Make Your Damn Bed

if you have the privilege to provide yourself with a buffer day? do it. if you can only afford to tidy little bits at a time, instead of addressing the whole damned thing? do it. do what you need to function + thrive. don't worry if it's not the system you're used to or the one you prefer. just do what you can, when you can + don't stress too much about the rest. TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast luh you. and don't forget to drink your damn water.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

there is a power in leaning into your ideas, real hard, right away. Quit sleeping on your ideas + start trusting yourself to act on them right away, before they vanish. We spend a lot of time waiting - waiting for new opportunities, ideas, chances. So instead of waiting, act. Lean in. And trust you'll succeed, or learn a valuable lesson in the attempt.  TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast luh you. and don't forget to drink your damn water.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

establishing a routine that involves certain "closing duties" can give you a sense of peace before bed - which can help you feel more prepared for the morning, thus improving your day to day life.do you have any closing duties you do naturally, now?what are they? are there any you can intentionally implement to improve your relationship with your space?TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast luh you. and don't forget to drink your damn water.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

TW: there is mention of emotional abuse throughout this episode.other people who aim to garner some semblance of control over you may use different tactics to skew your sense of self (and reality) which can make you more and more dependent on the person perpetrating such tactics. today we discuss red flags for help when identifying some of these tactics + common ways they can be overlooked.The amazing article I sourced for this one: https://www.choosingtherapy.com/manipulation-tactics/TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast luh you. and don't forget to drink your damn water.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

TW: there is mention of emotional abuse throughout this episode.the main goal of manipulation is a sense of CONTROL. Make sure you're comfortable enough in your own skin (and head) to make your own decisions. Common tactics to make you doubt yourself include but is not limited to: projection, dismissing, minimizing, triangulation, gaslighting, general control, guilt tripping, generalizations, love bombing, name calling, infantalizing, threatening, passive aggressive behaviors, etc. The amazing article I used as the main resource for this episode: https://www.choosingtherapy.com/manipulation-tactics/ TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast luh you. and don't forget to drink your damn water.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

TW: there is mention of emotional abuse throughout this episode. “The first sign to look out for is if you feel confused. You will rarely–if ever–be confused by someone who has nothing but pure, good, loving intentions with you. The second is if you feel hesitant or fearful to either address your confusion or speak your feelings openly. If you can’t ask a question or express your needs without it becoming an argument, that’s a red flag. When someone is defensive (turns the tables, shifts blame, over-explains), it can be a sign that they are feeling ‘caught.'” – Alexandra Rickeman, LCMFTThe amazing article I sourced for this one: https://www.choosingtherapy.com/manipulation-tactics/ TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast luh you. and don't forget to drink your damn water.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

sometimes we just need to relocate for a few + regroup so we can really appreciate the reasons we left in the first place.  TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast luh you. and don't forget to drink your damn water.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The more stuff I have, the less access I feel I have to any of it - thus feeling like I actually have less stuff. So recently, I have prioritized starting fresh + getting rid of shit I don't have the full intention of using.   TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast luh you. and don't forget to drink your damn water.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

dealing with others who engage in passive aggressive behavior can be frustrating and cause more conflict in the long run, if we're not tactful with how we approach the situation. today, I discuss ways to increase tact + improve your approach towards those who are more passive aggressive in their interactions with you.  TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast luh you. and don't forget to drink your damn water.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When I was younger and a chronic people pleaser, I found myself doing anything to avoid confrontation. This meant, I spent a lot of my time feeling unheard + unseen, so in an effort to feel heard without "stirring the pot" I ended up becoming more and more passive aggressive which caused more + more conflict. Here's how I started to rectify it.  TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast luh you. and don't forget to drink your damn water.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.