The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma}
Robyn Gobbel
Formerly the Parenting after Trauma podcast, internationally recognized children's mental health expert Robyn Gobbel decodes the most baffling behaviors for parents of kids with vulnerable nervous systems. If you're parenting a child who has experienced trauma or toxic stress or a child with a neuroimmune disorder, sensory processing, or other nervous system vulnerability, this show will let you know you are not alone. You can stop playing behavior whack-a-mole because Robyn offers you tools that actually work. You can become your child's expert, feel more confident as a parent, and bring more connection and clarity into your family.Educators, therapists, coaches and consultants- you too can learn all about what behavior really is and become more effective at helping the families you support. You can love your work again!
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Apr 22, 2025 • 52min
Ep 218: Questions to ask a Potential Therapist
Discover essential questions to ask potential therapists, focusing on understanding behaviors through the nervous system. Learn about crucial red flags and what qualifications signal a therapist's trauma-informed approach. Get tips for fostering a relational atmosphere that emphasizes connection and safety during therapy. Explore how to integrate therapeutic moments into everyday life, making the process more engaging for reluctant children. Access valuable resources and downloadable handouts to aid in finding the right fit for your family's needs.
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Apr 15, 2025 • 32min
Ep. 217: Co-Regulating? Or Masking?
Exploring the balance between co-regulation and masking, the discussion reveals how parents of children with vulnerable nervous systems can experience both good and bad exhaustion. Self-compassion emerges as crucial in this parenting journey. Listeners learn that co-regulating their child also requires their own need for connection. Resources for parents aiming to navigate these challenges are highlighted, along with an invitation to join a supportive community for ongoing engagement and professional development.
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Apr 8, 2025 • 37min
Ep. 216: "On Purpose" Behavior
Explore the mysterious world of 'on purpose' behaviors in children, discovering that they stem from deeper emotional experiences rather than simple defiance. The discussion emphasizes the importance of empathy, regulation, and connection when addressing these challenging behaviors. Gain insights on how to respond effectively, ensuring that safety and understanding guide your approach. Plus, learn about valuable resources to assist in navigating these baffling behaviors in parenting!
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Apr 1, 2025 • 46min
Ep. 215: The #1 Ingredient of Self Regulation
Discover the vital components of self-regulation: monitoring and modifying emotional responses. The discussion highlights how these skills can be cultivated in children, with a focus on the importance of co-regulation. Listeners learn to set realistic expectations for their kids' abilities to notice and adjust their arousal levels. The conversation also touches on exciting changes to community support and resources for trauma-informed caregiving, creating a nurturing environment for families dealing with challenging behaviors.
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Mar 25, 2025 • 49min
EP 214: Helping Kids with Medical Trauma with Rose LaPiere
In this conversation, Rose LaPiere, a co-teacher of Being With and parent, shares her insights on the complexities of medical trauma in children. She explains how trauma is subjective, affecting children differently during medical interventions like NICU stays or dental visits. Rose highlights the importance of parents understanding their child's reactions and emotions. She offers strategies for preparing kids for medical experiences, emphasizes storytelling and play as healing tools, and underlines the significance of co-regulation to support emotional connections.
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Mar 18, 2025 • 43min
Ep. 213: Resentment & Parenting
Resentment is a common emotion for parents, especially when expectations clash with reality. The discussion explores how this feeling serves an important purpose and what messages it might convey. It addresses the unique struggles of parents raising children with special needs, emphasizing the importance of self-care and understanding boundaries. The conversation encourages curiosity over shame, highlighting how early attachment trauma can influence these emotions. Tune in for insights on emotional healing and fostering healthier parenting experiences.
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Mar 11, 2025 • 45min
Ep. 212: Are We Just Rewarding Bad Behavior?
Navigating parenting can feel overwhelming, especially when it seems like you're rewarding bad behavior. The discussion challenges common beliefs by exploring how connection and co-regulation can actually help children develop healthier coping mechanisms. It also emphasizes the importance of feeling safe to avoid future dysregulation. Plus, the podcast highlights valuable resources and community support for parents and professionals, paving the way for transformative strategies in managing tricky behaviors.
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Mar 4, 2025 • 27min
Ep. 211: Hard? Too Hard? For PARENTS!!!
Explore the nuances of intensive parenting and uncover the difference between 'hard' and 'too hard' for both parents and kids. Delve into the emotional toll on parents and learn strategies for offering support while establishing vital boundaries. Gain insights into fostering children's success in educational settings through co-regulation and understanding their needs. Discover the importance of self-compassion and connection in parenting, especially when navigating the challenges of parenting sensitive children.
Feb 28, 2025 • 55min
{BONUS} Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior- webinar replay
The discussion emphasizes how the nervous system shapes children's behavior. Parents learn about 'felt safety' and its connection to trauma, highlighting the importance of environment and relationships. Key insights into neuroception reveal how kids assess their safety, influencing their actions. The conversation also stresses the need for compassion and connection in parenting, offering resources to help tackle behavioral challenges. It's a thoughtful journey into understanding the underlying mechanisms that impact children's development.
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Feb 25, 2025 • 35min
Ep 210: Sabotage and Being Set Up
Many parents feel like their kids are intentionally sabotaging situations, but there's a deeper neuroscience at play. Understanding these baffling behaviors offers hope rather than frustration. The podcast delves into how sensitive children may not be manipulative but are instead seeking emotional support. It emphasizes the importance of co-regulation and emotional healing, encouraging parents to respond in ways that can positively influence their child's development.
