Lez Hang Out | A Lesbian Podcast

Join our Patreon to unlock 25+ full-length bonus episodes (next up is My Old Ass), ad-free weekly episodes, mp3 downloads of our original songs, exclusive Discord access, and more! Supporting us on Patreon is the absolute best way to help our little indie team keep the mics on.  Welcome back to Lez Hang Out, the podcast that is gonna party like it's 1999!  This week, Leigh (@lshfoster) hosts solo and hangs out with Danielle Bezalel, host of the Sex Ed with DB podcast (@sexedwithdbpodcast), your go-to podcast for smart, science-backed sex education. Together they take a nostalgic trip down memory lane to the late 90s to talk about why the 1999 romcom Never Been Kissed Should’ve Been Gay. If you’re a younger gay, you may not have seen this 90s classic; but we bet you’ll recognize the major names in the cast. We’re talking Drew Barrymore, David Arquette, Molly Shannon, Octavia Spencer, and freaking Jessica Alba all in the same movie. If that doesn’t convince you to watch it at least one dozen times, we don’t know what will. The plot follows Josie, a journalist going undercover at a high school for a story, as she experiences being retraumatized by the popular girls, falling in love with her teacher, and competing for prom queen.  As much as we genuinely adore this movie, it is impossible not to talk about the ocean of reasons why Never Been Kissed is not the wholesome, family-friendly movie it was marketed as and is instead highly problematic. We get that Josie is 25 and only pretending to be a high schooler for the sake of her journalism career; but her teacher does not know that and has no reason to think she isn’t a 17 year old student. Yet, they are the main romance that the audience is very much supposed to be rooting for. Thankfully, we have our gay glasses on and with a few little changes to the script we can see our path to a much less problematic, and much, much queerer movie. After all, there’s something pretty queer already about a 25 year old woman who has never had a romantic kiss or felt sparks from any guy. The school-sized closet Josie is hiding out in is truly made of glass.  We know one thing for sure, Never Been Kissed Should’ve Been Gay. Give us your own answers to our Q & Gay on Instagram and follow along on Facebook, TikTok, and BlueSky @lezhangoutpod. Email us @lezhangoutpod@gmail.com. Connect with us individually: Ellie Brigida (@elliebrigida). Leigh Holmes Foster (@lshfoster). You can also support the show by getting an early start on holigay shopping at bit.ly/lezmerch & picking up Lez-ssentials songs on Bandcamp. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Join our Patreon to unlock 25+ full-length bonus episodes, ad-free weekly episodes, mp3 downloads of our original songs, exclusive Discord access, and more! You can also support the show by grabbing a cozy fall sweater at bit.ly/lezmerch & picking up Lez-ssentials songs on Bandcamp. Welcome back to Lez Hang Out, the podcast that is investing in a VHS player for no particular reason.  This week, co-hosts Leigh (@lshfoster) and Ellie (@elliebrigida) hang out with Daviel Shy (@solsticetits), a multi-disciplinary artist who wrote and directed over a dozen short films, runs and curates L.M.N.O.P (Lesbian Movie Night Ongoing Project), and co-founded DAYLiGHT FiLMs, a kinky, queer, analogue pivot into the adult entertainment industry. We talk in-depth about Daviel’s new series The Lovers, a 7-episode series available on Prime Video, that she brought to life during the pandemic lockdowns.  The Lovers follows the story of a laid off sex-worker who falls for a fitness witch in 2020’s L.A. When asked her elevator pitch for the series, Daviel explained that it’s basically a kinkier, gayer Skins and after watching it, we fully agree with that description. Prior to creating The Lovers, Daviel had a lot of experience with writing, directing and producing, but with the barriers of the lockdowns, she decided to also star in the series, a first that helped her realize she actually wanted to do what her character was doing. Through the assistance of the kink community in L.A., Daviel was able not only to create her series, but to connect with the network she would need to break into the adult entertainment industry and co-found DAYLiGHT FiLMs.  You can stream The Lovers on Amazon Prime Video or Vimeo On Demand.  Give us your own answers to our Q & Gay on Instagram and follow along on Facebook, TikTok, and BlueSky @lezhangoutpod. Email us @lezhangoutpod@gmail.com. Connect with us individually: Ellie Brigida (@elliebrigida). Leigh Holmes Foster (@lshfoster). Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Join our Patreon to unlock 25+ full-length bonus episodes, ad-free weekly episodes, mp3 downloads of our original songs, exclusive Discord access, and more! Welcome back to Lez Hang Out, the podcast that is always going to root for Aubrey Plaza (even when she’s playing a literal stalker).  This week, Leigh (@lshfoster) and Ellie (@elliebrigida) hang out and talk about why the 2017 dark comedy Ingrid Goes West Should’ve Been Gay. We really enjoyed this extremely cringey comedy, but we wish it had gone further with Ingrid and Taylor’s relationship. Ingrid’s behavior was unhinged, for sure; but it wasn’t Saltburn level unhinged.  For those who have not seen the movie, the plot centers around Ingrid (Aubrey Plaza) who moves to LA specifically to stalk the Instagram influencer (Elizabeth Olsen) that she is obsessed with. While we fully understand the point they are trying to make about parasocial relationships and social media, we can’t help but root for Ingrid the entire time. She may have gone about everything in a really convoluted way, but Ingrid does love Taylor (unlike Taylor’s husband, who seems to hate everything about her). It feels a lot like Killing Eve, where you can’t help but root for Villanelle to “get the girl” even as she is killing people left and right.  We know one thing for sure, Ingrid Goes West Should’ve Been Gay. Give us your own answers to our Q & Gay on Instagram and follow along on Facebook, TikTok, and BlueSky @lezhangoutpod. Email us @lezhangoutpod@gmail.com. Connect with us individually: Ellie Brigida (@elliebrigida). Leigh Holmes Foster (@lshfoster). You can also support the show by gearing up for Halloween at bit.ly/lezmerch & picking up Lez-ssentials songs on Bandcamp. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Join our Patreon to unlock 25+ full-length bonus episodes, ad-free weekly episodes, mp3 downloads of our original songs, exclusive Discord access, and more! You can also support the show by grabbing a cozy Halloween sweater at bit.ly/lezmerch & picking up Lez-ssentials songs on Bandcamp. Welcome back to Lez Hang Out, the podcast that wants you to elect more lesbians! This week, co-hosts Leigh (@lshfoster) and Ellie (@elliebrigida) hang out with Janelle Perez (@janelleperezfl), the Executive Director of LPAC (@teamlpac), the only organization in the U.S. dedicated entirely to electing LGBTQ+ women and non-binary leaders. LPAC is a nonpartisan organization born out of the realization that the majority of the financial contributions made to LGBTQ+ organizations were disproportionately going to cis white men. A group of lesbians recognized this disparity and decided to try to increase equity in politics by electing a more representative government. When LPAC was founded in 2012, there was only one queer woman running for office. Just 12 years later, in 2024 there were over 200 queer women and non-binary candidates. And not only are more candidates running, but more are winning too! LPAC had an impressive 74% win-rate in 2024.  Janelle explains what it takes to become an LPAC endorsed-candidate (main answer: BE GAY!), why queer women statistically win more candidacy races than gay men do, and how a life-altering cancer diagnosis brought her parents from homophobic to “we want you to have your wedding on our front lawn” in record-time. Although she is now 10-years cancer free, Janelle’s coming out journey, decision to run for State Senate in FL, and involvement with LPAC are all interwoven with her diagnosis. At 28 years old, Janelle was diagnosed with 2 types of terminal cancer. This could’ve easily derailed her life, but instead it was the catalyst that brought her family together and gave her the itch to get involved in local politics. Janelle shares that queer women typically run for office for mission-driven reasons rather than a desire for power. She herself ran on the basis of expanding access to healthcare for people in her home state after receiving an egregiously large bill for a cancer treatment. After her experience running for office, she pivoted to the organization that had backed her candidacy, LPAC, eventually stepping into the role of Executive Director. We talk a lot about gay audacity on this podcast, and Janelle and LPAC have it in spades. If Janelle’s story inspires you and you would like to learn what it takes to run for office in your district, be sure to reach out to LPAC for all the resources you could ever possibly need to get started. Learn more about LPAC: https://www.teamlpac.com Give us your own answers to our Q & Gay on Instagram and follow along on Facebook, TikTok, and BlueSky @lezhangoutpod. Email us @lezhangoutpod@gmail.com. Connect with us individually: Ellie Brigida (@elliebrigida). Leigh Holmes Foster (@lshfoster). Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Join our Patreon to unlock 25+ full-length bonus episodes, ad-free weekly episodes, mp3 downloads of our original songs, exclusive Discord access, and more! You can also support the show by gearing up for Halloween at bit.ly/lezmerch & picking up Lez-ssentials songs on Bandcamp. Welcome back to Lez Hang Out, the podcast that would rather go to literal prison than marry a man. This week, Leigh (@lshfoster) and Ellie (@elliebrigida) enter their showgirl era with the ultimate lesbian cowgirl diva, Brooke Eden (@brookeedenmusic), and talk about why the 2002 Oscar-winning movie-musical, Chicago, Should’ve Been Gay. Chicago is a millennial casting wet-dream with Renée Zellweger, Catherine Zeta-Jones, Queen Latifah, Mýa and a tragically underutilized Lucy Liu. If you haven’t seen the movie (or the 1975 stage show it’s based on– hot take but the movie is better), it’s essentially Orange is the New Black: The Musical. Although Chicago puts our stars Roxie Hart and Velma Kelly into the overtly heteronormative world of the 1920s, there is little to no hetero explanation for 99% of the plot. The story is set in a time period when people could end up in jail just for being gay, so it honestly does not surprise us that Queen Latifah is essentially running a lesbian harem on Murderesses Row. Sure, these specific women are in jail because they killed their husbands (and side-pieces), but is that not the gayest reason to be in jail? In fact, we reckon Murderesses Row functions like a 1920s HER. If we had a choice between marrying a man or killing said man, going to jail and getting to hook up with Velma freaking Kelly, call us Piper Chapman because we’re skipping GO and doing the Cell Block Tango. We know one thing for sure, Chicago Should’ve Been Gay (and all that jazz). Give us your own answers to our Q & Gay on Instagram and follow along on Facebook, TikTok, and BlueSky @lezhangoutpod. Email us @lezhangoutpod@gmail.com. Connect with us individually: Ellie Brigida (@elliebrigida). Leigh Holmes Foster (@lshfoster). Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Join our Patreon to unlock 25+ full-length bonus episodes, ad-free weekly episodes, mp3 downloads of our original songs, exclusive Discord access, and more! You can also support the show by grabbing a cozy fall sweater at bit.ly/lezmerch & picking up Lez-ssentials songs on Bandcamp. Welcome back to Lez Hang Out, the podcast that is issuing an ultimatum to all of you– listen to this episode or seriously miss out. This week, co-hosts Leigh (@lshfoster) and Ellie (@elliebrigida) hang out with award-winning author, global keynote speaker, and host of I Feel That Way Too, Michelle MiJung Kim (@michellekimkim) for an in-depth breakdown of Season 2 of everyone’s favorite messy reality tv show, The Ultimatum: Queer Love.  When Michelle told us she wanted to talk about The Ultimatum, we were immediately on board. We love mess just as much as the next gays; and season 2 really went off the rails in ways that were at best hilarious and at worst downright unsettling (like, we hope Netflix paid for their therapy unsettling). This extreme level of messiness adds an authenticity to the cast that actually feels like a move in the right direction for queer representation. They’re not the usual sanitized “love-is-love” mainstream gays. Instead the cast are real queer people, appearing as they are, un-healed trauma, complicated families and all. And we think their bravery deserves a lot of credit. Now if we could just get a host that wouldn’t be so scared to take her claws out and ask the real questions, we’d have a master class for young queers in recognizing red flags, navigating conflict effectively (and ineffectively), determining consent and boundaries, and questioning heteronormative relationship values.  Give us your own answers to our Q & Gay on Instagram and follow along on Facebook, TikTok, and BlueSky @lezhangoutpod. Email us @lezhangoutpod@gmail.com. Connect with us individually: Ellie Brigida (@elliebrigida). Leigh Holmes Foster (@lshfoster). Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Join our Patreon to unlock 25+ full-length bonus episodes, ad-free weekly episodes, mp3 downloads of our original songs, exclusive Discord access, and more! It costs less per month than one iced coffee and it makes a huge impact in keeping our little indie queer podcast going.  