Dates & Mates with Damona Hoffman

Lily Womble, host of the Date Brazen podcast, shares insights from her new book, “Thank You, More Please” so that you can navigate the dating world with eyes wide open and a little main character energy. Plus, she will share how to know when it's time for a dating detox. The Dating Dish story this week is based on new findings from Tinder:The Green Flags Study on Assumptions & DatingThen our Dear Damona question this week is:How fast is too fast when dating a new match?Follow Lily on Instagram @DateBrazen and be sure to grab a copy of her new book, “Thank You, More Please”.Read the Tinder study by visiting: tinderpressroom.com/The-Green-Flags-Study#assets_allGet convenient, online therapy with BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/DATESANDMATES today to get 10% off your first month. Dates & Mates is sponsored by Betterhelp.TIMESTAMPS(00:00:00) Intro(00:01:38) Tinder's "Green Flag Study" on assumptions in dating (00:05:47) Challenges in modern dating (00:07:00) Creating positive dating experiences (00:14:57) Criticism of dating apps (00:17:24) The challenges of modern dating (00:18:36) Design of dating apps (00:19:01) Impact of dating apps on users (00:21:23) Dependency on dating apps (00:22:22) Main character energy in dating (00:25:57) The practice of dating skills (00:30:15) Challenging societal messaging (00:29:11) Bragging on a date (00:34:22) Brazen Bragging (00:38:08) Essence Based Preferences (00:42:18) Dating Detox: When and Why (00:48:28) Importance of Intentional Dating (00:49:21) Navigating Relationship Preparation (00:49:58) Lily Womble's new book, "Thank You More Please" (00:50:27) Listener Question: Relationship Pace (00:51:52) The Notion of "Slow Love" (00:53:06) Balancing New Love and Personal Life (00:55:21) Cherishing New Love (00:56:32) Invitation for Questions and Future Episode Preview Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Mat Boggs, YouTube dating coach, sets you up for your best first date yet as he covers everything from red flags and conversation topics to knowing how much time to invest in a match.The Dating Dish story this week comes from Mashable:Dating Culture Has Become Selfish. How Do We Fix It?Then our Dear Damona question this week is:An old flame invited me to their big birthday bash in Cabo. Should I go?Follow Mat on Youtube @MatBoggs and check out his MANifest Your Man Program by visiting: https://www.bravethinkinginstitute.com/love-relationships/resources/mym/offer/strategy-sessionRead the Mashable story at: mashable.com/article/selfish-dating-app-cultureGet convenient, online therapy with BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/DATESANDMATES today to get 10% off your first month. Dates & Mates is sponsored by Betterhelp.TIMESTAMPS(00:00:12) First dates: The gateway to new possibilities (00:01:57) Dating culture: A selfish era (00:04:35) The capitalist mindset and dating(00:08:45) Rethinking the approach to dating(00:10:22) Do's and don'ts of first dates(00:17:47) Red Flags in Dating (00:18:38) Internal Repetitive Energy (00:19:35) Internal GPS System (00:21:28) Manipulative Behaviors(00:23:04) Vibration for Long-Lasting Love (00:24:35) Compatibility of Interests (00:25:42) Mindset and Deal Breakers (00:26:37) Mindset for Online Dating (00:29:50) Intentional Action in Dating(00:30:51) Sharing on First Dates (00:33:30) Whose hands are you going to put this baby into?(00:35:33)Shifting the conversation (00:36:33) Mel's authentic approach(00:43:46) Dear Damona - Tracy's dilemma (00:45:17) Damona's advice to Tracy (00:49:06) Happy Birthday and Letting Go (00:50:17) Lily Womble Up Next Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Alexandra Solomon, a couples therapist and author of "Love Every Day," shares transformative practices for deepening relationships. She discusses the importance of daily love exercises and the concept of relational self-awareness, using the snow-globe metaphor to illustrate how past patterns influence current dynamics. Alexandra emphasizes the power of curiosity and compassion in communication, and advises on pacing vulnerability. They also explore healthy relationship rules and the courage needed for dating amid uncertainty.

