

Savage Lovecast
Dan Savage
Dan Savage, America's only advice columnist, answers your sex and relationship questions and yaps about politics. To record a question for Dan to be answered in a later podcast, record your question and send it to Q@Savage.Love, or call 206-302-2064. For a much longer version of the show, with no ads, visit savage.love and get yourself a subscription.
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Feb 24, 2026 • 55min
Savage Love Episode 1007
A lively mix of frank sex talk and practical tips about poppers, queer BDSM dynamics, and safer play. They cover tricky logistics like condoms in group situations and why UTIs happen. A long chat digs into making anal sex work with very large partners and the risks of too many partners. Quick-fire calls include slipping penises and recovering from breakups.

Feb 20, 2026 • 18min
After Action Report #17
A woman tries dollification at a lesbian sex party and describes the full costume, restraints, and sensory play. They talk about audience interaction, knife play, and a yellow-stop panic moment. The conversation covers aftercare, how lesbian spaces embrace extreme kink, and plans for future private scenes.

Feb 17, 2026 • 52min
Savage Love Episode 1006
Conversations about unrealistic depictions of gay sex and the missing lube in film and TV. Practical talk on orgasm positions, masturbation habits, grief-driven desire, and navigating post-divorce identity. A deep dive into stealth MAGA behavior on dating apps and why political labels matter. Personal call-ins reveal messy, human relationship drama.

Feb 13, 2026 • 18min
After Action Report #16
A candid account of having partnered sex soon after a ketamine IV and the strange sensory mix that followed. Vivid orgasm imagery featuring wild cats and altered vocal experiences are described. Conversation also touches on consent negotiations, polyamory dynamics, and a year of sexual firsts like pegging and new oral experiences.

Feb 10, 2026 • 53min
Savage Lovecast Episode 1005
Collected nasty breakup stories, including a cheating reveal via a tattoo and an affair exposed during an abortion trip. A baffling case of sneezing after orgasm gets a medical take. A passionate anti-beard rant and tips on polite STI disclosure spark debate. A conversation about poppers and a question about asking a boyfriend for a vasectomy round out the mix.

Feb 6, 2026 • 15min
After Action Report #15
Daniel, a polyamorous man from England who balances four partners, recounts attending a clothed-male/nude-female Christmas kink party. He describes the tuxedos-and-nudity vibe, power dynamics and BDSM atmosphere. Hear ticket hunts, partner reactions, spicy anecdotes like a spanking table scene, and practical tips for first-timers.

Feb 5, 2026 • 26min
Sex & Politics #42
Dan interviews, argues and politely spars with gay evangelical Christian Matthew Vines, author of "God and the Gay Christian." Vines, who is married to his husband since 2022, was a potent advocate for gay marriage. Now he and Dan have a debate about the role of monogamy in gay life and society in general.
They both take the gloves off, and somehow remain friends at the end of this long conversation. We are releasing about 20 minutes of it on the Micro version, and the whole thing is on the Magnum, available by subscription at Savage.Love.
Check out Matthews book God and the Gay Christian, and his talk on monogamy at The Reformation Project's 2025 Reconcile & Reform Conference.

Feb 3, 2026 • 56min
Savage Love Episode 1004
A messy cohabitation fight over anxious little dogs and whether pets block moving in together. A deep dive into situational same-sex encounters at British boarding schools, driven by a vivid personal account. Medical talk about anal sex risks for someone with an enlarged spleen and safe alternatives. A newcomer wonders if on-screen gay sex mirrors real-life timing and preparation.

Jan 30, 2026 • 21min
After Action Report #14
A couple recounts finding a concierge service that arranges bespoke gangbangs while traveling. They explain why the fantasy appealed to them and how they vetted and selected participants. The story follows the scene’s setup, the flow of action, and practical details like cost, aftercare, and logistics.

Jan 27, 2026 • 52min
Savage Love Episode 1003
A messy poly love triangle complicated by one indifferent cat. A romance between an 81-year-old widow and her younger gardener and the moral fallout. A comedian faces frank questions about sex and identity. A divorced woman experiments with anonymous hookups and friends debate the ethics of invented personas.