You can also support the show by gearing up for Halloween at bit.ly/lezmerch (we’ve got the cutest gay ghosties) & picking up Lez-ssentials songs on Bandcamp. Welcome back to Lez Hang Out, the podcast that will be there for you. This week, Leigh (@lshfoster) and Ellie (@elliebrigida) hang out and talk about why the older-millennial-favorite, Friends, Should’ve Been Gay.  Although Friends is problematic for so many reasons (and time has not done it any favors), there were still moments in the series that were groundbreaking for the queer community. In 1996 Carol and Susan’s wedding was the first lesbian wedding ever on American tv and, unsurprisingly, 2 network affiliates refused to air the episode. But even a lesbian wedding could not save the show from being aggressively heteronormative in ways that we truly believe make our whole generation eligible for compensation. There really is no bigger example of a show just overflowing with comp-het energy than Friends. You’re expecting us to believe that there exists a group of six friends in New York City and not one of them is gay? One of them is quite literally a soap-opera actor with a live-in longterm boyfriend, but somehow even he is not gay? We could’ve had the ultimate “and they were roommates” of shows, but instead we got a full decade of being gaslit into thinking Ross was a “nice guy”. And don’t even get us started on how dirty they did Janice.  We know one thing for sure, Friends Should’ve Been Gay. Give us your own answers to our Q & Gay on Instagram and follow along on Facebook, TikTok, and BlueSky @lezhangoutpod. Email us @lezhangoutpod@gmail.com. Connect with us individually: Ellie Brigida (@elliebrigida). Leigh Holmes Foster (@lshfoster). Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Join our Patreon to unlock 25+ full-length bonus episodes, ad-free weekly episodes, mp3 downloads of our original songs, exclusive Discord access, and more! You can also support the show by grabbing a cozy fall sweater at bit.ly/lezmerch & picking up Lez-ssentials songs on Bandcamp. Welcome back to Lez Hang Out, the podcast that is begging for Britney Spears to release the non-binary edition of “I’m Not A Girl, Not Yet A Woman”.  This week, co-hosts Leigh (@lshfoster) and Ellie (@elliebrigida) hang out with non-binary actor Robyn Holdaway (@robynholdaway) who you may recognize as Layla from Netflix’s Sex Education. Robyn is a prolific voice actor, as well as an educational creator on TikTok where they make videos with their wife about everything from exploring gender and sexuality to navigating physical and mental health challenges.  We talk with Robyn about LGBTQ+ representation across media, the differences between realistic/accurate representation and idealistic representation, and what it means to actually become the representation they wish they’d seen when they were younger. In examining the intersection of sapphic and non-binary identities, Robyn discusses the (unfortunately unsurprising) amount of backlash they’ve received online for explaining the meanings of words like ‘sapphic’ using gender-inclusive (and completely accurate) language. From there Robyn dives into explaining their non-binary identity and why their marriage doesn’t feel particularly ‘sapphic’ due to Robyn’s “Gomez Addam’s”-style masculinity, and we consider our own gender identities– concluding that Leigh’s gender is “Tiny Dad Mom” and Ellie’s is “Rainbow Unicorn Overalls”.  Give us your own answers to our Q & Gay on Instagram and follow along on Facebook, TikTok, and BlueSky @lezhangoutpod. Email us @lezhangoutpod@gmail.com. Connect with us individually: Ellie Brigida (@elliebrigida). Leigh Holmes Foster (@lshfoster). Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Join our Patreon to unlock 25+ full-length bonus episodes, ad-free weekly episodes, mp3 downloads of our original songs, exclusive Discord access, and more! You can also support the show by gearing up for fall (we’ve got beanies, cozy mugs, and sweatshirts!) at bit.ly/lezmerch & picking up your favorite Lez-ssentials songs on Bandcamp. Welcome back to Lez Hang Out, the podcast that would 100% play Pink Pony Club while the boat sinks. This week, Leigh (@lshfoster) and Ellie (@elliebrigida) hang out with Broadway producer, writer, actor, creator of viral sapphic content, and host of the Sapphic Panic Podcast (and co-host of new podcast,That’s So Sapphic), Alexi Melvin (@thealeximelvin), to talk about why James Cameron’s 1997 blockbuster film Titanic Should’ve Been Gay.  