The Michelle Chalfant Show — Life from the Adult Chair

By nature, all of us have the Child, Adolescent and Adult parts of ourselves...but these parts can look very different depending on our personality and life experience. Through the lens of the Enneagram, we can understand more about our personality and the ways we show up in stress and in health, and in this episode, Enneagram coach Ramona Reid breaks down how the wounds we received as a child affect our personality later in life. Our Enneagram type is often influenced by the message we did not hear as a child, and we form a personality or mask to make up for that wound. This might look like trying to be good and perfect, getting big and strong or trying to keep the peace with everyone around us, but it's always an ego response. Ramona does a beautiful job tying the Enneagram into The Adult Chair model and helping each of us understand what our Child, Adolescent and Adult might look like based on our type. Listen to discover: The three Enneagram centers and the nine types The message each type didn't receive as a child and the wounding each type carries The mask each type creates to cover that wounding What the core essence (healthy Adult) looks like for each type How to recognize our triggers and move towards presence This show was as cool as it was informative! Even if you have never heard of the Enneagram, you will benefit from listening as it will deepen your understanding of your wounding and how you are showing up in the world. If you want to listen to the other shows that Ramona has been on to deepen your understanding of the Enneagram, see the show notes below. They are all brilliant shows! "The point is not to never be triggered again. It's to understand that triggers are human and they're mine...I want to learn how to encounter them with more accountability and integrity and love for myself and my inner child." - Ramona Reid "Everyone's just sort of doing the best they can, and then we internalize that. When we're little, we think, 'This is about me,' and we create separation from our essence." - Ramona Reid "As children, we are sponges and absorb everything around us...and it becomes ours. It's why you've got to observe everything and pay attention to what's going on inside of you." - Michelle Chalfant "The work from my perspective is getting in touch with what's actually going on. Notice where our minds are going, where our hearts are going, out of presence...when we're able to be present, that's when our core essential qualities will show up." - Ramona Reid Resources Ramona Reid Website http://www.mynashvillecenter.com Ramona Reid Radio Show http://www.holisticrevolution.com Episode #51: Find Your Authentic Self in the Heart of Your Enneagram https://theadultchair.com/podcast/51 Episode #114: Deepening The Adult Chair Using the Wisdom of the Enneagram https://theadultchair.com/podcast/114 Episode #205: Stress and Your Enneagram Type https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/205/ Book: Sacred Enneagram - Christopher L. Heuertz https://www.amazon.com/Sacred-Enneagram-Finding-Unique-Spiritual/dp/0310348277/ The Adult Chair Membership - Free Month of July! https://theadultchair.com/membership/ Use code FREEMEMBER Inner Child Resource https://theadultchair.com/innerchild/ Self Series theadultchair.com/self The Adult Chair Workshop - New York https://theadultchair.com/new-york/ The Adult Chair Workshop - Charleston https://theadultchair.com/charleston/ More Adult Chair The Adult Chair Website https://theadultchair.com The Adult Chair Membership https://theadultchair.com/membership/ The Adult Chair Workshop https://theadultchair.com/events/ The Adult Chair Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/ Stay Connected Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/ The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant *** EPISODE CREDITS: If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment. He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com

We can never have enough self-esteem. So many of us didn't have healthy self-esteem role models growing up, so we are embarking on this journey now. The good news is that it's never too late to learn to love yourself...and it's a life-long journey, so you will have plenty of people along the path with you! Using The Adult Chair, building healthy self-esteem is not only possible, but it can also happen quickly. In this episode, I'm giving you practical steps for changing how you view and speak to yourself and easy practices you can use to build self-esteem every day. Listen to discover: Self-discovery questions you can ask yourself to see how healthy your self-esteem is Why creating a practice of building self-esteem is so important The four steps to building self-esteem How to control your thoughts and shift your self-talk How to work with your parts and bust the stories that keep you from loving yourself I will always be working on my self-esteem because I believe it's something we can always have more of! With the help of The Adult Chair model, we can live our lives to the fullest and create happiness we never thought possible. Enjoy your journey of building up your new sense of self and empowerment in your Adult Chair! "Our thoughts drive our emotions up or down. We need to raise our awareness to our thoughts and watch what's coming in and out of our mouths or in and out of our brains."