Nope! We're Not Monogamous

Welcome to a candid exploration of the highs and lows of the non-monogamous journey, especially after the significant life transition of divorce. If you've found the path to non-monogamy leaving you with more questions than answers, feeling both overwhelmed and intrigued, this episode is for you.Joining me today are Hunter and Butcher, the insightful duo behind the Poly Pocket Podcast. As a married, UK-based couple navigating polyamory with children, they offer a relatable and supportive voice for those in the polyamorous, consensual non-monogamous (CNM), open relationship, or swinging communities. Their commitment to the development and support of the 'Poly' community shines through their podcast and now, in our conversation.In This Episode, We Cover:Mastering the Transition: Hunter and Butcher share their personal experiences of moving into non-monogamy after divorce, offering wisdom on navigating this significant life change.Unveiling Polyamory: Discover how embracing polyamory can open a new chapter of sexual and emotional exploration, and what it means to truly open up after a traditional monogamous marriage.Embracing Empowerment: Dive into the world of sexual empowerment coaching. Learn how this approach can transform your relationships and personal confidence within a non-monogamous context.Conquering the Green-Eyed Monster: Jealousy is a common challenge in any relationship, but it holds particular prominence in polyamorous dynamics. Hunter and Butcher discuss strategies for managing jealousy and fostering secure attachments.Thriving in Non-Monogamy: Uncover the keys to successful non-monogamous relationships. From communication to boundaries, hear how to navigate the complexities and joys of loving multiple partners.Whether you're new to the concept of non-monogamy or have been on this path for some time, Hunter and Butcher's insights offer valuable guidance and support. Join us as we navigate the intricate, rewarding journey of non-monogamy.Connect with Hunter and Butcher: Available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and all major podcast platforms.@Poly_pocket_show Instagram - Follow for updates, behind-the-scenes content, and more Send us Fan MailFLOW Nitric Oxide BoosterFLOW brings blood where you want it to go — your brain, your heart, and your pleasure zones. Try your first bottle of FLOW FREE — just pay shipping. Experience the results yourself and cancel anytime. We’re confident FLOW will reignite your spark!  Support the show📰 Subscribe to Not A Monogamous Newsletter to stay up to date with new episodes and offerings from Ellecia. https://elleciapaine.podia.com/newsletter ❤️ Enjoying the show? The best way to thank us is by following and leaving a review or a note. And if you want more, join our Patreon! http://www.patreon.com/notmonogamous 👀 Find Us Online🌍 Website:  https://www.elleciapaine.com📘 Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/elleciapaine 📸 Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/elleciapaine/Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar LindsteinSTIM IPI: 572 393 237

Welcome to a heart-to-heart with Shelby Avann, where we peel back the layers on relationships, intimacy, and the magic of healing. Shelby isn't just any relationship and intimacy coach. She’s a Reiki healer too, with a knack for weaving spirituality and science into a transformative blend that empowers women to deepen emotional intimacy, shake off codependency, and wave goodbye to loneliness.In today’s chat, Shelby gets real about her own love life adventures. She's journeyed from exploring polyamory to finding her sweet spot in what she calls a "monogamish" relationship. It’s all about discovering what truly clicks with your heart and values.Here’s What We’re Getting Into:Finding Your Non-Monogamy Fit: Shelby talks about figuring out which form of non-monogamy feels right, because one size definitely doesn’t fit all.Jealousy: The Green Monster: How do you deal with jealousy and insecurity as you open up your relationship? Shelby's got some solid advice.Trust Talks: The importance of laying down a strong foundation of trust through open talks about needs and setting clear boundaries.Self-Growth is Key: Shelby stresses the importance of working on yourself to find security and fulfillment in any relationship.Healing with Reiki: Discover how Reiki can help clear those stubborn emotional blockages that keep you stuck.Shelby’s insights on building intimacy through being real, vulnerable, and sometimes just plain silly with your partner are gold. She also tackles how letting anxiety run the show can throw a wrench in making those deep connections. No matter where you stand on the relationship spectrum, Shelby's wisdom is like having a heart-to-heart with a friend who’s seen it all.Want to connect with Shelby?www.shelbyavann.caSend us Fan MailFLOW Nitric Oxide BoosterFLOW brings blood where you want it to go — your brain, your heart, and your pleasure zones. Try your first bottle of FLOW FREE — just pay shipping. Experience the results yourself and cancel anytime. We’re confident FLOW will reignite your spark!  