Awesome Marriage Podcast

Well we love it when you guys send it topics you want us to cover! One listener recently suggested we cover what it means to "come alongside your spouse." It's something Dr. Kim says a lot, what does it practically mean? How would Dr. Kim define this method that he so often encourages us to do? In this episode, Dr. Kim goes deep into describing it and defining it for us. NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "Coming alongside your spouse is the visual representation of walking in unity together and supporting one another as a married couple." - Christina "Coming alongside your spouse is the manifestation of being on the same team as your spouse." - Dr. Kim "Something is wrong if you're in a marriage and you feel like you're all alone." - Dr. Kim "How you come alongside your spouse might look different from how your spouse comes alongside you; we all receive love and support in different ways." - Dr. Kim "Ask yourself: is what you're doing right now going to help you have an awesome marriage?" - Christina "If it's important to your spouse make it important for you." - Dr. Kim "The worst loneliness is when you're in your house with your spouse and you feel lonely. You're not coming alongside each other in your marriage, you're just coexisting" - Dr. Kim "It's so important to have empathy in a marriage." - Dr. Kim "We may not always understand why our spouse feels the way they do but we can accept that they are feeling that way and come alongside them." - Dr. Kim "How you handle your differences in marriage will either draw you together or tear you apart." - Dr. Kim SPONSORS Thank you to Plant Package for sponsoring this podcast episode! With Plant Package, the prep work of gardening is done for you. Plant Package is delivered straight to your door with easy instructions on how to plant your fun new plant that even someone with a black thumb could execute! Plant Package selects durable seasonal plants, an appropriate and stylish container, sends just the right amount of soil and plant food, and includes instructions for assembly and plant care. The Plants can thrive indoors or outdoors – the choice is yours! Use the code "awesome" to receive a FREE Starter Kit with your order. Starter kits include gardening gloves, a gardening shovel, and farm hand's soap. Simply select "ADD STARTER KIT" and enter the code AWESOME on the payment checkout page. RESOURCES Need help building unity in your marriage? Snag our brand new resource Diary of An Awesome Marriage: The Couple's Unity Building Journal today! This resource is a 23 page PDF, with 9 sections on common areas that marriages. Each section has questions for you to reflect on, pray about, answer, and then discuss with your spouse. Get closer by getting more unified on the things that matter! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here! Dr. Kim's new book, 14 Keys to Lasting Love, came out earlier this year. If you haven't ordered your copy yet, what are you waiting for? Order here now.

In this episode Caroline Harries joins Dr. Kim to talk about waiting and how God is good even in the waiting. They talk about infertility, support groups, and how infertility and waiting can affect your marriage. Caroline is an author of a 60-day devotional 'In Due Time' as well as the founder of 'Moms in the Making' faith based infertility support groups. She shares her story and talks open and honestly about her waiting and their marriage in the waiting. Chances are you are waiting on something. Maybe it's a baby, maybe it's a house, a job, a fresh start, or restored relationship. Whatever it is you're waiting on - this conversation is going to encourage you. NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "1 in 8 women experience infertility; it's not as rare as you think." - Caroline Harries "We have to make God the focus of our lives, no matter what season of life we're in." - Caroline Harries "In every trial you face you choose to run to or away from God." - Caroline Harries "It's important to not make having a baby an idol or put that in the place of pursuing a relationship with God." - Caroline Harries SPONSORS Thank you to Plant Package for sponsoring this podcast episode! With Plant Package, the prep work of gardening is done for you. Plant Package is delivered straight to your door with easy instructions on how to plant your fun new plant that even someone with a black thumb could execute! Plant Package selects durable seasonal plants, an appropriate and stylish container, sends just the right amount of soil and plant food, and includes instructions for assembly and plant care. The Plants can thrive indoors or outdoors – the choice is yours! Use the code "awesome" to receive a FREE Starter Kit with your order. Starter kits include gardening gloves, a gardening shovel, and farm hand's soap. Simply select "ADD STARTER KIT" and enter the code AWESOME on the payment checkout page. RESOURCES Buy Caroline's Devotional 'In Due Time' here. Join a Moms In The Making Infertility Support Group today. Need help building unity in your marriage? Snag our brand new resource Diary of An Awesome Marriage: The Couple's Unity Building Journal today! This resource is a 23 page PDF, with 9 sections on common areas that marriages. Each section has questions for you to reflect on, pray about, answer, and then discuss with your spouse. Get closer by getting more unified on the things that matter! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here! Dr. Kim's new book, 14 Keys to Lasting Love, came out earlier this year. If you haven't ordered your copy yet, what are you waiting for? Order here now.

The holidays can highlight grief and loss in our life. It's a time that is centered around nostalgia, memories, and family. So it's no surprise that the holidays can bring up a lot of grief for people who have experienced loss. In this episode Dr. Kim and Christina talk about grief and how to support each other as a married couple as one or both of you grieve. NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "During the holidays, set aside time to think about the person you've lost. " - Dr. Kim "Don't smother your feelings, take time to grieve your lost loved one." - Dr. Kim "Don't feel like you have to say the perfect thing to your grieving spouse. Just be there for them." - Dr. Kim "The way you deal with grief is by going through it." - Dr. Kim "You can cling to the promises of God found in the Bible when you're grieving." - Christina "Jesus shows us that it's ok to grieve." - Dr. Kim "God can handle your questions and anger." - Christina "Everyone experiences grief differently." - Dr. Kim "Give your spouse lots of grace as they grieve." - Dr. Kim "You can't fix the situation for your spouse but you can walk with them through it." - Dr. Kim SPONSORS Thank you to Plant Package for sponsoring this podcast episode! With Plant Package, the prep work of gardening is done for you. Plant Package is delivered straight to your door with easy instructions on how to plant your fun new plant that even someone with a black thumb could execute! Plant Package selects durable seasonal plants, an appropriate and stylish container, sends just the right amount of soil and plant food, and includes instructions for assembly and plant care. The Plants can thrive indoors or outdoors – the choice is yours! Use the code "awesome" to receive a FREE Starter Kit with your order. Starter kits include gardening gloves, a gardening shovel, and farm hand's soap. Simply select "ADD STARTER KIT" and enter the code AWESOME on the payment checkout page. RESOURCES Need help building unity in your marriage? Snag our brand new resource Diary of An Awesome Marriage: The Couple's Unity Building Journal today! This resource is a 23 page PDF, with 9 sections on common areas that marriages. Each section has questions for you to reflect on, pray about, answer, and then discuss with your spouse. Get closer by getting more unified on the things that matter! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here! Dr. Kim's new book, 14 Keys to Lasting Love, came out earlier this year. If you haven't ordered your copy yet, what are you waiting for? Order here now.

The holidays are coming and that excites some of you but stresses others out. The holidays season, especially Thanksgiving and Christmas can put a lot of extras on our calendars and in our budgets. It can be a time where couples fight a lot or expectations aren't met. All of us want to have good holidays with our spouse and family, but often we don't prepare well so that we can execute that well. In this episode Dr. Kim and Christina talk about holiday marital stress and how to prepare for the holidays with your spouse. Tune in to learn how to prepare well for the holidays! NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "You have to increase your knowledge and awareness of each other in your marriage." - Christina "Don't wait until the week before a holiday to let family know if you're changing your usual holiday plans." - Dr. Kim "Have your holiday plans set by October to avoid stress later on." - Dr. Kim "Have conversations with your spouse about how to make the holidays less stressful." - Dr. Kim "Make sure there's alone time for just you and your spouse in the holiday plans." - Dr. Kim "Decide what your priorities are for your family for the holidays." - Dr. Kim "Boundaries aren't punitive, they're for saving relationships." - Dr. Kim SPONSORS Thank you to Plant Package for sponsoring this podcast episode! With Plant Package, the prep work of gardening is done for you. Plant Package is delivered straight to your door with easy instructions on how to plant your fun new plant that even someone with a black thumb could execute! Plant Package selects durable seasonal plants, an appropriate and stylish container, sends just the right amount of soil and plant food, and includes instructions for assembly and plant care. The Plants can thrive indoors or outdoors – the choice is yours! Use the code "awesome" to receive a FREE Starter Kit with your order. Starter kits include gardening gloves, a gardening shovel, and farm hand's soap. Simply select "ADD STARTER KIT" and enter the code AWESOME on the payment checkout page. RESOURCES Need help building unity in your marriage? Snag our brand new resource Diary of An Awesome Marriage: The Couple's Unity Building Journal today! This resource is a 23 page PDF, with 9 sections on common areas that marriages. Each section has questions for you to reflect on, pray about, answer, and then discuss with your spouse. Get closer by getting more unified on the things that matter! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here! Dr. Kim's new book, 14 Keys to Lasting Love, came out earlier this year. If you haven't ordered your copy yet, what are you waiting for? Order here now.

What does it mean to be a husband and how can Christian men prepare well to become godly husbands? There are a lot of messages out there today about men and what it looks like to a husband, but what does God say about being a husband? How can modern men prepare to be Godly leaders in their home? In this episode Colby Taylor joins Dr. Kim to talk about that. Colby is a Pastor at Life.Church and good friend of mine. Together Colby and his wife, who you heard from on Tuesday, lead the Engaged Events we put on to help couples prepare for a marriage that's even more beautiful than the wedding. The next Engaged Event in OK is THIS month so be sure to grab tickets on our website before they sell out. Tune in to learn how to prepare to be a husband! NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "There's a lot more sacrificing in being a husband than I ever anticipated." - Colby Taylor "As long as you're married you're always learning things about each other." - Dr. Kim "You can't give yourself to your wife if you don't give yourself to Jesus first." - Colby Taylor "Seek out someone you see as a Godly man and ask them to mentor you." - Dr. Kim "Don't be afraid to be honest and vulnerable about your feelings." - Colby Taylor SPONSORS Thank you to Plant Package for sponsoring this podcast episode! With Plant Package, the prep work of gardening is done for you. Plant Package is delivered straight to your door with easy instructions on how to plant your fun new plant that even someone with a black thumb could execute! Plant Package selects durable seasonal plants, an appropriate and stylish container, sends just the right amount of soil and plant food, and includes instructions for assembly and plant care. The Plants can thrive indoors or outdoors – the choice is yours! Use the code "awesome" to receive a FREE Starter Kit with your order. Starter kits include gardening gloves, a gardening shovel, and farm hand's soap. Simply select "ADD STARTER KIT" and enter the code AWESOME on the payment checkout page. RESOURCES You can snag our FREE Weekly Engaged Check Up Guide to help you practically keep the peace and keep your relationship good during your wedding planning. Register and attend the Engaged Event in Oklahoma. Need help building unity in your marriage? Snag our brand new resource Diary of An Awesome Marriage: The Couple's Unity Building Journal today! This resource is a 23 page PDF, with 9 sections on common areas that marriages. Each section has questions for you to reflect on, pray about, answer, and then discuss with your spouse. Get closer by getting more unified on the things that matter! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here! Dr. Kim's new book, 14 Keys to Lasting Love, came out earlier this year. If you haven't ordered your copy yet, what are you waiting for? Order here now.

What does it mean to be a wife? How can we prepare well to be good wives? In a world where the world "wife" is displayed so differently depending on where we are turning to, it can be really confusing. Christian women who are planning to get married have desires to be a godly wife. But most of us don't know how to prepare for that. In this episode Amanda Taylor joins Dr. Kim to talk about preparing to be a wife. Tune in to learn how to prepare to be a wife! NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "When you prioritize your spouse over your children, you are modeling a healthy marriage for your kids." - Dr. Kim "You have to depend on Jesus in order for your marriage to work." - Amanda Taylor "Selfishness can wreak havoc on a marriage." - Amanda Taylor "I think selfishness is the biggest problem we struggle with in life." - Dr. Kim "Ask women whose marriages you admire for advice and wisdom." - Amanda Taylor "The couples that I see that are doing well in their marriage are always working on their marriage." - Dr. Kim "You can avoid a lot of potential trouble when you're married if you lay a strong foundation when you're engaged." - Amanda Taylor "Putting your husband's needs above your own can be so hard but it's worth it." - Amanda Taylor "Really think through your marriage vows and what they mean before you say them on your wedding day." - Amanda Taylor SPONSORS Thank you to Plant Package for sponsoring this podcast episode! With Plant Package, the prep work of gardening is done for you. Plant Package is delivered straight to your door with easy instructions on how to plant your fun new plant that even someone with a black thumb could execute! Plant Package selects durable seasonal plants, an appropriate and stylish container, sends just the right amount of soil and plant food, and includes instructions for assembly and plant care. The Plants can thrive indoors or outdoors – the choice is yours! Use the code "awesome" to receive a FREE Starter Kit with your order. Starter kits include gardening gloves, a gardening shovel, and farm hand's soap. Simply select "ADD STARTER KIT" and enter the code AWESOME on the payment checkout page. RESOURCES You can snag our FREE Weekly Engaged Check Up Guide to help you practically keep the peace and keep your relationship good during your wedding planning. Register and attend the Engaged Event in Oklahoma. Need help building unity in your marriage? Snag our brand new resource Diary of An Awesome Marriage: The Couple's Unity Building Journal today! This resource is a 23 page PDF, with 9 sections on common areas that marriages. Each section has questions for you to reflect on, pray about, answer, and then discuss with your spouse. Get closer by getting more unified on the things that matter! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here! Dr. Kim's new book, 14 Keys to Lasting Love, came out earlier this year. If you haven't ordered your copy yet, what are you waiting for? Order here now.

