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One of the most common challenges I see men face is their inability to overcome being too nice. Don't get me wrong, being nice is great but when it comes at the expense of your own well-being, it becomes a problem. Today, I am joined by psychologist, Dr. Aziz Gazipura, to talk about the pitfalls of being too nice. We cover the "guilt bubble" and how to get out of it, the costs of being overly nice, learning to speak up and develop healthy boundaries, and how to stop being so nice. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS What does it mean to be "nice" How being overly nice is self-sabotaging What the "guilt bubble" is and how to get out of it The costs of being too nice How to liberate yourself How to establish healthy boundaries Learning to speak up Why being selfish is not always a bad thing How to choose and communicate your rules Strategies for improving your ability to say "no" How to care about others without jeopardizing yourself How to increase your discomfort tolerance How to "own your shadows" How to develop more assertiveness DR. AZIZ GAZIPURA Dr. Aziz is a clinical psychologist and one of the world's leading experts on social confidence. In 2011, Dr. Aziz started The Center For Social Confidence, which is dedicated to helping everyone break through their shyness and social anxiety. He has helped thousands of people all over the world increase their confidence. Through confidence coaching, audio and video programs, podcasts, a detailed blog, and intensive weekend workshops, Dr. Aziz lives out his mission: To help every person who is stuck in shyness liberate themselves to pursue the relationship, career, and life they have always dreamed of. Most recently, he wrote a book titled, Not Nice: Stop Pleasing People, Staying Silent, and Feeling Guilty, which is what he's here to talk with us about today. Please leave us a review at https://orderofman.com/itunes Shownotes: https://orderofman.com/189 Website: https://orderofman.com

Today, Kipp Sorensen and I talk about some deeper and more serious issues than we've addressed in the past like the myth of "Toxic Masculinity," addressing false rape allegations, current trends in society that impact both men and women, and, on a not-so-serious note, whether Batman is a superhero or not. These questions come from our Patreon members, Iron Council brothers, and Facebook group members. Please leave us a rating and review! www.orderofman.com

Each and every one of us has a desire to strengthen our bodies and minds. Why is it then that so many men struggle when it comes to the training they know will improve every area of their lives? This is a question my guest, Bobby Maximus, has been answering for his training clients for years and helping them bridge the gap between where they are now and where they want to be. Today, we talk about the psychology of training, how to eliminate the excuses that creep in, why you should reframe "self-improvement" as "self-work," and how to harden the body and mind. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS The psychology of training Developing a strong self-image Eliminate excuses How to train for life How to sift through the noise and garbage Reframing self-improvement as self-work How to build in accountability How to know if your why is strong enough Balancing internal and external growth How to eliminate your doubts What is "green dot therapy" 10 words that will ruin your life How to kill your self-governor Why you should document your progress BOBBY MAXIMUS I've been looking forward to introducing you to my guest, Bobby Maximus, for some time now. Bobby has been in the fitness and health industry for more than a decade and served as the General Manager, Training Director and Lead Seminar Instructor at Gym Jones. He was also named as Men's Health's 100 Fittest Men of All Time. In addition to that, he is a former police officer for the Toronto Police Service, a former UFC fighter, and holds a bachelor's degree in psychology, English, and education. Needless to say, this is a man who understands the body and mind in a way not many people do and I couldn't be more excited to talk with him about hardening and strengthening both. Please leave us a review at https://orderofman.com/itunes Shownotes: https://orderofman.com/188 Website: https://orderofman.com

Each and every one of us is likely to face catastrophic events and circumstances in our lives. We can retreat and wallow in our own self-pity or find a way to rise from the ashes. Here's a system for the latter. www.orderofman.com/FFN130 Please leave us a rating and review!

In this Ask Me Anything, Kipp Sorensen and answer questions about optimizing your day, developing and maintaining discipline, overcoming resistance, how to prioritize activities, and so much more. These questions come from our Patreon members, Iron Council brothers, and Facebook group members. Please leave us a rating and review! www.orderofman.com

It's not a surprise to you that there is so much noise and nonsense that attempts to engage our focus and keep us distracted from the things that truly matter. And, if you're one of the few men who has actually taken the time to identify what you really want, that doesn't necessarily make things any easier. Today, I am joined by former Navy SEAL and a lead instructor with Echelon Front, JP Dinnell. We talk about the importance of consistency towards your goals, why flexibility in training is critical, how to eliminate the things that keep your from meaning and significance, and living life on your terms. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS The importance of consistency towards your goals Why discipline is a foundational principle of growth Why flexibility in training is critical How to own both problems and solutions How to drill down to the core reasoning of your work How to best honor the fallen and their sacrifices Transitioning out of the service 3 factors that break down a marriage Choosing to take the harder route How to overcome feelings of hate and hostility How to avoid making certain situations worse Why it's critical we model masculine behavior for our boys and girls JP DINNELL Guys, as you know, we've had just about the entire Echelon Front team on over the past month or so and I couldn't be more excited to introduce you to one of their lead instructors and my friend, JP Dinnell. He spent nearly a decade with the SEAL teams and served in three combat deployments, his most recent with Task Unit Bruiser in Ramadi under the command of Jocko Willink. There he served as point man, machine gunner and lead sniper for Delta Platoon opposite of Chris Kyle. Upon return from Iraq, helped rebuild and enhance the SEAL training programs into the highly effective programs they are today. Since then, he has become a lead instructor with Echelon Front helping leaders and communities enhance their organizations and companies. Please leave us a review at https://orderofman.com/itunes Shownotes: https://orderofman.com/187 Website: https://orderofman.com

It's likely in the not-so-distant-past you've allowed your emotions to get the better of you. It's easy to do so in the heat of the moment. We've all been there. Today, I share a very effective 5-step formula for owning your emotions more effectively. www.orderofman.com Please leave us a rating and review!

In this Ask Me Anything, Kipp Sorensen and answer questions about overcoming past wrongdoings, finding male friends, the difference between ego and pride, and whether or not we should care about what people think of us. These questions come from our Patreon members, Iron Council brothers, and Facebook group members. Please leave us a rating and review! www.orderofman.com

So many men believe that the terms purpose and profit are mutually exclusive - that for one to exist, the other can't. That just isn't the case. In fact, when you learn to align your purpose and passion with the ability to make a profit, you have a greater ability to impact the world in a positive way. Today, I am joined by the founder of Black Rifle Coffee Company, Evan Hafer, to talk about how he's managed to build such a successful business around what was simply a passion project. We talk about the power of utilizing new media for marketing, finding and speaking to your tribe, sacrificing ego on the altar of business, and how to align purpose, passion, and profit. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS How Evan went from firearms to roasting How Black Rifle Coffee Company makes and utilizes viral videos Why interactive marketing is crucial to a business' success Evan's view on the competition Defining "great marketing" Discovering, developing, and speaking to your tribe Giving birth to a new you Identifying and letting go of false expectations Why you have to sacrifice your ego on the altar of business Why radical transparency is crucial How to effectively add people into your ecosystem Why businesses should be less concerned with political correctness How to recruit new employees effectively Why you need to differentiate between individuals and the company Finding and securing funding for your project EVAN HAFER My guest today is Evan Hafer and although you may not know his name, most of you listening are familiar with his company, Black Rifle Coffee Company. He is a former member of the Special Forces and between his multiple combat deployments, he spent time honing his firearm and roasting skills. When Evan left the service in 2015, he learned how to market and turn his second passion for roasting coffee into not only a fulltime business but a global coffee company that is recognized for their viral irreverent videos and marketing campaigns, and their incredible coffee. Now, I will be the first to tell you that I don't drink coffee myself but when given the chance to connect with Evan, I couldn't pass him up as he's clearly on to something when it comes to building a movement and working to employ our nation's veterans. Please leave us a review at https://orderofman.com/itunes Shownotes: https://orderofman.com/186 Website: https://orderofman.com

Every man should live by a code, an operating system by which we will live his life. Without one, it's easy to get lost in the moment and conduct ourselves in a way that's incongruent with the way we view who we are. Today, I talk about why a code is important, what should be included in your code, and how to write your own. www.orderofman.com/FFN128 Please leave us a rating and review!