Support the show📰 Subscribe to Not A Monogamous Newsletter to stay up to date with new episodes and offerings from Ellecia. https://elleciapaine.podia.com/newsletter ❤️ Enjoying the show? The best way to thank us is by following and leaving a review or a note. And if you want more, join our Patreon! http://www.patreon.com/notmonogamous 👀 Find Us Online🌍 Website:  https://www.elleciapaine.com📘 Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/elleciapaine 📸 Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/elleciapaine/Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar LindsteinSTIM IPI: 572 393 237

Jealousy: the green-eyed monster we've all wrestled with at some point, and the surprise guest in many non-monogamous relationships. But what if jealousy isn't the adversary we've been conditioned to believe? This week, relationship coach Ali Henry joins me to unwrap the layers of this complex emotion, promising to take you on a journey from apprehension to enlightenment. We'll share laughs, personal stories, and Ali's expert insights, transforming jealousy from a stumbling block to a stepping stone in our intimate connections.You'll discover: - Why jealousy gets a "bad rap" in monogamy and how non-monogamy takes a more compassionate approach - Tangible tips for mapping where jealousy originates from your past - The key to transmuting jealousy into curiosity - Hilarious and insightful stories of Ali's thruple dynamics Ali's vulnerability and wisdom left me feeling seen, understood, and ready to approach jealousy with more self-love and patience. Ali Hendry is a certified relationship coach specializing in non-monogamous relationships, with a particular focus on LGBTQIA+ women, non-binary individuals, and trans folks. Her extensive experience extends to working with singles, duos, and non-monogamous pods, offering valuable guidance in navigating the complexities of diverse relationship dynamics. As a contributor to Diva magazine, Ali's expertise and insights provide a credible perspective on embracing individual love styles and managing non-monogamous dynamics, making her a highly knowledgeable and esteemed voice in the field.Want to connect with Ali?Alihendry.co.ukInstagram TEDx Survivor’s Guide to Jealousy https://youtu.be/BTtrGxZXWrI?si=voANt0hpmbHvJ8FL Send us Fan MailFLOW Nitric Oxide BoosterFLOW brings blood where you want it to go — your brain, your heart, and your pleasure zones. Try your first bottle of FLOW FREE — just pay shipping. Experience the results yourself and cancel anytime. We’re confident FLOW will reignite your spark!  Support the show📰 Subscribe to Not A Monogamous Newsletter to stay up to date with new episodes and offerings from Ellecia. https://elleciapaine.podia.com/newsletter ❤️ Enjoying the show? The best way to thank us is by following and leaving a review or a note. And if you want more, join our Patreon! http://www.patreon.com/notmonogamous 👀 Find Us Online🌍 Website:  https://www.elleciapaine.com📘 Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/elleciapaine 📸 Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/elleciapaine/Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar LindsteinSTIM IPI: 572 393 237

Hey friends! We’re going on a journey with Nicoletta Heidegger, therapist, sexologist, and host of the "Sluts and Scholars" podcast, as we chat about the world of non-monogamy on my latest podcast episode. Nicoletta opened up about her 7-year exploration from monogamy to embracing a non-monogamous lifestyle, sharing the raw challenges she encountered along the way. From aligning with partners who share her vision to battling the need to feel "special" and dismantling a scarcity mindset, Nicoletta's story is both vulnerable and profoundly relatable.In this episode, you'll discover:Some of the joys and challenges of navigating non-monogamous relationships.Some Strategies for overcoming common hurdles in the transition to non-monogamy.The importance of building connections with seasoned individuals in the non-monogamous community.Techniques for nervous system regulation to achieve relationship harmony.The critical role of self-awareness in cultivating healthy and fulfilling relationships.Want to get in touch with Nicoletta?