The Motherkind Podcast

Hey everyone and welcome back to Motherkind. The show that is going to help you navigate the massive challenges of motherhood (and life) with more acceptance, ease, joy and purpose.And if you do love the podcast, can you do me a favor and hit subscribe because it really does help.This week's guest is the incredible Susanna Abse. Susanna has been a leading couples therapist for 35 years. There is not much Susanna doesn't know about love and relationships. And to support us, she has a new book out called Tell me the truth about love, which is a collection of amazing stories from the therapist's couch.This is an incredible episode. You're gonna learn so much.We chat about: Why children can cause such challenges in relationships and what to do about it How your own childhood shapes our adult relationships and what those dynamics might mean for you The signs that your relationship may be coming to an end How to save your marriage from the brink of a breakdown It is a powerful episode packed full of wisdom and insight. I absolutely loved it.As always, we continue the conversation over on Instagram, so come and join us there.SPECIAL THANKS TO ATHLETIC GREENS - THIS WEEK’S SPONSORWe are grateful to Athletic Greens for sponsoring this episode of the Motherkind podcast. I use AG1 every morning. With 75 whole food-sourced ingredients designed to optimize 5 key areas of health, AG1 is the delicious daily habit that sets you up for a healthy future. Invest in your health without compromise! Visit athleticgreens.com/motherkind to get a FREE year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase.GROUP COACHING PROGRAMME - STARTS 14th OF SEPTEMBER 2022Our next round of group coaching starts on the 14the of September. If you want to be coached by me and feel like now is your time. I'd love for you to join us. It is a small group of 10 who come together for 8 weeks led by me to explore topics like boundaries, energy, values journaling and much more. It is going to help you find clarity, connection and community. Head to motherkind.co for more information.ABOUT SUSANNA ABSESusanna is a psychoanalytic psychotherapist who has worked in private practice with couples, individuals and parents since 1991. She is the chair of The British Psychoanalytic Council and spent a decade as CEO of the charity Tavistock Relationships. She has also recently been presenting Britain on the Couch for Channel 4 News and contributes regularly as an expert on print features about relationships. She has published widely on couple therapy, parenting, and family policy and how these areas need to be at the heart of progressive welfare provision, a subject on which she lectures and teaches.MOTHERKIND PROGRAMMES AND RESOURCES FREEDOM FROM PERFECTIONISM: Are you ready to find freedom from guilt? Let me help you find Freedom from Perfectionism if you are a mother who has ever felt not quite enough. INSTAGRAM: @zoeblaskey - come engage with Zoe and our community over on Instagram for inspiration, tips, and sometimes a bit of humour to get us through our day. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Welcome back to Motherkind Moment. Moment is your place on a Monday for calm and connection and maybe even a shift in perspective before the week ahead.Something a bit different this week. It is with the poet Jessica Urlichs. This is actually her reading one of her favourite poems. I love this because it reminds us of what is really important. It is so easy to get lost in all the things that don’t really matter. This is an invitation to release some of that pressure you may be putting on yourself and come back to what is really important to you.You can listen to the clip by clicking above or the full episode here.GROUP COACHING PROGRAMME - STARTS 14TH OF SEPTEMBER 2022Our next round of group coaching starts on the 14the of September. If you want to be coached by me and feel like now is your time. I'd love for you to join us. It is a small group of 10 who come together for 8 weeks led by me to explore topics like boundaries, energy, values journaling and much more. It is going to help you find clarity, connection and community. Head to motherkind.co for more information.ABOUT JESSICA URLICHSJessica Urlichs is a writer and poet. She lives in New Zealand with her husband and two young children. She is the author of three poetry books, 'From One Mom to a Mother', 'All I See Is You' & 'My After All'. As well as a children's picture book on emotions called 'The Rainbow in my Heart'. Shop for these here. She loves blogging and writing down her thoughts and in turn has a beautiful community on Instagram and Facebook of other like minded mothers who are here for the messy and beautiful truth of motherhood.MOTHERKIND PROGRAMMES AND RESOURCES FREEDOM FROM PERFECTIONISM: Are you ready to find freedom from guilt? Let me help you find Freedom from Perfectionism if you are a mother who has ever felt not quite enough. INSTAGRAM: @zoeblaskey - come engage with Zoe and our community over on Instagram for inspiration, tips, and sometimes a bit of humour to get us through our day. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Hey everyone and welcome back to Motherkind. The show that is going to help you navigate the massive challenges of motherhood (and life) with more acceptance, ease, joy and purpose.I am so excited for this one. It is with Emma Reed Turrell who is a psychotherapist and author of Please Yourself: How to Stop People-Pleasing and Transform the Way You Live. Sounds good. Doesn't it?I am a people-pleaser in recovery, which you may have heard me talk about before, but it is such a huge part of my recovery and my life. And it is still very much a work in progress for me.My knee-jerk reaction is still to put others' feelings over my own. I still find it so hard to disappoint, upset, or even make another person angry. It’s a daily work in progress for me.In this incredible conversation, we chat about: How to know if you are a people pleaser Why we become people-pleasers How it shows up in motherhood How to begin to change that pattern This episode is about becoming more and more ourselves, more alive, joyful, and all the good stuff that people-pleasing blocks us from. And you're gonna want to stay right to the end to hear her gift, which is just beautiful.I hope you love it. Please do share it with any mothers that you think might identify with people-pleasing.As always, we continue the conversation over on Instagram, so come and join us there.GROUP COACHING PROGRAMME - STARTS 14TH OF SEPTEMBER 2022Our next round of group coaching starts on the 14the of September. If you want to be coached by me and feel like now is your time. I'd love for you to join us. It is a small group of 10 who come together for 8 weeks led by me to explore topics like boundaries, energy, values journaling and much more. It is going to help you find clarity, connection and community. Head to motherkind.co for more information.ABOUT EMMA REED TURRELLEmma Reed Turrell grew up near Portsmouth and went on to read English at Queens’ College, Cambridge. Following ten years working in business, she returned to her earlier passion for psychology and retrained as a psychotherapist.Originally trained in Gestalt and Transactional Analysis, Emma has gone on to qualify in a range of therapeutic approaches, including CBT, EMDR, NLP and Hypnotherapy.Emma is also a Clinical Supervisor and runs a busy therapy practice alongside training and consulting. Following the success of her debut book, Please Yourself: How to Stop People-Pleasing and Transform the Way You Live, Emma is currently writing her second book and also presents chart-topping podcast Best Friend Therapy with Elizabeth Day.When she’s not working, Emma can be found walking along the seafront in her home town of Southsea with her two golden retrievers, Willow and Betty.Instagram: @emmareedturrellTwitter: @etcounsellingMOTHERKIND PROGRAMMES AND RESOURCES FREEDOM FROM PERFECTIONISM: Are you ready to find freedom from guilt? Let me help you find Freedom from Perfectionism if you are a mother who has ever felt not quite enough. INSTAGRAM: @zoeblaskey - come engage with Zoe and our community over on Instagram for inspiration, tips, and sometimes a bit of humour to get us through our day. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Welcome back to Motherkind Moment. Moment is your place on a Monday for calm and connection and maybe even a shift in perspective before the week ahead.This week’s Moment is with the wonderful Rhiannon Lambert where she shares why we need to stop stressing about mealtimes. I really needed this one. I hope it helps.You can listen to the clip by clicking above or the full episode here.GROUP COACHING PROGRAMME - STARTS 14th OF SEPTEMBER 2022Our next round of group coaching starts on the 14the of September. If you want to be coached by me and feel like now is your time. I'd love for you to join us. It is a small group of 10 who come together for 8 weeks led by me to explore topics like boundaries, energy, values journaling and much more. It is going to help you find clarity, connection and community. Head to motherkind.co for more information.ABOUT RHIANNON LAMBERTRhiannon Lambert BSc MSc RNutr is one of the UK’s leading nutritionists, a best-selling author and chart-topping podcast host. In 2016 she founded Rhitrition, a renowned Harley Street clinic, which specialises in weight management, gut health, sports nutrition, eating disorders, and pre-and post-natal nutrition.Registered with the Association for Nutrition, Rhiannon obtained a first-class degree in Nutrition and Health, a Master’s degree in Obesity, Risks and Prevention, and diplomas in sports nutrition, pre-and post-natal nutrition. She is a Master Practitioner in Eating Disorders, accredited by The British Psychological Society and a Level 3 Personal Trainer.Rhiannon hosts the top-rated ‘Food for Thought’ podcast, which gives listeners practical, evidence-based advice on how to achieve a healthier lifestyle. With more than five million downloads since 2018, it is firmly established as one of the UK’s most popular health podcasts. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Hey everyone and welcome back to Motherkind. The show that is going to help you navigate the massive challenges of motherhood (and life) with more acceptance, ease, joy and purpose.This week’s episode is slightly different. It is with writer and spiritual teacher, Rupert Spira.I'm so keen to share with you on this podcast voices, experiences and ideas from a really broad range of experts. It's such a joy for me to contemplate all of these different ideas and how they can help us on our journeys as mothers.I loved this chat with Rupert. I'm not gonna lie, it was deeply confronting for me at times and a little bit like a personal one-to-one session, but ultimately really beautiful.Rupert said something I can’t stop thinking about since our recording, he said that:The most important thing we can do as parents is to model how we handle emotions and that that's way more powerful than anything we could ever teach or say.So whether you are deep into a spiritual quest or you have absolutely no idea what to expect from this chat, I think by the end you're gonna be left with a feeling of calm.My intention with this episode is to tap into curiosity, open-mindedness and wonder - Those can be powerful qualities - asking yourself what if I tried this, what would I experience? What would that be like?As always, we continue the conversation over on Instagram, so come and join us there.SPECIAL THANKS TO OUR SPONSOR GYMONDOStart a free 14-day trial and save 50% on your annual membership by visiting gymondo.com and enter the code motherkind.Studies show that regular exercise not only builds your physical strength, but also boosts your mood, reduces stress and increases self-esteem. I definitely know that one of the easiest ways for me to get that serotonin flowing is through exercise.So let's get more of that incredible post-exercise feeling with Gymondo. Gymondo is an online fitness and wellbeing platform with hundreds of 20 to 30-minute workouts.It works brilliantly for me with programs ranging from HIT and yoga to dance and meditation. Plus thousands of healthy recipes.Gymondo will help you make exercise a consistent part of your routine because as we all know, consistency is the key. And because Gymondo is online, it gives you the freedom and flexibility to decide when and where you work out, which, for me, is in my living room.GROUP COACHING PROGRAMME - STARTS 14th OF SEPTEMBER 2022Our next round of group coaching starts on the 14the of September. If you want to be coached by me and feel like now is your time. I'd love for you to join us. It is a small group of 10 who come together for 8 weeks led by me to explore topics like boundaries, energy, values journaling and much more. It is going to help you find clarity, connection and community. Head to motherkind.co for more information.ABOUT RUPERT SPIRAFrom an early age, Rupert Spira was deeply interested in the nature of reality and the source of lasting peace and happiness. After spending twenty years immersed in the teachings of classical Advaita Vedanta, he met his teacher, Francis Lucille, who introduced him to the Direct Path approach whereby one may recognise the source of peace and happiness in oneself. Rupert has written several books and holds regular meetings and retreats online, as well as in Europe and the United States. He is also a noted potter, trained in the British Studio Pottery school, with work in public and private collections. www.rupertspira.com Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/rupertspira/ Twitter - https://twitter.com/RupertSpira_ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/rupertspira Youtube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxXWjjtATq3OM545gMh9PUg Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Welcome back to Motherkind Moment. Moment is your place on a Monday for calm and connection and maybe even a shift in perspective before the week ahead.This week’s Moment is with the lovely Sarah Ockwell-Smith, mother of 4 and probably one of the UKs best-known parenting experts.In this short clip, Sarah shares her realisation that all her life she had been a good girl. Pushing down her emotions and keeping busy doing what she thought she was supposed to do. I know lots of you will relate to that.Sarah bravely shares how realising that she was being this good girl and changing her behaviour around it set her free to experience way more joy, calm, presence and connection with herself and everyone else in her life.I hope you love this clip.You can listen to the clip by clicking above or the full episode here.GROUP COACHING PROGRAMME - STARTS 14th OF SEPTEMBER 2022Our next round of group coaching starts on the 14the of September. If you want to be coached by me and feel like now is your time. I'd love for you to join us. It is a small group of 10 who come together for 8 weeks led by me to explore topics like boundaries, energy, values journaling and much more. It is going to help you find clarity, connection and community. Head to motherkind.co for more information.ABOUT SARAH OCKWELL-SMITHSarah Ockwell-Smith is the mother of four children. She has a BSc in Psychology and worked for several years in pharmaceutical research and development.Following the birth of her first child, Sarah re-trained as an antenatal teacher and birth and postnatal doula. She has also undertaken training in hypnotherapy and psychotherapy and is a member of the British Sleep Society. Sarah specialises in gentle parenting methods and is co-founder of the Gentle Parenting website www.gentleparenting.co.uk. She also blogs at www.sarahockwell-smith.com.Sarah is the author of twelve parenting books. and frequently writes for magazines and newspapers, and is often called upon as a parenting expert for national television and radio. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Hey everyone and welcome back to Motherkind. The show that is going to help you navigate the massive challenges of motherhood (and life) with more acceptance, ease, joy and purpose.Thanks to each and every one of you that come back every week to listen, learn and feel inspired. If you love the podcast, can you do me a favour and hit subscribe, it really does help.This week’s guest is the amazing Dr Julie Smith - Mum of 3, clinical psychologist and online educator. You probably know her from her massively successful book and number one Sunday Times bestseller - Why has nobody told me this before. The educational videos she creates and shares on social media are incredible, amassing her a whopping 3.4 million followers on TikTok.I really struggled with what to call this episode - because we talk about so much: The tension between motherhood, ambition and purpose Answer to that tension - hint, values Her realisation around her own self-care What she’s trying to model for her 3 children Our inner critic and how to move past perfectionism and mistakes This episode is so powerful - I know you are going to want to share it - so please do.As always, we continue the conversation over on Instagram, so come and join us there.SPECIAL THANKS TO OUR SPONSOR - ATHLETIC GREENSMy sponsor this week is Athletic Greens. I love AG1. I take it every morning when I’m making the girls breakfast.AG1 has over 7k 5* reviews and I can see why. It’s a supplement with 75 ingredients and its special blend is designed to support gut health, nervous and immune system, energy, recovery, focus and even aging.It’s one of my non-negotiables. It tastes quite nice and while I’m drinking it I’m reminding myself I’m worth looking after and that I can only be the mother and person I want to be in the world when I look after myself.We are grateful to Athletic Greens for sponsoring this episode of the Motherkind podcast.Visit https://athleticgreens.com/motherkind to get a FREE year supply of immune-supporting Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase.GROUP COACHING PROGRAMME - STARTS 14th OF SEPTEMBER 2022Our next round of group coaching starts on the 14the of September. If you want to be coached by me and feel like now is your time. I'd love for you to join us. It is a small group of 10 who come together for 8 weeks led by me to explore topics like boundaries, energy, values journaling and much more. It is going to help you find clarity, connection and community. Head to motherkind.co for more information.ABOUT DR. JULIEDr Julie Smith is a Clinical Psychologist with over a decade of professional experience, having previously worked in the NHS, with veterans and the MoD, in addiction and crisis centres, and now in private practice. She is also an online educator and social media star, sharing bite-sized mental health and motivational videos online, with a combined following of more than 3.5 million. In November 2019 Julie launched her Tik Tok account to make her services and education about mental health more accessible. During the COVID-19 pandemic, Dr Julie’s audience on TikTok grew astronomically as young people related to the videos she was making about mental health and put her advice to use.Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before? is Dr Julie’s first book: A mental health toolbox that is filled with ideas, techniques and insights to help you feel calmer, stronger and more resilient, no matter what life throws your way. Instagram TikTok MOTHERKIND PROGRAMMES AND RESOURCES FREEDOM FROM PERFECTIONISM: Are you ready to find freedom from guilt? Let me help you find Freedom from Perfectionism if you are a mother who has ever felt not quite enough. INSTAGRAM: @motherkind_zoe - come engage with Zoe and our community over on Instagram for inspiration, tips, and sometimes a bit of humour to get us through our day. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Welcome back to Motherkind Moment. Moment is your place on a Monday for calm and connection and maybe even a shift in perspective before the week ahead.This week’s Moment is with the brilliant Dr Sophie Brock. She is a motherhood studies sociologist. She literally has a PhD in motherhood.In this powerful clip, Dr Sophie shares why so much of our guilt isn’t ours at all, but is driven by our societal expectations about what we think we should be doing. And that is where the guilt comes in.The most important thing we have to do with guilt is hold it up to the light - don’t ignore it, don’t push it away -ask yourself do I feel guilty because I stepped out of my own values or is it because I have absorbed these messages about what I think I should be doing?Challenge and question your guilt. It is so powerful to be aware that the majority of our guilt is driven by what we think we should be doing instead of what we really want to be doing.I hope you really love this short clip.You can listen to the clip by clicking above or the full episode here.MOTHERKIND PROGRAMMES AND RESOURCES FREEDOM FROM PERFECTIONISM: Are you ready to find freedom from guilt? Let me help you find Freedom from Perfectionism if you are a mother who has ever felt not quite enough. INSTAGRAM: @motherkind_zoe - come engage with Zoe and our community over on Instagram for inspiration, tips and sometimes a bit of humour to get us through our day. ABOUT DR SOPHIE BROCKDr. Sophie Brock is a Motherhood Studies Sociologist and Mother living in Sydney, Australia. She provides analysis of Motherhood in our culture, exploring the ways individual experiences of Mothers are shaped by broader social constructs. Sophie supports professionals, business owners and creatives in revolutionising what Motherhood means in our society, and how individual Mothers are supported and understood. Sophie’s offerings include self-study courses for Mothers and practitioners, her podcast The Good Enough Mother, and her Motherhood Studies Practitioner Certification program. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Hi everyone, and welcome to this special Father's Day episode on the Motherkind podcast. This is the show that's going to help you navigate the massive challenges of motherhood and, this week, fatherhood with more acceptance, ease, joy, and purpose. Thanks to each and every one of you that come back every week to listen, learn and feel inspired.It's father's day here in the UK on the 19th of June. And I am so excited about this episode. It is a powerful one.My guest is Bodé Aboderin (AKA Papa B). He is a writer, speaker, businessman, and stay-at-home dad. His wife is the amazing Candice Brathwaite, who has also been on the podcast. So check out that episode, if you haven't listened to it alreadyBodé is on a mission. He says we need a new way of thinking about masculinity and fatherhood. And he says it's vital that men unpack their beliefs about what it means to be a man and a father or else they risk perpetuating this old really stifling idea of masculinity.Bodé’s story is one of transformation. He shares how he used to believe being a man meant, earning more, not showing his feelings and having this unpenetrable mask of masculinity.Hitting rock bottom, he had a breakthrough that led him to totally transform how he sees his role as a man and a father.And that is what we talk about in this episode. It is incredibly powerful and I really, really hope that this is going to be one that you're going to share with the men in your life.Within minutes of recording it, I sent it to my husband, Guy. Urging him in all caps to please listen.His new book called Fatherhood, is brilliantly written, it's relatable, it's compassionate, and it is a credible call to arms for the men in our lives. I think you're also going to cry at the gift that he would give to all fathers.If you love the podcast, please do me a favour and subscribe. It really does help.I really hope you enjoy this father's day special episode. Here it is.As always, we continue the conversation over on Instagram, so come and join us there.SPECIAL THANKS TO OUR SPONSOR GYMONDOStudies show that regular exercise not only builds your physical strength, but also boosts your mood, reduces stress and increases self-esteem. I definitely know that one of the easiest ways for me to get that serotonin flowing is through exercise.So let's get more of that incredible post-exercise feeling with Gymondo. Gymondo is an online fitness and wellbeing platform with hundreds of 20 to 30-minute workouts.It works brilliantly for me with programs ranging from HIT and yoga to dance and meditation. Plus thousands of healthy recipes.Gymondo will help you make exercise a consistent part of your routine because as we all know, consistency is the key. And because Gymondo is online, it gives you the freedom and flexibility to decide when and where you work out, which, for me, is in my living room.Start a free 14-day trial and save 50% on your annual membership by visiting gymondo.com and enter the code motherkind.ABOUT BODÉ ABODERIN (AKA PAPA B)Bodé Aboderin (AKA Papa B) is a writer, speaker, businessman and stay-at-home dad. Through social media, speaking engagements and his writing, Bode is on a mission to communicate his rapidly changing beliefs on fatherhood and masculinity in real-time following his recent conversion from climbing a corporate ladder to running a household and family business.Alongside managing at home Bode, originally from Nigeria, now runs a growing media business with his wife, Candice Brathwaite, supporting and championing her plans for world domination.Bode’s debut book, ‘Fatherhood by Papa B’ was released in June and addresses fatherhood in such a way that is hard-working, practical and incredibly down-to-earth. The book looks at how a father's own upbringing and well-being can impact and revolutionise the relationship with their child. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Welcome back to Motherkind Moment. Moment is your place on a Monday for calm and connection and maybe even a shift in perspective before the week ahead.This week’s Moment is with Shelley Robinson of Raising Yourself.In this short episode, Shelley explains why her children triggered her anger so much and what she did about it.I hope you enjoy it.You can listen to the clip by clicking above or the full episode here.MOTHERKIND PROGRAMMES AND RESOURCES FREEDOM FROM PERFECTIONISM: Are you ready to find freedom from guilt? Let me help you find Freedom from Perfectionism if you are a mother who has ever felt not quite enough. INSTAGRAM: @motherkind_zoe - come engage with Zoe and our community over on Instagram for inspiration, tips and sometimes a bit of humour to get us through our day. ABOUT SHELLEY ROBINSONShelly Robinson is a certified holistic family wellness coach, cycle-breaker, conscious parenting educator, and the creator of Raising Yourself. Her passion in life is to empower moms to turn their midlife crisis into midlife magic by teaching them how to reparent themselves, disrupt generational patterns, and take radically good care of their needs.When she's not connecting with her online community or geeking out on the latest neuroscience of cycle-breaking, she's likely making a mess in the kitchen with her two kids, trying to find her way out from under a pile of laundry, or decompressing with a good mystery in bed. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices