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There’s new research saying that women who use dating apps are more likely to get cosmetic procedures. So how are you feeling about getting work done and dating?? We hear from you about whether it’s affecting your body image, your partners, and your experience on the apps.SHOW NOTES:Research on dating apps and cosmetic procedureshttps://www.unisa.edu.au/media-centre/Releases/2025/swipe-style-surgery-why-dating-apps-are-fuelling-cosmetic-procedures/SBS - Sasha Kutabah Sarago chats on Eurocentric beauty standardshttps://www.sbs.com.au/audio/podcast-episode/sasha-kutabah-sarago-chats-about-challenging-eurocentric-beauty-standards/u5vrg5m0jDM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.auThe Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Recently we did an ep on post nut clarity and 50% of you said you felt shame, disgust or embarrassment after orgasming.So in this ep, sex therapist Aleks Trkulja chats to Dee about why it’s so common and how to work through those feelings. SHOW NOTES:Post Nut Clarity vodcastDM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.auThe Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Have you ever finished and had a massive realisation about your life, a partner, your sexuality? Maybe you find energy, peace and creativity? Or do you get hit with a wave of shame, disgust, and anxiety?  We find out what happens when you cum to your senses and experience post nut clarity.DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.auThe Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

In our last ep we spoke about game playing in dating - things like playing hard to get, posting thirst traps, not double texting, withholding sex for the 5th date etc. 86% of you said you don’t do it, but what does the research show? And is ‘game playing’ as problematic as you said?Dee chats to psychology and relationship researcher Dr Beatrice Alba to find out. DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.auThe Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

The hosts dive into the quirky and often absurd games people play in dating, from never double texting to posting thirst traps. They reflect on how these tactics can confuse emotions and complicate relationships. Trust and vulnerability are explored, especially how past experiences influence dating approaches. The conversation emphasizes the importance of clear communication and emotional honesty, advocating for genuine connections over mind games. Listeners are encouraged to rethink the dynamics of love and dating in today's world.

Mardi Gras celebrations kick off in Australia this weekend - so whether it’s the parade, hooking up at after-parties, or finding your people - here’s everything you need to know about the LGBTQIA+ protest/celebration with author and psychologist Dr Chris Cheers. SHOW NOTES:Sydney Mardi Gras detailsDM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.auThe Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Have you ever set your friends up on a date? 89% of you would rather meet people this way than use dating apps, but there are some rules you gotta know before you play matchmaker. We hear your stories, advice and tips for setting up mates.DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.auThe Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Dr Zac Seidler, clinical psychologist and men's mental health researcher, explores why many men are drifting conservative. He discusses cultural shifts, social media echo chambers, loneliness and the search for purpose. Short, practical ideas on rebuilding belonging and healthier male communities are also covered.

They unpack research showing a growing political split between young men and women and how that shapes dating choices. Listeners recount hidden beliefs and ‘wokefishing’ leading to mistrust. The conversation examines algorithms pushing polarising content and mixed messages about masculinity. They explore singlehood trends, family formation worries, and practical ways to bridge the divide.

Lucille Shackleton, a relationship therapist and sexologist known for her book 'All In', shares insights on healthy conflict in relationships. She dispels the myth that arguing is a sign of trouble, revealing that respectful disagreements can enhance intimacy. Lucille discusses the importance of 'clean fights', effective communication, and emotional validation. She highlights how accountability and understanding different repair styles can lead to constructive resolutions. Ultimately, she encourages self-awareness and emotional regulation for lasting relationship harmony.