@SlutsonScholars@therapywithnicolettahttps://slutsscholars.libsyn.com/Resources in this episodeCheck out the book The Polyamory Paradox by Irene Mourning for insights into somatic nervous system healing and finding confidence in non-monogamy.Explore the concept of Circles of Sexuality by searching online for resources and tools to understand your sexual narrative, beliefs, and values.Learn about equine-assisted psychotherapy and its benefits by researching local therapy centers or practitioners who offer this unique form of therapy.Send us Fan MailFLOW Nitric Oxide BoosterFLOW brings blood where you want it to go — your brain, your heart, and your pleasure zones. Try your first bottle of FLOW FREE — just pay shipping. Experience the results yourself and cancel anytime. We’re confident FLOW will reignite your spark!  Support the show📰 Subscribe to Not A Monogamous Newsletter to stay up to date with new episodes and offerings from Ellecia. https://elleciapaine.podia.com/newsletter ❤️ Enjoying the show? The best way to thank us is by following and leaving a review or a note. And if you want more, join our Patreon! http://www.patreon.com/notmonogamous 👀 Find Us Online🌍 Website:  https://www.elleciapaine.com📘 Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/elleciapaine 📸 Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/elleciapaine/Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar LindsteinSTIM IPI: 572 393 237

In the depths of Orit Krug's personal journey, she discovered an unexpected truth about love and relationships. As she bravely embraced polyamory, she unearthed the transformative power of self-love in navigating the complexities of multiple partners. But just when she thought she had it all figured out, a new challenge emerged, leaving her questioning everything she thought she knew. Stay tuned as Orit's emotional narrative unfolds, revealing the unexpected twist that shifted her perspective on love and self-acceptance.In this episode, you will be able to:Explore the nuances of polyamory and non-monogamous relationships for a deeper understanding of diverse connections.Experience the transformative power of dance movement therapy in healing past traumas and unlocking emotional freedom.Master the art of navigating jealousy in polyamorous relationships to foster trust and emotional resilience.Embrace the importance of self-love in polyamory to enhance personal well-being and strengthen relationship dynamics.Cultivate a healthy connection with your body to promote self-awareness, confidence, and overall wellness.Orit Krug is an award-winning Board-Certified Dance/Movement Therapist and Licensed Creative Arts Therapist who has helped transform the lives of more than 5,000 clients for the past 13 years. Orit specializes in helping individuals & couples strengthen their relationships by working through past trauma stored in the body. As Orit practices polyamory in her own life, she uses her experience and platform to ensure that partners can safely expand beyond normal boundaries, experience deeply satisfying love, and enhance pleasure without sabotage.Want to connect with Orit? Check out her retreat  https://oritkrug.com/polyamory-retreatVisit her website https://oritkrug.comSend us Fan MailFLOW Nitric Oxide BoosterFLOW brings blood where you want it to go — your brain, your heart, and your pleasure zones. Try your first bottle of FLOW FREE — just pay shipping. Experience the results yourself and cancel anytime. We’re confident FLOW will reignite your spark!  Support the show📰 Subscribe to Not A Monogamous Newsletter to stay up to date with new episodes and offerings from Ellecia. https://elleciapaine.podia.com/newsletter ❤️ Enjoying the show? The best way to thank us is by following and leaving a review or a note. And if you want more, join our Patreon! http://www.patreon.com/notmonogamous 👀 Find Us Online🌍 Website:  https://www.elleciapaine.com📘 Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/elleciapaine 📸 Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/elleciapaine/Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar LindsteinSTIM IPI: 572 393 237

Do you desire emotional healing and inner peace in your non-monogamous relationship journey? My guest today will be revealing the key to finding forgiveness and experiencing profound emotional growth. Unlocking the pathway to inner peace and healing is within your reach, and Daisy Sky will show you how to achieve this transformation.Daisy Sky, a seasoned practitioner of polyamory, has been exploring non-monogamous relationships for over a decade. Describing herself as a chaotic femme, she infuses her gender expression with an element of delightful disorder. Daisy Sky's journey into polyamory began in her junior year of high school, and since then, she has embraced a relationship anarchy approach. Throughout her experience, she has been an advocate for open communication, mindfulness, and mental health. Daisy Sky's willingness to share her experiments with monogamy and her ultimate return to a more open way of loving, founded on personal sovereignty and ethical fulfillment, offers a unique and insightful perspective on the challenges and rewards of non-monogamous relationships.In this episode: Embrace the beauty of polyamorous relationships and their unique dynamics.Discover effective strategies for navigating multiple relationships with grace and understanding.Overcome scarcity mindset in relationships and cultivate abundance and fulfillment.Join a transformative non-monogamy coaching program for support and guidance.Explore the forgiveness process and experience deep emotional healing in relationships.Want to connect with Daisy Sky?Instagram @TheforgivenessdoulaSend us Fan MailFLOW Nitric Oxide BoosterFLOW brings blood where you want it to go — your brain, your heart, and your pleasure zones. Try your first bottle of FLOW FREE — just pay shipping. Experience the results yourself and cancel anytime. We’re confident FLOW will reignite your spark!  Support the show📰 Subscribe to Not A Monogamous Newsletter to stay up to date with new episodes and offerings from Ellecia. https://elleciapaine.podia.com/newsletter ❤️ Enjoying the show? The best way to thank us is by following and leaving a review or a note. And if you want more, join our Patreon! http://www.patreon.com/notmonogamous 👀 Find Us Online🌍 Website:  https://www.elleciapaine.com📘 Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/elleciapaine 📸 Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/elleciapaine/Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar LindsteinSTIM IPI: 572 393 237

If you're feeling suffocated by societal expectations and constantly striving to fit in, then you are not alone! You may already be sacrificing your true self in order to please others, only to find that it's still not enough. You may be experiencing a constant sense of dissatisfaction, despite following the rules and norms that society has set for you. It's time to break free from the cycle of conformity and embrace your unique identity, because the result you're seeking is not found in conformity.My guest, Sandra Possing, is an advocate for living authentically and embracing non-conformity and the host of the podcast "Oh Hi, Self". With a wealth of personal experience, Sandra has dedicated her life to helping others break free from societal expectations and live on their own terms. Her mission is to empower individuals to create relationships and lifestyles that align with their true selves. Through her open and honest approach, she aims to normalize unconventional relationship dynamics and inspire others to explore beyond traditional boundaries. Sandra's candid and relatable insights make her a valuable voice in the journey towards authenticity and self-discovery.In this episode, we talk about:Embracing Non-Monogamy Living Unconventionally Normalizing Open Relationships Radical Honesty and Boundaries Embracing Change and Permission to Explore Surprising Challenges: Dealing with Jealousy Navigating Jealousy and Self-Judgment  Unleashing Inner Feminine Power Honoring Emotions Cathartic Movement and Communication Unique Path in Sexuality Embracing Authenticity and Self-Exploration Relaxing into Who You Are Embracing Wholeness and Inner Peace Permission to Explore and Embrace Unconventional Paths Want to Connect with Sandra?www.sandrapossing.comSend us Fan MailFLOW Nitric Oxide BoosterFLOW brings blood where you want it to go — your brain, your heart, and your pleasure zones. Try your first bottle of FLOW FREE — just pay shipping. Experience the results yourself and cancel anytime. We’re confident FLOW will reignite your spark!  Support the show📰 Subscribe to Not A Monogamous Newsletter to stay up to date with new episodes and offerings from Ellecia. https://elleciapaine.podia.com/newsletter ❤️ Enjoying the show? The best way to thank us is by following and leaving a review or a note. And if you want more, join our Patreon! http://www.patreon.com/notmonogamous 👀 Find Us Online🌍 Website:  https://www.elleciapaine.com📘 Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/elleciapaine 📸 Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/elleciapaine/Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar LindsteinSTIM IPI: 572 393 237

Does this sound familiar? You're in a non-monogamous relationship, seeking to improve communication and openness with your partners, but you find yourself hitting roadblocks. Maybe you've been told that the solution is to just talk more, but deep down, you know that's not enough. The pain of feeling misunderstood, disconnected, and unfulfilled is all too real. It's time to break free from ineffective actions and unlock the power of healthy communication and openness, transforming the way you connect with your partners.Deana Tanner, our guest on this episode, is a dynamic and knowledgeable voice in the world of non-monogamous relationships. With her down-to-earth and relatable style, Deana offers a fresh perspective on the importance of healthy communication and openness. As someone who has personally navigated the complexities of polyamory, Deana brings a wealth of experience and insight to the table. Her warm and friendly approach instantly puts listeners at ease, making her the perfect guide for individuals seeking to improve their relationship dynamics. Tune in to this episode for an engaging conversation with Deana Tanner and gain valuable insights into enhancing your own non-monogamous journey.💨 TLDR;Embrace the beauty of polyamory and multiple relationships.Discover effective strategies for raising children in non-monogamous relationships.Master the art of healthy communication and openness in relationships.Unlearn unhealthy relationship patterns for a more fulfilling love life.📚 The resources mentioned in this episode are:  Listen to episode 16 of the show to hear Deana Tanner's previous interview.Check out Deana Tanner's website or social media profiles for more information about her and her businesses. https://healthyhumaning.com/Download the BRACE Method https://dashboard.mailerlite.com/forms/527367/101147856025421667/shareRead Deanna’s Essay on Kids and Partners https://docs.google.com/document/d/1D0-vxL6cP3gXiAtsl3eXzz_RX3bZci6fra1EOudTWu4/edit?fbclid=IwAR3vjYpnRbFPGVmH9CWAhj9LS5fSxOIKq3k_72GbBypvZEkAwDSend us Fan MailFLOW Nitric Oxide BoosterFLOW brings blood where you want it to go — your brain, your heart, and your pleasure zones. Try your first bottle of FLOW FREE — just pay shipping. Experience the results yourself and cancel anytime. We’re confident FLOW will reignite your spark!  Support the show📰 Subscribe to Not A Monogamous Newsletter to stay up to date with new episodes and offerings from Ellecia. https://elleciapaine.podia.com/newsletter ❤️ Enjoying the show? The best way to thank us is by following and leaving a review or a note. And if you want more, join our Patreon! http://www.patreon.com/notmonogamous 👀 Find Us Online🌍 Website:  https://www.elleciapaine.com📘 Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/elleciapaine 📸 Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/elleciapaine/Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar LindsteinSTIM IPI: 572 393 237

Curious about unconventional triad relationships and BDSM dynamics?In this episode, we explore Hannah's journey from swinging to polyamory, the challenges of managing multiple partners, and the significance of setting boundaries and valuing personal time. Discover how Hannah copes with the demands of balancing two partners, work, family, and personal time, and the importance they place on clear hierarchy and boundaries within their unconventional triad setup with a BDSM dynamic. We also discuss the emotional impact, self-discovery, and constant learning within non-monogamous relationships. Delve into a candid conversation that emphasizes the ongoing nature of this journey, the rewarding moments, and the transformative power of non-monogamy on personal growth and self-discovery.Hannah is an Empowerment & Relationship coach, delighting in the fringes of traditional society. Bisexual, Non-monogamous & kinky, she brings the topic of sexuality and taboo out into the light, to help others shift societal shame and live as their true selves. Hannah is a published author and hosts her own podcast "Kinky & Unpopular" which follows her BDSM journey alongside her partner and her submissive, in their triad type dynamic.💨 TLDR;Embrace the freedom of non-monogamous relationships and polyamory to explore deeper connections and personal growth.Establish clear boundaries and prioritize personal time to foster healthy and fulfilling relationships within a non-traditional dynamic.Overcome the challenges of managing multiple partners by navigating communication and individual needs with compassion and understanding.Create a strong foundation for an unconventional triad setup with BDSM dynamics, fostering trust, intimacy, and mutual respect.Cultivate the importance of open and honest communication to strengthen connections and promote emotional well-being in non-traditional relationships.Want to connect with Hannah?https://desilvacoaching.comSend us Fan MailFLOW Nitric Oxide BoosterFLOW brings blood where you want it to go — your brain, your heart, and your pleasure zones. Try your first bottle of FLOW FREE — just pay shipping. Experience the results yourself and cancel anytime. We’re confident FLOW will reignite your spark!  Support the show📰 Subscribe to Not A Monogamous Newsletter to stay up to date with new episodes and offerings from Ellecia. https://elleciapaine.podia.com/newsletter ❤️ Enjoying the show? The best way to thank us is by following and leaving a review or a note. And if you want more, join our Patreon! http://www.patreon.com/notmonogamous 👀 Find Us Online🌍 Website:  https://www.elleciapaine.com📘 Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/elleciapaine 📸 Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/elleciapaine/Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar LindsteinSTIM IPI: 572 393 237

Brace yourself for an enlightening exploration of non-monogamous relationships, sexual health, and the importance of clear communication. This episode features the insightful Evalene Dacker-MD, who guides us through the intricate world of polyamory, debunking misconceptions and arming us with invaluable advice on navigating these partnerships in a safe manner. We delve into her revolutionary STARS framework that fosters open dialogues about sex, helping individuals to express their desires, set boundaries, and communicate their relationship intentions effectively.We're not stopping there. The conversation takes a turn towards the often-overlooked issue of Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs) and the role they play in sexual relationships. Shedding light on the importance of pleasure and owning our bodies, concepts often neglected in traditional sex education, Evalyn provides critical insight on the necessity of regular testing and the misconception that condoms are the only form of protection against STIs. We also tackle the evolving views on common infections like herpes and HPV.It's time to confront the discomfort around sexuality in the medical field, emphasizing the need to normalize non-monogamy and other forms of sexuality. We discuss the concept of hierarchy and couple privilege, reinforcing the importance of individual choice and non-conformity to societal standards. Laced with personal experiences, our dialogue concludes with an empowering perspective on self-image and compassion. After this episode, you'll be ready to engage in healthier, more fulfilling sexual relationships. Tune in, and let's redefine love together!Want to connect with Evelin... www.Maketimeforthetalk.comwww.Evelindacker.comTedx Talk on STARS📚 Books mentioned: “Polysecure”, by Jessica Fern“All About Love”, by Bell HooksSend us Fan MailFLOW Nitric Oxide BoosterFLOW brings blood where you want it to go — your brain, your heart, and your pleasure zones. Try your first bottle of FLOW FREE — just pay shipping. Experience the results yourself and cancel anytime. We’re confident FLOW will reignite your spark!  Support the show📰 Subscribe to Not A Monogamous Newsletter to stay up to date with new episodes and offerings from Ellecia. https://elleciapaine.podia.com/newsletter ❤️ Enjoying the show? The best way to thank us is by following and leaving a review or a note. And if you want more, join our Patreon! http://www.patreon.com/notmonogamous 👀 Find Us Online🌍 Website:  https://www.elleciapaine.com📘 Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/elleciapaine 📸 Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/elleciapaine/Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar LindsteinSTIM IPI: 572 393 237