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We've got a pretty thriving Facebook Community and one of the underlying themes I see quite a bit there is setbacks, struggles, trials, adversity, and obstacles. And, more importantly, questions about how to overcome these "expected unexpecteds" in life. This is going to be tough because, obviously, I cannot go through every scenario in which you find yourself on a daily basis in the next eight minutes but, what I can do, is give you a three-part formula that I've used in my time here on this spinning rock that has helped me overcome some major hurdles – hurdles that many of you have experiences or are in the middle of right now. I've been fat, I've been broke, I've been depressed, I've had failing businesses, I almost lost my marriage at one point and, I can tell you that this simple strategy, although it's not easy, can help you overcome just about any challenge you may find yourself in. But, before I share the formula with you, I need you to understand something: you are responsible for what you do with your life. No one else – you! Yes, you can have friends. Yes, you can have mentors. Yes, you can have a support group or a team. But, at the end of the day and regardless of their effort and help and resources, it is up to you to build the life you want. And that means that, at times, you are going to have to face some things alone. You're going to have to stare down whatever trial you have to and figure out a way to go around, over, under, and through that things that might have you pinned down. No one can or will do it for you. Now, that you know it is up to you, let's talk about this. My formula for overcoming any setback is simply REGROUP, RECALIBRATE, AND RE-ENGAGE. http://www.orderofman.com/FFN038 Please leave us a rating and review at http://www.orderofman.com/itunes

Somewhere, at some point, men began to believe that we are meant to go at it alone. The reality paints a different picture and illustrates how critical it is for each of us to learn to connect with others. Whether you're tyring to connect with people professionally or personally, my guest, John Corcoran, shares with us why meeting face-to-face is so critical, how to reach the people you admire most, the differences between networking professionally and personally, how to get out of your own head, and how you can become a better connector. John Corcoran Gentlemen, I am honored to introduce you to my guest today, John Corcoran. John is someone I first learned about as I started Order of Man and, since then, I've had the opportunity to connect with him a bit more. When I initially reached out to John, he was unavailable for an interview but, he did introduce me to Michael Port with Heroic Public Speaking and Jordan Harbinger with the Art of Charm (both of whom I had interviews with) and I can tell you that this is a man who practices what he preaches when it comes to being a better connecter. In fact, through his skills and abilities as a networker and connecter, John landed a job as a writer in the Clinton Whitehouse and, of course, has gone on to do so much more. He is the founder of the Smart Business Revolution where he teaches business owners and entrepreneurs some of the same stratgies we're going to be talking about today and how each of us can and should become better connectors. Please leave us a review at http://www.orderofman.com/itunes Shownotes: http://www.orderofman.com/095 Website: http://www.orderofman.com

Focusing on high-value targets in your life is critical to your success this year. The reality is most of us don't. Instead, we choose to focus on low-value targets – tactics, activities, projects, experiences, etc. that produce little to no results towards our most important objectives. A high-value target on the other hand is a tactic, an exercise, an activity, and engagement that you can complete that will produce and yield the highest return. This is exactly what we want – high returns on the way we spend our time, attention, focus, energy, and resources on. I've said it before but the most successful men on the planet know how to use the 24 hours each of us have in any given day to its maximum potential. And, that is what I want to address today. Now, obviously, the term, high-value target is a term used in the military to describe a person or asset that is critical for the completion of a mission. I'm using it in much the same way. A high-value target, when it comes to you spending your time most effectively, is a tactic you can use to achieve your ultimate objective. So, I want to talk with you about identifying these high-value targets, engaging them, eliminating distractions, and accomplishing big things in your life. http://www.orderofman.com/FFN037 Please leave us a rating and review at http://www.orderofman.com/itunes

There are three types of people in this world: the wolf, the sheep, and the sheepdog. The wolf is violent, the sheep is passive, and the sheepdog is there to protect one from the other. My guest today, Army Green Beret and UFC ranked middleweight fighter, Tim Kennedy, talks with us about how to overcome fear, how to get up and learn from losses, how to recognize strengths and weaknesses, and how to become the sheepdog. TIM KENNEDY Tim Kennedy is arguably one of the baddest men on the planet. He is a Army Green Beret and a UFC Middleweight MMA fighter and, he's one of only a few who fight professionally and serve in the armed forces simultaneously. He's been fighting professionaly for 16 years and serving as a Ranger qualified, Green Beret, Special Forces Sniper for 14 and has been awarded the Bronze Star for valor under fire. Tim also competed on the Ultimate Soldier Challenge as a Green Beret and was featured as a "Ranger" on the Spike TV series Deadliest Warrior. Tim has also competed in the grueling 3 day Modern Army Combatives tournament, and was one of only three men to be undefeated, as well as three time champion. He is one of the only three service members to be awarded a black belt in Modern Army Combatives. In addition to all that he stars on History Channel's hit show, Hunting Hitler, founded the Sheepdog Survival Fund, and trains law enforment officers, first responders, and civilians how to become sheepdogs through his company, Sheepdog Response. Please leave us a review at http://www.orderofman.com/itunes Shownotes: http://www.orderofman.com/094 Website: http://www.orderofman.com

Everywhere you turn this time of year, you'll see someone telling you how to set New Year's Resolutions. And, while I think there is validity to setting up resolutions correctly, there just doesn't seem to be a lot of new information. Everyone knows how to set goals. We've all heard of SMART goals (specific, measurable, attainable, relevant, and time-sensitive – or some variation of that) but, is setting goals really the problem? Do you really have a hard time dreaming? Do you really have a hard time envisioning the future? Do you really have a hard time thinking about what you would like to do over the next twelve months? I would argue that most don't have a problem with this. In fact, I don't think most people have a problem even getting started. Most people can easily get fired up about something for a week or two or even a month. So, rather than tell you how to set New Year's Resolutions, I'm going to teach you how to KEEP THEM! http://www.orderofman.com/FFN036 Please leave us a rating and review at http://www.orderofman.com/itunes

We talk a lot about success on this show. In fact, the word gets tossed around so much that it's lost a lot of it's significance. My friend, and guest today, Andy Frisella, joins me to talk about what success is and isn't, the struggles motivated and ambitous men face, his new children's book, and our obligation to teach principles of success to our children as our legacy. ANDY FRISELLA Andy Frisella is an entrepreneur and innovator. At the age of 19, Andy and his business partner, started their first supplement store and his since grown it into a multi-million dollar business. Today their companies, Supplement Superstores, 1st Phorm International, Alpine Sports Products, Carbon Fire Nutrition, Paradise Distribution, and Frisella & Klein Enterprises, sell, manufacture, and distribute fitness, nutrition, and weight loss products exceeding sales in excess of $100 million per year. In 2014, he was awarded Entrepreneur of the Year by Secret Entourage Academy which is the world's leading online community of entrepreneurs. His podcast, The MFCO, consistently ranks in the top 50 of all business podcasts and top 15 in the marketing and management category. His Periscope Channel is one of the Top 20 most popular accounts in the entire world. Ultimately, he is a world-class motivator. His goal is to help 1 billion people accomplish their goals and dreams. Please leave us a review at http://www.orderofman.com/itunes Shownotes: http://www.orderofman.com/093 Website: http://www.orderofman.com

Today, we talk about Invictus. Most of society believes, or lives life, as if someone or something else is in control. Whether you call it fate or destiny or something else entirely, it's wrong. The problem with believing, or at least adhering to, the notion that you don't have control over your life is that you give away any power you have in doing something about it. Today we talk about 5 excuses you'll need to eliminate from your life and the mindset required to do it. http://www.ordeofman.com/FFN035 Please leave us a rating and review at http://www.orderofman.com/itunes

50 Ironmans in 50 states in 50 days: This is what my guest, James "Iron Cowboy" set out to do. Everyone said it was impossible. Nobody thought it could be done. He disagreed. In 2015, James set out for the impossible and 50 days later completed what he set out to do in the face of overwhemling odds, physical damage, mental exhaustion, and obstacle after obstacle to overcome. Today he shares his journey. JAMES "IRON COWBOY" LAWRENCE James Lawrence is an endurance athlete and Ironman triathlete. He holds two Guinness World Records in 70.3 and 140.6 triathlon racing. In 2012, James shattered the World Record by over 10 races, winning 2 titles and placing 2nd in five others. After 2012, James "Iron Cowboy" Lawrence wanted to test the true limits of his mind and body and wanted people around the world to join him in an effort to raise money for childhood obesity and empower them to take control of their own lives. So, he set out for the unthinkable: 50 Full Distance Courses, 50 Consecutive days, through all 50 States. He'd cover 140.6 miles each and every day, for 50 consecutive days. A 2.4 mile swim, followed by a 112 mile bike ride and then finishing up by covering 26.2 more miles, which is the marathon. In 2015, he completed what everyone else said was impossible. This is his story. Please leave us a review at http://www.orderofman.com/itunes Shownotes: http://www.orderofman.com/092 Website: http://www.orderofman.com

Stocism is the philisophy of focusing on perception, action, and will. Most people have a misconception of what Stoicism actually is - that it ends with thought and contemplation. Stoicism however, is the ability to focus on what you can control and turning that into the action neccesary to propel your life and the lives of those you have an obligation and responsibility for. In this episode, we talk about the three keys to Stoicism and additional resources you'll need to delve into on your journey to become a Stoic Man. http://www.ordeofman.com/FFN034 Please leave us a rating and review at http://www.orderofman.com/itunes

Why do men like to fight and why do we like to watch? These are questions I've asked myself before and ones that we attempt to answer with my guest today Jonathan Gottschall, an English professor with some real-world experience in MMA. Today we talk about the nature of fighting, how fighting has evolved, the role honor plays in combat, and where the desire to make men more civilized comes from. JONATHAN GOTTSCHALL Jonathan Gottshcall is a Distinguished Fellow in the English Department at Washington & Jefferson College. His research at the intersection of science and art has been covered in outlets like The New York Times, Scientific American, The New Yorker, The Atlantic, The Chronicle of Higher Education, Nature, and NPR. Jonathan is also the author of seven books, including The Storytelling Animal, which was a New York Times Editor's Choice Selection and a finalist for the LA Times Book Prize. When he was 39, a cage fighting gym opened across from the English Department. He asked myself, "What would Hemingway do?" The answer is in his latest book, The Professor in the Cage: Why Men Fight and Why We Like to Watch. Please leave us a review at http://www.orderofman.com/itunes Shownotes: http://www.orderofman.com/091 Website: http://www.orderofman.com