- Michelle Chalfant "These parts are not blocking our progress. They simply want and need our attention." - Michelle Chalfant "If the story you're telling yourself makes you miserable...you have the power to change it." - Michelle Chalfant Resources 5 -Minute Self-Love Meditation https://theadultchair.com/portfolio_page/5-minute-self-love-meditation/ Episode #84: Raising Self-Esteem https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/84-raising-self-esteem/ The Adult Chair Workshop - New York https://theadultchair.com/new-york/ The Adult Chair Workshop - Charleston https://theadultchair.com/charleston/ The Adult Chair Membership - Free Month of July! https://theadultchair.com/membership/ Use code FREEMEMBER Self Series theadultchair.com/self Green Chef https://www.greenchef.com/adult80 $80 off your first month + free shipping More Adult Chair The Adult Chair Website https://theadultchair.com The Adult Chair Membership https://theadultchair.com/membership/ The Adult Chair Workshop https://theadultchair.com/events/ The Adult Chair Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/ Stay Connected Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/ The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant *** EPISODE CREDITS: If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment. He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com

Relationships with narcissists are insidious. They begin one way, and over time, very slowly and covertly, they change and become poisonous. We wake up one day and wonder what we did wrong and how we got here. We blame ourselves and can even feel embarrassed to tell others. In today's very vulnerable show, Tracy shares her story of being married to a narcissist, how his toxic behaviors subtly increased over time and how it affected her sense of self. After marrying who she thought was a wonderful man, her life drastically changed and she began doubting herself. She fell into a depression, lived with anxiety and lost her sense of who she was. Tracy walks us through her story of waking up to the abuse and getting out of the relationship. We offer advice for others who are in these types of relationships, including what you can do and how to begin to build yourself back up and find your true self again. Listen to discover: How quickly relationships with a narcissist can shift and how confusing they can be Why subtle abuse is so easy to miss How narcissists whittle down self-esteem and create self-doubt Steps you can take to protect yourself or leave if needed How refinding yourself after a difficult relationship can be fun and exciting The importance of community and friends who can give you a reality check when you're feeling self-doubt "You think, 'I don't have negative feelings about myself,' but something in my body was telling me I wasn't good." - Tracy "I saw what his father was doing to him, but I didn't see what he was doing to me." - Tracy "He chopped away your belief in yourself, the self-love you had, your self-worth." - Michelle Chalfant "You deserve to be happy. You are a good person. If you feel good about what you're doing and you're confident in who you are, be aware of that and remind yourself of that and step out of the picture for a while." - Tracy Resources 5 -Minute Self-Love Meditation https://theadultchair.com/portfolio_page/5-minute-self-love-meditation/ Episode #84: Raising Self-Esteem https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/84-raising-self-esteem/ Episode #173: Am I in a Toxic Relationship? https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/173-am-i-in-a-toxic-relationship/ Episode #174: Building Self-Esteem https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/174-building-self-esteem/ The Adult Chair Workshop - New York https://theadultchair.com/new-york/ The Adult Chair Workshop - Charleston https://theadultchair.com/charleston/ The Adult Chair Membership - Free Month of July! https://theadultchair.com/membership/ Use code FREEMEMBER The Self Series theadultchair.com/self BOMBAS https://bombas.com/adult 20% off your first order More Adult Chair The Adult Chair Website https://theadultchair.com The Adult Chair Membership https://theadultchair.com/membership/ The Adult Chair Workshop https://theadultchair.com/events/ The Adult Chair Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/ Stay Connected Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/ The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant *** EPISODE CREDITS: If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment. He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com

We all have different ways that we connect and bond with others, and in psychology, we call this "attachment style." For example, some of us are anxious in our bonds, always making sure the relationship is ok. Others of us pull away when we feel we are getting too close with someone else. Our attachment style is HIGHLY influenced by our childhood and how we bonded with our caregivers growing up, and it's so important to understanding how we interact in our adult relationships! In this episode, I interview the incredible Silvy Khoucasian, a relationship coach and attachment style expert, about the different attachment styles and how we bond in relationships. Understanding your attachment style can be one of the most helpful tools for understanding how you show up in relationships and seeing the patterns that you might otherwise be tempted to blame on your partner. Listen to discover: What attachment theory is and why it matters The four attachment styles How the different attachment styles interact with each other How your attachment style creates patterns in your relationships today How to set boundaries for each attachment style Repairing shame and moving forward in relationships It was such a joy having Silvy on the show as she breaks down attachment theory in a simple, easy-to-understand way. As Silvy reminds us, our attachment style is not our fault, and it's important to be gentle with ourselves as we learn and heal these patterns. Everyone is deserving of love and capable of having secure, healthy relationships no matter their attachment style — but it's up to us to do the work! I hope this episode helps you on your journey towards healthier relationships. "Along that journey, it's important to start reflecting on, 'What are some ways I can start to bring healthier behaviors into the picture?' or at least, 'How can I communicate the tendencies that push people away or block connection?'" - Silvy Khoucasian "It doesn't matter who we pair with as long as both people are willing to see their unhealthy behaviors...it takes both people being really honest about those things." - Silvy Khoucasian "Starting to pay attention to whether our boundaries are serving us or if they're actually getting in the way of the kinds of relationships we want can be really helpful and can be paired with certain attachment styles really well." - Silvy Khoucasian "As you do the thing that's going to help you heal it, it's going to be uncomfortable." - Silvy Khoucasian "You have to know yourself, then you have to be able to tell your partner who you are and what you need. We react instead of expressing, 'Hey, this is what I need.'" - Michelle Chalfant Resources Silvy Khoucasian on Instagram @SilvyKhoucasian Boundaries Offering https://bryanreves.com/boundaries-silvy/ The Adult Chair Workshop - New York https://theadultchair.com/new-york/ The Adult Chair Workshop - Charleston https://theadultchair.com/charleston/ The Adult Chair Membership - Free Month of July! https://theadultchair.com/membership/ Use code FREEMEMBER More Adult Chair The Adult Chair Website https://theadultchair.com The Adult Chair Membership https://theadultchair.com/membership/ The Adult Chair Workshop https://theadultchair.com/events/ The Adult Chair Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/ Stay Connected Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/ The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant *** EPISODE CREDITS: If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment. He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com

As we reach the last week of June and find ourselves halfway through 2020, I'm having a hard time finding words for this year. It has felt like a year of nonstop chaos, with so many challenges at the global and personal level. We are all feeling triggered everywhere we turn and overwhelmed by a range of emotions. You might be wondering if it's even possible to live from your healthy Adult Chair during times like these, and I'm here to tell you that it IS possible. These are the times when we need The Adult Chair the most. It is when our healthiest selves are challenged that we truly develop the skills and practices that keep us in peace and balance regardless of outside circumstances. In this episode, I give you tons of practical tips to help you navigate times of chaos from your Adult Chair. This includes how to tell when you've slipped into the Adolescent, how to get back into your Adult and how I'm using The Adult Chair model to get through 2020. Listen to discover: The key signs that you're in the Adolescent Chair How to get into your Adult Chair What anxiety is and how to clear the mind when it's running constantly How to feel emotions, clear your energy and stay grounded What triggers are and how they can be helpful Practical tips to get through hard times from a healthy place When I say The Adult Chair model is here to help you live a life of balance no matter what is going on in the world (or your life), I mean it! It's not just a zen state that you can find when all is good. It's a practical model to help you get through even the most chaotic of times. I know it is helping me! I really believe that we are in a season of transformation right now. Our world is changing, and it's bringing us along with it. And while transformation is always painful, we are uncovering truths that have been hidden for far too long and making progress that is long overdue. Through The Adult Chair model, not only can you stay balanced during stressful times, but you can also step into your own journey of transformation and join the world as it changes for the better. "When we're faced with fear, we have a tendency to slide out of the Adult Chair, the seat of the authentic part of who we are, and we get pulled by our ego into our Adolescent Chair. This is the seat of unconsciousness." - Michelle Chalfant "We want to make sure we're living in this place [of presence] before we step out into the world or make a statement." - Michelle Chalfant "Anxiety is the physical manifestation of unfelt emotions." - Michelle Chalfant "I can't expect the world to change to make me feel better. [I have] to change and make [myself] feel better, and I say the same thing to you." - Michelle Chalfant Resources The Adult Chair Workshop - New York https://theadultchair.com/new-york/ The Adult Chair Workshop - Charleston https://theadultchair.com/charleston/ Insight Timer https://insighttimer.com/ More Adult Chair The Adult Chair Website https://theadultchair.com The Adult Chair Membership https://theadultchair.com/membership/ The Adult Chair Workshop https://theadultchair.com/events/ The Adult Chair Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/ Stay Connected Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/ The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant *** EPISODE CREDITS: If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment. He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com

As humans, we all want to avoid pain and suffering...but what if pain can be a gateway to our healing? What if experiencing sadness actually increases our ability to feel joy? In this episode, I'm chatting with the incredible Ruthie Lindsey as she shares her journey through tragedy and chronic pain to hope and healing. After being nearly killed in a car accident in high school, Ruthie experienced chronic physical pain as a result of a spinal cord injury while also walking through the death of her father and other personal tragedies. It would have been easy to simply numb out to survive, but Ruthie made the conscious choice to seek goodness and beauty despite the pain, and in doing so, opened up a world of hope and healing. Listen to discover: Ruthie's journey from numbing her pain to learning to live fully in spite of pain Why the mind/body connection is so important The connection between physical healing and emotional healing The importance of inner child work in unlearning destructive stories and beliefs Ruthie's journey of coming home to Self and waking up to consciousness — and how you can go on this journey for yourself We all have a choice to either numb our pain or to live fully and lean into healing. As Ruthie shares her story, I know you will be inspired and enlightened on what it truly means to heal, and I hope she will be a mirror of love and hope to all who are on their own journeys of healing. "When you numb the hard and painful things, you numb everything. You can't pick and choose." - Ruthie Lindsey "I feel like for me, so much of my healing work has been this unlearning, has been this remembering, has been this unwinding of the stories that we learn from the culture and patriarchy and church and family telling us these things about ourselves and that who we are is what we do." - Ruthie Lindsey "You can't [heal] for someone else. Only you can do that for you. But when we do that, we can go out and be mirrors of love, hope and healing and divinity that's within everyone." - Ruthie Lindsey "We're handed down these beliefs about who we are without discernment." - Michelle Chalfant Resources Ruthie Lindsey Website http://www.ruthielindsey.com/ Ruthie Lindsey Book https://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/198210791X Ruthie Lindsey Instagram http://instagram.com/ruthielindsey Ruthie Lindsey Facebook https://www.facebook.com/ruthielindseyspeaker Ruthie Lindsey Twitter https://twitter.com/lindseyruthie Onsite https://www.onsiteworkshops.com/ The Adult Chair Workshop - Nashville https://theadultchair.com/nashville/ More Adult Chair The Adult Chair Website https://theadultchair.com The Adult Chair Membership https://theadultchair.com/membership/ The Adult Chair Workshop - New York and Charleston https://theadultchair.com/events/ The Adult Chair Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/ Stay Connected Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/ The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant *** EPISODE CREDITS: If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment. He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com

Why do you do what you do? That question is probably more difficult to answer than most of us think...not only because we often don't know ourselves well, but also because the majority of our behaviors and actions come from programming in the unconscious mind. Sometimes, this programming happened when we were so young that we can't even recall it; in fact, most of our beliefs form before the age of five! But the good news is that no matter our programming, we CAN change our minds, rewire our thoughts and beliefs, and as a result, transform the way we act and live. In this episode, I interview the brilliant Marisa Peer, a therapist, behavioral specialist, author and speaker who helps people completely transform their lives by changing their minds. The founder of Rapid Transformational Therapy, an innovative method rooted in hypnotism, Marisa helps clients uncover their unconscious beliefs and transform them at the source. Marisa is an expert on the inner workings of the mind, and she walks us through the process for coding in new healthy beliefs and breaking unhealthy patterns. She also shares really practical and simple ways we can begin to change our mind, even without therapy or hypnotism. Listen to discover: How the mind works and how limiting beliefs are formed, even without us knowing it's happening Why and how we can literally change our minds The four-step process of shifting beliefs: investigating, interpreting, interrupting and installing new ones The three root causes of depression and how to transform it The power of our words and how to use language that transforms the mind (it needs to be practical, present and repeatable) Why the phrase "I am enough" is the KEY to transforming just about anything in your life This episode is so RICH with content that I can't even begin to summarize it here...you just have to listen! Marisa also leaves us with some beautiful information about her international "I am enough" movement, so you can take what you learn and put it into action right away. "If you unconsciously created it, you can consciously let go of it." - Marisa Peer "The mind doesn't have a choice to act on the words you say, but you have a choice to say better words." - Marisa Peer "How you feel about anything comes down to the picture you make in your head and the words that you construct." - Marisa Peer "When you hurt a child or don't meet their needs, they don't stop loving you — they stop loving themselves." - Marisa Peer "The common denominator of all our issues stems from 'I'm not enough." - Marisa Peer Resources Marisa Peer Website (free resources) https://marisapeer.com/ Rapid Transformational Therapy (for therapists) https://rtt.com/ I Am Enough (course) https://iamenough.com/ Marisa Peer Instagram https://www.instagram.com/marisapeertherapy/ Marisa Peer YouTube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGb0bBp7bTQBHLlyAfNV-Fg Marisa Peer Facebook https://www.facebook.com/marisa.peer.therapy/ Marisa Peer Twitter https://twitter.com/marisapeer The Adult Chair Workshop - Nashville https://theadultchair.com/nashville/ The Adult Chair Membership (June Theme: Self-Worth) https://theadultchair.com/membership/ More Adult Chair The Adult Chair Website https://theadultchair.com The Adult Chair Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/ The Adult Chair Workshop - New York and Charleston https://theadultchair.com/events/ Stay Connected Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/ The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant *** EPISODE CREDITS: If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment. He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com

With everything going on the world the last few months, fear has been on all of our minds recently. Though this fear is very real, it's also related to events happening outside of ourselves...events we can't fully control. But we also all have deeper emotional fears that aren't related to what is going on in the world and are more constant: fear of vulnerability, fear of rejection, fear of being trapped, etc. They come from inside us, and they hold us back from living the life we really want to live. What if you could train yourself to face your fears and become more than you ever thought possible in life? Today's guest, Michelle Poler, asked herself that same question and embarked on a life-changing experiment where she faced a new fear every day for 100 days. Her project went viral, and she now travels the world speaking and writing about how to walk through fear and tap into your fullest potential. In this episode, she shares her incredible journey, what she learned through her experiment and her tips for overcoming fear in everyday life. Listen to discover: Why our fears limit us and keep us from becoming who we're meant to be How to practice courage and build confidence How to face the unknown and embrace change Reframing failure and choosing to see opportunity instead Finding the best, even in the worst-case scenario When we feel fear in our bodies, most of us take that as a sign to stop what we're doing or run in the other direction. But when we push through that fear, we discover a world of potential, dreams and opportunities. Michelle's story and perspective on life is SO inspiring, and I know you will walk away from this episode with fresh energy to say "no" to fear and "yes" to life! "When you radically accept what's happening, you open new doors." - Michelle Poler "Don't ask yourself, 'What's the worst thing that could happen?' Ask yourself 'What's the best thing that could happen?'" - Michelle Poler "The real enemy of success is not failure; it's comfort." - Michelle Poler Resources Michelle Poler Website https://www.michellepoler.com/ Michelle Poler Instagram http://instagram.com/hellofears Michelle Poler Book https://www.amazon.com/Hello-Fears-Crush-Comfort-Become/dp/1492688894 The Adult Chair Workshop - Nashville https://theadultchair.com/nashville/ The Adult Chair Membership (June Theme: Self-Worth) https://theadultchair.com/membership/ Care/Of https://takecareof.com/ 50% off with code ADULT50 More Adult Chair The Adult Chair Website https://theadultchair.com The Adult Chair Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/ The Adult Chair Workshop - Nashville, New York and Charleston https://theadultchair.com/events/ Stay Connected Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/ The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant *** EPISODE CREDITS: If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment. He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com

