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There seems to be this strange shift in society today where we, collectively, have begun to give more credit to children than they deserve. Historically, adults have made the decisions and been the influential party in the direction of relevant culture and policy. Now, in some sort of weird, reality version of Lord of the Flies, we've begun to allow our children to dictate the tone of the conversation and set the framework for some very serious issues all of us will be impacted by. Now, before I get into what I'm going to share with you today, allow me to explain a couple things, a disclaimer if you will. First, I do not believe children should make the rules or set the tone of adult conversations. This does not mean I don't care about our kids or have empathy and/or compassion for their perspectives and experiences. Second, some of our children are very intelligent. There's no denying that. Still, they lack the life experience required to fully understand the ramifications of their limited experience. Third, I am not of the mindset that children should be seen and not heard. I listen to my children (and the children in my community I have a responsibility for) every day. That said, I as the adult, make the decisions. www.orderofman.com/FFN101 Please leave us a rating and review!

Today, I talk with Justin Bailey about creating a legacy our children will be proud of, the power of accountability, and why we should all be more intentional about our lives. Please leave us a rating and review: www.orderofman.com/itunes Visit us at www.orderofman.com

Most of us tend to focus on that one big, audacious goal we all have. The problem with that is it may be so far out there or so unrealistic that subconsciously we believe we can't ever achieve it. My guest and friend, Tommy Baker, makes the case for focusing more on the process than the result. In fact, in his new book, he teaches how to fall in love with the process and achieve our wildest dreams. Today, we talk about overcoming the law of diminishing returns, how to effectively set goals, the greatest myths of achievement, and how to harness the power of the 1% rule. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS How to fall in love with the process as opposed to the end result Overcoming the law of diminishing returns How to effectively set goals Why focusing on the "how" is critical Developing and exercising faith The myths of achievement The power of a why, vision, purpose, and mission The 3-step code for achieving more Why auditing your life and implementing "auto-deletion" is so powerful How focusing on death helps you live better The truth about massive expectations and unrealistic goals TOMMY BAKER Gents, my guest today is return guest, Mr. Tommy Baker. He's been on the show once before but has since written a new book and I knew, based on feedback we got from our previous conversation, we needed to have him back on. If you haven't listened to the first episode, you'll soon hear why Tommy and I get along so well. His energy is second to none and his enthusiasm and engagement with life are infectious. He is the founder of the Resist Average Academy and podcast and has a passion for helping people achieve more in every single area of their lives. Originally, a fitness coach, he's since expanded his own capacity for growth and expansion and is more focused now on helping people get their mindset right. His first book is called Unresolution and the follow up is what you'll hear all about today, called The 1% Rule. Please leave us a review at http://orderofman.com/itunes Shownotes: http://orderofman.com/158 Website: http://orderofman.com

Take a look around and I think you'll agree with me that there seems to be more and more men who are shirking their responsibilities as men. It's easy to understand why. It's always harder (at least initially) to accept responsibility. If you do, it means you'll actually have to exert yourself. You'll have to go into the office a little earlier. You'll have to stay a little later. You'll miss the latest season of Game of Thrones (or whatever series happens to be on right now). It means you'll have to volunteer to help a neighbor in need. Or serve in your church or community. It means you'll have to put your own hobby on hold and help your child with his or her homework. It means that the hunting trip will have to wait because your business or family needs your attention. Of course, when I put it that way, no sane human being would want to accept more responsibility. So, what do we do instead? We complain about rights and entitlements. It's pathetic. "It's my right to free health insurance." "It's my right to a good job." "I'm entitled to my wife's support." "My boss owes me a promotion." "That company has to serve me the way I want to be served." It's selfish. It's weak. And, most importantly, it's a detriment to yourself and society as a whole. What happens when the majority of people begin to demand "rights" without a willingness to accept responsibility for securing those rights? I think we all know the answer to that question. And, just in case you don't, the answer is, "it collapses." www.orderofman.com/FFN100 Please leave us a rating and review!

