Own It with Samantha Warren

I started healing work because I had a f*cked up relationship with food and exercise. I hated my body. All I wanted was to be like the tall “skinny” girls, but I had an athletic build, a short torso and did not have a thigh gap. So I dieted, I restricted my calories, I over-exercised. I was stuck in a cycle of binging and punishment. And if there’s one thing I’ve learned from the last few years, it’s that there are so many women out there who are suffering daily from the same thing. Women who punish their body because it doesn’t look the way they want it to or because they’ve got some unresolved trauma in their past and turned to food to cope. 9/10 women do not like their body, and it’s no wonder.. Society paints this picture of the perfect body that women get lured into. Today, I want to introduce you to my incredible guest on today’s ep, Alex Bynum. Alex is a professional energy healer who owns and operates Empowering Path. She’s passionate about spiritual transformation and she facilitates ancient healing modalities that have been around since the dawn of time. Alex’s disordered eating began when she was eight years old. In response to what was happening around her, she started to not eat regularly. By the time she hit college, she was suffering from anorexia and bulimia. Like so many of us, she tried everything she could think of to heal her relationship with food (therapists, programs, medicine, nutritionists) but nothing seemed to work. By the time she found spiritual healing, she was highly skeptical that it would help her. It did. Her healing journey began with a two-day workshop where she learned the rituals that helped her call in energy to listen, honor and live from the higher self. After the workshop in the toilet, Alex had her incredible spiritual awakening. She heard her higher self step in to help her break the bulimic cycle and felt freedom from food for the first time since she could remember. Alex’s journey reminds us that not everyone is on the same path and we’re always on the journey that we’re meant to be. Spiritual healing can help us step into and honor our higher selves and our purpose. To learn more about Alex go to Alex Bynum (@empoweringpath) • Instagram photos and videos - empoweringpath.com

One thing that I see time and time again in my work (and within myself!) is our tendency to ignore our intuition and internal signals. It’s a story that’s familiar to so many of us. Pushing ourselves, over-training, over-exercising, all the while ignoring what our bodies are trying to tell us. And it all stems from this belief that if we get the “perfect body” then we’ll be happy and all our problems will be solved. It’s what diet culture has taught us. My guest today, Emma Rawlinson, a Transformational Health and Life Coach based in London, has been down that path. Her journey to self-love began when she lost her dad suddenly in Summer 2019. In her grief, she tried to numb herself by throwing herself into exercise, training every single day (HIIT workouts, CrossFit, Spin classes, Bodybuilding competitions). Her body was screaming for rest but she ignored the signals and continued to punish herself. Then one day she woke up and realized that something was not right and embarked on her journey to real self-love. Her biggest shift? Trusting her intuition, not her ego. As Emma tells us, by listening to your intuition (that “gut-feeling”) and tuning in to your body’s signals, we can harness incredible power to really embrace ourselves and our bodies. We can begin to recognize how intuition feels in our body and honor what it’s telling us. And the more we pay attention, the louder it will get. For me, I will stop and listen to my body before I do anything. Eat, workout, movement. Whatever it is, I take a minute and really tune in so that I am honoring my needs and showing as my best self possible. You already have all of the power and magic inside of you to honor yourself. Start by practicing embodiment, breathwork, and meditation. Hold onto that vision of your future self until your body catches up! To learn more about Emma, head over to https://www.instagram.com/iamemmarawlinson/

As women, we are rewarded when we put other people first. We have this complex that we’ve learned from society that we should take pride in doing as much as possible for everyone else and we over-give to the point that it becomes almost a sacrificial martyr complex of “How much can I do?”. It’s exhausting. So at the end of the day, we feel passive-aggressive and upset. Maybe it's at our partners. Maybe it's at our colleagues. Maybe it's with friends. Because we give and give and give and then we lose ourselves. Maybe you feel guilty when you put yourself first. Maybe you feel if you slow down and chill for a second then everything is going to fall apart. That’s the shadow we can fall into. When we can't show up for ourselves, when we struggle to ask for help, when we feel like we have to do it all on our own. That is a wounded place to be. In today’s episode, I’m talking about the importance of prioritizing ourselves and playing the creator in your life. Right now, we're experiencing such a huge collective awakening of healing, spirituality and personal growth in actually understanding who we are. We’re beginning to focus on what matters and part of that is accepting that we get to prioritize ourselves for a change. We can come back to ourselves and feel at peace and safe within our bodies. It doesn’t need to be a sacrifice. Our life is our responsibility. When we take ownership, we get to create our dream life. Whether it be the decision to invest in ourselves, change our relationship with food, transform our business, our magic is our own. And we own it.

Being consistent sounds hard, doesn't it? Imagine actually showing up for yourself and doing the thing and then doing it every single day/week/month/year that you told yourself you would. Phew, it sounds exhausting! I used to think exactly that. It all stemmed from this belief that I wasn’t good enough. I had textbook imposter syndrome so I sabotaged myself from achieving anything. My work was my life, I wasn’t taking care of myself and my external world reflected that. After a lot of deep inner work, I realized I was telling myself that I couldn’t be consistent and that I’d never have confidence so why would I try? The thing is, confidence doesn’t come from all of a sudden losing weight, taking a magic pill or just waking one day with it all. It comes from balance and taking consistent action every single day to show up for yourself. It’s about the how. Today’s ep is a recording of my recent masterclass, Becoming A Consistency Queen where I share my story of how I moved from a place of self-sabotage to one of self-confidence. Tune in to find out my three-step formula that will help you consistently show up for yourself, step into your power and manifest a life beyond your wildest dreams. And if this resonates with you, I would love for you to join me from my new 3-month program, Unstoppable University. It’s designed for heart-centered, high achieving women and early entrepreneurs who want to be wildly successful, cultivate massive self-confidence and consistency, and feel like a Queen, inside and out. https://www.balancewithsam.com/unstoppableuniversity

One thing I’ve been hearing in my messages from you guys and my clients is about the struggle to stay consistent. You try something for a few days, then “fall off the wagon” so to speak and it all just falls apart. I get it! If there’s one thing I’ve learned from my health journey, it’s that consistency is not easy! It takes a whole lot of inner work and a deep dive into our mindset to really dig into the “why” and take back our power! Today I’m discussing how I navigated my own health and fitness journey to find a place of balance and consistency. My story is one that so many have been through. I was unhappy with my body. I was disconnected and ashamed of it. And I started my healthy journey because of a comment someone made. I used that as fuel “get better and lose weight”. The deeper truth wasn’t about the weight though. It was about my belief that I had to be perfect, look a certain way or be thin and that if I wasn’t, then I wasn’t worthy. My own self-sabotage is what held me back from showing up consistently for myself. I didn’t think I was worthy of what I wanted so it just didn’t happen. I was scared of failing so I didn’t try. I went from bingeing to extreme restriction, over exercising and calorie counting, thinking it was the “right” way to do it, but found myself no happier than when I’d had the extra weight. At some point, I decided that I couldn’t live like that anymore. I wanted to be happy. I wanted to be healthy. Weight wasn’t even a factor anymore. I had to find balance. And once I started to address what was actually going on beneath the surface and realized I was a victim to food, I was able to take my power back and step into my Queen! If this ep resonates with you and you’re in a place where you know what you need to do but just can’t seem to do it, I would love to invite you to my new free masterclass next Wednesday April 21at at 3pm ET on how to stop sabotaging, stay consistent AF and show up for your most confident self! https://www.balancewithsam.com/sabotage-masterclass

SIGN UP: CONSISTENCY QUEEN MASTERCLASS: balancewithsam.com/consistency Fear is something we ALL experience, right? It’s an innate, biological response that’s designed to protect us. But what can we do when fear stops us from getting what we want? Our dream career? The incredible relationship? Personal growth? Often fear is what stops us from taking action. We get overwhelmed with fear of not picking the “right” thing to do so we just get stuck in a constant state of frustration. In today’s chat with Ben Harris, aka The Fear Guy, we talked about how fear is actually something beautiful. It’s magic. It reveals where we aren’t free in our lives and creates a space for us to step into our calling and find alignment. It’s a medicine and tool that can heal all parts of us. By showing us where our fears lie, we can embrace our full selves. Fear has so many layers; the physical layer, the mental layer, the emotional air, the spiritual layer, the beliefs layer and, most importantly, the unconscious layer. It sits deep within us and once we can unpack each level, we can transform our understanding. That’s when we learn that embracing fear means there are no “wrong” decisions. We get where are meant to go through realizing the path that fear is taking us on is in alignment with all that we are and all that we can be. Ben has a seriously electric energy and it was amazing to hear his journey from a call center job to holding retreats and coaching others to break through their fears and trust themselves. From wealth and relationships to the incredible power of human design, this ep has everything you need to learn to love your fear! Check out Ben's work here -  Ben Harris | The Fear Guy (@the.fear.guy) • Instagram photos and videos Feeling Free w/ Ben Harris (feeling-free.com)

Today, we are talking all about the EGO.. you know… that sabotaging voice in your head that tells you that you aren't good enough or you shouldn’t invest in yourself even though you’ve been stuck in the same place forever. Doing ego work transformed my life, body, relationships and business. It helped me stop sabotaging my health and my body and gave me the confidence to start a side hustle and then eventually leave my 9-5 and build my business! Ego work is for you if you... struggle with all or nothing thinking you feel stuck and frustrated you tend to take things personally you feel exhausted 24/7 you are an over thinker you’re in toxic patterns with your health After doing ego work you’ll notice: Less sabotage & getting in your own way Less negative self-talk Less triggering experiences Less reacting, blame and frustration A greater understanding of yourself A chance to recreate your beliefs Inner peace, calm, less sabotage It’s where I began my personal development work and it’s changed every part of my life. The Holistic Psychologist was the catalyst for me doing ego work back in 2018 and it’s been such a journey 🙂 I’m so excited to hear what you think! Be sure to screenshot the podcast and tag me on IG (@samaltieri) 💞💞 and tell me your top takeaway!! Catch ya next week :)

You know that expression “The path is created by walking, not waiting”? It’s one of my favorites because, well, it’s true! Life is there for the taking. Everything we want, we can have. But we have to be the ones to take the steps and do the thing. We have to set boundaries to protect our energy. We have to surround ourselves with people who can see what’s possible for us. We have to believe that we are worthy and use our power to create the life we want. I used to be fearful of saying what I wanted to say. I was worried people wouldn’t like it or wouldn’t like me, and they would leave. But then I realized they’re not the people I’m meant to have in my life. I started following my heart. Every time I felt something, I just did it. I did the next thing and the next thing and before I knew it, the world had opened for me. Today I’m talking about how we can learn to let go of what doesn’t serve us and use the power of visualization to get clear on our path and how we want to feel in our lives. We may not be able to see the whole path all the way to the ending, but that’s the beauty of it: we’re not meant to. We can use the power of visualization in our mind’s eye in real life and dreams, set the boundaries we need, and follow our desires. They are the secret roadmap to exactly where we are meant to go. We can’t conceive the magic of it all, but by following our highest excitement and taking back our power, we can’t go wrong.

This week’s episode is SO exciting. Not only is it the first episode back after a 3-month hiatus, but I am reintroducing the podcast’s new name: “Be More Real with Sam Altieri.” This is a mini episode where I share why I needed to take a 3 month break, what happened with my eating disorder in 2020 once COVID hit and I moved in with my now fiancé, and what caused me to gain 15lbs. I also give you a sneak peek into how I stopped bingeing, judging myself and started eating intuitively and being happy in my skin. The podcast is dedicated to my Dad, my biggest mirror and fellow healer. ( love you Dad!) He inspired the new name because when I was younger and brought over some friends who were down to earth, he’d call out how real they were. I didn’t fully understand what that meant until I rediscovered who I was. Now, as my most confident myself, I decided that this is the perfect name for the podcast. PLUS! I now have a YouTube Channel! My channel will be THE go-to place where I will be sharing my own healing journey, more spirituality, and manifestation, as well as my business growth and how to be a successful entrepreneur while maintaining alignment, freedom, and happiness! Be sure to subscribe to my channel and let me know what you think in the comments! This will be the first episode of a kickass 2021. So make sure you subscribe so you don’t miss an episode or chances to be featured on my podcast!

In our final episode of Balance with Sam for 2020, I talk to my amazing coaching clients about manifesting money, how visualizing our desires can help find clarity on our path and the internal shift we can make to embody a queen mindset. Often we can go through life and we're on autopilot. We're doing our thing and we can feel undisciplined and inconsistent. We don't show up for ourselves and we’re all over the place. Moving the queen mindset allows us to be present and in our power. We show up every moment with self-awareness and consistency that creates our wave and embodies our essence. Top Takeaways You are worthy right now. I used to have so many beliefs about who I could be or how far I could go or what I could do. I felt that I wasn’t worthy of success. It’s just not true. You are worthy, deserving, and enough. Right now. Let that sink in. You can also have goals but those goals do not make you any less worthy or enough. Use the mantra “I'm satisfied with where I'm at and eager for more.” You can feel that you are enough right now and also want more. They may happen in different stages, at different paces and in different ways that you could've never ever imagined for yourself. But stop limiting yourself. Think about what you really want and be what you want to attract. You need to be a vibrational and energetic match for the things you desire. If you're always frustrated, complaining, feeling victim, you're going to attract more circumstances like that. If you are feeling grateful, even for the smallest things, you're going to attract more of that. When your energy is high, you attract that. Think about money. Money is always working for you. Progress is always working for you. Clients are always coming to you. Business is always happening for you. Opportunities are always coming for you. Be open to them. Practice visualizing the future. Close your eyes and feel it. When you close your eyes and imagine that thing that you desire and you feel into it, you actually feel it in your body (I get tingles!) That's gratitude. That is the feeling of abundance. Your brain doesn't know the difference between a real thing and an imagined thing. The more you can imagine the thing, the faster you manifest it, the faster it shows up. Trust that money is on its way to you. Trust that your business is growing. Trust that clients are coming. Trust that whatever is happening in your life that you want to happen is coming for you as long as you declare it and know it to be true.