Boundaries are one of those things that I think we can never talk too much about! Though this is a simple topic, boundaries are difficult for most of us — but they're completely life-changing when we learn to practice them well. So, it's time to talk about boundaries again, and in this episode, I'm giving you a boundaries crash course! If you've been listening for a while, this will be a great refresher on the topic of boundaries…and if you're brand new to the show, this is the perfect place to start in learning this critical skill. A boundary is simply teaching others how to treat us. Setting them can feel scary at first, but it's our job to care for ourselves by honoring our boundaries. Otherwise, we are betraying ourselves and putting the beliefs and values of others before ours…and that never leads to peace and happiness in life. Listen to discover: The first step to knowing your boundaries How to communicate "bullet point" boundaries How to get more comfortable with boundaries as a codependent and how to distinguish weak boundaries from loving action When to speak up and when to remove yourself (both a version of boundaries) Why we can't expect others to know our boundaries Remember, a boundary can be as simple as "I feel _____ when you do _____." This is a great formula for getting started with boundaries! Most of us didn't have health boundaries modeled growing up, and most of us struggle with setting them. Give yourself some grace! This is not about beating yourself up but about practicing boundaries until they get easier with time — and you get healthier as a result. "Before setting a boundary, you have to know who you are and what your beliefs, values, morals and needs are." - Michelle Chalfant "A boundary may have no words. It may be removing yourself." - Michelle Chalfant Resources A Guided Meditation for Setting Boundaries https://theadultchair.com/portfolio_page/a-guided-meditation-for-setting-boundaries/ Episode #184: Boundaries, Empowerment and Finding Truth https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/184/ Episode #175: Setting Healthy Boundaries https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/175-setting-healthy-boundaries/ More Adult Chair The Adult Chair Website https://theadultchair.com The Adult Chair Membership https://theadultchair.com/membership/ The Adult Chair Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/ The Adult Chair Workshop - Nashville, New York and Charleston https://theadultchair.com/events/ Stay Connected Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/ The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant *** EPISODE CREDITS: If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment. He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com

"Empath" is one of those words that has become a buzzword over the last few years, and it has us empaths who have felt different our whole lives yelling, "Finally!" At last, the world is beginning to understand that certain people are wired in a way that makes them highly in tune with their environment and the emotions around them. Where empaths might have been called too sensitive in the past, we're now acknowledging the unique gifts that empaths bring to the table — from having huge amounts of empathy to deeply caring for others. But being an empath also comes with its own unique set of challenges. Because we're so affected by what is going on around us, we can often find ourselves overwhelmed, exhausted or just feeling "off." Self-care is SO critical for empaths to stay healthy and centered. In this episode, I'm interviewing the incredible Dr. Judith Orloff, a brilliant psychiatrist and healer, who has written a number of books on how to survive and thrive as an empath. She shares a wealth of wisdom on how to know if you're an empath, common traps empaths fall into and practical tips to live empowered as an empath. Listen to discover: Why empaths often have a hard time blocking out the world around them Why empaths are often drawn to relationships with narcissists Avoiding the addiction and anger trap (often a side effect of overwhelm) The side effects of chronic sensory overload and how to recognize them Practical tips for self-care and getting back into balance as an empath If you've felt different, sensitive or intuitive your whole life, I think this episode will really resonate with you. Empaths are kind, loving, beautiful individuals who can truly thrive when we learn to be just as kind and loving to ourselves. "Empaths don't have the same kind of filters that other people have in terms of emotional or physical filters, so when something intense is going on in the world or your life, you may have a tendency to be overwhelmed by this." - Dr. Judith Orloff "Many empaths are having problems during this time because they're not embodied anymore. They're in their minds and they're in panic, fear and suffering is in the mind. So if you bring it back to the body and heart, which is healing energy, you can recalibrate yourself." - Dr. Judith Orloff "An empowered empath is someone who can stay centered and loving without absorbing all the energy." - Dr. Judith Orloff Resources Judith Orloff Website https://drjudithorloff.com/ Judith Orloff Book: "The Empath's Survival Guide" https://www.amazon.com/Empaths-Survival-Guide-Strategies-Sensitive Judith Orloff Book: "Thriving As An Empath" https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1683642910 Judith Orloff Empath Support Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/929510143757438/ Inner Child Resource https://theadultchair.com/innerchild/ Empath Meditation for Cleansing and Clearing Your Energy https://theadultchair.com/portfolio_page/empath-meditation-for-cleansing-and-clearing-your-energy/ More Adult Chair The Adult Chair Website https://theadultchair.com The Adult Chair Membership https://theadultchair.com/membership/ The Adult Chair Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/ The Adult Chair Workshop - Nashville, New York and Charleston https://theadultchair.com/events/ Stay Connected Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/ The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant *** EPISODE CREDITS: If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment. He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com