

Robot Unicorn
Nurtured First
Join me, Jess VanderWier, a registered psychotherapist, mom of three, and founder of Nurtured First, along with my husband Scott, as we dive deep into the stories of our friends, favourite celebrities, and influential figures.
In each episode, we skip the small talk and dive into vulnerable and honest conversations about topics like cycle breaking, trauma, race, mental health, parenting, sex, religion, postpartum, healing, and loss.
We are glad you are here.
PS: The name Robot Unicorn comes from our daughter. When we asked her what we should name the podcast, she confidently came up with this name because she loves robots, and she loves unicorns, so why not? There was something about the playfulness of the name, the confidence in her voice, and the fact that it represents that you can love two things at once that just felt right.
In each episode, we skip the small talk and dive into vulnerable and honest conversations about topics like cycle breaking, trauma, race, mental health, parenting, sex, religion, postpartum, healing, and loss.
We are glad you are here.
PS: The name Robot Unicorn comes from our daughter. When we asked her what we should name the podcast, she confidently came up with this name because she loves robots, and she loves unicorns, so why not? There was something about the playfulness of the name, the confidence in her voice, and the fact that it represents that you can love two things at once that just felt right.
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Jun 30, 2025 • 46min
The Truth Behind Swearing And Rude Language In Kids
In this engaging discussion, the hosts delve into why children often experiment with rude language as a normal part of development. They explore how shocking words express big emotions and can signal a need for attention. The conversation highlights practical strategies for parents to respond effectively, such as modeling calmness and teaching alternative ways to express anger. Touching on the link between ADHD and verbal outbursts, they emphasize the importance of understanding underlying needs while maintaining boundaries. It's a fascinating insight into navigating this challenging phase of childhood.

Jun 23, 2025 • 33min
Are Timeouts Really Evidence-Based?
Jess and Scott dive deep into the controversial topic of timeouts, examining whether they're truly the evidence-based discipline method many claim. They explore how typical timeout implementation can potentially harm parent-child attachment and fail to teach children the emotional regulation skills they need. Listeners will gain insights into more developmentally appropriate alternatives like 'time-ins' and learn how to critically evaluate evidence-based parenting claims by asking: 'evidence-based for what outcome, under what conditions, and with what potential trade-offs?'Get 10% OFF parenting courses and kids' printable activities at Nurtured First using the code ROBOTUNICORN.We’d love to hear from you! Have questions you want us to answer on Robot Unicorn? Send us an email: podcast@robotunicorn.net. Credits:Editing by The Pod Cabin Artwork by Wallflower Studio Production by Nurtured First
Head to nurturedfirst.com/bodysafety to learn more about our Body Safety & Consent course!

Jun 16, 2025 • 1h 6min
The Research All Parents Need To Know About Punishments
Explore the latest research on parenting strategies, emphasizing authoritative methods over punitive ones. Discover the long-term effects of spanking and harsh verbal discipline on child development. Learn about the pitfalls of threats and bribes in fostering cooperation. Understand the importance of nurturing intrinsic motivation over external rewards. Gain insights on adapting discipline to children's developmental stages for better emotional outcomes. This is a must-listen for parents seeking effective, non-punitive approaches!

Jun 9, 2025 • 1h 3min
The Impact Of Social Media, Gaming And Smartphones On Kids
Dive into the challenges of social media and screen time for kids! Experts discuss the risks of cyberbullying, inappropriate content, and how screens impact mental health. Discover the fine balance between the benefits of connection and education versus addiction and brain development concerns. Learn strategies for setting boundaries, explaining decisions to children, and modeling healthy digital habits. Plus, hear about the dangers of platforms like Snapchat and exciting alternatives to outright bans. Equip yourself for navigating this tech-savvy world!

Jun 2, 2025 • 56min
Impulse Control: What Every Parent Needs To Know
Jess and Scott dive deep into the science of impulse control in children, explaining why little ones struggle to control their impulses and how parents can effectively support this critical developmental process. They explore brain development across different age groups—from toddlers who are "completely run by impulses" to teens experiencing a rush of emotions while their logical brain struggles to catch up. Listeners will gain practical, science-backed approaches to help navigate impulsive behaviours, understand the "why" behind children's actions, and learn how to balance setting boundaries with maintaining the warm connection that makes children most teachable.Get 10% OFF parenting courses and kids' printable activities at Nurtured First using the code ROBOTUNICORN.We’d love to hear from you! Have questions you want us to answer on Robot Unicorn? Send us an email: podcast@robotunicorn.net. Credits:Editing by The Pod Cabin Artwork by Wallflower Studio Production by Nurtured First
Head to nurturedfirst.com/bodysafety to learn more about our Body Safety & Consent course!

May 26, 2025 • 57min
Why Kids Need Boredom Now More Than Ever
Jess and Scott dive into the often-misunderstood topic of boredom and its crucial role in child development. They explore why parents fear their children being bored, how screens have become the default solution to downtime, and the surprising developmental benefits that emerge when children learn to navigate unstructured time. You’ll learn practical strategies for teaching children to transform boredom into creativity, including Jess' approach of "getting the good going" and mindfulness techniques for all ages. Whether you're a parent concerned about excessive screen time or an adult who's forgotten how to simply be present, this conversation offers valuable insights into reclaiming the lost art of boredom in our overstimulated world.Get 10% OFF parenting courses and kids' printable activities at Nurtured First using the code ROBOTUNICORN.We’d love to hear from you! Have questions you want us to answer on Robot Unicorn? Send us an email: podcast@robotunicorn.net. Credits:Editing by The Pod Cabin Artwork by Wallflower Studio Production by Nurtured First
Head to nurturedfirst.com/bodysafety to learn more about our Body Safety & Consent course!

May 19, 2025 • 50min
I Love My Kids, But I Resent My Partner—Now What? With Dr. Tracy D
In this insightful episode, psychologist and couples expert Dr. Tracy Dalgleish joins Jess to discuss the often unspoken challenges couples face after having children. Dr. Tracy shares both professional expertise and personal vulnerability as she explains why 69% of couples experience a decline in relationship satisfaction after having children, and offers practical strategies for addressing resentment, improving communication, and maintaining connection. Hear more from Dr. Tracy Dalgleish on Instagram. Get 10% OFF parenting courses and kids' printable activities at Nurtured First using the code ROBOTUNICORN.We’d love to hear from you! Have questions you want us to answer on Robot Unicorn? Send us an email: podcast@robotunicorn.net. Credits:Editing by The Pod Cabin Artwork by Wallflower Studio Production by Nurtured First
Head to nurturedfirst.com/bodysafety to learn more about our Body Safety & Consent course!

May 12, 2025 • 36min
How To Reparent Yourself While Raising Your Kids
The hosts delve into the concept of reparenting, addressing how healing ourselves can transform our parenting. They discuss breaking negative generational patterns and the importance of genuine apologies in fostering trust. Listeners learn practical tools for self-awareness and managing triggers, while embracing self-care to nurture healthier family dynamics. The conversation highlights the impact of compassionate parenting and the journey towards secure attachment, offering a warm, supportive approach for those seeking to grow both personally and as parents.

May 5, 2025 • 43min
Part 2: Trust, Skepticism, And Betrayal: How To Build Trust
Jess and Scott dive deep into the complexities of trust and healthy skepticism—from childhood friendships to the evolving dynamics of teen and adult relationships. They discuss how children test trust in their early years and the delicate balance between seeking belonging and remaining authentic. The episode offers practical strategies for staying connected with your teen, rebuilding trust after betrayal, and modelling authenticity to your kids. Get 10% OFF parenting courses and kids' printable activities at Nurtured First using the code ROBOTUNICORN.We’d love to hear from you! Have questions you want us to answer on Robot Unicorn? Send us an email: podcast@robotunicorn.net. Credits:Editing by The Pod Cabin Artwork by Wallflower Studio Production by Nurtured First
Head to nurturedfirst.com/bodysafety to learn more about our Body Safety & Consent course!

Apr 28, 2025 • 53min
Part 1: Trust, Skepticism, And Betrayal: Teaching Kids To Trust
Inside this vulnerable and emotional episode, Jess and Scott talk about how painful betrayal is and how we can learn to trust others. They talk about the difference between healthy skepticism and cynicism. Whether you’re navigating your own trust issues or seeking to give your children the tools for discerning safe from unsafe, this episode offers a combination of heartfelt reflection, evidence-based insights, and practical parenting tips. If you want support teaching your child about red flags in relationships, safe and tricky people, standing up for themselves and more, check out our Body Safety Toolkit. Get 10% OFF parenting courses and kids' printable activities at Nurtured First using the code ROBOTUNICORN.We’d love to hear from you! Have questions you want us to answer on Robot Unicorn? Send us an email: podcast@robotunicorn.net. Credits:Editing by The Pod Cabin Artwork by Wallflower Studio Production by Nurtured First
Head to nurturedfirst.com/bodysafety to learn more about our Body Safety & Consent course!


