The Confidence Chronicles

I spent an entire school term working as a counsellor at a primary school. 19 kids on my roster. And what I learned sitting with them changed how I think about what parents need to know right now.In this episode I break down the 3 biggest things I saw coming up over and over again: screen time and what it is really doing why so many kids have stopped talking to their parents and why what your child is doing online is not as safe as you think. I share what worked in my sessions, what I heard from parents and teachers, and how this experience has shaped what I want to do next.If you are a parent doing your best and still feeling like something is off with your kid, this episode is for you.📚 Books referenced in this episode:→ The Conscious Parent by Dr. Shefali Tsabary→ Loving What Is by Byron Katie→ No Bad Parts by Richard SchwartzChapters00:00:00 Three Things Parents Need to Know: Opening Insights from School Counseling00:01:07 Welcome to the Confidence Chronicles and Episode 500 Celebration00:02:58 Going Back to School: My Journey to a Bachelor's in Psychotherapy00:05:30 Slowing Down to Speed Up: Structure and Systems in Business00:07:15 Choosing the School: From Prison Work to Primary School Counseling00:08:24 19 Kids and a Rotating Door: The Reality of School Counseling00:10:35 Lesson One: Screen Time Is Destroying Our Kids and We Don't Know How to Stop It00:11:55 The Vertical Video Slot Machine: Why Your Kids Need Phone Boundaries Now00:13:58 Lesson Two: Communication Breakdown and Why Your Kid Won't Talk to You00:15:19 The Family Meeting Rock: Creating a Culture of Communication at Home00:16:42 Teaching Kids About Their Bodies and Strange Behavior00:18:19 We're Not Really Strangers: Games That Build Family Connection00:19:30 Lesson Three: Online Safety and the Roblox Problem Parents Don't See00:23:01 Australia's Shocking Child Safety Statistics and Internet Dangers00:23:58 Setting Boundaries: Being the Mom Who Checks the Chat00:24:30 The 16-Year-Old Social Media Ban: Why Laws Won't Protect Your Kids00:25:09 Teaching Life Skills: Mindset, Communication, and Emotional Intelligence00:25:39 The Power of Just Being There: Why One Safe Adult Changes Everything00:26:00 Abandonment Issues and Guilt: Processing My Own Childhood Wounds00:26:38 How Kids Actually Want to Talk: Toys, Games, and Shoulder-to-Shoulder00:27:31 Girls, Confidence, and Body Image: The Struggles No One Talks About00:28:15 The Demand Is Overwhelming: Why Every School Needs a Permanent Counselor00:28:36 High-Need Kids and Triage: Understanding Why Some Children Are Prioritized00:29:06 From Prison Dreams to Kid Calling: Why This Placement Wasn't a Mistake00:29:31 The Last Day Tears: Parents, Teachers, and Kids Saying Thank You00:29:58 Did I Do Enough? Wrestling with the Need to Serve More00:30:32 No One Knew I Was the Queen of Confidence: Being Someone to Those Kids00:31:03 The Juggling Act: Running Kids, Family, Business, and Life00:31:53 Single Parents Are Queens: Taking Off the Crown for You00:32:18 Placement 2028 and What's Brewing: The Future of This Work00:32:38 Keep Talking to Your Kids: Final Advice for Parents00:32:47 Resources: Dr. Shefali, Byron Katie, and Pouring Into Yourself First00:33:20 Join the 500 Episode Virtual Party: Thank You for Listening🙏🏽 ENJOYED THIS EPISODE?If this episode helped you, please consider dropping me a review! It takes two seconds and it means the world.→ Becoming Magnetic: https://shop.thequeenofconfidence.com/collections/book→ Follow Erika on Instagram: @thequeenofconfidence→ Website: https://thequeenofconfidence.com

