The Michelle Chalfant Show — Life from the Adult Chair

We all want that one manual for parenting teens but where is it? What do we do when we find out our teen has been drinking, using drugs, or vaping? For parents, this can be triggering and scary! Our goal is to learn to parent from a healthy place, and that's when we learn to parent from our Adult Chair. This means we stay present, we respond vs react, we set healthy boundaries and have honest (and sometimes tough) conversations with our kids to keep them safe through their teen years. In this conversation with Dr. James Wellborn, we gain some new and valuable tools on how to parent from a healthy place while our teens test, push boundaries, and experiment, from high school and into a healthy adulthood. Links & Notes Dr. James Wellborn

What does it mean to find happiness? Noah Levine tried to find it — with motorcycles and leather jackets and drugs and more — only to discover that the true path to happiness is on the inside. Since then, he's become one of the foremost instructors of mindfulness and meditation from the Buddhist perspective thanks to his own journey of peace, and he's with us today to share more. This week's episode kicks off a series of conversations on relationships with a focus on our inner relationship, the one we have with ourselves. It's the most important relationship when we think about our work in the Adult Chair and Noah's perspective is so powerful and informative for our own journey. About Noah Levine Noah Levine is a Buddhist teacher, author, counselor and recognized keynote speaker. He has studied with a variety of prominent Therevadan and Mahayanan Buddhist teachers and holds a masters degree in Integrative Counseling Psychology from CIIS. With over 25 years of experience in the addiction and recovery field, Noah has created a process of addiction recovery based on the teachings of the Buddha called Refuge Recovery. He is also the founder of Against the Stream Buddhist Meditation Society–with active centers in Los Angeles and San Francisco and more than 20 affiliated groups across North America. He is the author of "Dharma Punx", "Against the Stream", "Heart of the Revolution" and "Refuge Recovery." Links & Notes Noah Levine — Talks at Google Against the Stream Refuge Recovery Refuge Recovery Treatment Centers

Once again, the car has shown itself to be a terrific vessel for inspiration! So many clients have been facing this central question that I found it a great time step back and share some guiding thoughts. When we experience a negative emotion, our instinct is to jump out of it, to move back to happiness and peace as quickly as possible. But we're not taught to do that authentically so we look for an escape. Today I have some thoughts on how to approach pain from the Adult Chair that I think will help!

We're continuing our series on mindfulness and food this week with a conversation on Mindful Eating. What does it mean to eat mindfully? Which chair are we usually in when we eat? What happens to your body when you approach food from a place of mindfulness and gratitude? We've got some answers for you, and five key messages you can tell yourself to figure out how to get in better touch with your body, to listen to it, and begin making decisions that serve your overall physical and emotional health! Links & Notes Introduction to EFT Tapping Your Way to Pain-Free with EFT The Mathematics of Weight Loss with Ruben Meerman — TEDxQUT Living Through Cancer in The Adult Chair

When we live in our Adult Chair, we live in the healthiest version of ourselves. This is not just about living an emotionally healthy lifestyle, but also living in a strong physical body, too. In fact, our emotional health is directly affected by our physical health. Megan Ramos serves as director for the Intensive Dietary Management program based in Scarborough, Ontario, Canada. She's a clinical researcher herself with a focus on preventative medicine. After her own diabetes diagnosis, she became the program's first guinea pig and is here to talk to us about her own experience, IDM's work, and introduce some of these dietary strategies that can help your emotional regulation too. Links & Notes Intensive Dietary Management Register for Michelle's Adult Chair 3-day intensive in Nashville OR Charlotte!

Our guest today is Tisha Morris, founder of Earth Home and bestselling author on Feng Shui and the energy of our spaces. We wanted to have Tisha on the show to help us better understand the role of Feng Shui in our homes, but she taught us so much more! Her guidance on the way we relate to our most precious spaces leads us not just through our rooms and down our halls, but deep into our long-forgotten drawers and cabinets to seek out the energy blocks that keep us bound up! Tisha is a certified life coach, energy healer, and fellow podcaster — find Feng Shui Your Life in Apple Podcasts — and she's the founder of Earth Home School of Feng Shui and Feng Shui for the planet, a foundation to help promote better living spaces across the globe — Tisha Morris, welcome to The Adult Chair! Links & Notes EarthHome.tv Follow Tisha on Instagram Follow Tisha on Facebook Feng Shui your Life Podcast — Apple Podcasts

Today, we're talking about your breath. Yes, we all breathe, but how often do you think about the way your breathing impacts your emotional well being or your physical health or your ability to respond to stress and anxiety? The answer — not enough. Our guest today is Michelle D'Avella. Michelle supports people through their journey inward to release pain, open their hearts, and create a life they love. She is a breathwork teacher, desire map facilitator, writer, and mentor. She is the host of The Pushing Beauty Podcast and we're thrilled to welcome her to The Adult Chair today. Links & Notes Pushing Beauty Pushing Beauty — Breathwork Pushing Beauty — The Desire Map The Pushing Beauty Podcast — Apple Podcasts Pushing Beauty — Instagram

"If I don't learn to take care of myself, who will?" Boundaries and confrontations are two very different things. One teaches others how we want to be treated and the other is getting in someone's face to illicit change. Which one sounds better to you? In this podcast, we discuss the difference between the two and what, how and why it's important to learn how to set effective boundaries. Unfortunately, most of us weren't taught how to set boundaries so when we are faced with upsets or hurt we typically do one of the following: "suck it up" (and pretend nothing has happened), shun the person that hurt us and disown them or get angry, yell and/or rage. There is a healthier way! This episode explains how.

We're still on vacation! But this week we bring you an old favorite from October 2015. This week: Relationships! Need help with a relationship? Whether it be your partner, family member, or friend, this information will shift how you interact in relationships. In today's podcast, we discuss ways to improve relationships using techniques from the Adult Chair model. They are simple, easy to understand, empowering, and cultivate true connection. Join us for a conversation that will not only change your troubled relationship but transform how you interact with everyone.

We're taking the month off so this week, a classic from deep in the archives! This week on the show, we're talking about stories. An example: You're on the highway. Someone races up next to you and cuts into your lane. You're surprised and scared for an instant, which leads to frustration — and maybe anger. That person is rude, oblivious, stupid, probably didn't see you because they don't care about others in their lives. … and so on, and so on. This is your story. A story you've made up about a person you have never met, based only on a split second fear reaction. These are the stories we tell ourselves to help us rationalize our reality. This week on the show, I share where these stories come from, why it's so important to understand how they impact us and offer a bit of insight that will help us face our stories and let them go!