

Who We Are with Rachel Lim
Rachel Lim
Who we are is an ever-evolving journey without limits.
Join the ever-curious Rachel Lim as she delves into every facet of our lives — from work and family to relationships, self-discovery, and beyond.
Experience a series of conversations and shared reflections that span from in-depth discussions with thought leaders around the world, to personal lessons shared with friends. Each episode offers valuable insights into our identities and pathways to self-improvement.
Welcome to Who We Are — a podcast devoted to the continuous journey of uncovering our ever-evolving selves.
Join the ever-curious Rachel Lim as she delves into every facet of our lives — from work and family to relationships, self-discovery, and beyond.
Experience a series of conversations and shared reflections that span from in-depth discussions with thought leaders around the world, to personal lessons shared with friends. Each episode offers valuable insights into our identities and pathways to self-improvement.
Welcome to Who We Are — a podcast devoted to the continuous journey of uncovering our ever-evolving selves.
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May 6, 2025 • 28min
#41: From DBS Intern to CEO: Tan Su Shan on Redefining Leadership at the Top
Tan Su Shan’s story is more than a career trajectory; it’s a masterclass in resilience, reinvention, and redefining what it means to lead. In this special and intimate conversation during Love, Bonito's IWD event, Su Shan, now the CEO of DBS, reflects on her journey from intern to the top of one of Asia’s most influential banks.She opens up about the moments of self-doubt, the lessons learned from “demotions,” and how she learned to command a room without changing who she is. From cultivating clarity and conviction, to breaking through the “sticky floor” that holds many women back, Su Shan shares powerful truths about ambition, presence, and the price of leadership.Whether you're a rising leader, a seasoned professional, or simply navigating what it means to take up space in your own life, this conversation is filled with wisdom, warmth, and actionable insight.00:00 Introduction00:38 From Intern to CEO: Su Shan’s Early Days at DBS02:04 When a “Demotion” Becomes a Turning Point07:16 Facing Self-Doubt and Leading Through Discomfort08:57 Learning to Command the Room with Confidence12:02 Grounding Leadership in Customer-Centricity14:08 How “WRECKOON” Shaped Her Perspective as a Leader15:41 The One Leadership Skill That Will Define the Next Decade17:57 The Best Investments Su Shan Has Made in Life19:28 Q&A: Building Clarity and Communicating with Impact21:07 Q&A: Finding the Right Mentors and Sponsors23:59 Q&A: What It Really Takes to Build Great Teams26:15 Final Reflections: What Leadership Means TodayFollow Rachel here: https://www.instagram.com/ms_rach/Follow Su Shan here: linkedin.com/in/tan-su-shan-50296732

Apr 14, 2025 • 56min
#40: Inside the Adolescent Mind: Belonging, Identity & Emotional Survival
Dr. Cheryl Loh, a leading adolescent psychiatrist from Singapore and a mother of two, delves into the complex emotional landscape of today’s teenagers. She discusses the profound need for belonging, identity, and emotional safety, emphasizing why many seek solace online. Cheryl offers invaluable parenting insights, focusing on how to truly connect with teens by fostering open communication and building trust. Highlighting the importance of consistent presence and positive reinforcement, she empowers parents to meet their children’s emotional needs effectively.

Apr 1, 2025 • 37min
#39: Don’t Just Lead — Communicate With Intention. Wes Kao Shows You How
In this powerful episode, Wes Kao; co-founder of Maven and pioneer of cohort-based learning, joins us to explore what separates good leaders from great ones, and why intentional communication is at the heart of it all.We dive into everything from how to sharpen your judgment and make faster, better decisions, to why concise communication isn't just efficient, it's essential. Wes unpacks her signature concept of “avoiding negative inception” and shows how certain well-meaning phrases can actually sabotage your message and plant doubt.We also talk about how to turn worries into action, why owning your strengths is a quiet superpower, and what it looks like to challenge your own thoughts with intention. Wes shares her biggest leadership challenge to date, and how she learned to balance transparency with confidence, especially when leading through uncertainty.If you're a leader, creator, or communicator of any kind, this conversation is packed with tactical wisdom that will shift how you speak, lead, and show up.Topics we cover:The communication traps even smart leaders fall intoWhat it means to “incept negative ideas” and how to avoid itWhy saying less can help you lead more effectivelyThe underrated power of self-awareness and reframingHow to personalise your communication to truly connectTune in and learn how to lead not just with vision, but with voice.00:00 Introduction00:55 Wes Kao’s Passion for Education 02:08 Good vs Great Leadership: What Sets Them Apart?04:12 How to Sharpen Your Judgement and Make Better Decisions 08:28 The Importance of Concise Communication 10:24 Stop Incepting Negative Ideas: How to Protect Your Message14:41 Turning Your Worries Into Action 18:54 The Beauty of Owning Your Strengths 22:53 Saying ‘No’ to Unproductive Struggles 26:33 The Art of Challenging Your Own Thoughts 29:51 Wes Kao’s Biggest Leadership Challenge and Lessons Learned 31:59 Transparency vs. Confidence: Communication as Leaders 35:05 The Importance of Personalising Your Communication 36:25 Episode Closing Follow Rachel here: https://www.instagram.com/ms_rach/Follow Wes Kao here: https://www.linkedin.com/in/weskaoSubscribe to her newsletter here: https://newsletter.weskao.com/

