontbeafraidtotalk/ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/Dontbeafraidtotalk/ WEBSITE: https://www.podpage.com/dontbeafraidtotalkpodcast/ Your Mental Health information line - Ireland Mental Health Ireland: 01 284 1166 Pieta House: 1800 247 247 Suicide or Survive (SOS): 01 272 2158 Aware: 1800 80 48 48 Samaritans: 116 123 LGBT Ireland: 1800 929 539

Tatiana who is  Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist based in Texas, USA. Questions: 1. How important is it to spend regular quality time together as a whole family 2. How can each partner's background affect the relationship? 3. How important is it to include children in decision-making? 4. How good is it to show empathy to everyone 5. is it good to Acknowledge your errors to everyone? 6. How important is it to keep the connection on top of the relationship 7. How important is it to encourage everyone to share things they would like to improve in the family- including children 8. Things that define healthy family Connections 10. How important is it to send clear messages to children so they learn how to treat family members Follow Tatiana Rojas: INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/g_e_tservices/ LINKTREE: https://linktr.ee/getservices FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/tatiana.garcia.1257 If you would like to share your story and help inspire others or have a perspective on Mental Health, please contact me for our conversation. Follow The Show: INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/dontbeafraidtotalk/ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/Dontbeafraidtotalk/ WEBSITE: https://www.podpage.com/dontbeafraidtotalkpodcast/ Your Mental Health information line - Ireland Mental Health Ireland: 01 284 1166 Pieta House: 1800 247 247 Suicide or Survive (SOS): 01 272 2158 Aware: 1800 80 48 48 Samaritans: 116 123 LGBT Ireland: 1800 929 539

After being sexually abused by his step-grandad at the age of 10, Perry lived in secrecy for over 12 years. This led him down the path of self-sabotage, that is until the sudden death of his Father in 1017, Perry went on to break the silence and embark on a mission to help as many victims as he could to also Break theirs.  Follow Perry Power:  INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/iamperrypower/  FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/perry.w.power  If you would like to share your story and help inspire others or have a perspective on Mental Health, please contact me for our conversation.  Follow The Show:  INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/dontbeafraidtotalk/  FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/Dontbeafraidtotalk/  WEBSITE: https://www.podpage.com/dontbeafraidtotalkpodcast/  Your Mental Health information line - Ireland Mental Health Ireland: 01 284 1166 Pieta House: 1800 247 247 Suicide or Survive (SOS): 01 272 2158

Podcast Questions: What is the Function of Emotions What are the core emotions? Is there a way to Trick Your Emotions? What is one of the reasons we get stuck in our emotions? How do i Process my Emotions? What is the link between our emotions and nervous system Can you calm your Anxiety from Your Nervous System? What are some of the ways of how to Release Emotions Trapped in Your Body Shelly works with a wide variety of issues including anxiety, depression, grief, loss, self-harm, suicidal ideation, work-life balance, self-worth, relationship issues, sexuality issues, LGBTQI+ friendly and trauma (both PTSD and Complex PTSD). Follow Shelly MacSweeney: WEBSITE: https://rockcounselling.ie/ If you would like to share your story and help inspire others or have a perspective on Mental Health, please contact me for our conversation. Follow The Show: INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/dontbeafraidtotalk/ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/Dontbeafraidtotalk/ WEBSITE: https://www.podpage.com/dontbeafraidtotalkpodcast/ Your Mental Health information line - Ireland Mental Health Ireland: 01 284 1166 Pieta House: 1800 247 247 Suicide or Survive (SOS): 01 272 2158 Aware: 1800 80 48 48 Samaritans: 116 123 LGBT Ireland: 1800 929 539

I cannot tell you the exact moment that the slow progression toward the death of my innocent childhood began, but somewhere in those years between three and five, I gradually lost my voice and sense of identity Follow Dr. Amanda Helman: WEBSITE: www.amandahelman.com INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/amandalynnhelman/ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/amandahelman29/ If you would like to share your story and help inspire others or have a perspective on Mental Health, please contact me for our conversation. Follow The Show: INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/dontbeafraidtotalk/ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/Dontbeafraidtotalk/ WEBSITE: https://www.podpage.com/dontbeafraidtotalkpodcast/ Your Mental Health information line - Ireland Mental Health Ireland: 01 284 1166 Pieta House: 1800 247 247 Suicide or Survive (SOS): 01 272 2158 Aware: 1800 80 48 48 Samaritans: 116 123 LGBT Ireland: 1800 929 539