Make Your Damn Bed

Personal grooming is just that: Personal. Do what you want, when you want, for YOU. If you let society decide, you may end up with a long face and cat poop on your head (please listen to the episode for context.)RESOURCES: https://www.mic.com/impact/women-removing-their-body-hair-is-a-deeply-sexist-tradition-that-wont-end-16470015 AND https://rosie.org.au/blog/razors-lasers-internalised-misogyny-reflections-on-body-hair/WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastThe opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for entertainment purposes only. Make Your Damn Bed podcast is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you tend to get defensive or want to negate arguments, these tools can come in handy: Ask questions – Get things moving with questions. They show you’re interested and help others contribute. Mirror feelings – Let others know you recognize what they’re feeling e.g. “I can hear that you’re upset about that” or “It sounds like you want to make a change.” Paraphrase to show understanding – Show you understand by putting what they’ve said in your own words e.g. “To make sure I’ve got this right; you want to…” Prime when you’re unsure – Make an educated guess when they give you nothing e.g.”I would feel sad about that. What about you?” Or there is the ABC method. This is one I am personally familiar with - Agree – Tell them what you do agree with. Build – Build on what they’ve said. Compare – Compare and contrast when you completely disagree. I always thought of this as a counterargument to my own and theirs so we can work to find middle ground - but compare is even more concise. RESOURCES: https://www.mheducation.com/highered/product/crucial-conversations-tools-talking-when-stakes-high-patterson-grenny-mcmillan-switzler/9780071771320.html and https://theartofliving.com/crucial-conversations-summary/ and https://www.shortform.com/blog/how-to-have-crucial-conversations/WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastThe opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for entertainment purposes only. Make Your Damn Bed podcast is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Have you heard of the concept of a Fool's Choice? I saw a meme and looked it up only to end up in a deep dive into a likely incredible book that I’ll more likely never read in it’s entirety called but I encourage you to do so - it’s called "Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes Are High" written by Kerry Patterson, Joseph Grenny, Ron McMillan, and Al Switzler. Either way, I’ll share now what I found online in various places: According to the authors, The Fool's Choice is the false assumption that we must choose between telling the truth and keeping a friend or colleague. Today, we're talking about how to avoid this trap. RESOURCES: https://www.mheducation.com/highered/product/crucial-conversations-tools-talking-when-stakes-high-patterson-grenny-mcmillan-switzler/9780071771320.html and https://theartofliving.com/crucial-conversations-summary/ and https://www.shortform.com/blog/how-to-have-crucial-conversations/WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastThe opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for entertainment purposes only. Make Your Damn Bed podcast is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Yesterday we practiced enhancing the mind-body connection through visualization, and today we're talking about how we can create a "vacation mode" sensation for easy access. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastThe opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for entertainment purposes only. Make Your Damn Bed podcast is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This may feel strange to imagine, but imagining yourself actually licking a wall can create a mind body connection that increases presence, gratitude, and our general well-being. Try it! or not. Do what makes you happy. LUH YOU. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastThe opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for entertainment purposes only. Make Your Damn Bed podcast is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Our language matters, but what happens when the only language we have is negative? RESOURCES: https://www.smithsonianmag.com/smart-news/where-did-spinster-and-bachelor-come-180964879/ and https://www.bbc.com/worklife/article/20220405-single-shaming-why-people-jump-to-judge-the-un-partneredhttps://www.slice.ca/what-is-the-origin-of-the-spinster-how-society-villainized-the-single-woman/ and WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastThe opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for entertainment purposes only. Make Your Damn Bed podcast is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Less than a week ago I begged for more optimistic content and now I'm delivering with an incredible listener suggestion (and a terrifyingly good algorithm). RESOURCES: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/SolarpunkWATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastThe opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for entertainment purposes only. Make Your Damn Bed podcast is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Do you workout better in a class? Or write more in a cafe vs. alone? If so, you may benefit from body doubling - or having someone sit with you to motivate you while you do a task you've been putting off. RESOURCES: https://www.healthline.com/health/adhd/body-double-adhdWATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastThe opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for entertainment purposes only. Make Your Damn Bed podcast is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

People-pleasing can be manipulative because it involves trying to control how others perceive and behave towards us. RESOURCES: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/toxic-relationships/201704/are-you-being-manipulatedWATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastThe opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for entertainment purposes only. Make Your Damn Bed podcast is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

To me, this idea that your brain can FULLY convince your body a fake treatment is the real thing is pretty fucking magical. Of course, it’s not magic and nothing is a cure-all. But that doesn't mean we shouldn’t stack the deck for ourselves as much as we can as often as we can. Improving the connection between our body and mind is a beautiful place to start as long as we remember that Placebos tweak our experience of symptoms, not their underlying cause. RESOURCES: https://www.health.harvard.edu/mental-health/the-power-of-the-placebo-effectWATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastThe opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for entertainment purposes only. Make Your Damn Bed podcast is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.