

Lez Hang Out | A Lesbian Podcast
Ellie Brigida and Leigh Holmes Foster
Hang out with Ellie Brigida and Leigh Holmes Foster, the lesbians you'd want at your potluck! Covering topics on lesbian experiences, representation, culture, life, love, etc. for some sapphic socialization!
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Nov 4, 2024 • 60min
SBG 135: Death Becomes Her
Welcome back to Lez Hang Out, the podcast that hates Gay Halloween. What do you mean you’re Meryl Streep and Goldie Hawn as Madeline Ashton and Helen Sharp at Ernest’s funeral?This week, Leigh (@lshfoster) and Ellie (@elliebrigida) hang out and talk about why the 1992 satirical body horror-comedy Death Becomes Her Should’ve Been Gay. Although not everything in this film ages well (that fat suit was 100% not okay), the overall campiness and pure diva star power of Meryl and Goldie sharing the screen make this a must-watch in our books. Death Becomes Her feels like a love letter for every sapphic who never got over that one really intense love/hate homoerotic friendship they had growing up. From the beginning, the entire plot revolves around Helen’s overwhelming obsession with Madeline. It has been 7 years, and all Helen has thought about every single day is Madeline. While it may seem at first glance like the obsession is one-sided, Madeline clearly loves playing the games and entertaining the stalking just as much as Helen. Why is she only going after men who have literally been inside Helen? She’s being SO loud. In a wonderfully anti-BYG way, instead of Madeline or Helen dying in their eventual attempts to kill each other, they both live thanks to each having consumed a mysterious immortality potion. Though their bodies are horrifically wrecked and require a lot of maintenance not to look as dead as they are, the two have essentially bound themselves together for eternity. They go directly from hating each other to U-Hauling in the blink of an eye. By the time we see them attend Ernest’s funeral at the end of the film, Madeline and Helen are openly acting like an old married couple. We know one thing for sure, Death Becomes Her Should’ve Been Gay.You can support Lez Hang Out while unlocking a bunch of exclusive perks including access to our Discord channel, 23 and counting full-length bonus episodes, weekly ad-free episodes, and more by joining us on Patreon. You can also support the podcast by buying our original merch at bit.ly/lezmerch and purchasing our original Lez-ssentials songs for as little as $1 each on Bandcamp.Give us your own answers to our Q & Gay on Twitter @lezhangoutpod and follow along on Instagram, TikTok, and Facebook.You can find your fav tol and smol hosts Ellie & Leigh at @elliebrigida and @lshfoster respectively. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Oct 28, 2024 • 1h 14min
806: My Self is Serving with Elle Deran
Welcome back to Lez Hang Out, the podcast that is excited to have you at our group therapy session.This week Leigh (@lshfoster) and Ellie (@elliebrigida) hang out with Elle Deran (@elle.deran), a trans and nonbinary actor, advocate, and content creator, and talk about the beauty and joy of embracing self-actualization and doing the work to live authentically. After coming out as trans and nonbinary exactly 1 week prior to the start of the pandemic, Elle had the time to cocoon in their apartment and really take the time to uncover her identity. When they emerged and began to interact with the world again, Elle was disheartened to find that people were interacting with and responding to her very differently than they had been prior to presenting in a more gender-authentic way. Social media provided a path to community and an opportunity for a sort of group catharsis about shared transphobic experiences. This access to a like-minded community acted as a haven for navigating the challenges that came with choosing to embrace authenticity in place of perpetual people-pleasing. While speaking with Elle, we talked about the reasons why being a “people-pleaser” is really doing a disservice to both yourself and everyone else. Although this sent Ellie into a bit of an existential spiral, it was an important door into a deeper conversation about the value of authenticity, trusting your intuition, and listening to your body in order to figure out who you truly are. We also discussed why it is actually so important for everyone, regardless of gender identity, to sit with and analyze their feelings about their own gender. This hit home for Leigh, who spent some time reflecting on the gender dysphoria she felt during her pregnancy as well as the recently realized gender euphoria she experienced through something as simple as choosing to stop shaving her legs. In the end, we realized that when you are able to feel joy in being your 100% authentic self, it is easier to feel that same joy when you see others being true to themselves too. Elle has created a 5-part video workshop, “The Heart of Allyship: A Self-Reflective Approach to Trans and Nonbinary Support”. If you are interested in diving deeper into the concept of gender on a whole, reflecting on your own gender, and learning more about trans and nonbinary communities, you can access the complete workshop for a one-time fee of $49.99. You can support Lez Hang Out while unlocking a bunch of exclusive perks including access to our Discord channel, 23 and counting full-length bonus episodes, weekly ad-free episodes, and more by joining us on Patreon. You can also support the podcast by buying our original merch at bit.ly/lezmerch (use code lhospooky for 20% off your purchase through November 1st!) and purchasing our original Lez-ssentials songs for as little as $1 each on Bandcamp.Give us your own answers to our Q & Gay on Twitter @lezhangoutpod and follow along on Instagram, TikTok, and Facebook.You can find your fav tol and smol hosts Ellie & Leigh at @elliebrigida and @lshfoster respectively. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Oct 21, 2024 • 1h 11min
SBG 134: Twisters with Reid Pope
Welcome back to Lez Hang Out, the podcast that wants you to check your harnesses!This week, Leigh (@lshfoster) and Ellie (@elliebrigida) hang out with Reid Pope (@rpopegram), comedian and Head Writer and Executive Producer of Late Stage Live (@latestagelive), a trans-led monthly late-night comedy news show on Brooklyn public access, to talk about why the 2024 highly anticipated disaster sequel Twisters Should’ve Been Gay. Despite the severe underutilization of Katy O’Brian, we actually enjoyed Twisters and think the movie did a good job of showing the emotional impact and devastation of severe storms on the communities hit by them. The main character Kate, played by Daisy Edgar-Jones, is a traumatized soft-masc who spends the entire movie dodging debris, severe winds, and men while wearing a flannel over her Urban Outfitters tank top. She is literally all of us about a year before coming out and chopping off our hair. We can honestly interpret pretty much every character in this film as gay (including the tornados!). Even the male characters are shown embracing their emotions openly and having deep camaraderie with their bros, something not typically highlighted by action movies. We can’t help but ship Javi and Scott, Tyler and Boone, Dani and Lily and Kate with basically any character that isn’t a man. We know one thing for sure, Twisters Should’ve Been Gay.Keep up with Reid by subscribing to their weekly newsletter.You can support Lez Hang Out while unlocking a bunch of exclusive perks including access to our Discord channel, 23 and counting full-length bonus episodes, weekly ad-free episodes, and more by joining us on Patreon. You can also support the podcast by buying our original merch at bit.ly/lezmerch (use code lhospooky for 20% off your purchase through November 1st!) and purchasing our original Lez-ssentials songs for as little as $1 each on Bandcamp.Give us your own answers to our Q & Gay on Twitter @lezhangoutpod and follow along on Instagram, TikTok, and Facebook.You can find your fav tol and smol hosts Ellie & Leigh at @elliebrigida and @lshfoster respectively. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Oct 15, 2024 • 1h 15min
805: Lez-ssentials Love Lies Bleeding
Dive into the thrilling chaos of Kristen Stewart's *Love Lies Bleeding*, a sapphic crime-thriller that blends dark humor with emotional stakes. Discover complex character dynamics as Lou navigates family trauma and obsessive relationships, all while sporting an iconic mullet. The hosts explore authentic queer intimacy in film, juxtaposing horror and humor in toxic relationships. Plus, enjoy lively discussions on LGBTQ+ representation and a playful Q&A about preferences and personal experiences. Prepare for laughs, gore, and heartfelt insights!

Oct 7, 2024 • 1h 17min
SBG 133: Lisa Frankenstein with Silas Howard
This week, Leigh (@lshfoster) and Ellie (@elliebrigida) hang out with Silas Howard (@silash), award-winning trans filmmaker, to talk about why the 2024 horror-romcom Lisa Frankenstein Should’ve Been Gay. If you recall, we recently did an SBG episode on the 2022 series Darby and the Dead, which was directed by none other than Silas. So when we decided to do an episode on Lisa Frankenstein, we could not think of a more fitting guest for discussing this incredibly campy, queer-coded Halloweencore romcom.As you all know by now, monsters are super queer-coded. They are often depicted on the fringes of society, hiding in literal closets, and transforming their bodies in unique ways. If you identified with the misunderstood monster in horror movies growing up, you’re probably some flavor of queer now. Lisa Frankenstein takes identifying with monsters a step further by making the transmasc-coded creature a love interest for the main character. The story follows Kathryn Newton’s character Lisa Swallows (the jokes basically write themselves) and her growing friendship with a reanimated corpse. She seems entirely unconcerned with his whole being dead thing and doesn’t mind one bit that he is missing certain body parts. Things get increasingly unhinged as Lisa begins helping her new friend get the body parts he needs to feel affirmed and comfortable in his newly reanimated skin. Everything in this film from the plot to the cast (Carla freaking Gugino is in this!) to the color palette to the over the top drag-influence on the costume design is too queer-coded to have been unintentional. Honestly even the morally ambiguous way that the characters approach killing is queer-coded. Even though the film doesn’t go all the way there or expressly state anyone’s sexuality, it’s basically leaping off the screen the entire time. We know one thing for sure, Lisa Frankenstein Should’ve Been Gay(er). You can support Lez Hang Out while unlocking a bunch of awesome perks like access to our exclusive Discord, 23 and counting full-length bonus episodes (including our brand new episode on the dark comedy/psychological thriller Saltburn), weekly ad-free episodes, and more by joining us on Patreon at bit.ly/lezpatreon.You can also support the podcast by buying our original merch at bit.ly/lezmerch (use code lhospooky for 20% off your purchase through November 1st!) and purchasing our original Lez-ssentials songs for as little as $1 each on Bandcamp.Give us your own answers to our Q & Gay on Twitter @lezhangoutpod and follow along on Instagram, TikTok, and Facebook.You can find your fav tol and smol hosts Ellie & Leigh at @elliebrigida and @lshfoster respectively. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sep 30, 2024 • 1h 3min
804: Cliché Gays
Welcome back to Lez Hang Out, the podcast voted most likely to talk at you about gay sh*t for 8 years. This week Leigh (@lshfoster) and Ellie (@elliebrigida) hang out and try to nail down what it is that makes them both so freaking gay. Between Leigh voting Ellie most likely to not see a straight person for 3 years and Ellie voting Leigh most likely to get recognized at Home Depot, this was truly meant to be a deeply unserious episode. However, it takes a bit of a turn when Ellie goes into a whole existential crisis trying to pin down exactly what about her is gay. In her defense, she typed ‘lesbian stereotypes’ into Google and quickly discovered that Google has never encountered a feminine lesbian (especially one that hates hiking, isn’t a vegetarian, and is genuinely terrified of cats). Luckily for Ellie her intense love of oysters, her Co-Star account, and her strong celesbian diva energy come in clutch to verify that she is in fact super gay after all (whew). On the other hand, Leigh tends to fit a bit more of the stereotypes. From her ever-growing stash of little boy’s button-down shirts to her handyness around the house and self-proclaimed love of fixing things, Leigh might look like a cliché gay at first glance. But did you know…she has a dog! (Yes, so does Ellie, but we’re not talking about her right now). Truly the gayest thing about Leigh is neither her skill with a hammer nor her very short haircut. It’s not even that her ex was in her wedding party. The gayest thing about Leigh is actually her deep, esoteric knowledge of niche queer media. If you want to talk to someone about that obscure foreign web series with that one gay couple, you’re in luck; because Leigh does too. We would not have made it to Season 8 without the support of our incredible Patrons! You can support Lez Hang Out while unlocking a bunch of awesome perks like access to our exclusive Discord, 22 and counting full-length bonus episodes, weekly ad-free episodes, and more by joining us on Patreon at bit.ly/lezpatreon. You can also support the podcast by buying our original merch at bit.ly/lezmerch (free shipping on orders $100+ with code lhoship) and purchasing our original Lez-ssentials songs for as little as $1 each on Bandcamp!Give us your own answers to our Q & Gay on Twitter @lezhangoutpod and follow along on Instagram, TikTok, and Facebook.You can find your fav tol and smol hosts Ellie & Leigh at @elliebrigida and @lshfoster respectively. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sep 24, 2024 • 1h 16min
SBG 132: Renegade Nell with Iz Hesketh
Strap on your fairy wings, because it is time to go save the monarchy!This week, Leigh (@lshfoster) and Ellie (@elliebrigida) hang out with Iz Hesketh (@iz.hesketh), proud trans actor and drag performer known for her roles in British soap opera Hollyoakes and Disney’s Renegade Nell, to talk about why the Disney+ series Renegade Nell Should’ve Been Gay(er). Although we wish this series would have been renewed for a second season, the episodes we did get are jam-packed with racial diversity, gender nonconformity, and all-over queer energy; and we think it has true cult classic potential. If you have not watched it yet, we highly recommend doing so before listening to this episode as it contains quite a few spoilers. We were so excited to sit down with Iz and talk about her role as a canonically nonbinary character (one of only 4 trans/nonbinary characters in the Disney universe and the FIRST to be in a live-action series). Normally we can only speculate what creators and the folks behind the scenes were thinking when they make things that just seem SO gay to us, but this time we have firsthand accounts from someone who was actually there on set (and guess what, listeners? We were right!). Many of the people behind the scenes for Renegade Nell were queer themselves and fully open to incorporating that into the characters and story. Viewers can see this for themselves through little changes that make a big impact on representation such as changing Valerian’s (Iz Hesketh) pronouns and even incorporating the colors of the trans flag into one of Iz’s costumes. Whether the plan was for Valerian to be nonbinary all along, or if they changed it when Iz was cast, we are thrilled to see such inclusive, diverse representation on Disney+.The queerness does not stop at Valerian, however, as the main character Nell is quite masc herself and can easily be interpreted as either a very butch lesbian or a trans man. We also have Leigh’s favorite, Polly Honeycombe, a femme who is absolutely besotted with Nell, Billy, a very gay fairy (as are all fairies), and Sofia, the “enemy” in our enemies-to-lovers ship with Nell. Gender nonconformity is woven throughout the show as a main theme. Even when something pretty darn gay does happen, like Polly kissing Nell, the characters are all very accepting and think nothing of it. We know one thing for sure, Renegade Nell Should’ve Been Gay(er). Iz is saving up for gender-affirming surgery and fundraising through Go Fund Me! Please consider donating to her fundraiser if you are able.You can support Lez Hang Out while unlocking a bunch of awesome perks like access to our exclusive Discord, 22 and counting full-length bonus episodes (with a brand new bonus episode dropping October 7th), weekly ad-free episodes, and more by joining us on Patreon at bit.ly/lezpatreon. You can also support the podcast by buying our original merch at bit.ly/lezmerch (free shipping on orders $100+ with code lhoship) and purchasing our original Lez-ssentials songs for as little as $1 each on Bandcamp!Give us your own answers to our Q & Gay on Twitter @lezhangoutpod and follow along on Instagram, TikTok, and Facebook.You can find your fav tol and smol hosts Ellie & Leigh at @elliebrigida and @lshfoster respectively. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sep 16, 2024 • 1h 2min
803: Nuances and Needs with LAZOU
This week Leigh (@lshfoster) and Ellie (@elliebrigida) hang out with host of Nuances: Our Asian Stories (@nuancespod), LAZOU (@itslazou), to talk about her new mini series Queering Premodern Asia,, women who married ghosts to get out of marrying real live men, one of the most prolific poets of all time, Wu Zao, and how she wanted to possess a courtesan's jade body, and the Golden Orchid Society.LAZOU, pronounced “Lah-Zoo”, is of Chinese Mauritian descent. She was born in Toronto, ON, but grew up in Mauritius. The tiny African island is the only place the Dodo bird🦤 ever lived! She is now based in California.She is a music producer, songwriter and vocalist. Her music has been featured on TV shows such as The Young & The Restless, True Lies, Real Girlfriends in Paris, & more.On Nuances, LAZOU brings Asian stories to light with Asian guest hosts and scholars. Her most recent episode, 'But Where Are The Lesbians,' highlights the rich lesbian world of pre-modern Asia, often overlooked in Western narratives. Gay men are documented everywhere, but lesbians rarely are and the tales are fascinating. Like - did you know that in premodern Japan, there were s*x toys specifically designed and marketed to lesbian women, along with drawings showing how to use these toys? We would not have made it to Season 8 without the support of our incredible Patrons! You can support Lez Hang Out while unlocking a bunch of awesome perks like access to our exclusive Discord, 22 and counting full-length bonus episodes, weekly ad-free episodes, and more by joining us on Patreon at bit.ly/lezpatreon. You can also support the podcast by buying our original merch at bit.ly/lezmerch (free shipping on orders $100+ with code lhoship) and purchasing our original Lez-ssentials songs for as little as $1 each on Bandcamp!Give us your own answers to our Q & Gay on Twitter @lezhangoutpod and follow along on Instagram, TikTok, and Facebook.You can find your fav tol and smol hosts Ellie & Leigh at @elliebrigida and @lshfoster respectively. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sep 9, 2024 • 1h 19min
SBG 131: The Golden Girls with Stacey Powell
Thank you for being a friend…of the pod!This week, Leigh (@lshfoster) and Ellie (@elliebrigida) hang out with Stacey Powell (@bookslovejoy), later-in-life lesbian and co-host of the Lez Go Travel Show! on Tello Films, to talk about why The Golden Girls Should’ve Been Gay. Let’s be honest, if this show were made today, at the very least Dorothy would be a lesbian.Even though The Golden Girls was first released in 1985, it was quite progressive in its handling of many prominent social and political issues for the time. A ragtag group of single, older/middle-aged women live together and somehow it isn’t supposed to be the gay commune of our dreams?Blanche may be the butt of a lot of sexist jokes for her “promiscuity”, but she’s also incredibly sex-positive for the 80s. We think Blanche has chaotic bisexual energy and if you don’t see it, you’re lying. Dorothy has all the hallmarks of a late-in-life lesbian, and Rose? That’s a closeted lesbian dealing with so much comphet that she can’t even see through it. Honestly, we think everyone in this show is gay (except for Sophia, our token straight). We know one thing for sure, The Golden Girls Should’ve Been Gay. Stacey and her fiancée Christin want you to heal your heartache and find your soulmate just like they did. Check out all their love course offerings to start your healing journey today. Their co-authored ebook Get Off the Dating Apps- Journal to Find Your Soulmate is available now.You can support Lez Hang Out while unlocking a bunch of awesome perks like access to our exclusive Discord, 22 and counting full-length bonus episodes, weekly ad-free episodes, and more by joining us on Patreon at bit.ly/lezpatreon. You can also support the podcast by buying our original merch at bit.ly/lezmerch (free shipping on orders $100+ with code lhoship) and purchasing our original Lez-ssentials songs for as little as $1 each on Bandcamp!Give us your own answers to our Q & Gay on Twitter @lezhangoutpod and follow along on Instagram, TikTok, and Facebook.You can find your fav tol and smol hosts Ellie & Leigh at @elliebrigida and @lshfoster respectively. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sep 3, 2024 • 1h 6min
802: Gayed It Out with Mal Glowenke
Mal Glowenke, host of the Made It Out Podcast, shares their transformative journey from a closeted lesbian in Texas to an empowered voice in the LGBTQ+ community. They discuss the challenges of growing up in a heteronormative society and the liberation felt after moving to LA. Mal touches on the need for authenticity, including reversing past plastic surgeries done for the male gaze. With a focus on political activism, they highlight the importance of voting and introduce their new series, Made It Out (To the Polls), aiming to inspire engagement within the community.


