Savage Lovecast

Are young ladies allowed to call or "text"  unattached, young men to ask for a date? Or would this tarnish a girl's valued reputation?  A sex worker wonders if it's ethical for her to fake orgasms with her clients. On the Magnum version, Dan speaks with the saintly Carl Siciliano, from NYC's Ali Forney Center, the nation's largest organization dedicated to homeless LGBT youths. (Confidential to homophobic parents everywhere: You don't really want your kid to live on the streets do you? Do you?) A bewildered straight couple wonders: In which bathroom should our nation's drag queens dwell?  Fragrance. Do you have to wear it if your partner wants you to? This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at   Today's episode is also brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout.

A gay man's truly evil step-mother falsely accused him of sexually assaulting his younger siblings. His father never rose to his defense. Should he forgive his father or cut off ties?  Penises, penises, penises. That's all her ex-girlfriend could ever think about! Is Penis Envy a real thing? And now that she's free of this lunatic, does it matter?  On the Magnum side, is there such a thing as "legitimate slut-shaming?"  Did you know that the United States prison system has recently enacted progressive policies regarding transgendered inmates? No, you did not. Terry Schuster, an attorney who specializes in the treatment of prisoners, speaks with Dan about how Chelsea Manning can expect to be treated in prison. And a lot more.  206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage9 for a 20% discount and free web domain registration. Today's episode is also brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout.

Dan speaks with pro-gay rights Christian John Shore about the NALT Project. Non-douchey Christians: here's your chance to speak up. www.NotAllLikeThat.org  A woman discovers (through snooping, how else?) that her boyfriend is into cross-dressing. How can she let him know she approves without letting on that she snooped?  A man in a sugar mama relationship feels awkward about accepting his lady's largess. You should have such problems.  On the Magnum version, Dan interviews Dr. Jeffrey Parsons about his study looking at monogamish relationships among gay men.    Also, a woman's boyfriend really, really, really wants to do anal sex. The hitch? He's got the world's most ginormous penis.  And more.  Yes, we know that "ginormous" is not a word. 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at   This podcast is also brought to you by ExtremeRestraints.com. Go buy something, and be sure to enter GGG2013 at checkout.

A man (with a British accent that had the tech-savvy, at-risk youth  panting like hound dogs at noon,) likes to cat around town, despite his ostensibly monogamous relationship. (Even the way he says "monogamous" is swoon-worthy.) Can or should he change for his girlfriend?  Dan speaks with the venerable Dr. Chu about the rare phenomenon of HIV positive men who have undetectable viral loads.  A woman knows a man who is being tossed out of his college for sexual assault. Is she obliged to testify against him?  On the big, ole Magnum version, Dan and porn actress, director and producer Joanna Angel, talk about the porn industry, and what they do to keep their actors safe from STIs.  An unfortunate man is married to a woman who a) won't let him watch porn, b) won't let him masturbate and c) won't fuck him. Guess what Dan's advice is.  Do you get boners from the strangest things? We want to hear about it.  206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by ExtremeRestraints.com. Go buy something, and be sure to enter GGG2013 at checkout.

Dan helps a woman determine the fine line between over-permissiveness and slut-shaming for her 14 year-old step-daughter.  In more hand-wringing, a young man wants to be sure he obtains consent from his lucky ladies, but how much asking is too much asking? On the Magnum show, a woman's boyfriend enjoys a nosefull of cocaine every month or so. She hates it. Does she have the right to ask him to choose between her or his precious blow? Dan explains the finer points of slut etiquette to a lass who prefers to dash off rather than spend the night.  And finally, hear the tale of the woman who's snooping revealed that her boyfriend was having an affair with his mother's secretary.  Stop that snooping ya'll, lest you learn something you wish you hadn't.  This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at   Today's episode is also brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout.

"Cum Dumpster." Is this a sweet, sexy term, or just plain nasty?  A straight woman in Texas feels like a nelly gay man trapped in a woman's body. How can she find her people?  A woman has been using OK Cupid for 2 years and still hasn't gotten any action. So Dan chats with OK Cupid co-founder Christian Rudder on what she might be doing wrong.  On the Magnum version, Dan interviews sex researcher Dr. Joye Swan on risk-taking and using the idea of monogamy as a magical shield. And more.  Today's episode is brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. This episode is also brought to you by Shoplube.com. Save 10% on Boy Butter, when you enter promo code: Stainless.

After over a year of dating a woman online that the caller had never met, he is horrified to learn that she isn't at all who she said she was. What now?  Bloody lovin': Dan brings on a pointy-headed professor to discuss the taboo against sex with a menstruating woman.  On the Magnum version, Dan chats with an expert on when and how to call Child Protective Services.  A lesbian who is getting married can't help but notice that her mother was WAY more engaged in her two straight daughters' weddings than the caller's. How can she get mom to show some support?  And, is there etiquette when presenting your hairy ass to a waxer, if you are a gentleman?  And a lot more.  This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at   This podcast is also brought to you by . Go buy something, and be sure to enter GGG2013 at checkout.

A straight man has been the recipient of some rather shoddy pegging. Dan sets him on a better course.  A woman's older boyfriend insists her gay friends are out to sleep with her. Dan senses dark machinations at work.  Are you, a straight woman, obliged to inform your hook-up that his dick stinks to high heaven? On the Magnum version, Dan interviews feminist blogger Amanda Marcotte on the hysteria surrounding female sexuality and hook-up culture on college campuses. A woman is so darned pretty that she can't have any male friends because they ALL want to sleep with her.  Dan speaks with male burlesque sensation Waxy Moon on the differences between burlesque and stripping, and what to do if your boyfriend doesn't want to see you in pasties.  Today's episode is brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. This podcast is also brought to you by . Go buy something, and be sure to enter GGG2013 at checkout

A woman has become a regular third (unicorn) for a couple's three-ways. They buy her dinner and drinks. Should she get get over feeling like a mooch and just gracefully accept their largess?  When he was in first grade, a man recalls a friend who used to roll around with him and kiss him. How normal is this, and when does it tip into molestation?  And more.  On the Magnum show, the long-suffering Doc Barak weighs in on the ethics of some clumsy doctoring in a Southern small town.  A woman tries to salvage some kind of relationship with her ex, after he helped her through a bi-polar meltdown.  And, hear the lasting effects of a really bad party.  206-201-2720 This Episode is brought to you by IFC Midnight, presenting "Breaking the Girls." Out now, on video on demand as well as at the itunes store and all digital outlets.   This episode is also brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at

Listen in as Dan Savage and Ari Shapiro (fancy-pants White House correspondent for NPR) drink, talk about monogamy and Dan's book, drink, talk about covering the Mitt Romney campaign, something about Dan's son "coming out" as straight, drink, talk and then drink.  This all went down on Father's Day at Town Hall in Seattle. It's super fun.  Be sure to listen for the ill-timed champagne cork.  Today's episode is brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout.