Ruwando Podcast

Last week I coached a listener of the podcast on integrating the Dark Masculine archetype—I invited him on the podcast to share his experience with overcoming shame and fear of rejection in intimacy. We also discuss what do when your needs seem to conflict with your woman's needs, and how to respond to a woman's past traumas.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

Dr. Cam Sepah is a psychology, professor at UCSF Med School, and the founder of a number of startups including Maximus, a telehealth service for men's psychological and physiological development. We speak about his Dopamine Fasting protocol, men in the modern era, testosterone and more. Learn more about Maximus at:https://maximustribe.com/https://www.instagram.com/camsepah/https://twitter.com/DrSepahAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

The Road of Trials is a stage in the Hero's Journey where the hero powers up between "Meeting the Mentor" and "Apotheosis" (god mode). In real life, it's periods where there seems to be no progress, so it's easy to sink into apathy or frustration...But this is actually one of the greatest opportunities to recreate yourself and recreate your life.This episode covers:The two key principles that allow one to "Power Up" instead of stagnateThe psychological backbone of the hero's journey story elementsHow to unf*ck your mind when things feel futileA preview of the Magician Archetype episodeAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

Nalaya Chakana is my beloved. She's also an intimacy coach and has been on the podcast before. We speak about maturing archetypes, dating, and a bit on our love story. (Don't worry it's not too sappy.)Join Nalaya's community Make Love to Life.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

Should you "Go hard" or "Embrace where you're at?"Each of these two impulses have a time when they are useful but also negative fallout.-- Going hard gets results, but at the wrong time can lead to burn out. Acceptance can be "healing" but too much leads to mediocrity.What if there was a single axiom to determine which path to follow in every moment?In this episode I take some lessons from strength training applied to solving this Ambition vs Acceptance paradox.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

Apathy mutes your ability to experience life. It blocks you from enthusiasm, connection, creativity, and even knowing what to do with yourself. I speak about the root cause of apathy and the ONE thing that overcomes it.Btw, we're trying a new version of Masculine Underground on Telegram. Come be a beta tester of the new group: t.me/masculineundergroundAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

I had a moment (few hours) of very ungrounded little b*tchness due to a DMV-like experience. But then I remembered a somatic technique to transform the "wound-up" feeling into something more pleasurable. You can try it next time you're frustrated to calm your mind and relax your body.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

Why don't men like being told what to do? Some may call that "fragile masculinity" or some insecure need for dominance. But actually there are real consequences for the man and his relationships if he too frequently takes orders. I share an example of when a buddy and I refused to listen to a good suggestion and why that mattered.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

I slaughtered one of my roosters yesterday. It was my first time killing something that I had raised and it felt important. I share the different phases of emotion I felt and some thoughts on doing your own dirty work, strength, and responsibility.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

The last few months I've realized how important sleep quality is for testosterone, and therefore energy, mood, strength, libido, and success in life. Mollie is the founder of Sleep is a Skill, a company and podcast that aims to optimize your sleep. She shares a wealth of info on sleep optimization.Sleepisaskill.comAlso check out the Sleep is a Skill podcast.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe