The Hard Way With Joe De Sena

Shame is a focus on self, whereas guilt is a focus on behavior. When we use language that is self-deprecating and shaming in nature our self-esteem struggles. Shaming language, such as "I'm a failure", "I'm an idiot", "I'm a loser", creates a belief system that our struggles are inherent to who we are and fixed rather than demonstrations of difficult moments in time. It's important to transition from shaming language that focuses on self to ways of thinking and expressing that is more focused on behavior. In doing so, not only will you be more available to growth but you won't feel as hopeless about change. LESSONS: • Shaming language that we use about our own sense of self reduces our self-esteem and contributes to a negative thinking pattern. • Shift the focus away from self and onto behavior if you are interesting in making changes, becoming more available to growth, and increasing your motivation. • A few examples include: 1. "I'm a failure" becomes "I failed at that task." 2. "I'm an idiot" becomes "That wasn't the smartest thing to do." SUBSCRIBE: Apple Podcasts: http://bit.ly/SpartanUpShow YouTube: http://bit.ly/SpartanUpYT Google Play: http://bit.ly/SpartanUpPlay FOLLOW SPARTAN UP AND DR. L: Spartan Up on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/spartanuppodcast/ Spartan Up on Twitter https://twitter.com/SpartanUpPod Dr. L on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/drlarapence/ CREDITS: Production Team: Heather Knox, Knox Creative; Marion Abrams, Madmotion, llc. Host: Dr. Lara Pence Synopsis: Dr. Lara Pence © 2018 Spartan

The Managing Director at the helm of Craft Sportswear. He tells Joe what motivated him to a position of success, hint: people told him he wasn't qualified. This week we learn that when someone tells you you can't, that can be your fuel to show them just how well you CAN! Lessons: Get past fear in life You don't need a degree to get to the top When someone says you can't, use that as fuel to show you can Find the balance between work, life and play Understand the value of your team Trusting your team is key Bring positive energy and push boundaries Love the obstacles you confront in work Be outside your comfort zone in the UNCOMFORT zone Be aware of cultural differences in business Don't be your biggest obstacle TRUST IN YOURSELF This episode of "Spartan Up!" is sponsored by Athletic Greens. Get 20 travel packs free when you order at https://athleticgreens.com/spartan Time Stamps: 0:00 intro 0:49 Athletic Greens special offer 1:17 interview begins 2:00 invention of polyester clothing layering system 3:45 working class to ceo at 32 5:00 being competitive in business 6:00 balance between hobbies, personal life and work 6:45 it takes a team 7:00 the benefits of trust and positive energy to push boundaries 7:42 Athletic Greens break 10:24 Interview continues: love the obstacles & be outside your comfort zone 11:45 cultural differences in business 12:50 the biggest obstacle can be yourself 14:10 get out of your comfort zone 15:20 Spartan Apparel 17:13 Sefra, Colonel Nye, Johnny & Joe discuss the interview 22:52 Athletic Greens close SUBSCRIBE: Apple Podcasts: http://bit.ly/SpartanUpShow YouTube: http://bit.ly/SpartanUpYT Google Play: http://bit.ly/SpartanUpPlay FOLLOW SPARTAN UP: Spartan Up on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/spartanuppodcast/ Spartan Up on Twitter https://twitter.com/SpartanUpPod CREDITS: Producer – Marion Abrams, Madmotion, llc. Hosts: Joe De Sena with Johnny Waite, Sefra Alexandra, and Col. Tim Nye. Synopsis – Sefra Alexandra Production Assistant - Andrea Hagarty © 2018 Spartan

Have you ever felt like you're in a slump? The less you do, the LESS you want to do! Take a noter from Tony Robbins; he always talks about "getting into state". Do 1 thing to move you towards your goal. Move forward, never stay stagnant. LESSONS: Action always beats inaction Think about something you want to get better. Do 1 Thing to move towards that goal. Action beats momentum. The more forward action you take, the more action you WANT to take! LINKS: More about Zach https://zacheven-esh.com Read "The Spartan Way" https://www.spartan.com/en/race/learn-more/race-types-overview?article=the-spartan-way-book SUBSCRIBE: Apple Podcasts: http://bit.ly/SpartanUpShow YouTube: http://bit.ly/SpartanUpYT Google Play: http://bit.ly/SpartanUpPlay FOLLOW SPARTAN UP & Zach: Spartan Up on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/spartanuppodcast/ Spartan Up on Twitter https://twitter.com/SpartanUpPod Follow Zach on Instagram https://instagram.com/zevenesh Follow Zach on Twitter https://twitter.com/zevenesh Zach's STRONG Life Podcast https://apple.co/2vFaCv1 CREDITS: Producer – Marion Abrams, Madmotion, llc. Host & Show Notes: Zach Even - Esh © 2018 Spartan