🥹 We just hit 500 podcast episodes.And I’m not celebrating this milestone alone I need YOU there!We’re hosting a live, interactive virtual podcast party where you get to be in the room.Not watching, not listening but actually part of it.🎉 YES! You will be my podcast guest.You can ask me a question.Get coached live.Share your favorite episode or moment and help shape the future of the Confidence Chronicles podcast.This is not a webinar. This is not a replay.🚨 This is a LIVE celebration.If you’ve ever listened to this podcast… this is your moment to be part of it Queen.🎟 Only 100 spots available📅 Sunday April 19⏰ 10AM AEDT👉🏽 RSVP here:https://thequeenofconfidence.com/500-episodes-virtual-party-signup/If you want to come on screen, ask me something, or just be part of the energy… you need to be in the Zoom room.I can’t wait to celebrate this with you.Chapters00:00:00 Welcome to Episode 500: A Milestone Celebration00:01:39 From the Car to 3.2 Million Downloads: The Origin Story00:02:49 Thank You for Making This Podcast What It Is00:03:19 The Mission: Helping Women Own Their Confidence00:03:56 Grateful and Still Ambitious: The Mindset That Drives Success00:04:34 You're Invited: Virtual Podcast Party Announcement00:04:49 Let's Co-Create the Future: What Do You Want to Hear?00:05:50 This Show Raised Me: The Personal Journey00:06:19 A Heartfelt Thank You: You Made This Show00:06:57 Join the Celebration: April 19th Virtual Party Details📲 CONNECT WITH MEInstagram → https://www.instagram.com/thequeenofconfidenceFacebook → https://www.facebook.com/Theconfidencequeen/

If your brand isn't landing the way it should, the answer is probably not what you think it is, and changing your fonts, your colours, or your content strategy is not going to fix it.I have spent over a decade telling women not to give a shit what people think. And now I'm saying you need to care about how you're perceived. That is not a contradiction. In this episode I'm getting into the real reason your brand feels off, what it is actually reflecting back to you, and why the women who are getting the opportunities you want have dealt with something you might still be sitting on.This one is for the woman who is good at what she does, has done the work, and still can't figure out why it's not clicking out in the world.👑 LISTEN & SUBSCRIBE TO THE CONFIDENCE CHRONICLES → Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2MUxtupRLNGB8cuNC9mwXI → Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/the-confidence-chronicles/id1439434022 → YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLWtf2VIsUYg-vkERa16r_VcFNz3Bt6kLI → All platforms: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/podcast/📖 GET ERIKA'S BOOKS → Becoming Magnetic (Penguin Random House, 2025) → Confidence Feels Like Shit (2020) Available here: https://shop.thequeenofconfidence.com/collections/book📩 GROW YOUR FANBASE → https://courses.thequeenofconfidence.com/offers/TKhTxM3n/checkout🎤 BOOK ERIKA TO SPEAK → https://thequeenofconfidence.com/speaking/📲 FOLLOW ERIKA → Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thequeenofconfidence/?hl=en → LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/erika-cramer-queenconfidence/ → Website: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/about/ → TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thequeenofconfidence💬 ENJOYED THIS EPISODE? Subscribe so you never miss one. Leave a review on Apple or Spotify. It takes 30 seconds and it means everything.

This episode is such a good one.I’m joined by the incredible Emma Dunwoody — human design expert, author of Human Design Made Simple, and host of one of the leading human design podcasts in the world.If you’ve ever been curious about human design but felt overwhelmed, confused, or like it all sounded way too complicated… this conversation is for you.We break human design down in a way that actually makes sense.We talk about what it is, how it works, why so many people feel deeply seen by it, and how it can support you in your life, business, relationships, parenting, and self-trust.This conversation also goes deep into what it means to stop forcing yourself to live like everyone else and start understanding the way you are designed to move through the world.Inside this episode, we talk about:What human design actually isWhy so many people feel overwhelmed by it at firstHow Emma made human design simple and accessibleThe difference between types, profiles, centres, strategy and authorityHow human design helps you understand your energyThe role of authenticity in business and lifeWhy your success strategy has to be your ownHow human design can support parenting and relationshipsThe shift into a new paradigm and why self-trust matters more than everEmma also shares her own story of discovering human design, the moment it clicked, and why she believes this work is here to help people come back home to themselves.If you’ve been trying to do life, business, leadership or motherhood in a way that feels forced, this episode will open something up for you.Because the truth is:you don’t need to become someone else.You need to understand who you already are.About Emma DunwoodyEmma Dunwoody is a leading voice in human design, the host of The Human Design Podcast, and the author of Human Design Made Simple. Her work helps people understand their energy, trust themselves more deeply, and build lives and businesses in alignment with who they truly are.In This EpisodeHuman design explained simplyHuman design in businessHuman design and authenticityHuman design for relationshipsHuman design for parentingStrategy and authorityDefined and undefined centresSelf-trust and energetic alignmentThe new paradigmBuilding success your own wayConnect With Emma🌐 Website + Free Chartemma-dunwoody.com📘 Book: Human Design Made SimpleAvailable in Australia, Europe and the US🎙 PodcastThe Human Design Podcast📱 Instagram@the_human_design_coachConnect With Erika👑 The Queen’s TableHigh-level mentorship for women ready to build authority, visibility and legacy.https://thequeenofconfidence.com/the-queens-table/👑 The Next LevelFor women ready to grow their confidence, audience and income.https://thequeenofconfidence.com/the-next-level/📖 Becoming The Onehttps://www.amazon.com/📱 Instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/thequeenofconfidence/⭐ If this episode resonated, send it to someone who’s been trying to understand themselves on a deeper level.

One of the biggest questions I get when it comes to showing up online is this:“How do I know if I’m being authentic… or if I’m oversharing?”Where is the line between vulnerability and trauma dumping?In this episode, I’m breaking down the balance between being raw and real while still protecting yourself and your credibility.Because here’s the truth:Authenticity builds connection. But not everything belongs on the internet.I share how I built my brand by documenting my process of becoming — from recording podcast episodes in my car while broke and exhausted with two kids, to building a global personal brand and loyal audience.You’ll learn how to share your story in a way that creates connection, trust, and authority without feeling like you're exposing every part of your life.This episode is for you if you're:• Scared of what people will think online• Worried you're sharing too much• Holding yourself back from being seen• Trying to build a personal brand or business• Learning how to tell your story with powerInside this episode we talk about:• The difference between sharing from a scar vs sharing from a wound• How to know if you're oversharing or actually not sharing enough• The storytelling method I call zooming in vs zooming out• Why perfection erodes connection• How vulnerability builds loyalty and community• The question you must ask before sharing anything onlineAt the end of the day, your story is yours.And when you learn how to share it intentionally, it becomes one of the most powerful tools you have to connect, lead, and serve others.In This Episode• Authenticity vs oversharing• Building a personal brand online• Vulnerability and storytelling• Trauma dumping vs healed sharing• Personal branding and content creation• Confidence and showing up onlineChapters00:00:00 The Authenticity Strategy That Built My Brand00:00:29 Welcome to the Confidence Chronicles00:01:25 The Number One Question About Showing Up Online00:03:13 When Fear Holds You Back From Being Seen00:04:19 My Broke, Breastfeeding, Car Podcast Origin Story00:06:51 When You Have Nothing Else But Your Story00:07:57 The Loyal Cult-Like Following I Built Through Sharing00:12:23 Document Your Process of Becoming00:14:20 Getting Metaphorically Naked on the Internet00:17:01 The Zoom Out Strategy for Professional Boundaries00:22:08 The Scar vs The Wound: When to Share Your Story00:25:49 Intent Is Everything When Sharing Vulnerability00:30:11 Know Your Audience and What They Need to Hear00:33:12 The More You Zoom In, The More They Come Closer00:34:04 Being Imperfect Is Part of My Brand00:34:42 Thank You for Letting Me Into Your WorldConnect With Erika👑 The Queen’s TableHigh-level mentorship for women ready to build authority, visibility and legacy.https://thequeenofconfidence.com/the-queens-table/👑 The Next LevelFor women ready to grow their confidence, audience and income.https://thequeenofconfidence.com/the-next-level/📖 Becoming The One (Book)https://www.amazon.com/📱 Instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/thequeenofconfidence/⭐ If this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs to hear it.

I never thought I would see this moment happen in Australia.As a Puerto Rican woman who has lived here for 16 years, watching Bad Bunny perform in Sydney to a packed stadium was emotional in ways I can’t fully explain.Thousands of people singing in Spanish. Puerto Rican flags everywhere. Latinos from all over the world connecting in a country where Spanish speakers are such a small percentage of the population.It was powerful. It was joyful. It was deeply personal.But this episode isn’t just about the concert.It’s about identity, authenticity, personal branding, and the power of showing up unapologetically as yourself.Bad Bunny isn’t just one of the biggest artists in the world. He’s built a global movement by being radically authentic — and there are massive lessons in that for anyone building a business, a brand, or a life where you refuse to play small.In this episode, I share the full story of the weekend, the Puerto Rican community we found here in Australia, and the powerful business and life lessons behind the experience.Because when you truly own who you are…Everything changes.In This Episode• What it felt like seeing Bad Bunny perform in Australia• Why the moment meant so much as a Puerto Rican living abroad• The unexpected community that formed around the concert• The power of authenticity in building a global brand• What entrepreneurs can learn from Bad Bunny’s personal brand• Why being unapologetically yourself attracts the right people• The difference between followers and real community• How cultural pride and identity shape the work we doKey TakeawayYou don’t build a powerful brand by blending in.You build it by owning exactly who you are.Bad Bunny didn’t become the biggest artist in the world by trying to fit in.He did it by turning himself all the way up.And that’s the lesson.Resources & Links👑 The Queen’s TableHigh-level mentorship for women ready to build authority, visibility, and legacy.https://thequeenofconfidence.com/the-queens-table/👑 The Next LevelFor women ready to grow their confidence, audience, and income.📚 My BookLearn how to become the most confident, powerful version of yourself.🌐 Websitehttps://thequeenofconfidence.comChapters00:00:00 The Moment I've Been Waiting For: Bad Bunny in Sydney00:02:18 Never Thought He'd Come: Living as a Puerto Rican in Australia00:03:53 Finding My People: The Puerto Rican WhatsApp Group Explosion00:05:59 The Australian Intro: When Benito Rose From the Floor00:06:49 General Admission vs VIP: The Concert Experience Breakdown00:07:58 The Latin Fiesta Party: When Sydney Came Alive00:15:12 My Puerto Rican Flag Moment: Dancing Under the Australian Moon00:18:33 The Business Lesson: Timely Content Meets Baseline Brand00:19:47 From Concert to Media: Getting Featured on ABC and Smart Company00:20:24 The Authenticity Masterclass: What Bad Bunny Teaches Us About Brand00:24:19 You Are the Content: Stop Performing, Start Being00:26:16 Getting Metaphorically Naked: The Power of Vulnerability in Business00:17:30 The Unity Lesson: What Australia Can Learn From This Moment00:28:21 We Win: Building Community in a Country Without Your PeopleIf You Loved This EpisodeShare it with a friend who needs the reminder to stop shrinking and start taking up space.And if this conversation resonated with you, make sure you follow the podcast so you never miss an episode.

Why does creating content feel so damn hard?If you’re stuck overthinking what to post, watching everyone else grow, editing captions 17 times, or feeling like you “have” to be everywhere online… this episode is for you.In this raw conversation, I break down:Why content feels forced (and how to fix it)The real reason you don’t know what to postWhy copying trends kills your authorityHow your calendar should drive your contentThe fastest way to build trust onlineWhy engagement matters more than followersContent isn’t about performing.It’s not about pleasing everyone.It’s not about chasing algorithms.It’s about clarity.Authority.Connection.And when your content aligns with your offers, your story, and the real problems your audience has — it stops feeling hard.It starts working.If you’ve been stuck in the doom scroll, second-guessing yourself, or wondering why your content isn’t converting… this will reset you.Chapters00:00:00 Why Creating Content Feels So Damn Hard00:00:18 Welcome to the Confidence Chronicles00:01:14 The Content Struggle Is Real00:03:00 The Good News About AI and Authenticity00:04:30 Stop Performing, Start Connecting00:05:36 Your Phone Is Not Your Boss00:08:30 Stop Creating Content From Thin Air00:10:14 Content Follows Your Calendar00:11:14 Are You a Consumer or a Creator?00:13:14 Building Authority Through Consistency00:14:40 The Questions That Create Content Gold00:15:06 Document Don't Create: Gary Vee's Wisdom00:18:51 Storytelling Over Selling00:20:52 Every Post Needs a Point00:22:21 The Gary Vee Lesson: If Your Content Is Shit, People Will Tell You00:23:51 You're Allowed to Sell on Social Media00:25:21 Humanize Your Social Media00:26:21 Show Up When Nobody's Watching00:27:21 Thank You and Share This Episode👑 WORK WITH ME♟️ The Queen’s TableHigh-level mentorship for women ready to build authority, visibility, and legacy.https://thequeenofconfidence.com/the-queens-table/👑 The Next LevelFor women ready to grow their confidence, audience, and income.https://thequeenofconfidence.com/nextlevel/📚 MY BOOKSBecoming Magnetic — Chapter 7 is all about creating your Alter ShegoConfidence Feels Like Sh*thttps://the-queen-of-confidence.myshopify.com📲 CONNECT WITH MEInstagram → https://www.instagram.com/thequeenofconfidenceFacebook → https://www.facebook.com/Theconfidencequeen/LinkedIn → https://www.linkedin.com/in/erika-cramer-queenconfidence/

This one is personal.In this episode, I share something that happened in real time… I received an email from someone connected to my childhood abuse.And it brought up things I thought I had already processed.I talk about what it actually feels like when old trauma resurfaces.What happens in your body.What happens in your mind.How healing isn’t linear.And why forgiveness is not something you owe anyone.This isn’t a polished “look how healed I am” conversation.It’s real.It’s layered.It’s complicated.Inside this episode I share:What it feels like when the past reappears unexpectedlyHow I handled the email without betraying myselfWhy boundaries matter more than being “nice”The truth about forgivenessWhy healing doesn’t mean you won’t get triggered againHow storytelling has been part of my healingYou don’t owe anyone closure.You don’t need to be strong all the time.And you don’t have to perform healing for the world.If this resonates, comment below and let me know.And if it helps you, share it with someone who might need it.Like, subscribe, and turn notifications on so you never miss an episode.📚 MY BOOKSBecoming Magnetic — Chapter 7 is all about creating your Alter ShegoConfidence Feels Like Sht*https://the-queen-of-confidence.myshopify.com📲 CONNECT WITH MEInstagram → https://www.instagram.com/thequeenofconfidenceFacebook → https://www.facebook.com/Theconfidencequeen/LinkedIn → https://www.linkedin.com/in/erika-cramer-queenconfidence/

Authenticity is trending.Everyone is talking about it.Everyone is selling it.Everyone is suddenly “real.”And yet… most personal brands still feel fake.In this powerful, no-filter conversation with Jill Stanton, we unpack the uncomfortable truth about authenticity in business today.If you’re using authenticity as a strategy, you’ve already missed it.In this episode, we break down:• Why “authenticity” as a marketing tactic is backwards• The difference between being authentic and performing authenticity• How people-pleasing is emotional manipulation• Why many entrepreneurs are still hiding behind polished personas• The identity work required to truly stand in your power• Fear of success, shadow work, and why it’s rarely about success• Why sovereignty is more magnetic than strategy• How to stop outsourcing your voice and direction• The performative era online, and why it’s collapsingThis is not about oversharing your trauma.It’s not about telling the internet your secrets.It’s not about being controversial for attention.It’s about freedom.Real freedom.The kind that happens when you stop managing how people perceive you and start leading yourself from alignment.If you’ve felt exhausted by the noise online…If you’ve questioned who to trust…If you’ve wondered whether you’re blending in without realizing it…This conversation will challenge you in the best way.Authenticity is not a trend.It’s an identity shift.And identity work is the real game.Chapters00:01:57 From Web TV to Online Empire: Jill's Origin Story00:05:47 The Bold Move: Closing a Profitable Business00:11:10 Personal Power Over Strategy: The Missing Piece00:14:22 The Authenticity Trap: Why Performative Energy Fails00:15:56 Becoming Uncancellable: Standing in Your Power00:27:11 Finding Your Values: The Foundation of Authenticity00:37:34 The River of Misery: Forging Your Next Level Identity00:52:36 The Smart Enough Wound: Jill's Identity Breakthrough00:59:28 Shadow Work and Healing: The Uncomfortable Path01:08:12 From Teaching to Coaching: Jill's Next Evolution🎧 Connect with JillInstagram → https://www.instagram.com/iamjillstanton👑 WORK WITH ME♟️ The Queen’s TableHigh-level mentorship for women ready to build authority, visibility, and legacy.https://thequeenofconfidence.com/the-queens-table/👑 The Next LevelFor women ready to grow their confidence, audience, and income.https://thequeenofconfidence.com/nextlevel/📚 MY BOOKSBecoming Magnetic — Chapter 7 is all about creating your Alter ShegoConfidence Feels Like Sh*thttps://the-queen-of-confidence.myshopify.com📲 CONNECT WITH MEInstagram → https://www.instagram.com/thequeenofconfidenceFacebook → https://www.facebook.com/Theconfidencequeen/LinkedIn → https://www.linkedin.com/in/erika-cramer-queenconfidence/

If this episode lands for you join me on my upcoming workshop DM me “BRAND” on instagram:https://www.instagram.com/thequeenofconfidenceIf you’re holding back, second-guessing yourself, or diluting your message so you don’t upset anyone… this episode is for you.Caring what people think doesn’t make you professional.It makes you forgettable.In this episode, I’m breaking down why people-pleasing is the fastest way to kill your authority, your confidence, and your personal brand, and what actually happens when you stop editing yourself for approval.This is a real conversation about visibility, courage, leadership, and the cost of staying small.If you’ve ever thought:• “What if they judge me?”• “What if I say the wrong thing?”• “What if I’m too much?”You’re going to want to hear this.🔥 IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVER:• Why caring what people think keeps you invisible• How people-pleasing shows up in your content and messaging• The difference between being liked and being trusted• Why neutrality does NOT equal authority• What actually happens when you stop playing it safe• How your personal brand grows when you stop shrinking• The mindset shift that changes how you show up online and in rooms🎯 THE REALITY CHECKIf no one disagrees with you, no one deeply trusts you either.Your job is not to be liked by everyone.Your job is to stand somewhere.📣 CALL TO ACTIONIf this episode hit, I want to hear from you.• DM me on Instagram or comment on Spotify and tell me what landed• Share this episode with a woman who needs to stop hiding• And if you know you’re ready to stop blending in and start leading, let me know 👀I’m watching who’s ready.📲 CONNECT WITH MEInstagram → https://www.instagram.com/thequeenofconfidenceFacebook → https://www.facebook.com/Theconfidencequeen/LinkedIn → https://www.linkedin.com/in/erika-cramer-queenconfidence/👑 WORK WITH ME (when you’re ready)♟️ The Queen’s TableHigh-level mentorship for women ready to build authority, visibility, and legacyhttps://thequeenofconfidence.com/the-queens-table/👑 The Next LevelFor women ready to grow their confidence, audience, and incomehttps://thequeenofconfidence.com/nextlevel/📚 MY BOOKSBecoming MagneticConfidence Feels Like Sh*thttps://the-queen-of-confidence.myshopify.com