Live Inspired Podcast with John O'Leary

"Today we're going to talk about the power of one. One individual. One action. One impact." The truth that one person can absolutely change the word is one I learned from my burn team when I was in the hospital. Today I am going to share one example of this truth. After being burned on 100% of my body, I wasn't expected to survive much less walk. But, Roy taught me to do exactly that; walk and SO much more. On today's episode, I share the story of Nurse Roy; a story I used to share from the stage but don't often get the chance to today. It's amazing and I am certain it will help you to see even more clearly the impact you are having in the lives of others everyday. SHOW NOTES: Forget fear, let's talk about love. Love is the starting point. Realize that your life matters. "When you know your why, you can endure any how." From Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl Instead of listening in fear, tune in with love. If you do your job, no matter what it is, with purpose and passion: You'll do something bigger than yourself; touch more lives than you could ever know. What wires are holding you down today? Who helped you get released from wires holding you down in the past? Have you let him / her know? Who are you walking with today? Your best days are in front of you. In spite of difficulty, you have incredible opportunities in front of you. See John's surprise reunion with nurse roy here. (Photo below.) *** If you enjoyed today's episode: Subscribe (automatically get new episodes), rate & review (help spread the word!) this podcast wherever you get your podcasts. I can't wait to see you here next Thursday! Today is your day. Live Inspired. Live Inspired with John everyday on Facebook, Twitter, YouTube, LinkedIn, Pinterest and get his Monday Motivation email: www.JohnOLearyInspires.com/Monday-Morning

"There's always good that can come from the bad." Cohost of the nationally syndicated Bobby Bones Show and host of Love What Matters Podcast: Amy Brown is a ray of sunshine as she shares vulnerably with us about her life. From her father walking out on her family to her mother dying of cancer: Amy is a shining example of finding blessings in all of life's experiences. SHOW NOTES: Her dad leaving was a devastating experience that ultimately transformed her life in a positive way. "There's always good that can come from the bad." "My mom was an example of hard work while still making time for me and my sister. Every morning before work, she and her friends gathered at our house and prayed for us. That's a really cool memory for me." "Sometimes you have to be patient to see the blessings that will come from a bad experience." "My mom never spoke ill of my dad. That was so important." As a radio host, when Amy's mom was diagnosed with breast cancer, her audience knew and was interested in the journey. They started #PimpinJoy movement to celebrate how they all live with joy; her mom's motto was "I'm going to choose joy." When her mom was diagnosed for the 3rd time, she said: 'Lord, I won't pray for you to take it away, use it for good.' Walker Hayes wrote Joy Like Judy. Check out the video here. You can get #PimpingJoy gear here - a portion of the proceeds will be donated to the St. Judes or City of Hope. Listen to Amy's Love What Matters Podcast here. AMY BROWN'S LIVE INSPIRED 7 1. What is the best book you've ever read? Interrupted and Seven both by Jen HatMaker. They changed my perspective on life in general. Sometimes as Christians we can get too legalistic on things and be too much about what we are against instead of what we are FOR. Her books helped me dig a little deeper and have my faith interrupted. If you feel like you are just going through the motions, read these books to get a way to love the world better. 2. Tomorrow you discover your wealthy uncle shockingly dies at the age of 103; leaving you millions. What would you do? Build a new orphanage in Haiti. 3. Your house is on fire, all living things and people are out. You have the opportunity to run in and grab one item. What would it be? My computer. 4. You are sitting on a bench overlooking a gorgeous beach. You have the opportunity to have a long conversation with anyone living or dead. Who would it be? Robin Roberts. I've always been inspired by her as a female in broadcasting and her journey with cancer and breaking barriers for black women. My kids are Haitian, they are black, so I want them to have role models like her. 5. What is the best advice you've ever received? Choose joy. From my mom. I've learned the difference between happiness and joy in the last few years and how to choose it. Be joyful but also live in and recgonize the hard times so you don't miss the opportunity to learn and grow from them. 6. Looking back, what advice would you give yourself at age 20? It's okay that he dumped you. Don't let yourself be defined by something else. Work on yourself. Don't worry about what everyone else wants or needs you to be. 7. It's been said that all great people can have their lives summed up in one sentence. How do you want yours to read? Choose joy. Have hope. *** If you enjoyed today's episode: Subscribe (automatically get new episodes), rate & review (help spread the word!) this podcast wherever you get your podcasts. I can't wait to see you here next Thursday! Today is your day. Live Inspired. Live Inspired with John everyday on Facebook, Twitter, YouTube, LinkedIn, Pinterest and get his Monday Motivation email: www.JohnOLearyInspires.com/Monday-Morning

"If you're patient, you'll move past obstacles." Today I am honored to share with you a man who has profoundly inspired me. Koran Bolden is a speaker, author + voice in urban education and arts. He committed to breaking the cycle of growing up in a fatherless home. He overcame the grief of losing his brother to gun violence. His smile can be felt in every word he speaks... and he is about to give you an amazing analogy so you can pivot into your most inspired life. My friends, Koran Bolden: SHOW NOTES: I lost my brother to gun violence. After, it was hard to focus because I lost my father figure and I didn't know how to grieve. "I can't change your past, but if you're open to change I can show you how to be successful in life," Koran's counselor, Martha Christmas If you're patient enough with yourself, you can move past your obstacles. Order Koran's book: Rock, Paper, Scissors Rock, Paper, Scissors: 3 step analogy to pivot in life Rock - Believe Paper - Set goals on paper Scissors - Cut away distractions in your life I started off with paper. Through writing music I was able to express how I wanted my life to become and as I spoke those words, they began to manifest / my life changed over time. Mentors: You're not planting a rose garden, you're planting an apple tree. It will have years of fruit. At the beginning there are no branches: Envision the fruit to come; don't cut down the tree. "The journey" of life builds character, resilience and preparation that you'll need in the next block of life. "I wish someone had the vision to tell me what I could be instead of telling me repeatedly what I was not." Mentors: Remember to build a relationship before you give information. Mentors: Ask questions even if you aren't interested in the answers. People tell kids what to do; but you make them feel like they have a voice/that it matters. If you don't, you will have a disconnected kid looking down at a phone. Even if you quit, as long as you still have breath in your life you have an opportunity to go back and fix things. KORAN BOLDEN'S LIVE INSPIRED 7 1. What is the best book you've ever read? The Bible, it has transformed my life in every way. Think and Grow Rich, Napolean Hill. 2. Tomorrow you discover your wealthy uncle shockingly dies at the age of 103; leaving you millions. What would you do? Take care of my immediate family. Start my own school with an emphasis on life choices and financial literacy. 3. Your house is on fire, all living things and people are out. You have the opportunity to run in and grab one item. What would it be? My high school diploma. Even if you quit, as long as you still have breath in your life, you still have an opportunity to go back and fix things. 4. You are sitting on a bench overlooking a gorgeous beach. You have the opportunity to have a long conversation with anyone living or dead. Who would it be? Barrack Obama. 5. What is the best advice you've ever received? Be patient. It's hard in the microwave generation but the tortoise and the hare is still true. 6. Looking back, what advice would you give yourself at age 20? Dream big and walk along side people who dream big right along with you. 7. It's been said that all great people can have their lives summed up in one sentence. How do you want yours to read? Resilient, radiant, relevant. *** If you enjoyed today's episode: Subscribe (automatically get new episodes), rate & review (help spread the word!) this podcast anywhere you get your podcasts. I can't wait to see you here next Thursday! Today is your day. Live Inspired. Live Inspired with John everyday on Facebook, Twitter, YouTube, LinkedIn, Pinterest and get his Monday Motivation email: www.JohnOLearyInspires.com/Monday-Morning

"Busy isn't productive. Your 'to do list' isn't most important. The list of commitments you actually honor is." Today I get to introduce you to the business coach who I began working with 10 years ago when I transitioned from real estate + construction into speaking + writing. Edie Varley has an undeniable energy that will absolutely captivate you. Get ready to recalibrate what is truly important in your life, relationships and business from my business coach and friend. SHOW NOTES: Be your best; not the best, your best. Because with that mindset, you are improving. You never have to apologize at your best. It means you've prepared, planned and executed. Live up to the fullness of your promise. Busy isn't productive. It isn't the 'to do' list that is important. It's the list of commitments that you actually honor. The root of all conflict is unmet expectations. Rarely do we ask, "What do you expect in this relationship?" But we should, so we can agree to it. Whats so horrible about your mind being changed? When you love yourself, you can love others where they are. If I could offer a prescription: Be quiet. Listen. Focus on the good. Look for the good and report it repeatedly. Repetition is the father of knowledge. Ask: What is the best thing that happened to you today? There is no energy in "Have to" use "Want to." Ex. I want to pick my kids up, turn off the radio, get off the phone, listen. People share a lot when they feel safe. Be present, quiet to allow this. Do I leave people more energized or ill-will and a broken spirit? What is the metric for a relationship? Love is the cornerstone. It's a verb. It's what we do for others. That then leads to the emotion. When you love yourself, you're able to love others in the season they're in. You accept no responsibility for their choices. THAT is a freedom. Where are you going in such a hurry? Are you living in purpose? Is your measurement your neighbor? If you don't like the life you have chosen and are living: Do the hardest thing in the world and change. In golf you have a bad shot and you replay it again to learn what went wrong. It's the same when something goes wrong in a relationship; it allows you to take control and not be a pawn on someone else's gameboard. What is your behavior looking like? What are your words? Words create worlds. EDIE VARLEY'S LIVE INSPIRED 7 1. What is the best book you've ever read? Anatomy of the Spirit, Dr. Caroline Myss, PhD. 2. Tomorrow you discover your wealthy uncle shockingly dies at the age of 103; leaving you millions. What would you do? Find some legitimate homes for it, my means are met. 3. Your house is on fire, all living things and people are out. You have the opportunity to run in and grab one item. What would it be? Nothing. They are things, they've brought me joy, but if they go up in smoke, that's okay. 4. You are sitting on a bench overlooking a gorgeous beach. You have the opportunity to have a long conversation with anyone living or dead. Who would it be? I'd like to meet Jesus and see how he's seeing that view. 5. What is the best advice you've ever received? Be at your best. You're expected to live up to the fullness of the promise God has for you. 6. Looking back, what advice would you give yourself at age 20? Strap on, you'r going to have the ride of a lifetime. 7. It's been said that all great people can have their lives summed up in one sentence. How do you want yours to read? I am blessed. *** If you enjoyed today's episode: Subscribe (automatically get new episodes), rate & review (help spread the word!) this podcast anywhere you get your podcasts. I can't wait to see you here next Thursday! Today is your day. Live Inspired. Live Inspired with John everyday on Facebook, Twitter, YouTube, LinkedIn, Pinterest and get his Monday Motivation email: www.JohnOLearyInspires.com/Monday-Morning

"The most important thing you'll do for your relationships is what you do for yourself." Our guest today is a co-creator of eHarmony, psychologist, professor, author, husband and father, Les Parrott. When I shared a stage with Les at the Dave Ramsey SMART Conference, I was blown away by his wisdom. He's shared his expertise with Oprah, Barbara Walters and Tom Brokaw... and today he will share it with us. My friends, are you ready to improve your relationships with these amazing insights on sustaining life-long love? Here we go! SHOW NOTES: Fight Night - the event Les and Leslie (his wife) host where couples talk about their conflict and how to leverage it to bring them closer together. Saving Your Marriage before It Starts is their most popular book. We aren't entitled and don't always get what we feel we deserve - so we must learn how to adjust to the things beyond our control. Have you faced marriage myths with honesty? Ex: This person should make me whole. We're set up for heartache; nobody can complete us. The most important thing you'll do for your relationships is what you do for yourself. If you try to bulid intimacy with someone before you have done the work of getting whole on your own, your relationship will become an attempt to complete yourself. Your relationships can only be as healthy as you are. A few things you can do to become a little more whole: Embrace your significance. Can feel deep down that you have a purpose on this planet? Unswerving authenticity. Are you following your path regardless of what anyone says? Self-giving love. Realizing others needs are different than yours. There are three kinds of fights: Bad fights - tear us apart / rip away the fabric of our relationships Dumb fights - have no purpose / are silly Good fights - bring us closer together Don't avoid conflict, turn the fight into a good fight. You make them "bad" or "good" by the choices you make / context within the fight. Empathy is the single skill that will change your relationship the most. Conflicts dissipate when you see conflict from their side and they see it from yours. Try to accurately see the world from their perspective. Empathy has two components, your head and heart. Sympathize with your heart, analyze with your head. We typically do one well, recognize which one you struggle with and make yourself do it, too. Take Les's Deep Love Assessment: Partners answer a series of questions separately and instantly get a private, custom road map for lifelong love. LES PARROTT'S LIVE INSPIRED 7 1. What is the best book you've ever read? Either Emotional Intelligence, by Daniel Goleman or Learned Optimism by Martin Seligman. 2. Tomorrow you discover your wealthy uncle shockingly dies at the age of 103; leaving you millions. What would you do? I'd establish, on college campuses, centers for healthy relationships to give education to a whole new generation. We'd see divorce rate drop dramatically - and when you lower the divorce rate, it positively impacts rates of education, wealth, etc. 3. Your house is on fire, all living things and people are out. You have the opportunity to run in and grab one item. What would it be? My laptop. 4. You are sitting on a bench overlooking a gorgeous beach. You have the opportunity to have a long conversation with anyone living or dead. Who would it be? My wife Leslie, she loves the beach. I love that she loves the beach and we've had some of our greatest talks there. 5. What is the best advice you've ever received? Master the capacity to adjust to things beyond your control. Life is unfair. 6. Looking back, what advice would you give yourself at age 20? Relax. Slow down a bit. It's going to be okay. 7. It's been said that all great people can have their lives summed up in one sentence. How do you want yours to read? A man who loved his family with all his heart. *** If you enjoyed today's episode: Subscribe (automatically get new episodes), rate & review (help spread the word!) this podcast anywhere you get your podcasts. I can't wait to see you here next Thursday! Today is your day. Live Inspired. Live Inspired with John everyday on Facebook, Twitter, YouTube, LinkedIn, Pinterest and get his Monday Motivation email: www.JohnOLearyInspires.com/Monday-Morning

You can control and resist life or you can dive in. Let's take the wise words from season 3 guest Christine Hassler and: DIVE IN together. It's our day to LIVE INSPIRED! The guests on our show are ordinary people doing extraordinary things on purpose. On this episode, we'll celebrate the best insights from each Season 3 guest AND how it will impact the inspired life you're living. After just 3 seasons, we've got 400,000 downloads! Which means more lives are being touched and more people are living inspired with us. Thanks for being part of this Live Inspired movement and for sharing it with your friends. Subscribe for Season 4 wherever you get your podcasts! Also, get inspiration and updates from me via email: JohnOLearyInspires.com/mondaymotivation SHOW NOTES: Brian Vander Ark, lead singer of The Verve Pipe: When asked if he gets sick of playing his 90s hit song The Freshman, he responded: "How can you get sick of playing a song that brings SO much joy to so many people?" Chris Hogan, author, radio and podcast host, expert on retirement and personal finance and a Dave Ramsey team speaker: "Failure is when you don't accomplish a goal and stop. Realize that in pursuit of your goal, you improve. Even if you don't reach ultimate success you become a better version of yourself in striving for it." Andy Andrews, from homeless to bestselling author of the Traveller's Gift: "Quitting is a habit and there's no penalty for quitting today. But when you persist without exception, there's something in that; you figure out a way; the next best thing and its lasting." Christine Hassler, author, podcaster, life coach and counselor: "You can control and resist life or you can dive in." In a time of "information overload" Christine's interview will share how to leverage + apply new information to change old habits. Janine Shepherd, Australian National Championship Skier, huge overcomer, speaker and author: "The gift of rock bottom is that there is no where to hide. It shows you not who you are, but who you are not." Bill Courtney, coach whose story was told in the epic Oscar-Winning Documentary UNDEFEATED, "Every day is an opportunity to get it right." Laila Ali, fitness & wellness guru, author, undefeated 4-time boxing champion, Dancing with the Stars and Chopped star and daughter of Muhammad Ali: "Being a powerhouse doesn't mean you don't make mistakes or have moments of weakness. We all face those things, but it's about having the courage to keep going." Lolly Daskal, business coach and author: Lolly shared how growing up in small, Yiddish-speaking community in New York City helped her to realize we must "lead from within." Don't miss Lolly's 2 simple tools to overcome self doubt or what is often called "imposter syndrome." Captain Charlie Plumb, former Navy fighter pilot, POW, speaker and author: We shared this interview just in time for Memorial Day and it has been one of our most popular episodes to date. Don't miss Charlie's lessons on on purpose, love and sacrifice. Jack Buck, my hero, Hall of Fame Announcer, my most popular story that I share on stage at speaking events is the story of how Jack Buck change my life through asking the simple question: "What more can I do?" and then taking action. In this episode, I share that story so you can hear it -- again for some of you and for the first time for others. Enjoy! 400,000 have chosen to wake up and live inspired with us through the Live Inspired Podcast. Wow! Season 3 - was it good for you? It was awesome for me! It was a blast to have these men and women in studio. Sharing with us their lives, lessons and mistakes what it meant for them and more importantly: What it means for each of us in our inspired lives. Season 4 - is going to be even better. Make sure you are subscribed and ready for the first episode next week! Get my inspiration in your inbox at: JohnOLearyInspires.com/Monday-morning Thanks for being here. Thanks for being part of the movement to live inspired and touch lives along the way. If you ever have questions or ideas - please share them at info@johnolearinspires.com.

"What more can I do?" This epic question is the one I learned from the example of Hall of Fame Announcer Jack Buck. When our paths crossed, we were strangers. I had just been burned on 100% of my body and the doctors had given me less than 1% chance to survive. On today's episode, I share what has become my most requested story to share when I'm speaking at events. It's the story of an unlikely friendship. Hall of Fame Announcer and The "Voice of the Cardinals" Jack Buck absolutely changed my life and hearing it just might change yours. Can't wait to share the story with you again, or for some of you: For the very first time. Enjoy! SHOW NOTES: Think back to a time when you were experiencing a hardship: What might have changed if your hero walked in to help you? Is there someone you know going through a hardship you could step in and be a hero for today? Crying is a sign of great strength. When someone is truly smiling, you can see it in their eyes. Leadership is about meeting people where they are; meeting them in their "why." Motivation is an inside job. Jack believed in me first; I followed. Who do you believe in today? How are you letting him/her know? Love changes us. When we show up as love for others, we change them. Ask yourself: "What more can I do?" And then pause to actually answer it. What is one thing you can do today to change the world from negativity, exclusion, fear and anxiety to one of inclusivity, hope, faithfulness and love? JOHN O'LEARY'S LIVE INSPIRED 7 Since we didn't have a guest to answer the "live inspired 7" this episode, I thought I'd share my answers to this set of questions! You can read my answers on my Parade Magazine article here. *** If you enjoyed today's episode: Subscribe (automatically get new episodes), rate & review (help spread the word!) this podcast anywhere you get your podcasts. I can't wait to see you here next Thursday! Today is your day. Live Inspired. Live Inspired with John everyday on Facebook, Twitter, YouTube, LinkedIn, Pinterest and get his Monday Motivation email: www.JohnOLearyInspires.com/Monday-Morning Find out more about having John speak at your event here.

"We found ourselves in parachutes floating down over enemy territory." Charlie Plumb spent his impoverished yet idyllic childhood in Kansas "kicking cans and playing in the light of the moon." When it was time for college, he won a scholarship and hopped on a Greyhound bus to the military academy in Annapolis. After graduating from the Naval Academy, he immediately married his high school sweet heart and went onto flight training. In 1963 he was in Vietnam and on his 75th mission, his plane was shot down. Charlie says what got him through captivity was his "why" or his purpose -- coming home safely to his bride. Years later when he finally got off enemy soil and called her, she shared that she had filed for divorce and was engaged to another man. Charlie was never bitter. He didn't regret not knowing that his wife had moved on. "I thought, how can I be unhappy? I've just been released from prison. 24/7 I didn't know if I'd be alive [and today I'm free] you can't rain on my parade." Charlie's spirit captivated John and Charlie is one of the reasons John so vulnerably shares his story today. In honor of Memorial Day, it is our honor to share the story of Charlie Plumb, an American Hero. He will inspire you to never take your freedom or life for granted. SHOW NOTES: Charlie learned about forgiveness from his mom and discipline from his dad. Both were qualities he needed to survive the prison camps. Critical to suriving: Keeping your sense of humor Finding a way to communicate with each other. "The importance of the communication wasn't the thought we were passing around it was the validation of another human being. Having faith that there was a purpose to this [being shot down]. Remembering you have a choice. The first few months I was bitter. But I realized I was killing myself by not knowing my purpose. I figured if their was a why, I'd find a way to so survive. Those there longest (POWs) came back with a lower rate of PTSD because great leadership unified us under a mission statement: Return with honor. (Listen here to past podcast guest, Michaela Haas, expert on Post Traumatic Growth.) What was your why/purpose? My bride. I planned our next 20 years on how I'd make it up to her. People ask if I wish I'd known she was going to divorce me. No, planning 20 birthdays, anniversaries, etc. is what got me through. Therapists told me: You gotta get bitter! The longer you wait the more difficult it will be and you'll have a mental break down. My thought process: How can I be unhappy? I've just been released from prison. 24/7 I didn't know if I'd be alive - you can't rain on my parade. I ran into the man who packed my parachute. He said. "I'm not the only parachute packer in your life. Your parents, big sister, little brother, preacher, coaches, they are the ones who allowed you safe descent and passage through those 6.5 years." Who packs your parachute? Whose are you packing? Advice for anyone in-prisoned: Look at the value of challenge. Adversity is a horrible thing to waste. Don't blame other people for your problems, because away goes your opportunity to be better bc of the problem you're facing. Get Charlie's book I'm No Hero here. Learn more about Charlie at www.CharliePlumb.com CHARLIE PLUMB'S LIVE INSPIRED 7 1. What is the best book you've ever read? The Bible, chapter of Job. Unbroken, it epitomizes your philosophy and mine on winning through adversity. 2. Tomorrow you discover your wealthy uncle shockingly dies at the age of 103; leaving you millions. What would you do? Bolder Crest supports vets with PTSD to expand their reach bc they're doing a lot of good for veterans. 3. Your house is on fire, all living things and people are out. You have the opportunity to run in and grab one item. What would it be? A tin cup with holes in it that I brought back from the prison camp. I keep that cup just to remind me of the challenges I face and the value of the challenge. 4. You are sitting on a bench overlooking a gorgeous beach. You have the opportunity to have a long conversation with anyone living or dead. Who would it be? My mother. She endured so much while I was over there, but never placed blame. I never heard her say a bad word about anyone. The longer I live, the more I appreciate her approach to forgiveness. I'd love to talk to her about how to forgive the unforgivable. 5. What is the best advice you've ever received? A coach told me it wasn't the things around me that would change my life, it's the choices you make about the things around you. You can choose to be a loser or a winner or choose to give away that choice. 6. Looking back, what advice would you give yourself at age 20? Believe in a purpose as the highest priority. 7. It's been said that all great people can have their lives summed up in one sentence. How do you want yours to read? He was a servant. *** If you enjoyed today's episode: Subscribe (automatically get new episodes), rate & review (help spread the word!) this podcast anywhere you get your podcasts. I can't wait to see you here next Thursday! Today is your day. Live Inspired. Live Inspired with John everyday on Facebook, Twitter, YouTube, LinkedIn, Pinterest and get his Monday Motivation email: www.JohnOLearyInspires.com/Monday-Morning

"I grew up in New York, in a small place..." Lolly Daskal grew up in Brooklyn, NY. One of the biggest most metropolitan cities in the world, and yet to Lolly "it felt like a very small place." Her life existed within a few city blocks and her community only spoke Yiddish, German and Hungarian. Her family was very religious and she was expected to be married and begin having children by 16. Lolly grew up very inquisitive, which was not supported in an environment where you were expected to just keep things "they way they are." When she first moved out of the community, she discovered the power of books and believed for the first time: "Wow!" I can ask any question, do anything, be anyone!" For the first time - her world felt expansive. While she felt she no longer had a home, she found "sometimes you have to get lost to be found." Lolly has been an insatiable student of books, the world and human behavior since. Today, she is a highly-sought business coach and author and her mission is to teach others how to "lead from within." SHOW NOTES: Lolly has read a book a day for 20+ years. Self discovery isn't easy. You feel like you're on a wheel and you're not sure you are ever going to get out; if it is ever going to get better. "A game changer for me was reading what Joseph Campbell wrote: 'In your abyss lies your treasures.' We have ideas of what we want to be, but life doesn't unfold that way. If I can remember this quote, than I am okay." Her book The Leadership Gap was published this month and shares her rethink system, or 7 leadership archetypes that she's used with 1,000+ clients. Example: "R" is for rebel; someone who wants to make an impact in the world, but they need confidence to do it. The gap is when you don't have confidence. How do you get confidence? You identify your capabilities and competencies. You get to choose, are you going to be a rebel and choose confidence or imposter and feel inadequate/undeserving? We all have self doubt because we measure ourselves by everyone else and end up feeling less worthy. Negative internal dialogue is very prominent. Ways to overcome imposter syndrome (aka feeling undeserving): At night, think about all the things you did well that day. This will help even out negative messages + change your inner dialogue. Ask yourself: What did I do today that I can do even better tomorrow? Don't measure against someone else, measure against yourself www.LollyDaskal.com LOLLY DASKAL'S INSPIRED 7 1. What is the best book you've ever read? Man's Search for Meaning, by Viktor Frankl. She rereads it every year on her birthday. Keeps her grounded in what's important. 2. Tomorrow you discover your wealthy uncle shockingly dies at the age of 103; leaving you millions. What would you do? Get every single homeless person off the street. 3. Your house is on fire, all living things and people are out. You have the opportunity to run in and grab one item. What would it be? 100s of pictures from when my kids were younger. 4. You are sitting on a bench overlooking a gorgeous beach. You have the opportunity to have a long conversation with anyone living or dead. Who would it be?Victor Frankl, Joseph Campbell, 5. What is the best advice you've ever received? "When you are no longer able to change the situation, you will always be challenge to change yourself." - Frankl | It will teach you be flexible to change and challenge yourself, to find something with in you that can be different. Continuously grow, learn, change and stay agile. 6. Looking back, what advice would you give yourself at age 20? Let go of perfect. 7. It's been said that all great people can have their lives summed up in one sentence. How do you want yours to read? Lolly saw greatness in everyone she met. *** If you enjoyed today's episode: Subscribe (automatically get new episodes), rate & review (help spread the word!) this podcast anywhere you get your podcasts. I can't wait to see you here next Thursday! Today is your day. Live Inspired. Live Inspired with John everyday on Facebook, Twitter, YouTube, LinkedIn, Pinterest and get his Monday Motivation email: www.JohnOLearyInspires.com/Monday-Morning

"We need to stop judging each other and thinking we know, because you would never know my story unless I told you." Laila Ali is a fitness & wellness guru, podcaster, author, undefeated 4-time boxing champion, has appeared on Dancing with the Stars and Chopped and is the daughter of Muhammad Ali. Today she shares vulnerably the path to all that she has accomplished in her 39 years - and WOW is it a lot! Laila is one of the most focused, driven and loyal people I've met and you are going to love her story. SHOW NOTES What was it like to grow up the daughter of Muhammad Ali? "That's all I knew! My Dad loved a crowd. There was always a lot of excitement and people. My home was like a public place growing up." My mom taught me how to be consistent through her example. Everyday I saw her working out and eating a plant-based diet. My dad taught me through his 'champion within.' When he got Parkinson's, he was an example of how to live your life with a positive mind and do things you want to do despite illness. It's all about what you have in your mind. He didn't let it stop him mentally. When Muhammad Ali saw his daughter fight, it made him realize it is a women's sport too. "My confidence was off the charts for boxing. It came from my preparation. I got into the ring with every cell in my body knowing 'I am going to win.'" Get her book Reach "I wrote it for girls... to tell them you were put on earth to do a special thing. Be a power house. Don't be embarrassed or hide." Learn how to be you and do not let others define you. I don't care what level you're at economically or in education, people are always concerned about what others think. We sometimes make decisions based on that. Stop doing that and do what's in your heart. You only have one life to live. "We need to stop judging each other and stop thinking we know, because you would never know my story unless I told it to you." You have to make a decision right now to go forward or backward. Things happen in our lives to teach us lessons and get bigger and stronger. Accept it and move on. The more you separate yourself from the people in your life causing you trouble, the better you are going to do. Being a powerhouse doesn't mean you don't make mistakes or have moments when you feel weak. We are all going to face those things, but it's about having the courage to keep going. Everyone has it within them, that's the only difference between myself and others. It's a matter of tapping into your self confidence. You just have to believe for yourself. LAILA ALI'S LIVE INSPIRED 7 1. What is the best book you've ever read? Five Love Languages was so helpful in my marriage and relationships in general to realize people share love differently. 2. Tomorrow you discover your wealthy uncle shockingly dies at the age of 103; leaving you millions. What would you do? Invest into public school systems. I don't like how kids in certain areas don't get a good education. 3. Your house is on fire, all living things and people are out. You have the opportunity to run in and grab one item. What would it be? My hard drive because it has all of my photos and important documents. 4. You are sitting on a bench overlooking a gorgeous beach. You have the opportunity to have a long conversation with anyone living or dead. Who would it be? My father. By the time I had things to talk with him about, he had Parkinson's and couldn't really talk. I'd want to talk with him about parenting and what things in life he would have changed and done differently. I would want to hear from his mouth, was he proud of me? My dad always told people he was proud / liked to make people feel good. I would ask him if he was really proud of me. 5. What is the best advice you've ever received? When people show you who they are, believe them the first time. If you have good discernment and intuition and someone shows you something in a relationship, friendship, business relationship - and you see something is off... They are showing their character. Those little red flags are there. You gotta listen. 6. Looking back, what advice would you give yourself at age 20? Take the time when you're traveling and fighting, take time to enjoy it and take it all in. Don't be so focused and uptight. I missed out on being young and enjoying life. I went to do my business and left. Now I have kids and can't travel as much. 7. It's been said that all great people can have their lives summed up in one sentence. How do you want yours to read? Takes great pride in being loyal, authentic, hardworking and caring about others. Those are the things that are really important to me and it's important that others see these qualities too. *** If you enjoyed today's episode: Subscribe (automatically get new episodes), rate & review (help spread the word!) this podcast anywhere you get your podcasts. I can't wait to see you here next Thursday! Today is your day. Live Inspired. Live Inspired with John everyday on Facebook, Twitter, YouTube, LinkedIn, Pinterest and get his Monday Motivation email: www.JohnOLearyInspires.com/Monday-Morning