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I went on my first hunt just last year and I can tell you that it was one of the most rewarding experiences I've ever had. I have another trip planned in a couple weeks and I already know it's going to push me and expand me in new ways as a man. Although I wouldn't call myself a hunter just yet, I am learning and inspired by men like my friend and guest today, Adam Greentree. He's been hunting in Australia for most of his life and I really wanted to get his perspective because it's one we just don't hear a lot. Today, we talk about why adventure is so important in the lives of men, developing an open mind to new ideas and experiences, knowing what battles to fight and when to make a stand, and how hunting can make you a better man. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS • How hunting makes you a better man • The value of hunting on the pursuit of mastery • How to overcome challenges, obstacles, hurdles • Why adventure is so important in the lives of men • Developing an open mind to new ideas and experiences • How hunting helped Adam create a "new awakening" for himself • Knowing what battles to fight and when to make a stand • The conservation efforts lead by hunters • The critical importance of providing for your family • How hunting can make you more passionate and appreciative of life • Dealing with hate and criticism ADAM GREENTREE Gentlemen, today I have the honor of introducing you to my friend, Mr. Adam Greentree. Adam is an avid bowhunter from Australia, he's the host of the Bowhunter's Life Podcast, and is someone I admire and respect for his dedication to his craft and his quest for mastery when it comes to all things bowhunting. I've learned so much from this guy in such a short period of time and he's inspired me to live a life of more adventure and to pick up a bow and see what the fuss is all about for myself. I'm also blown away with his hunting schedule. The amount of hunts this guy participates in is unreal. And, how he does it and the adventures he takes part of will definitely inspire you to tap back into your primal roots. Please leave us a review at http://orderofman.com/itunes Shownotes: http://orderofman.com/157 Website: http://orderofman.com

Today, I thought I'd pull back the curtain and share with you a little bit about the process of writing a book. I've received a lot of messages since we published, Sovereignty: The Battle for the Hearts and Minds of Men about what it took to write the book, the challenges, the victories, the things I did well, and the things I didn't do so well in making this book available to you. Let's face it, writing a book isn't an easy process. It's a painstakingly slow journey that really causes you to question your own sanity. Sometimes you run across days you feel 100% committed and, other days, you want to quit and throw in the towel. So, since I've received so many questions about the process, I figured I'd give you some insight and you can decide from there if writing a book is something you want to take part it. We'll cover the reason you need a strong "why," the actual process (including the tools I used), the timeline you should follow, what format to publish in, and whether you should find a publisher or self-publish. www.orderofman.com/FFN099 Please leave us a rating and review!

Today on In the Trenches, I interview Chis Gachko about his challenges and victories in improving his marriage, starting a family, and launching a new business. Please leave us a rating and review: www.orderofman.com/itunes Visit us at www.orderofman.com

One year ago, I had my good friend, Jordan Harbinger on the show to talk about building social capital. Today, he's back on the show to talk about calling in that social capital. Through a series of unfortunate events with his business, he's had to reach out to his network, connections, and friends and request help in building a new business from the ground up. Without his work in building a strong network in the past, Jordan admits he'd be in a much worse position today. In this episode, we talk about why keeping score in relationships is a bad idea, how to get over asking people for help, something Jordan calls "systematic network maintenance," and how to call in your social capital. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS Why keeping score in relationships is a bad idea How to build a network without the expectation of anything in return Why people choose to follow certain people How to maintain consistent contact with your network How to get over asking people for help Getting comfortable with helping others Getting comfortable with asking help from others The strategy of "opportunistic network maintenance" The strategy of "systematic network maintenance" How to use content management systems to enhance your social capital Specific strategies for building out and asking for help from your network JORDAN HARBINGER Today, I have the privilege of introducing you to my friend, yet again, Jordan Harbinger. This is his third visit on the show and every single conversation with him has been packed with value and wisdom. Jordan reached out to me a month or so ago after having left his previous business, The Art of Charm, to inform me that he was striking out on his own. I know a lot of you are familiar with that company and probably follow it as well. You probably also know that Jordan had a falling out with the other founders and found himself needed to tap into his social capital, which he's been building for years. The thing that impresses me most about Jordan is that it is apparent he applies what he teaches and, as much as I wish we were having this conversation under different circumstances, in this conversation you'll hear exactly how he's going to crush his new business venture using the skills, tools, and strategies he's been teaching for more than a decade in the business. Please leave us a review at http://orderofman.com/itunes Shownotes: http://orderofman.com/156 Website: http://orderofman.com

There are two types of people in this world: makers and takers. The reality is that we've all been a bit of both in our lives. But I think more and more I'm seeing the pendulum switch in society from most of us being makers to most of us being takers. It's not sustainable. It's not healthy. And, frankly, it's not manly. So today, I thought I'd share why being a maker is not only your job as a man but it's much more profitable and fulfilling way to live. And, I'll also share five very practical tips/mindsets for turning yourself into more of a maker. www.orderofman.com/FFN098 Please leave us a rating and review!