Make Your Damn Bed

When I say float downstream, this is not a mindless or passive task. This is simply being mindful with the way your life is moving, making small choices to make it easier, and not resisting the path but rerouting it when you need to. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you don’t choose to uproot your own toxicity once in a while you will get sick. You will keep that toxicity inside which means it will eat you alive. Even if you don’t know it’s growing. Because if you ignore how bad your behavior can make you feel. And make others feel. You will never want to fix that behavior and it will continue to make you and others feel bad. Be willing to uproot your toxicity so you can become less toxic. Don’t be afraid of the fact that you have made mistakes that you have regrets and that you have done incorrectly by others in the past but make sure you are rectifying that shit in the future by addressing that shit now. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We’ve all made snap judgments and it takes a long time to unlearn a lifetime of habit - especially one as natural as this - but trust me when I say, your preconceived notions about people are typically incorrect, and it may be a good idea to avoid making those judgments altogether. We all cast judgements without knowing any better, but it’s our responsibility to learn so we can know better, and when we know better we do better. When we do better, the world gets better. When the world gets better, everyone wins. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Genuine connection only comes from our ability to fully connect with our own desires and needs. We do this by getting clear before trying to communicate with others and then getting clear on how we choose to communicate with others. I have said this many times before: The temporary discomfort of openly communicating will save years of discomfort in the future. So be brave, be vulnerable, and be honest. If everything falls apart because of it, that shit wasn’t stable to begin with. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You are a person, not a test subject. Life is a journey not some race to enlightenment. You are welcome to just be. Stop using intellectualism to avoid feeling your feelings. Stop overanalyzing to avoid your emotions. And have the grace to do the same for your loved ones. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

My parents made a lot of rules that didn’t feel like support at the time, that I absolutely consider supportive now. Support from my bra is uncomfortable but essential in some situations. Support looks and feels differently at different times - and that can be the angle you take with the people you love too. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The amount of attention you’re receiving or not receiving is not a reflection of your character. Life is a dance. We are moving all over the place and going around and around but not actually going anywhere notable in distance, because the where we start and where we end is not the point of dancing. The point of dancing is in the art itself. Sometimes we will lead and sometimes we will follow, but the dance is meant to be enjoyed and nothing else. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you have an idea for what you would you like to achieve in the future, take steps towards that. But if you aren’t sure - try everything until you figure out what you don’t want, then go from there. Don’t let anyone rush you. You’ve got the rest of your life to figure it out. Until then, find something that best works for you right now, where you are today. Not where you’d like to be in five years. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Focus in on what your life means to you, allow that meaning to change with you over time, and never allow anyone else’s interpretation of that meaning affect you. It’s really not your business how they interpret it. Plus, your interpretation is probably going to change at some point anyway. So what difference does it make? You don’t need to understand the ins and outs to enjoy the ride. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I realize now, if you’re doing it right, life is just a series of outgrowing yourself. Those choices, behaviors, routines, friends, experiences, and priorities that you used to make time for, out of necessity or desire or fear or boredom, at some point, just don’t appeal to you anymore. And you should be so fucking happy for that. When you begin to outgrow yourself, whether consciously or not, you will naturally outgrow some of the people around you. There will be people who don’t understand why you’ve changed, or don’t want you to change, or want you to stay right where you are, or simply don’t relate to you after your change. This is a natural thing. It doesn’t mean you can’t still love or care or hold space for that person or that time in your life, it means you must hold space for the person you were and the person you’re becoming. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.