Kara Loewentheil, Master Certified Life Coach, applies an analytical, feminist lens towards understanding our current dating culture and how our old stories may be affecting our decisions in love.The Dating Dish story this week is based on a national study conducted by Whirlpool:Spring Clean Your Dating Profile: A Surprising Social Experiment Uncovers What Singles Prioritize Most Then our Dear Damona question this week is:How can I get more messages from my matches?LIVE ONLINE EVENT: Damona is hosting a one night only, live workshop talking about how to meet your matches online and off. Sign up for the Dating Decoded workshop at DamonaHoffman.com/workshopFollow Kara on Instagram @KaraLoewentheil and be sure to grab a copy of her new book, “Take Back Your Brain: How A Sexist Society Gets In Your Head and How To Get It Out.”Read about the Whirpool survey at: prnewswire.com/news-releases/spring-clean-your-dating-profile-whirlpool-brand-uncovers-what-singles-prioritize-most-in-a-potential-partner-302077664.html Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sara Jane Ho, etiquette expert and host of Netflix’s Mind Your Manners, joins to share the definitive etiquette rules for dating, talking, and texting inspired by her new book.The Dating Dish story this week comes from CNN: Bumble no longer requires women to make the first move! Then our Dear Damona question this week is:My match and I are traveling farther than normal to meet. Does that mean our date should last longer?ANNOUNCEMENT: For the first time in a long time, Damona and her team are offering 1-on-1 coaching! Apply to become her next success story at DamonaHoffman.com/applicationFollow Sara Jane on Instagram @SaraJaneHo and be sure to grab a copy of her new book, “Mind Your Manners: How to Be Your Best Self in Any Situation”.Read the CNN article for yourself: cnn.com/2024/04/30/tech/bumble-relaunch-men-make-first-move/index.html Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Scott Lyons, host of The Gently Used Human podcast, talks about his new book, “Addicted to Drama: Healing Dependency on Crisis & Chaos In Yourself & Others”. This week’s Dating Dish is: HuffPost shares the reasons why we try to “fix” our matches…and what you should probably do instead. Then our Dear Damona question this week is: How can I attract more culturally open matches?Follow Scott on Instagram @DrScottLyons and be sure to grab a copy of his book!Share the love: Get your copy of Damona’s book  F the Fairy Tale on Amazon too and leave a review and Damona could shout you out on an upcoming episode!HuffPost article https://www.huffpost.com/entry/taylor-swift-fix-him-relationships_l_662a5511e4b005d7bf0cbef0TIMESTAMPS(00:01:36) Why do we try to fix people in our relationships?(00:08:09) Introduction of Dr. Scott Lyons(00:13:32) Causes of addiction to drama(00:17:24) Origin of addiction to drama(00:18:09) Ecosystem and Turbulence(00:19:27) Numbness and Seeking Sensation(00:24:02) Addiction to Drama and Dating Apps(00:27:00) Attentional Economy and Social Media(00:33:13) Interrupting Peace and News Consumption(00:35:26) Dating App Activation and Frameworks(00:37:21) Awareness and Reflexive Behavior(00:38:01) Avoidance Tactics(00:38:24) Escaping Chaos(00:39:30) Milestones of Healing(00:42:41) Processing Trauma(00:43:42) Belonging and Identity(00:47:02) Cultural Diversity in Dating Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this all-Dear Damona episode, Damona takes on dating burnout and swipe fatigue by answering your questions, like: Is it a bad sign if my Bumble match is taking more than 3 days to reply? How do I manage expectations with new partners? How do I attract partners that are more financially and emotionally stable?  And, is it more difficult to find love after 50? Share the love: Get your copy of F the Fairy Tale on Amazon today and leave a review and Damona could shout you out on an upcoming episode!TIMESTAMPS00:00:07 Is it a bad sign if my bumble match is stuck on his move for days?00:02:19 How do I manage expectations with new partners? 00:17:27 How do I attract partners that are more financially and emotionally stable?00:18:30 Dealing with fixer-uppers 00:27:50 Is it more difficult to find love after 50? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Psychic Matchmaker Deborah Graham teaches singles to dial into their own psychic intuition. Plus, she shares her experiences as a psychic matchmaker, and her own story of being intuitively matched as well. Then, she gives a jaw-dropping live, on-air love reading. The Dating Dish this week is: Beware of Digital Body Language while you’re online dating. The Dear Damona questionis: What signs indicate that a person might be leaning towards commitment?Follow her on Instagram @PsychicDeborahGraham and learn more about her work by visiting psychicdeborahgraham.comF the Fairy Tale readers, the Dating Accelerator Program is open for on-going enrollment. Join today and get access to private livestreams with Damona just for VIP clients and Dating Accelerator students at DamonaHoffman.com/programTIMESTAMPS00:00:00 Intuition in Dating 00:02:32 Digital Body Language 00:13:15 Psychic Matchmaker's Introduction 00:14:39 Realization of Psychic Gifts00:16:05 Limitations of Using Psychic Gifts 00:16:18 Arranged Marriage00:17:49 Psychic Abilities00:20:18 Beginning of Psychic Matchmaking00:23:36 Mission and Intuition 00:25:48 Reading Energy and Intuition 00:27:49 Internal Compass and Muscle Testing 00:30:20 Silence and Energy Communication 00:30:48 Silence and Intuition 00:31:44 Psychic Reading for Producer Lindsey00:33:27 Revelation about L's Past Relationship00:38:33 Dating Rules and Intuition00:41:16 Avoiding Ghosting and Dating Process00:45:01 Early Phase Dating00:46:06 Reframing Expectations00:47:18 Enjoying the Process00:48:13 Clarity and Guidance Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Fan favorite guest Mark Groves is back! This time he’s joined by his wife Kylie McBeath, to discuss their amazing new book Liberated Love: Release Codependent Patterns and Create the Love You Desire. In this interview they get to the root of codependency and offer ways to heal trauma and date intentionally. The dating dish story is: The Downside of Are We Dating the Same Guy Facebook groups. In Dear Damona a listener asks: Why are there so many fake profiles and how can you avoid getting frustrated with them?Follow Mark @createthelove and Kylie @beingisbeautiful and pick up your copy of Liberated Love (https://read.macmillan.com/lp/liberated-love/) today!Speaking of books - F the Fairy Tale is currently on sale at Amazon. Leave a review on Amazon to have a chance at getting thanked personally on the show! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Keishorne Scott, author and relationship & heartbreak coach, shares his strategies for healing after a breakup and setting boundaries. Plus, he’ll tell you which matches to avoid and which ones are safe to date. The Dating Dish this week is: Speed dating is making a comeback as Gen Z ditches dating apps. USA Today says, we shouldn't be surprised. The Dear Damona question is: What’s the etiquette for messaging a new match?Follow Keishorne on Instagram @KeishorneScott and learn more about his work and books at KeishorneScott.com!Share the love: Get your copy of F the Fairy Tale on Amazon today and take advantage of the discounted rate. Then leave a review and Damona may thank you live on-air!TIMESTAMPS(00:01:04) Spring cleaning and new beginnings - Damona discusses the positive aspects of spring and new relationship beginnings.(00:02:37) Speed dating resurgence - Damona discusses the resurgence of speed dating and its comparison to dating apps.(00:08:07) Preparing for speed dating - Damona host provides advice on preparing for speed dating events and engaging in meaningful conversations.(00:12:55) Managing expectations in dating - Damona emphasizes the importance of managing expectations and having a positive mindset in dating.00:16:15) Introduction to Keishorne Scott - Damona introduces Keishorne Scott, a relationship and heartbreak coach, and discusses his work.(00:16:57) Overcoming heartbreak - Keishorne shares his personal experience with heartbreak and the journey to self-love and healing.(00:18:01) Self Work and Understanding Love - Keishorne discusses the self-work needed before marriage and understanding love.(00:20:00) Masculine and Feminine Gender Roles - Keishorne and Damona debate traditional gender roles in relationships and personal expression.(00:21:18) Types of Men to Avoid - Keishorne explains the "mouse," "bird," "dog," and "lion" archetypes and why to avoid them.(00:23:29) Recognizing Relationship Red Flags - Keishorne and Damona discuss the importance of communication and addressing personal issues in relationships.(00:28:03) Knowing When to Move On - Keishorne shares insights on recognizing when a relationship has run its course and the importance of mental health.(00:31:20) Healing from Heartbreak - Keishorne discusses the individual nature of healing from heartbreak and the non-negotiable aspect of self-healing.(00:32:49) Dealing with heartbreak and self-love - Keishorne Scott advises taking time to focus on oneself after a breakup.00:33:40 Overcoming heartbreak and reconnecting with oneself - Damona Hoffman discusses the process of healing and reestablishing one's identity.00:35:03 The discomfort of healing - Keishorne and Damona explore the discomfort that comes with healing and the importance of seeking support.00:36:42 Maintaining boundaries - Keishorne and Damona discuss the importance of setting and maintaining personal boundaries in relationships.00:39:08 Parting words and gratitude - Keishorne expresses gratitude for the discussion and shares insight on the importance of boundaries for personal protection.00:40:22 Advice for a listener's dating situation - Damona addresses a listener's concerns about texting frequency and dating intentions.00:47:56 Upcoming episode preview and book promotion - Damona promotes an upcoming episode and a book deal for "F the Fairytale." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices