The Nothing Is Wasted Podcast

How do you lead when your own story is full of pain? What is the cost of control when it comes to ministry, leadership and marriage?For Ike and Sharon Hodde Miller, learning to navigate the difficulties in ministry these past few years since church planting and a pandemic has led to some insight into their own hearts. As an adult child of an alcoholic, Ike began to see the way his past was impacting his leadership. Sharon started to notice how her desire for control came at a cost to her soul and her relationships. Together, they have done the important work of healing their own wounds and stories while recognizing what they needed to let go of in order to be healthy leaders of Bright City Church in Durham, NC. In this honest conversation, Ike and Sharon talk with Aubrey about how to lead in a divisive climate, what happens when we reach for control as leaders, and the importance of boundaries in marriage when we lead together. Whether you're a leader in ministry, business or your home, this episode will encourage you to do the vital inner work to bring healing to your interior world so that you can lead out of health and wholeness.   Sharon’s Website: www.sheworships.com Ike’s Website: www.ikemiller.com Sharon’s Instagram: www.facebook.com/sharonhoddemiller/ Ike’s Instagram: www.instagram.com/ikefmiller/ Sharon’s Twitter: twitter.com/SHoddeMiller Ike’s Twitter: twitter.com/Ikefmiller Sharon’s Facebook: www.facebook.com/sharonhoddemiller/ Ike’s Facebook: www.facebook.com/Theological-Interpretation-112291517027768/ Book: The Cost of Control: Why We Crave It, The Anxiety It Gives Us, and The Real Power God Promises Pastors, looking for a way to establish a path to healing and redemption within your church? Join Davey Blackburn for a live call on how Nothing is Wasted can help: www.nothingiswasted.com/pastors Would you like to bring hope and healing to your church? Learn how your church can help people find healing from pain and trauma through the Pain to Purpose Course: www.nothingiswasted.com/churches Want to be a part of the Nothing is Wasted Prayer team? Sign up today: www.nothingiswasted.com/prayerteam Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What do you do when you're overcome with anxiety? How can we connect our faith with our physical and mental health? These are questions that Jenn Tucker began to ask after first walking her young daughter through anxiety and panic attacks, only to discover she herself was dealing with anxiety as well. As Jenn was on the journey of having a child who was struggling with both mental health challenges as well as a physical one, she started to recognize how little control she had in her world. What was often covered up under the guise of perfectionism and planning was soon recognized as her own deep seated anxiety. It wasn't until Jenn learned the spiritual discipline of breath prayer that she began to feel the peace and comfort of God, even when circumstances didn't completely change. It is through breath prayer that Jenn was able to learn to calm her body and soul and a tool God gave her as she continued to trust Him in her story. In this conversation, Davey talks with Jenn about how we can often wrestle with the shame of perfectionism and control, why empathy grows out of our own struggles and the way that trusting God through our very breath and our prayer can be the way through whatever we are facing. If you or someone you love have ever suffered from anxiety, this episode will give you both a practical way to find healing and the hope to keep going when life doesn't seem to go as planned.   Website: littlehousestudio.net/breath-as-prayer Instagram: www.instagram.com/jenn_littlehousestudio/ Facebook: www.facebook.com/TheLittleHouseStudio Book: Breath as Prayer: Calm Your Anxiety, Focus Your Mind, and Renew Your SoulWant to access all that Nothing is Wasted has to offer to help you in your healing journey? Join Community Plus and get resources like our masterclasses, Curated Pathways, and more for just $20/month. www.nothingiswasted.com/communityplus Life is difficult and pain is real. Join Davey as he helps you move through your pain and on to a life of purpose and meaning in a LIVE Zoom call. www.nothingiswasted.com/starthere We know every pain is unique. That's why we created Curated Pathways to give you everything we have that applies to your specific pain point. www.nothingiswasted.com/pathways Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Imagine waking up in a hospital room and finding out that you no longer remembered the last thirteen years of your life. Think about the fear, the confusion and the uncertainty that would set in when you realized you had just been in a coma and parts of your life were no longer in your memory. Most of us have never experienced something as traumatic as that and can hardly imagine such a scene playing out in real life. But for artist Marcy Gregg, this was her story. After complications from giving birth led to her being in a coma, she awoke to a life she didn't know. Thirteen years of her memories were gone and she didn't recognize her husband or her kids. In order to be released from the hospital, she pretended that her memory was coming back. But once home, the weight of such a big secret began to overwhelm her and she turned to alcohol to cope with her anxiety and pain. Pretty soon, she found herself struggling with alcohol addiction, but through a divine intervention, the Lord spoke to her and she walked away from numbing her pain with alcohol. Her life has been met with more challenges, but through it all, she has chosen to trust God with her life and her story. Like a painting in progress, she has seen God as the ultimate artist who is not done yet with the canvas of her life. In this episode, Davey talks with Marcy about how to surrender in the face of uncertainty, choosing to live differently when life takes us on an unexpected path, and why trust requires us to lean in. Marcy's story is unique, but through it, you'll find a reminder in your own to trust God with the plan He has for your life, even when you can't see the whole picture quite yet.   Website: www.marcygreggart.com Instagram: www.instagram.com/marcygregg/ Book: Blank Canvas: The Amazing Story of a Woman Who Awoke from a Coma to a Life She Couldn’t Remember https://www.amazon.com/Blank-Canvas-Amazing-Couldnt-Remember/dp/149645037X/ref=sr_1_3?crid=2KDUCPT8TRVC4&keywords=blank+canvas+book&qid=1666825865&qu=eyJxc2MiOiIyLjAzIiwicXNhIjoiMS43NiIsInFzcCI6IjEuNzcifQ%3D%3D&sprefix=blank+canvas+bo%2Caps%2C178&sr=8-3 Do you need resources to help guide you in your specific pain point? Our Curated Pathways are designed to give you everything we offer in one place when it comes to your unique journey: www.nothingiswasted.com/pathways Join our next FREE, live masterclass with our trusted certified coaches and experts: www.nothingiswasted.com/masterclass Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Boundaries can feel impossible sometimes, especially if you have lived your life without them. How do you begin to draw the line when it comes to what you are willing to accept in a relationship? How do you know when it is beyond the point of healing and time to let go of a toxic relationship? Author, speaker and Bible teacher Lysa TerKeurst never dreamed that her life would look the way it does now. After finding out about her husband's infidelity, Lysa was committed to healing and restoration of her marriage. But as time went by, Lysa endured the most difficult season of her life and had to face the most difficult decision. Ultimately, her marriage ended and she was left to pick up the pieces. As she has walked the journey of healing, she has begun to see how her own inability to set boundaries contributed to the chaos in her relationship. In this episode, Lysa talks to Aubrey about how boundaries are not just a good thing but also a God thing, how to determine the amount of access someone should have in our lives and why boundaries can keep the best of who we are front and center. If you find yourself putting clear boundaries up, especially in relationships that need them most, this conversation will give you the courage to live in a way that will help you and those you love flourish. Website: https://lysaterkeurst.com/about-lysa/ Instagram: https://instagram.com/lysaterkeurst Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/OfficialLysa Twitter: https://twitter.com/proverbs31org/ Book: Good Boundaries and Goodbyes: Loving Others Without Losing the Best of Who You Are Life is difficult and pain is real. Join Davey as he helps you move through your pain and on to a life of purpose and meaning in a LIVE Zoom call. www.nothingiswasted.com/starthere Are you ready to see holistic healing in your church family? Is trauma and tragedy keeping so many within your congregation from living fully into their purpose? Let Nothing is Wasted show you how the Pain to Purpose course can change lives in your church: www.nothingiswasted.com/churches Need some hope right now in your valley? Or have a friend who could use some encouragement through suffering? The Pain to Purpose 42-Day Devotional is the perfect companion in your pain. Get your copy and gift one to a friend who needs it: www.nothingiswasted.com/store/pain-to-purpose-devotional Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Boundaries can feel impossible sometimes, especially if you have lived your life without them. How do you begin to draw the line when it comes to what you are willing to accept in a relationship? How do you know when it is beyond the point of healing and time to let go of a toxic relationship?Author, speaker and Bible teacher Lysa TerKeurst never dreamed that her life would look the way it does now. After finding out about her husband's infidelity, Lysa was committed to healing and restoration of her marriage. But as time went by, Lysa endured the most difficult season of her life and had to face the most difficult decision. Ultimately, her marriage ended and she was left to pick up the pieces. As she has walked the journey of healing, she has begun to see how her own inability to set boundaries contributed to the chaos in her relationship. In this episode, Lysa talks to Aubrey about how boundaries are not just a good thing but also a God thing, how to determine the amount of access someone should have in our lives and why boundaries can keep the best of who we are front and center. If you find yourself putting clear boundaries up, especially in relationships that need them most, this conversation will give you the courage to live in a way that will help you and those you love flourish.   Website: https://lysaterkeurst.com/about-lysa/ Instagram: https://instagram.com/lysaterkeurst Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/OfficialLysa Twitter: https://twitter.com/proverbs31org/ Book: Good Boundaries and Goodbyes: Loving Others Without Losing the Best of Who You Are https://a.co/d/hqfDV7u Life is difficult and pain is real. Join Davey as he helps you move through your pain and on to a life of purpose and meaning in a LIVE Zoom call. www.nothingiswasted.com/starthere Are you ready to see holistic healing in your church family? Is trauma and tragedy keeping so many within your congregation from living fully into their purpose? Let Nothing is Wasted show you how the Pain to Purpose course can change lives in your church: www.nothingiswasted.com/churches Need some hope right now in your valley? Or have a friend who could use some encouragement through suffering? The Pain to Purpose 42-Day Devotional is the perfect companion in your pain. Get your copy and gift one to a friend who needs it: www.nothingiswasted.com/store/pain-to-purpose-devotional Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How can we look at our lives and see God's faithfulness throughout the knots of disappointment, betrayal, criticism or abuse? How can we trust the goodness of God when so much has gone wrong in our lives? For Bible teacher and author Beth Moore, her life has been a series of knots. From being sexually abused as a child to extreme criticism from those who proclaim Christ, Beth's life has been full of pain to untangle. But with every difficulty, every pain, Beth has seen her desperate need for Jesus even more. It has been through the twists and turns of life that she has come to realize that no person and no set of circumstances can satisfy like the love of Jesus. Openly and honestly, Beth has journeyed this path with the Lord for a lifetime to find that He is worth every step of it. In this profound conversation, Beth talks with Davey and Aubrey about how the crucible of life can bring about a fountain of deep passion for the Lord, the only way to endure criticism as a leader, and how our crushing can lead to more of the Holy Spirit in our lives. If you need encouragement from a seasoned believer to finish your race well in the midst of all that you are facing, this episode will give you the strength to keep fighting the good fight of faith. Website: https://www.lproof.org Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bethmoorelpmFacebook: www.facebook.com/LivingProofMinistriesWithBethMoore YouTube: www.youtube.com/channel/UCRJmg8jt3mQ4DTELKDde4rQ Twitter: twitter.com/BethMooreLPM Bible Study: The Surpassing Value of Knowing Christ: A Study of PhilippiansBook: All My Knotted-Up Life: A Memoir Pastors, looking for a way to establish a pay to healing and redemption within your church? Join Davey Blackburn for a live call on how Nothing is Wasted can help: www.nothingiswasted.com/pastors Are you looking for a proven pathway to help you remove the debris of crisis in your life, repair the broken pieces in its wake and move forward with a renewed sense of purpose and victory? Check out the Pain to Purpose course and start your path to healing today: www.course.nothingiswasted.com Want to be a part of the Nothing is Wasted Prayer team? Sign up today: www.nothingiswasted.com/prayerteam Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What happens when we start to share our story of pain and loss? How can retelling what we've walked through help us in healing? For Jonathan Pitts, sharing the story of how he lost his wife, Wynter, has been a part of the process God has used to heal his greatest loss. In 2018, life was going well for Jonathan and his family. With an exciting upcoming move to the Nashville area and a new position as a pastor, Jonathan, Wynter and their four girls were excited about what was ahead. But within moments, their lives took a tragic turn that none of them could have imagined when Wynter died suddenly from a heart related issue. Just like that, Jonathan and his girls were on a new trajectory in their lives as they continued on with the move and began a completely new life without Wynter. In this episode, Davey and Jonathan talk about how so much of our healing can come as we share parts of our story, the importance of having permission to feel what we feel, and ways we can combat shame in our grief. Life has taken unexpected turns for the Pitts family as Jonathan has now remarried and pivoted in his professional life, but this conversation is a reminder that as much as life can change in an instant, God remains the same. Website: https://jonathanpitts.net Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pittsjr26/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jonathan.pitts.127 Book: My Wynter Season: Seeing God's Faithfulness in the Shadow of Grief Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sometimes, we can try to cover up our past pain with that which we can control-achievement, performance, and productivity. But at some point, those coping mechanisms cannot mask the hurt we are feeling deep inside anymore. What do you do when what you've done to run from your past no longer works to hide what you're truly feeling? For Dr. Elizabeth (Ellie) Stevens, there came a point when what she did to keep the pain from her childhood sexual abuse at bay, no longer worked. She found that she could no longer hide behind performance and her achievements and instead had to face what was below the surface. It took another string of traumas including a sexual assault and traumatic brain injury to bring up the ache she had been ignoring, but when she did, she found that God invited her towards something new: freedom. Even when her poor decisions heaped shame on top of all she was enduring, she was able to start to experience the depth of God's love in the middle of the mess of emotions she was enduring. Now, as a psychiatrist, trauma survivor, and veteran, Dr. Stevens has taken what she has learned in her own journey to help veterans and first responders in theirs. In this conversation, Davey talks with Dr. Stevens about how we often use achievement and performance to cope with our past, the power of God shown through our weakness, and how trauma can help us move from conditional to unconditional love. If you find yourself trying to hide your past pain through achievement and performance and you are ready to experience the freedom God has for you, this episode will encourage you that God wants to release you from that which threatens to hold you back. Website: www.drelizabethstevens.com www.advancingwarriors.org Book: Unshackled: Finding God's Freedom from Trauma Don't miss out on an incredible, life-changing trip with Davey to Israel, May 29-June 6, 2023! Register today at: www.nothingiswasted.com/israel Have you ever wondered why God seems silent in your suffering? Join us on February 16th at 8pm EST for our next masterclass called God's Silence in Our Suffering: Seeing Him Move When You Can't Hear His Voice. Sign up today at: www.nothingiswasted.com/masterclass   Are you ready to go from pain to purpose? Partner with God to take back your story. Check out the Pain to Purpose Course: www.course.nothingiswasted.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Perhaps one of the greatest questions that comes after trauma or tragedy is how do we help our kids navigate pain? What do we as parents need to look for after loss or in the everyday struggles that kids are facing? When do we need to bring in an expert to help and what can we do in the in between? David Thomas knows all too well the questions that emerge when families encounter crisis and the everyday difficulties plaguing our children. As a licensed counselor at Daystar Counseling in Nashville, TN, he has met with hundreds of kids and has walked with them through all sorts of challenges from trauma, grief and loss to anxiety and depression. What he has noticed in his clinical experience is that above all else, kids need parents willing to do the same emotional work of healing that they are wanting for their children. When we as parents start to look at our own stories, we can better help our children through theirs. In this practical and timely conversation, Davey sits down with David to discuss why we need to do our own work as parents, the importance of following our child's lead after pain, understanding behavior as communication as well as how to help kids navigate anxiety and technology. If you are struggling to know what to do with the pain or challenges your child is experiencing, this episode is full of helpful wisdom to help you parent well in the midst of it. Website: www.raisingboysandgirls.com www.daystarcounseling.com Instagram: www.instagram.com/raisingboysandgirls Podcast: www.raisingboysandgirls.com/podcast Book: Raising Emotionally Strong Boys: Tools Your Son Can Build On For Life https://a.co/d/byBtWJH Strong and Smart: A Boy’s Guide to Building Healthy Relationshipshttps://a.co/d/9qIEHtJ Would you like to access all of the resources from Nothing is Wasted? From masterclasses to curated pathways, live coaching and more, you can get it all in our Community Plus Membership by joining at: www.nothingiswasted.com/communityplus Need some hope in your healing journey? Get the Pain to Purpose 42-Day Devotional to help you navigate the valleys of life. Grab your copy today: https://www.nothingiswasted.com/store/pain-to-purpose-devotional Do you want to access all Nothing is Wasted offers on your particular pain point? Check out Curated Pathways and find resources and hear stories of hope and healing from people who have walked a similar journey: www.nothingiswasted.com/pathways Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

So often, we tend to think very little about our story and how our past impacts our present. But, what if the key to healing the wounds we are experiencing now is inextricably tied to engaging our whole story including our past? For professional counselor and podcaster Adam Young, it was when he began to engage his story, the wounds of his past and his family of origin, that he started to see the ways in which God wanted to meet him in his pain. This idea of not just dealing with the symptoms of past wounds, but looking at the arc of our lives became the most important tool Adam had in his private practice with others who were wanting to heal from the past. It also connected perfectly with what we know to be true about the human brain and how it makes sense of the things that have happened to us. In this deeply profound conversation, Davey and Adam talk about why it is so important to engage our stories, the difference between trauma and adversity, how to handle people who have wounded us, and how this work can lead to healing and health in our relationships, including our closest ones like in our marriage. If you've ever wondered how to connect the dots between your earliest memories and what you are experiencing now, this episode is full of insightful wisdom on how to step into your story with compassion and curiosity. Website: www.adamyoungcounseling.com Instagram: www.instagram.com/adamyoungcounseling Facebook: www.facebook.com/adam.p.young.counseling Other: The Place We Find Ourselves Podcast: www.adamyoungcounseling.com/podcast Want to join Davey on a life-changing trip to Israel on May 29-June 6? Sign up today: www.nothingiswasted.com/israel Would you like to see your church go experience healing and freedom from past pain and trauma? Learn more at: www.nothingiswasted.com/churches Do you want to access all Nothing is Wasted offers on your particular pain point? Check out Curated Pathways and find resources and hear stories of hope and healing from people who have walked a similar journey: www.nothingiswasted.com/pathways Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices