The UNcivilized Podcast with Traver Boehm

Trauma comes in many forms which is why many people don’t realize they have it. But the fact is, we all face trauma whether it’s big or small. In this episode, I was joined by Michael Gay, a private practice therapist who specializes in depression, trauma, PTSD, and grief for families and groups. We talk about his work as a therapist including the practices of wilderness therapy and equine therapy. Michael shares about the power of connection and relationship with others. He gives insight into how you can begin to work through your trauma and how to incorporate ritual into your life About Michael: Michael is a therapist in private practice in Boulder, Colorado. He earned his M.A. in Clinical Mental Health Counseling from Naropa University with a focus in Transpersonal Psychology. Michael has worked in the field of counseling for the last 14 years as a guide, therapist, and trainer. He was a Wilderness Therapy guide for 6 years, leading and facilitating deep transformational work with teens, adults, and families in the mountains and high desert. He has also worked extensively in the field of addiction and recovery. He specializes in work with depression, groups, trauma, PTSD, grief, and families. He is currently involved with a rapidly growing organization called Sacred Sons, bringing men together for transformational experiences, brotherhood, healing, and empowerment. In addition to his M.A., Michael completed a 3 year training at the Gestalt Institute of the Rockies, and continues to train at the Gestalt Equine Institute. Connect with Michael: Website | www.michaelgaycounseling.com Instagram | @lightningtree_mg What You’ll Hear: 4:30 What Michael does as a therapist 5:43 Why you can’t think your way through trauma 8:05 The full range that trauma carries 12:36 What scares Michael and what he finds inspiring about this current moment 17:11 Why you need to use relationship as the path to healing 19:06 How he directs clients to look at relationship 20:40 What wilderness therapy is and how it changes people relationally 26:07 How the world fuels people’s addictions 27:34 How men can start to work with their trauma 30:28 What Michael has noticed about men and friendships 33:07 Why he’s passionate about equine therapy 37:55 How to incorporate ritual into your life 40:36 A ritual that Michael practices Links: A Branch from the Lightning Tree: Ecstatic Myth and the Grace of Wildness If you look at the civilized work and think, “no thank you,” then you should subscribe to our podcast so you don’t miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community and connect with me on my website, Facebook or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests and more.

Solo Monday morning pod on the power of taking agency and coming back to the question, "What are you building?" It's easy to tear things down, it's far more difficult to build - thus why the men of the UNcivilized Nation are constantly reminded to stay in the tension of building their unique life visions. www.manuncivilized.com/thenation www.manuncivlized.com/thebook

No matter who you are, you likely have faced some varying form of trauma in your life. The things you go through have an effect on your wellbeing, relationships and sex life. That’s why I had today's guest, Julianne Vaccaro to talk about the practice of somatic sexology and what she does in her career as a somatic sexologist and women’s holistic health and spiritual life coach. She and I explore opening up into pleasure and how who you are in the bedroom reflects who you are in the world. Julianne shares how traumas are passed down from generation to generation and why so many people in Western culture are confused about pleasure. She also shares what the Erotic Blueprint is and why you need to be aware of the shadow side of your blueprint results. About Julianne: Julianne Vaccaro is a women's Health & Life Coach, CHHC, AADP from the Institute for Integrative Nutrition. She started her journey chasing perfection, believing the dream body would give her everything she wanted & needed. She dove into the world of holistic nutrition & experimented with different ways of eating. Connect with Julianne: Website | https://www.juliannevaccaro.com/ Instagram | @juliannevaccaro YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/user/juliannevaccaro1 The Reclamation Project Podcast | https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-reclamation-project/id1408105420 What You’ll Hear: 4:49 What Julianne does as a somatic sexologist and women’s holistic health and spiritual life coach 6:10 What somatics and somatic sexology is 10:11 Why Western culture and Americans are confused about pleasure 13:27 How our culture is overstimulated 17:17 The truth about how trauma is passed down generationally 20:25 Misconceptions around what trauma is 24:37 The necessity of opening someone into pleasure 28:03 De-armoring the words “serve” and “worship” 32:07 Taking pleasure in the bedroom and translating it to a better life outside of the bedroom 36:03 The shadow side of the Erotic Blueprint Framework 39:08 Her advice for people who want to ask their partner for something but feel like it’s too late Links: The Erotic Blueprint Quiz The Kinky Erotic Blueprint If you look at the civilized work and think, “no thank you,” then you should subscribe to our podcast so you don’t miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community and connect with me on my website, Facebook or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests and more.

Another Monday morning solo episode. In this I'm diving into how to LEAD at a time when leading has never been more challenging. I'm sharing the same advice here I've been giving to my private clients for the last few weeks on how to thrive when others are struggling. If this is helpful, please share it! Men -- join your BROTHERS here --> www.manuncivilized.com/thenation

What happens when we pass away? How do we overcome grief of lost loved ones? You’ll hear about that and more on this episode with guest Christina Rasmussen. Christina is an author, acclaimed grief educator and podcast host. She founded The Life Reentry Institute to help people rebuild their lives after grief. Christina and I discuss the concept of the waiting room and why so many people get stuck there. She talks about why you should never minimize the pain of others and how validation from those around you can help you heal. She talks about her book-writing process, why you need to find your tribe and how you can navigate grief during the current pandemic. About Christina: Christina Rasmussen is an acclaimed grief educator, author of Second Firsts and Where Did You Go?. She is also the host of The Dear Life Podcast. She is the founder of The Life Reentry Institute and has helped countless people break out of what she coined the “waiting room” of grief to rebuild their lives through her Life Reentry Model. With this, she introduces a new model of grief based on the science of neuroplasticity. She describes grief as a catalyst for redefining identity, and outlines the process of “reentry”, or returning to life. Her mission is to change the way we grieve, the way we live, and how we define our potential in this life, and the hereafter. She has consulted on the 2019 movie short. Her Institute’s mission is to bring forth a new way of speaking about and embracing loss within the medical, corporate and social environments. Connect with Christina: Website | Life Reentry Institute | Instagram | Dear Life Podcast | Dear Life Instagram | Twitter What You’ll Hear: 6:08 Who Christina is and what she does 8:51 What the waiting room is and why so many people get stuck into it 12:37 The problem with what’s happening right now during the pandemic 14:23 How to distinguish between fear leading, ego leading and society leading 19:06 How you can get yourself out of the waiting room 25:05 Why you should never minimize someone else’s pain 26:29 How validation helps us heal 28:16 How we’re actually killing each other by not listening enough 30:02 Where we go when we die 35:06 Why there’s so much controversy around her book 45:08 Her advice for people dealing with grief on top of the pandemic Links: Where Did You Go? Second Firsts Biocentrism: How Life and Consciousness are the Keys to Understanding the True Nature of the Universe Beyond Biocentrism: Rethinking Time, Space, Consciousness, and the Illusion of Death

In this episode I share my thoughts on what's happening in America at the moment and how to be with all of it in an UNcivilized fashion.

You can’t just escape shame from your past however you can begin to work through (and eventually) overcome the shame that weighs you down. In this episode, I was joined by life and intimacy coach Jules Webber. Jules helps people get into a more intimate, loving relationship with themselves. We talk about her own experience with doing energy and being energy. She shares her journey through shame and how she helps other people to dismantle their shame. Jules and I discuss embracing intimacy with yourself, why she wants “sex to feel like the truth” and how she feels about humanizing intimacy. About Jules: My name is Jules and I am a coach, friend, sister, personal cheerleader, and guide. I’m here to help you open your heart and talk about what’s inside; all the things you’ve wanted to say, and think, and do, and feel, but may have been too afraid to express. I help people go within, nurture an intimate and loving relationship with themselves, and experience true Wholeness and belonging. Connect with Jules: Website | www.juleswebber.com Instagram | @jules.webber What You’ll Hear: 1:48 What’s going on in Jule’s world 3:29 How Jule’s does her work and who she helps 4:47 The differences between doing energy and being energy 8:05 How Jule’s relationship with religion has shifted throughout her life 12:14 What Jule’s religious background was and how it’s evolved 16:57 Jule’s journey through shame 20:02 Her experience with getting married at a young age 22:22 How she helps people to move through feelings of shame 24:45 How coaching can differ from therapy 29:27 Her thoughts on the pandemic and how it’s causing people to face their own shame 33:16 Learning to embrace intimacy with yourself 41:53 What her quote, “I want sex to feel like the truth,” means to her 49:04 Their thoughts on humanizing intimacy 55:30 What Jules is working on right now 56:34 Her definition of uncivilized Links: Flawless and Feminine Group Coaching Private Coaching for Women Private Coaching for Men If you look at the civilized work and think, “no thank you,” then you should subscribe to our podcast so you don’t miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community and connect with me on my website, Facebook or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests and more.

In this podcast, men’s coach and Man Talks founder Connor Beaton and I discuss how men can become leaders during these difficult times. We dive into the potential challenges we’re facing in the West and how men can step into leadership roles without ever leaving their house.

So many people seem to struggle with living in fear which can be a huge hindrance to your life and relationships. In this episode, I was joined by a genius in the world of relationships, Stefanos Sifandos. Stefanos is a love and relationship coach that helps people become more consciously connected. We talk about the biggest relational challenges pre-pandemic and during the pandemic. He shares how to use this time to tap into your sexuality, the importance of healthy routines and what made him recognize it was time to make some big life changes. About Stefanos: Stef primarily considers himself a 'Relational Alchemist' - Where he is able to achieve transformation in relationship through conscious connection. Stef is an international speaker and author. He works closely with people developing acute skills around cultivating a deep connection to self through vulnerability, masculine/feminine 'whole' emergence, empowerment and sovereign leadership. He guides individuals in connecting wholly and authentically in relationships. He holds degrees in: Behavioural Science and Philosophy; a Master degree in Environmental Science and Commerce (focus on Entrepreneurship and Leadership development). Stef facilitates transformational growth, improves and evolves the quality of your relationships through proven methodologies of neuroscience, neuro-empowerment practices, an integration of ancient esoteric principles of relating and understanding the world, western psychology, and deepened spiritual practices. Connect with Stefanos: Website - www.stefanossifandos.com Instagram - @stefanossifandos Facebook - www.facebook.com/stefanossifandosalchemist/ What You’ll Hear: 7:35 What Stefanos is building and what made him realize he needed to make some life changes 10:06 What integrity means to Stefanos 11:25 Stefanos’ biggest turning point in his life 14:35 How Stefanos made this shift 18:40 The biggest challenges he’s seen in relationships before and during the pandemic 25:03 How the system is putting pressure on primary breadwinners 27:41 The relational opportunities that are coming from this pandemic 29:32 His own inner journey and advice for those going on their own inner journey 34:32 How bodies let out things physically 38:18 How to use this opportunity to tap into your sexuality 42:35 Why you should take this time to establish some healthy routines and habits If you look at the civilized work and think, “no thank you,” then you should subscribe to our podcast so you don’t miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community and connect with me on my website, Facebook or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests and more.

Believe it or not, you have a sacred purpose. There’s a reason for you being on earth right now. In fact, we all have a sacred purpose for our lives. In this episode, I brought on Jeff Brown, an author and Enrealment Activist. Jeff and I discuss the idea of spiritual bypassing and how it differs from having a healthy spirituality. He shares his ideas about what a conscious capitalist society would look like and his thoughts on the future of patriarchal constructs. Jeff talks about his book, Grounded Spirituality. He also talks about how to move toward your sacred purpose and how men and women experience spiritual bypassing differently. About Jeff Brown: A former criminal lawyer and psychotherapist, Jeff Brown is the author of 6 popular books: Soulshaping, Ascending with Both Feet on the Ground, Love It Forward, An Uncommon Bond, Spiritual Graffiti and Grounded Spirituality. He is also the producer and primary journeyer in the award-winning spiritual documentary, Karmageddon, which also stars Ram Dass, Seane Corn, Deva Premal and Miten. After writing a series of inspirations for ABC’S ‘Good Morning America’ in 2010, and appearing on Fox News.com and dozens of radio shows, Brown wrote the viral blog ‘Apologies to the Divine Feminine (from a warrior in transition)’ that autumn, catapulting him to a greater degree of notoriety, particularly in social media. Jeff’s new terms and short writings became a phenomenon some years ago, and continue to be shared by seekers and growers worldwide. In April, 2018, Jeff was invited to Ottawa by Sophie Grégoire Trudeau–gender equality activist and the wife of Canadian Prime Minister Justin Trudeau–to film a conversation about emotional healing and inclusivity. She had been sharing Jeff’s words in speeches and social media posts for some time. Excerpts from that powerful dialogue are viewable on Sophie’s Facebook and Instagram pages. Jeff is also the founder of Soulshaping Institute and Enrealment Press. Connect with Jeff: Website www.jeffbrown.co Instagram @jeffbrownsoulshaping Facebook @soulshaping What You’ll Hear: 2:01 What’s going on in Jeff’s area with the pandemic 4:30 What spiritual bypassing is and how people use it so avoid the unresolved aspects of human experience 8:27 The movement toward a more authentic, inclusive consciousness 10:17 What a conscious capitalism would look like 13:16 The pushback he’s received about his book, Grounded Spirituality 14:47 How Trump is causing more people to use spiritual bypassing 18:21 His thoughts on the unexpressed rage and grief happening right now 19:52 Jeff’s experience with how men and women deal with spiritual bypassing 23:20 The difference between spiritual bypassing and healthy spirituality 26:33 How to get in touch with your sacred purpose 29:02 Jeff’s definition of “sacred purpose” 33:16 His thoughts on people guiding openings without formalized therapeutic training or degrees 37:13 The problem with bypassing the spiritual world 40:40 The movement away from patriarchal constructs to a divine femine way of being 44:42 His thoughts on why the government wants people to get back to work 47:01 What Jeff wants to see on an individual and small level for people coming out of this pandemic 52:33 Jeff’s definition of “uncivilized”