Why Won't You Date Me? with Nicole Byer

Hairstylist and icon Jonathan Van Ness shares an unforgettable and horrifying story about his first foray into the kink of watersports. He also talks about his wedding over Zoom and offers savvy tips to Nicole on how to up her dating game on Instagram. They discuss the challenges of relationships, frustrations with dating apps, rediscovering love for gymnastics, and navigating relationship advice. They also explore the idea of a sexually open relationship and various sexual activities.

Comedian E.R. Fightmaster (Shrill, Grey's Anatomy) joins Nicole to discuss the benefits of keeping romantic partnerships out of the public eye, how dating reality TV shows are normalizing abuse in relationships, and the common manipulation tactics to watch out for in your love life. Plus, they share horniest they've ever been in their life, and what it's like to write horny music.Check out E.R.'s new EP, VIOLENCE, out today. Submit a dirty message to Nicole! Write it to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on air. Follow Nicole Byer: See Nicole on tour! Get tickets at linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Comedian Kenny DeForest joins Nicole to explore how an amicable split after 8.5 years can transform someone from a 'fuckboy' to a 'boyfriend without a girlfriend'. He shares how being an only child can lead to challenges entering the dating pool, the extremely addictive nature of dating apps, and tackles the ethical dilemma many comedians face: should you give your ex a heads-up if they're the subject of your latest stand-up routine?Check out Kenny's new special, Don't You Know Who I Am?, now streaming on YouTube. Submit a dirty message to Nicole! Write it to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on air. Follow Nicole Byer: See Nicole on tour! Get tickets at linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Sexologist and intimacy expert Shan Boodram (Sexology, Lovers & Friends) joins Nicole to teach her how to radiate better vibes on dates, master the art of life goal prioritization, and explore the intriguing concept of marriage pacts. Have you ever wondered what it would be like to be the intimacy coordinator on 'Too Hot to Handle'? Shan spills all the beans on that and more. Plus she gets personal, revealing how she turned a fuckbuddy into a spouse, and shares the guidelines governing her non-monogamous relationship.Submit a dirty message to Nicole! Write it to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on air.Follow Nicole Byer: See Nicole on tour! Get tickets at linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Is it worse to break up with someone, or get broken up with? Comedian Eric Andre (Bombing with Eric Andre) joins Nicole to delve into the heartache of breakups, including the time Eric was dumped via note. He also shares the nerve-wracking story about losing his virginity, talks first crush, first boner, and hard drugs. Plus, they answer your submitted questions, from awkward run-ins with exes to how to get your partner in therapy.Have a question of your own? Submit it to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on air.Follow Nicole Byer: See Nicole on tour! Get tickets at linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Comedian Leslie Jones discusses adjusting to a new relationship, eliminating negative self-talk, and offers advice on breakups. Leslie shares funny stories about encounters with married chucklefuckers. They also talk about a game-changing dating app. They discuss the power of small acts of kindness and appreciating small moments in life. They discuss education, conspiracy theories, and late success. They also talk about changing mindset with positive affirmations and finding love by being open and stepping out of comfort zones.

Action star Michael Jai White shares his secrets to a happy, argument-free relationship. They discuss authenticity in dating, rejecting tradition, being cast as Spawn, approaching without expectations, embracing individuality, and flower preferences.

Ever wondered what it's like getting intimate with a clown? Deep dive as comedian Maria Bamford (Arrested Development, Big Mouth) unravels her experiences as sex and love addict, the relationship tools she's learned in her 12 step programs, and her mental illnesses. Plus, for those seeking lasting love, Maria shares the 4 behaviors to avoid divorce. Follow Nicole Byer: See Nicole on tour! Get tickets at linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Uzo Aduba, Emmy-winning actress known for her role as Crazy Eyes in Orange Is The New Black, talks about how her dating app DMs changed after booking Crazy Eyes, finding love at a mixer, the deep connection between her personal grief and art, and the importance of honesty in relationships.

Broadway star Naomi Rodgers opens up about secretly dating her co-star while on tour. Nicole shares her European dating mishaps, including a visit to the Red Light District. They discuss their random encounters, dating at Amda, and making dumb relationship decisions. The importance of staying true to oneself and growing as a person in relationships is emphasized. Nicole receives an explicit invitation to Essence Fest, which she reacts positively to.