"Peace" and "wedding planning" may seem like 2 things that don't go together. But we want to help you keep the peace during your wedding planning process. This is part 2 of a conversation with Dr. Kim & Amanda Taylor talking about all things wedding planning and how to do this well with your relationship intact and healthy ready to start your new marriage. Amanda is the owner of Embellished Weddings here in Oklahoma City where she plans and coordinates weddings. Because Amanda has planned so many weddings, she has an up close look at couples during this time. I can't for you to hear what she shares in this episode! Tune in to learn how to keep the peace during wedding planning. NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "Communicate and talk through expectations with your family about their level of involvement in your wedding." - Amanda Taylor "A lot of problems related to family that come up in the wedding planning phase were already there before the couple was engaged." - Dr. Kim "Know your future spouse and what level of input they want to have in the wedding planning process." - Dr. Kim "Embrace who your future spouse is, their quirks, sense of humor, and personality, during the wedding planning process." - Amanda Taylor "Set your wedding budget based on what is important to you as a couple and stick to it!" - Amanda Taylor "The amount of money spent on the wedding does not define what the wedding is going to be." - Dr. Kim "Don't go into debt for your wedding." - Dr. Kim SPONSORS Thank you to Plant Package for sponsoring this podcast episode! With Plant Package, the prep work of gardening is done for you. Plant Package is delivered straight to your door with easy instructions on how to plant your fun new plant that even someone with a black thumb could execute! Plant Package selects durable seasonal plants, an appropriate and stylish container, sends just the right amount of soil and plant food, and includes instructions for assembly and plant care. The Plants can thrive indoors or outdoors – the choice is yours! Use the code "awesome" to receive a FREE Starter Kit with your order. Starter kits include gardening gloves, a gardening shovel, and farm hand's soap. Simply select "ADD STARTER KIT" and enter the code AWESOME on the payment checkout page. RESOURCES You can snag our FREE Weekly Engaged Check Up Guide to help you practically keep the peace and keep your relationship good during your wedding planning. Register and attend the Engaged Event in Oklahoma. Need help building unity in your marriage? Snag our brand new resource Diary of An Awesome Marriage: The Couple's Unity Building Journal today! This resource is a 23 page PDF, with 9 sections on common areas that marriages. Each section has questions for you to reflect on, pray about, answer, and then discuss with your spouse. Get closer by getting more unified on the things that matter! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here! Dr. Kim's new book, 14 Keys to Lasting Love, came out earlier this year. If you haven't ordered your copy yet, what are you waiting for? Order here now.

Weddings are a big deal and wedding planning can be extremely stressful. Tensions are high and family is involved and it seems like there are so many emotions and expectations that are swirling around. It's enough to make you go crazy! And maybe some of us do just that - go a little crazy. Well we want to avoid the crazy as much as we can and learn to keep the peace during wedding planning. In this episode Amanda Taylor joins Dr. Kim to talk about keeping the peace during wedding planning. Amanda is a return guest on the podcast. Amanda and Colby have been married for 12 years and have 6 beautiful children. Amanda is the owner of Embellished Weddings here in Oklahoma City where she plans and coordinates weddings. Because Amanda has planned so many weddings, she has an up close look at couples during this time. Tune in to learn how to keep the peace during wedding planning. NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "The point of the wedding is the marriage." -Amanda Taylor "I tell every couple right before their wedding to soak in these moments and remember that you're marrying the person of your dreams." - Amanda Taylor "Enjoy being engaged - don't talk about your wedding every time you're together." - Amanda Taylor "It is possible to enjoy planning your wedding, it doesn't have to be a stressful experience." - Amanda Taylor "Don't get so caught up in the wedding planning that you forget about who you're engaged to." - Amanda Taylor "There is a big difference between cold feet and a red flag." - Dr. Kim SPONSORS Thank you to Plant Package for sponsoring this podcast episode! With Plant Package, the prep work of gardening is done for you. Plant Package is delivered straight to your door with easy instructions on how to plant your fun new plant that even someone with a black thumb could execute! Plant Package selects durable seasonal plants, an appropriate and stylish container, sends just the right amount of soil and plant food, and includes instructions for assembly and plant care. The Plants can thrive indoors or outdoors – the choice is yours! Use the code "awesome" to receive a FREE Starter Kit with your order. Starter kits include gardening gloves, a gardening shovel, and farm hand's soap. Simply select "ADD STARTER KIT" and enter the code AWESOME on the payment checkout page. RESOURCES You can snag our FREE Weekly Engaged Check Up Guide to help you practically keep the peace and keep your relationship good during your wedding planning. Register and attend the Engaged Event in Oklahoma. Need help building unity in your marriage? Snag our brand new resource Diary of An Awesome Marriage: The Couple's Unity Building Journal today! This resource is a 23 page PDF, with 9 sections on common areas that marriages. Each section has questions for you to reflect on, pray about, answer, and then discuss with your spouse. Get closer by getting more unified on the things that matter! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here! Dr. Kim's new book, 14 Keys to Lasting Love, came out earlier this year. If you haven't ordered your copy yet, what are you waiting for? Order here now.

In this episode Dr. Kim and Christina share a dozen secrets husbands don't tell their wives. We polled you guys on Instagram to get your real and honest answers and today we are sharing those secrets (anonymously). Some of these secrets might surprise you and I bet you'll relate to some if not all of them! Our hope is that shedding light on these secrets will deepen your connection and that you and your spouse will have some real, honest conversations about this episode that will lead to more a more transparent friendship between you two. Tune in to find out what husbands aren't telling their wives! RESOURCES This month's resource at Awesome Marriage is 'Every Moment Scripture For Your Marriage.' This resource is a great way to speak God's truth into your marriage, even in the midst of difficulties. Every Moment Scripture For Your Marriage' is a 13 page PDF, with 12 bible verse cards & 12 marriage encouragement cards to help you prepare and face the storms that come your way in your marriage. Grab your resource here! Thank you for making the ministry possible! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here! Dr. Kim's new book, 14 Keys to Lasting Love, came out earlier this year. If you haven't ordered your copy yet- what are you waiting for? Order here now. NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "Your sex life should be an ongoing process." - Dr. Kim "Wives can work to be a safe place for your husband to talk about their insecurities with." - Christina "Us guys are so much more sensitive than we want to let on." - Dr. Kim "Don't friend your exes on social media." - Christina "Come clean sooner vs. later. One more day of lying is only going to make things worse." - Christina

Whether it's an out right secret we don't tell our husbands intentionally or it's something we'd really like our husbands to know but we aren't brave enough to say it or maybe we don't know quite how to say it - many wives keep things from their husbands. In this episode Dr. Kim and Christina share a dozen secrets wives don't tell their husbands. We polled you guys on Instagram to get your real and honest answers and today we are sharing those secrets (anonymously). Some of these secrets might surprise you and many of these secrets may feel like we are reading your diary - we aren't! You just aren't alone in your secrets! Tune in to find out what wives aren't telling their husbands! RESOURCES Husbands - Snag the 21 Day Wife Appreciation Challenge here! This month's resource at Awesome Marriage is 'Every Moment Scripture For Your Marriage.' This resource is a great way to speak God's truth into your marriage, even in the midst of difficulties. Every Moment Scripture For Your Marriage' is a 13 page PDF, with 12 bible verse cards & 12 marriage encouragement cards to help you prepare and face the storms that come your way in your marriage. Grab your resource here! Thank you for making the ministry possible! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here! Dr. Kim's new book, 14 Keys to Lasting Love, came out earlier this year. If you haven't ordered your copy yet- what are you waiting for? Order here now. NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "You may have to do some work on your marriage to get to where you're totally transparent with each other." - Dr. Kim "It's our role as a husband to come alongside our wives." - Dr. Kim "To the moms: it's ok to tell your husband when you need a break from the kids." - Christina "Husbands have a huge role in helping their wives know they are beautiful." - Dr. Kim "As a couple, commit to transparency and honesty with each other." - Dr. Kim