Mar 24, 2025 • 29min
#38: Supporting Leo Through Depression: The Role We Can Play As Partners
After Leo’s episode, I was deeply moved by the messages that poured in, not just about his story, but about the unspoken weight many of you are carrying in your own lives. So many asked: How do you support someone you love when they’re struggling? How do you stay steady for them without losing yourself in the process?In this intimate solo episode, I share my personal experience; what it looked like to walk beside Leo during one of his hardest seasons. Not from a place of having it all figured out, but through the lens of the lessons it taught me.I open up about what helped, what didn’t, and the truths I had to learn the hard way; like not taking his withdrawal personally, listening to understand (not to fix), and continuing to show up with love, even when I felt emptied out.If you’re in that space right now, quietly holding it all together, I hope this conversation reminds you:You are not alone. And you are allowed to be strong and tired at the same time 💛00:00 Introduction: Why This Episode Matters01:38 Q&A: Navigating Turbulent Seasons in Relationships02:15 The Subtle Signs: Spotting Early Symptoms of Depression05:16 Creating a Safe Space for Vulnerability09:25 How to Stay Resilient When There’s No Timeline12:49 What Support Really Looks Like: Small Acts, Big Impact16:29 My Own Breaking Point: Personal Struggles and Lessons19:15 The Hardest Truths I Had to Learn21:45 If I Could Speak to Her: A Heart-to-Heart With My Younger Self26:45 Final Reflections & ClosingFollow Rachel here: https://www.instagram.com/ms_rach/Listen to Leo's story here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/7cfdJMK348KROmJzLJzKgo?si=iT5YgN0xRG6ATPEHFTvHjQ

Mar 10, 2025 • 29min
#37: Conscious Leadership with Joyce Chen: A Live Session with Entrepreneurs
Leadership is more than just strategy; it’s about self-awareness, emotional mastery, and the ability to lead from a place of integrity and presence. In this special live session, renowned leadership coach Joyce Chen joins a room full of entrepreneurs for a deep, unfiltered conversation on what it truly means to lead with consciousness.This episode features four live coaching sessions, where Joyce guides participants through some of the most pressing leadership dilemmas:🔹 How to hold yourself and your team accountable using the Teach the Class method.🔹 Navigating burnout and knowing when to take a break; is it a whole-body yes or time to realign?🔹 Leading by example; how to teach the Above-Below the Line framework through role modeling.🔹 Overcoming overwhelm and uncertainty; learning to trust your instincts while staying open to growth.Through raw, honest coaching and actionable insights, Joyce helps uncover the deeper patterns that shape how we lead and shows us how to shift into a more empowered, intentional way of showing up - both in business and in life.00:00 Introduction00:54 Understanding the ‘Above-Below the Line Framework’03:42 Shifting from Contraction to Expansion 05:24 ‘Teaching The Class’ Method for Improved Accountability 12:00 ‘Whole Body Yes’ Framework: Navigating Burnout and Indecision 18:04 Role-modelling and Implementing Change as Leaders20:41 The Importance of Joy and Celebrating Wins 24:55 Evaluating Progress from Above the Line / How to Know I’m Doing Things Right26:46 Final Reflections and Key TakeawaysFollow Rachel here: https://www.instagram.com/ms_rach/Get connected with Joyce: https://www.linkedin.com/in/joyce-chen-coach/

Mar 3, 2025 • 50min
#36: Gurmit Singh: The Untold Cost of Fame, Family & Finding Purpose
This conversation with Gurmit Singh moved me deeply. It’s not just about a career; it’s about the constant pull between ambition and presence, the delicate balance between success and self-worth, and the courage it takes to step away and realign with what truly matters. Whether you’re in the thick of building your career, questioning your path, or seeking clarity in life’s transitions, this conversation will stay with you long after it ends. I can’t wait for you to hear it.For over two decades, Gurmit Singh was a household name, bringing laughter to millions. But behind the scenes, he was giving everything; his time, his energy, and unknowingly, pieces of himself, to an industry that demanded more than it gave. Then, at the height of his fame, he made a decision few expected—he walked away. In this deeply personal conversation, Gurmit shares the story of why he left, the sacrifices he made along the way, and the hard-earned wisdom that reshaped his understanding of identity, purpose, and what it truly means to live a meaningful life.00:00 Welcome & Introduction01:47 Gurmit Singh: The Man Behind the Laughter07:06 Fighting Inner Battles: Overcoming Inferiority Complex10:45 The Legacy and Burden of Phua Chu Kang13:31 Why Gurmit Walked Away from Fame for Family17:22 The Power of Saying ‘No’: Guarding Time & Priorities19:35 A Child’s Silent Plea: The Cost of a Father’s Absence23:45 Parenting in a Changing World: Lessons & Challenges26:40 Choosing Love Without Conditions: A Father’s Journey30:03 Bridging Generational & Belief Gaps with Your Kids35:27 A Near-Death Experience That Changed Everything40:31 What Gurmit Would Tell His Younger Self Today44:47 Beyond the Persona: Who Is Gurmit Singh, Really?47:48 Final Reflections & Parting WisdomFollow Rachel here: https://www.instagram.com/ms_rach/Follow Gurmit Singh here: https://www.instagram.com/gurmit.65/

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Feb 24, 2025 • 26min
#35: James Dyson: Defying Experts, Ignoring Focus Groups, and Betting on Big Ideas
James Dyson, the innovative founder of Dyson, shares his inspiring journey of defying industry norms and believing in his vision despite over 5,000 rejections. He highlights the power of naivety as an advantage in innovation, challenging reliance on market research. Dyson discusses the importance of resilience in the face of self-doubt while recalling the transformative impact of the James Dyson Award in inspiring young innovators to tackle real-world challenges. His story is a call to trust your instincts and pursue groundbreaking ideas against all odds.

Feb 18, 2025 • 37min
#34: The Courage to Start Over at 52 with Leo
In a heartfelt conversation, Leo shares his journey of starting over at 52, navigating change, and rediscovering purpose after losing his job. The discussion dives into the emotional complexities of grief and identity, highlighting the transformative power of new beginnings. Leo's love for cooking becomes a source of solace and connection, inspiring him to share his culinary passion online. As they reflect on personal growth and community support, listeners are reminded that reinvention is a shared experience filled with hope and strength.

Dec 30, 2024 • 26min
#33: 2024 Reflections: The Lessons That Shaped Me
As we close out 2024, I’m taking a moment to pause, reflect, and share the lessons that have shaped me this year - lessons about growth, grace, and becoming.
In this wrap-up episode, I open up about navigating change, embracing challenges, and leaning into the questions that carried me through some of my hardest yet most transformative moments. From asking “What is this here to teach me?” to “How did I co-create this?”, I share the mindset shifts that helped me move through discomfort and uncertainty with more clarity and intention.
I also take a look ahead to 2025 and share a powerful practice I’ll be trying - scripting. It’s a tool to help visualise and design the life you want to create, and I’ll guide you through how we can use it to set meaningful, aligned goals across every area of our lives.
Whether you’re celebrating wins, navigating storms, or somewhere in between, this episode is an invitation to reflect deeply, dream boldly, and step into the new year with courage and purpose.
Thank you for being part of this journey with me. I can’t wait to see what 2025 holds for all of us.❤️
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00:00 Introduction
01:39 Rachel’s 2024 Lessons
03:19 Lesson 1: “What is this here to teach me?”
08:02 Lesson 2: “How did I co-create this?”
10:23 Reflections on Who We Are and CLOSER
15:10 The Art of Scripting for 2025
23:08 Final Reflections
Follow Rachel here: https://www.instagram.com/ms_rach/

Nov 25, 2024 • 56min
#32: ExtraOrdinary Journey: Building Hegen Together with Yvon & Leon Bock
In this inspiring episode, Yvon and Leon Bock, co-founders of Hegen, share the extraordinary yet challenging journey behind building their brand and family. They open up about the tough realities of entrepreneurship, the sacrifices made, and how they’ve supported each other through the dark days of self-doubt and struggle.
From Yvon’s breastfeeding journey to Leon’s leap of faith into entrepreneurship, they discuss the power of partnership in both business and life. Yvon also delves into her new book, ExtraOrdinary, offering insights into her entrepreneurial story. This episode is an inspiring conversation about resilience, trust, and the journey of overcoming obstacles together.
We discuss:
• Navigating the dark days of entrepreneurship
• Balancing business and family life
• The power of supporting each other as partners
• Yvon's breastfeeding experience as a driving force for Hegen
• Insights from Yvon's new book, ExtraOrdinary
00:00 Introduction
01:05 The Inspiration Behind Hegen
02:44 Leon Bock’s Journey and Transition into Hegen
06:05 Navigating Challenges and Differences as Partners
10:12 Leon’s Leap of Faith
12:38 Yvon’s Breastfeeding Journey with Four Kids
17:23 How To Stay Relevant as a Brand
19:02 The Fruit of Resilience
20:06 Balancing Entrepreneurship and Parenting
24:00 Doing Everything Together as a Couple
26:02 Practical Relationship Advice from The Bocks
29:57 Confronting Fears and Overcoming Struggles as a Couple
34:46 Being Each Other’s Cheerleader and Protector
39:08 Sacrifices Made as Entrepreneurial Parents
42:01 The Unseen Reality of Entrepreneurship
46:06 The Importance of Investing in Yourself
48:46 Our Biggest Lessons Learned from Each Other
52:14 The Billboard Question
53:15 Diving into Yvon’s First Book: Extraordinary
55:31 Episode Closing
Follow Rachel here: https://www.instagram.com/ms_rach/
Follow Yvon Bock here: https://www.instagram.com/yvonbock/
Follow Leon Bock here: https://www.instagram.com/that.hegen.dad/
Get more details on: https://www.yvonbock.com/
Purchase ‘Extraordinary’ online here: https://singapore.kinokuniya.com/bw/9789819800544