Internal emotional boundaries refer to the boundaries that are required for you to set in order to avoid absorbing and taking on the emotions of other individuals. It's important for us to set these boundaries so that we don't become overwhelmed by the other people's emotions and then become overregulated ourselves. We often need to become intentional with these boundaries and develop an internal coach that can remind us that we do not need to bring in feelings that are not our own. LESSONS: Internal Emotional Boundaries are important to set so that we reduce the risk of taking on the emotions of other people. Develop an internal coach that reminds you that you do not need to absorb other people's feelings. Use a mantra to assist in setting these internal emotional boundaries. Something like this could be helpful: That's their feelings, it doesn't have to be my feeling. Those are their emotions, not mind. Dr. L's favorite: That's their crazy, it doesn't have to be my crazy. SUBSCRIBE: Apple Podcasts: http://bit.ly/SpartanUpShow YouTube: http://bit.ly/SpartanUpYT Google Play: http://bit.ly/SpartanUpPlay FOLLOW SPARTAN UP AND DR. L: Spartan Up on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/spartanuppodcast/ Spartan Up on Twitter https://twitter.com/SpartanUpPod Dr. L on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/drlarapence/ CREDITS: Production Team: Heather Knox, Knox Creative; Marion Abrams, Madmotion, llc. Host: Dr. Lara Pence Synopsis: Dr. Lara Pence © 2018 Spartan

An adaptive professional athlete, veteran,and Adaptive Athletes Liaison for Operation Enduring Warrior he has been "Lopezing" friends, comrades and racers sparking their passion and fortitude to conquer the obstacles of life and on the course - over walls, up the ropes and on extended endurance challenges, all with one arm and a ceaseless smile on his face. The excuse destroyer knows you can do more than you think you can! In this interview Lopez gets honest about the difficulties he faced, even considering suicide at one point, and how he found the passion to get others moving. Lessons: • You decide how you define yourself • It's important to clearly define your mission • No matter what, just keep walking • Make someone's day better, be a "spark" in their life • Always put things in perspective • Learn what hard work actually means • Love the fear of a new direction • Use what bothers you as fuel • Your story is not who you were, but who you are and want to BECOME • Be better today then you were yesterday • Don't be afraid of the "hurt" LINKS: Spartan Elite Para Heat https://www.spartan.com/en/race/detail/4011/overview?filter=para Operation Enduring Warrior https://www.enduringwarrior.org/ Jonathan Lopez https://www.instagram.com/lopez.oew/ Spartan Agoge https://www.spartan.com/en/race/endurance-events/endurance-events-overview?article=29031 This episode of "Spartan Up!" is sponsored by Athletic Greens. Get 20 travel packs free when you order at https://athleticgreens.com/spartan Time Stamps: 0:00 host intro 0:33 Athletic Greens special offer 1:00 interview begins 1:40 does injury define you? 3:00 don't take no for an answer 4:00 what is your mission? 6:00 inspiring strangers 7:40 athletic greens break 11:50 Elite Spartan Para Race info 12:27 interview continues 13:55 turning what bothers you into fuel 14:14 attempted suicide 15:00 you story as who you want to become 16:00 Spartan's contribution to the adapted athlete community 17:45 Obstacle course racing as confidence building courses 19:00 Sefra, Angle, Johnny & Joe discuss the interview 24:15 Athletic Greens close SUBSCRIBE: Apple Podcasts: http://bit.ly/SpartanUpShow YouTube: http://bit.ly/SpartanUpYT Google Play: http://bit.ly/SpartanUpPlay FOLLOW SPARTAN UP: Spartan Up on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/spartanuppodcast/ Spartan Up on Twitter https://twitter.com/SpartanUpPod CREDITS: Producer – Marion Abrams, Madmotion, llc. Hosts: Joe De Sena with Johnny Waite, Sefra Alexandra, and Col. Tim Nye. Synopsis – Sefra Alexandra Production Assistant - Andrea Hagarty © 2018 Spartan

What's the most common excuse for not exercising? I don't have the time! Well, we're about to show you that you DO have time. Not only do you have time, but there are more options than you know to exercise with just your bodyweight or in your backyard. Opportunity is knocking, as always! LESSONS: You can train in your backyard, in your house or just take a simple 10 minute walk. You don't need to travel to the gym. Pick 1 exercise a day. 1 exercise is 100% more than zero. You can do 1 exercise for 1 set in the morning and again at night, now you're 200% ahead of doing nothing. Action always beats inaction! LINKS: More about Zach https://zacheven-esh.com Read "The Spartan Way" https://www.spartan.com/en/race/learn-more/race-types-overview?article=the-spartan-way-book SUBSCRIBE: Apple Podcasts: http://bit.ly/SpartanUpShow YouTube: http://bit.ly/SpartanUpYT Google Play: http://bit.ly/SpartanUpPlay FOLLOW SPARTAN UP & Zach: Spartan Up on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/spartanuppodcast/ Spartan Up on Twitter https://twitter.com/SpartanUpPod Follow Zach on Instagram https://instagram.com/zevenesh Follow Zach on Twitter https://twitter.com/zevenesh Zach's STRONG Life Podcast https://apple.co/2vFaCv1 CREDITS: Producer – Marion Abrams, Madmotion, llc. Host & Show Notes: Zach Even - Esh © 2018 Spartan

As a Spartan, resting your body is part of the training program. You rest to reduce the risk of injury, increase performance, and avoid burnout. Your mind, like your body, deserves the same level of attention and mental rest is essential for the very same reasons you rest your body. Resting your mind with intention and purpose gives your mental faculties greater clarity and availability for focus when you return to the task at hand. LESSONS: • Your mind needs rest so you avoid burnout and have greater clarity and focus. • Remember that resting your mind is not 'doing nothing' - it is doing something purposeful and effortful that moves you towards the goal of mental toughness. • Use these three tactics to help rest your mind: 1. Plan your rest with intention. 2. Get out of this world with a book, movie, art or other creative medium. 3. Inform someone of your intention to rest so they can help keep you accountable. SUBSCRIBE: Apple Podcasts: http://bit.ly/SpartanUpShow YouTube: http://bit.ly/SpartanUpYT Google Play: http://bit.ly/SpartanUpPlay FOLLOW SPARTAN UP AND DR. L: Spartan Up on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/spartanuppodcast/ Spartan Up on Twitter https://twitter.com/SpartanUpPod Dr. L on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/drlarapence/ CREDITS: Production Team: Heather Knox, Knox Creative; Marion Abrams, Madmotion, llc. Host: Dr. Lara Pence Synopsis: Dr. Lara Pence © 2018 Spartan

Imagine 24 hours locked in isolation in a completely dark shipping container competing to see who can run the furthest on a TrueForm treadmill. Retired United States Marine, Major Brian Chontosh (aka "Tosh") and three others (John Witzing, Josh Chessman, and Isaiah Vidal ) accepted this challenge to raise awareness around mental health with the Whiteboard Project's LL24h ( https://www.thewhiteboardproject.com/24-hours-of-isolation ). The recipient of one of the highest military honors: the Naval Cross- Tosh, has shown unmatched fortitude in combat and combating the stigmas around post traumatic stress. Jump in the shipping container with us as we learn how to "suck a little less each day." In this episode, Joe Desena interviews Tosh before he enters the shipping container, and then all 4 athletes the moment the box is unsealed. Lessons: You are what you advertise Do a lot with very little Surround yourself with great people Want "in" on the hardest things Do things you don't want to do Identify your limits and expand your horizons Prove things to yourself, know your limits & strive beyond them Measure your effort, but against the right things Always do the BEST that you can in EVERY moment PTS vs PTSD: traumatic stress as a normal reaction vs a disorder Don't believe your own bullsh*t Walk humbly, absorb, think, question.. it's not about having the right answers - it's about having the right questions Take ownership - kill the excuses ! Rationalizations are just excuses in a fancy package Break down big problems to small problems & utilize small solutions Stay process oriented Focus on the task at hand and that will lead you to the target JUST BE HAPPY WITH YOU Suck less today then you did yesterday :) LINKS: LL24h ( https://www.thewhiteboardproject.com/24-hours-of-isolation On Instagram The Whiteboard Project https://www.instagram.com/the_whiteboard_project/ John Witzing https://www.instagram.com/johnwitzing/ Josh Chessman https://www.instagram.com/joshchessman/ Isaiah Vidal https://www.instagram.com/isaiahvidal/ Brian Chontosh https://www.instagram.com/tosh.crookedbutterfly/ The Reveille Project https://www.instagram.com/thereveilleproject/ Wound Warriors Canada https://www.instagram.com/woundedwarriorscanada/ This episode of "Spartan Up!" is sponsored by Athletic Greens. Get 20 travel packs free when you order at https://athleticgreens.com/spartan Time Stamps: 0:00 intro to episode 1:18 Athletic Greens 1:48 Interview begins 2:00 Marine background 3:00 The Navy Cross 3:40 shipping container challenge | Whiteboard Project 4:45 What is a strong mind 5:40 The need to do things you don't want to 6:00 Dr. L's advice 7:10 The burden of command 8:30 Truth of looking yourself in the mirror 9:15 Competitions in life 11:00 Mental Health Awareness 12:00 PTS as normal & natural - not a disorder 12:40 Athletic Greens break 16:27 Interview continues 16:45 barriers of knowing & bullsh*t 17:30 Not about answers- It's about questions 20:00 Rationalizations are just excuses in a fancy package 24:00 Reductionism: breaking big problems down to have small solutions 26:00 How to suck a little less 28:00 Keep your eye on the task at hand 29:18 The panel gets ready to break them out of the shipping containers 29:35 Shipping containers opens 29:50 Tosh's reaction to 24 hrs in darkness 32:00 The four Whiteboard Challenge participants men's reaction 41:00 Sefra, Angle, Johnny & Joe discuss the interview 47:30 AthleticGreens.com/Spartan SUBSCRIBE: Apple Podcasts: http://bit.ly/SpartanUpShow YouTube: http://bit.ly/SpartanUpYT Google Play: http://bit.ly/SpartanUpPlay FOLLOW SPARTAN UP: Spartan Up on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/spartanuppodcast/ Spartan Up on Twitter https://twitter.com/SpartanUpPod CREDITS: Producer – Marion Abrams, Madmotion, llc. Hosts: Joe De Sena with Johnny Waite, Sefra Alexandra, and Col. Tim Nye. Synopsis – Sefra Alexandra Production Assistant - Andrea Hagarty © 2018 Spartan

Whoever said you must CLIMB the ladder of success was wrong! You can JUMP the ladder of success thanks to technology and the speed of access you have to information and people who have already achieved what you want to achieve. LESSONS: Learn from the best of the best by finding a mentor. Learn from prior episodes of Spartan UP! Change your environment by attending a Spartan Race or a Spartan event to learn from others and get inspired. How to be a great mentee if you want to be mentored by someone who is already doing what you'd like to do. LINKS: More about Zach https://zacheven-esh.com Read "The Spartan Way" https://www.spartan.com/en/race/learn-more/race-types-overview?article=the-spartan-way-book SUBSCRIBE: Apple Podcasts: http://bit.ly/SpartanUpShow YouTube: http://bit.ly/SpartanUpYT Google Play: http://bit.ly/SpartanUpPlay FOLLOW SPARTAN UP & Zach: Spartan Up on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/spartanuppodcast/ Spartan Up on Twitter https://twitter.com/SpartanUpPod Follow Zach on Instagram https://instagram.com/zevenesh Follow Zach on Twitter https://twitter.com/zevenesh Zach's STRONG Life Podcast https://apple.co/2vFaCv1 CREDITS: Producer – Marion Abrams, Madmotion, llc. Host & Show Notes: Zach Even - Esh © 2018 Spartan

When we overgeneralize, we tend to create statements and stories that are based on a single event rather than a reasonable amount of evidence. We take one instance and string it out, cutting out possible counter evidence and leaving us tethered to a single moment. Unfortunately, this can lead us to believe things about ourselves that just aren't grounded in truth. We need to become more aware of when and where we are overgeneralizing and effortfully engage in thought processes that refute the faulty conclusion. LESSONS: Overgeneralizing occurs when we draw a faulty conclusion from a single event or instance. To combat overgeneralizing, develop intention around seeking out evidence that refutes the general story that you have drawn from that one experience. Ask yourself, What is the truth? And then gathering all the evidence and your current experience in the present and see if the story still holds. SUBSCRIBE: Apple Podcasts: http://bit.ly/SpartanUpShow YouTube: http://bit.ly/SpartanUpYT Google Play: http://bit.ly/SpartanUpPlay FOLLOW SPARTAN UP: Spartan Up on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/spartanuppodcast/ Spartan Up on Twitter https://twitter.com/SpartanUpPod CREDITS: Production Team: Heather Knox, Knox Creative; Marion Abrams, Madmotion, llc. Host: Dr. Lara Pence Synopsis: Dr. Lara Pence © 2018 Spartan