Honestly, there is shockingly little that needs to be changed for Titanic to be a full-on queer masterpiece. Jack is already so androgynous that he’s giving Gentleman Jack and Rose… well, she’d literally rather fling herself into the freezing sea than marry a man. Everything– from the directorial choices made (especially the framing of Jack and Rose’s sex scene), the casting decisions (Leonardo DiTWINKrio was truly a bizarre choice for a 90’s male romantic lead), and the lesbian savior-complex audacity of Jack sacrificing himself for a woman he kissed for the first time only 6 hours prior– combines to make Titanic a film that truly feels gay. Whether you were a young femme in the 90s feeling seen by Kate WinsLEZ’s portrayal of sad-girl Rose or a young androgynous queer feeling inspired by Leo’s depiction of Jack and his “Hey Mamas” energy, Titanic had something for everyone.  We talk about the few tweaks we would make to the movie, the added layer of complexity the story gains when viewing Jack as either an androgynous lesbian or a young trans man, the ‘eat the rich’ of it all, and why we truly believe both Jack and Rose could’ve fit on that ‘door’ at the end. We know one thing for sure, Titanic Should’ve Been Gay. Give us your own answers to our Q & Gay on Instagram and follow along on Facebook, TikTok, and BlueSky @lezhangoutpod. Email us @lezhangoutpod@gmail.com. Connect with us individually: Ellie Brigida (@elliebrigida). Leigh Holmes Foster (@lshfoster). We’re heading to France from March 25-31st, 2026, and we want you to come with us! Learn more and secure your spot on our Big Gay Trip to Paris and Bordeaux at bit.ly/lezdofrance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Thank you so much for hanging out with us for 9 seasons! Join our Patreon to unlock 25+ full-length bonus episodes, ad-free weekly episodes, mp3 downloads of our original songs, exclusive Discord access, and more. You can also support the show by gearing up for fall at bit.ly/lezmerch & picking up Lez-ssentials songs on Bandcamp. Welcome back to Lez Hang Out, the podcast that thinks, “It’s not the time” to be glorifying traditional heteronormative values. This week, co-hosts Leigh (@lshfoster) and Ellie (@elliebrigida) are back from summer break and more unfiltered than ever!  We have not even been away that long and in the meantime a really insidious conservative “family values” vibe has begun to spread through the queer community. Prominent queer celebs (cough Fletcher and JoJo Siwa) who built their brands on the backs of a predominantly queer audience are “reverse” coming-out publically as dating cishet men while our rights are crumbling all around us. It’s giving ‘I’m one of the good gays’ and we are really not here for it at this time in our political landscape. Keep in mind, we recorded this episode before the Betty Who debacle and we didn’t even need that to fill an hour-long podcast on the ‘tradwife’ of it all.  Now before you get out your pitchforks, we have ZERO issues with bisexuals. Our world of algorithms and click bait isn’t really keen on nuance and this issue requires it in spades. We are not denying that biphobia exists in the lesbian community and that lesbians need to do better; AND it is also true that queerness is about more than just who you’re dating. Like it or not, there is a political and cultural component to queerness and you cannot just opt out and expect to not piss off your fanbase. There is nothing wrong with being a queer woman and dating a cishet man, that in itself does not make you less queer. However, there is something deeply jarring about the sharp pivot from Fletcher straddling women on stage in leather pants for years to Fletcher making the very calculated decision to release “Boy” (the 2025 ‘trad’ equivalent of “I Kissed A Girl”) as the single for her album during one of the most politically fraught Pride months in recent history. When highly visible queer women like Fletcher and JoJo Siwa are behaving more “trad” than the Mormon wives on TikTok (you know the ones) at the exact same time that the Supreme Court is about to potentially rip away our right to get married, there’s a serious problem. Between the decline of political queerness, the rise of traditional gender roles (where did all the “bi wife energy” kings go?), and whatever the hell is going on with all these butter-churning performatively queer “pick-me gays” taking influencer jobs away from hard-working cottagecore dykes, the overall vibe is a mess™ right now. We don’t love that the world appears to be burning down around us; but, hey, at least we have each other. Give us your own answers to our Q & Gay on Instagram and follow along on Facebook, TikTok, and BlueSky @lezhangoutpod. Email us @lezhangoutpod@gmail.com. Connect with us individually: Ellie Brigida (@elliebrigida). Leigh Holmes Foster (@lshfoster). Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices