Make Your Damn Bed

From Glennon Doyle’s Untamed: “Easy” buttons are the things that appear in front of us that we want to reach for because they temporarily take us out of our pain and stress. They do not work in the long run, because what they actually do is help us abandon ourselves. “Easy” buttons take us to fake heaven. Fake heaven always turns out to be hell. You know you’ve hit an “easy” button when, afterward, you feel more lost in the woods than you did before you hit it. It has taken me forty years to decide that when I feel bad, I want to do something that makes me feel better instead of worse.I keep a handwritten poster in my office titled “Easy Buttons and Reset Buttons.”On the left are all the things I do to abandon myself.On the right are my reset buttons, the things I can do to make staying with myself a little more possible.”Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you come across any good news or positive headlines, send 'em my way! We’ve got a long way to go - especially with human rights, but remember, there are good people fighting the good fight and they would love to have you among their ranks. Make your voice heard. Social media isn’t just for stalking your ex anymore, with enough noise, we can change companies practices and political loyalties. We just have to be vocal about the changes we want to make and support t hose out there doing that shit for us. Fight the good fight or get behind those who are because progress is happening with or without us.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you are struggling with negative thoughts, it’s normal. Our brains are programmed to think negatively. But just because it’s normal doesn’t mean it’s helpful. If you practice redirection long enough, you can shift your mindset completely which can literally improve your life, by changing nothing else. If you start to notice yourself falling back into negative thinking patterns, pay attention to where they stem from. When does it start in the morning? What triggers these negative thoughts? As you begin to objectively analyze your negative thinking patterns, you can start noticing more quickly when it happens and can focus on redirection towards more positive or neutral frames of thought. We all are prone towards negative thinking. There is nothing wrong with it, but it’s not helpful or encouraging. And we already know how I feel about the power of encouragement. Life is hard enough - when we train our brains to see the bright side first, we can start to really shift our perception and responses to the world around us. Mentality and mindset is everything. When we take control of our mindset, we no longer get controlled by it. You have the power to change your worldview for the better - and it starts with noticing where it can improve. This doesn’t mean everything will be positive and joyful and sunshine and rainbows, but it does mean we can finally stop searching for rainclouds where there are none. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Saturday Scatterbrain: We’re in control of our own happiness. We have the power to control a lot of our environment. So, if you want the sheets untucked, get up and untuck them yourself. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

BE FEARLESS THIS FRIDAY: When it comes to job interviews and the like, we all know how intimidating it can be. Whether you’re going on a date, having a performance review, auditioning, whatever… there are gonna be sometimes, that the idea of having to “perform” like this can shake your confidence, but I encourage you to remember… you are the prize. They are interviewing you because they need you. They want you to do well. And if it’s really meant to be, you will! As a person who has been on both sides of the interview and audition table, it is rarely personal reasons that don’t get you an opportunity. So don’t be afraid to dig in and ask questions for yourself too. Asking relevant questions can prove you are unafraid and are aware your own worth, and trust me… you are very worthy. You are valuable regardless of what is going on behind the scenes. Remember that. Stay confident in who you are. If you struggle to remember how it feels to stand in alignment with your confidence, think of someone you admire that always seems to embody confidence and channel them, instead. Ideally, we can get to a place that no matter who we’re with, what we’re doing, or how hangry or tired we feel, we can show up as our best and highest self. Stand like a boss, talk like a boss, and act like a boss, and nobody will doubt that you do indeed, own your shit. But as silly as this one may feel, if you’re anything like me - it will successfully get you out of your head and into your body and remind you of how fun and easy life can be if you just let your personality shine without overthinking it. Overthinking is the enemy of confidence. Stay present. Stay You’re a badass.  You got this. You are the prize.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you’re like most people, the voice inside your head is probably pretty incessant. It’s probably very critical and anxious.  That voice is not you. If it was you, it wouldn’t need to share all of it’s wild ideas with you. You would know the message and have already made decisions, instead you engage in these dialogues or arguments with yourself because you’re not that voice. You know it’s wrong or mean or negative and you recognize it. The work you must do is continue to recognize it. Continue to notice when it’s chatting with you. Other the voice and name it, or address it with love - because in reality the voice is looking out for you in the only way it knows how. Which, yeah, we can agree this voice is not a great parent, but it does love us. So address this voice, ask it to sit down. Hear it out, and then thank it for its concern. Remind it you’re safe and that the advice it is sharing is not helpful or needed at the moment. Then you can move on with you leading the way, rather than this wildcard with random ideas and thoughts leading you through fear. Other it, welcome it, and recognize our thoughts and feelings are often valid but not always rooted in truth or reality. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Next time you find yourself hesitating in asking for help, remember that it not only helps cut out a lot of confusion - it also invites others to connect with us on a real level and it creates deeper trust in your relationships.You’re not just asking for help, you’re deepening a bond. You’re creating more trust. And you’re showing other people it’s okay to be human. We all need help sometimes, the better we get at communicating directly, the better our lives become in return. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

ACTIONABLE TIP TUESDAY: It’s good to consider your goals, visions, and dreams once in a while. It’s even better to meditate on it through the process of creating a dream board. So next time you need to do a little creative introspection, consider creating a visual tool of all of the things that inspire you, that fire you up, that you want to see or do in your life, or that you’d like to focus more on. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

THE ARTICLE I USED: https://www.nytimes.com/2021/04/19/well/mind/covid-mental-health-languishing.htmlLanguishing is not merely in our heads — it’s in our circumstances. You can’t heal a sick culture with personal bandages. We still live in a world that normalizes physical health challenges but stigmatizes mental health challenges. As we head into a new post-pandemic reality, it’s time to rethink our understanding of mental health and well-being. “Not depressed” doesn’t mean you’re not struggling. “Not burned out” doesn’t mean you’re fired up. By acknowledging that so many of us are languishing, we can start giving voice to quiet despair and lighting a path out of the void.ADAM GRANT'S POD: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/id1346314086Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This means we all need to consciously create room and space for play. I personally have a fun bin where I collect goodies and activities for play time that actually make ME excited and I really want to encourage you to create your own! OOOH YOU NASTY! This can be bag, basket, box, bin, shelf, or drawer - where you will start a collection of all the things that make your inner child sing. Add toys, squirt guns, play doh, tops, games, crafts, coloring books, markers, magazines for collages, paint by numbers, puzzles, hot glue and sequins, mad-libs and whatever other fun shit that appeals to you and your inner child. Any time you find yourself having a good time, playing, and leaning into the fun, as a grown up - write it down. Save it for a future you to come back to and do again and again. Indulge your inner child. How did you stave off boredom when you were little? Let yourself explore, make messes, play and create.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.