Awesome Marriage Podcast

Today we are kicking off a new series on the podcast: Top 10 Marriage Mistakes. As most of you know, Dr. Kim has been married for 50 years and has been a Marriage Counselor for over 40 years. Over the years he has seen some central mistakes couples make that hurt their marriage. We will be breaking down the top ten. Today is Marriage Mistake #10. Which is Temper Tantrums: Not Fighting Fair. Not fighting fair plays out in a lot of different ways. You may think you fight fair, but after listening to this it might give you some insight you didn't have before about healthy conflict resolution. We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox! *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "I saw a quote on Facebook that said 'Placing blame in marriage is like saying your side of the ship is sinking;' we're supposed to be one in marriage and placing blame on your spouse is not you operating as one." - Christina Dodson "You can be prone to fighting unfairly in your marriage if you saw your parents do that; we forget that our parent's marriages are our first textbooks on marriage." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "Anytime a situation becomes 'win/lose' in your marriage, your marriage is losing." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "When you're fighting unfairly it puts your marriage on pause; you can't move forward to connect and grow closer to each other like you should be." - Christina Dodson "If you can only think of negative things about your spouse that should be a huge red flag." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "What we are saying about our spouse in our heads matters so much." - Christina Dodson "If you're unable to get out of the habit of fighting unfairly, going to see a counselor who can give you goals and accountability is hugely beneficial." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "Getting a divorce is a lot more expensive than seeing a marriage counselor." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "Decide with your spouse what is unhealthy about how you fight and make boundaries that you both will agree to keep." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "Standard boundaries that a couple should have in fighting is no yelling, cussing, or insults." - Christina Dodson "If something is important to your spouse, make it important to you." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "If you don't forgive someone it hurts you more than them." - Dr. Kim Kimberling SPONSORS Thank you to Groove Life for sponsoring this podcast episode! Groove Life has the Groove ring that is the world's first breathable active ring that is not only super comfortable but functional. Born from need, GROOVE raises the bar on traditional silicone, activewear rings with its flexible material, patent-pending, inner breathable design, and beautiful colors. You can use the code "awesomemarriage" for 15% off your order! RESOURCES Brighten your marriage with our new resource 30 Gems of Wisdom For Your Marriage. This digital resource is an 18 page PDF that gives you 30 nuggets of God's wisdom regarding your marriage. Get it today here! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here!

Today on the podcast we are celebrating! Because it's episode number 400 and honestly we can't believe it! Everyone on the podcast team is so honored that you loyal listeners tune in each week. This podcast isn't just work to us - it's a true joy. We love hearing the stories from you about how these conversations start real and honest conversations between you and your spouse. That's always been the hope of this podcast, that it wouldn't end here but that this would just be a conversation starter in your marriage and that it would spark conversation and invoke action that would make your marriage awesome. We love journeying along with each of you! THANK YOU for listening! In this episode we are doing an "ask us anything" episode. We polled your questions and we are answering them here! Silly, serious, personal, or about marriage - we are answering it here! We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox! *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "To me, our podcast is not sparkly, it's just two people who are processing about their marriage and sharing what they've learned." - Christina Dodson "That is Dr. Kim's favorite verse, he loves to talk about being naked and unashamed." - Christina Dodson "I've never had a counseling client who was serious about it and went into counseling with an open mind regret going to counseling." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "You will want your inlaws around your kids more if your relationship with your inlaws is good." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "If you set a boundary, make sure you are willing to follow through with the consequences." - Dr. Kim Kimberling SPONSORS Thank you to Honoring Intimates for sponsoring this podcast episode! Honoring Intimates is a safe place for believers to learn about marital sex and shop for the highest quality lubricant, lotions, and lingerie items at reasonable prices. There are no inappropriate images on the site and the company uses mannequins to display their lingerie. Use the code "AWESOMEMARRIAGE" to receive 20% off your entire order. RESOURCES: In this episode we talk about mother in law issues. Here are a few other podcasts you may find helpful if that's an issue for you: What Do I Owe My In-Laws Ep 331 Dealing With A Monster In Law Ep 332 Ask Dr. Kim: Should my spouse handle all drama with their parents and extended family? Ep 101 My loyalty should be with my family of origin because they raised me Ep 77 Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here!

Do you feel beaten down by your spouse? Does it feel like nothing you do is ever right or good enough for your spouse? Well you certainly aren't alone. It can really wear on a marriage when one spouse is overly critical. In this episode Dr. Kim & Christina share about what to do when your spouse is critical. We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox! *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "If it's not normal for your spouse to be very critical of you, ask yourself what might be going on to make them act that way. " - Christina Dodson "Use Stop, Look, Listen when communicating with your critical spouse." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "If you're delivering criticism to your spouse, make sure you do it in a loving, grace-filled way that they will hear the heart behind what you're saying." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "Give your spouse time to process any criticism that you've given them." - Christina Dodson "If my spouse has something critical that's of value to say to me, I want her to be able to say it." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "Before giving your spouse criticism, ask yourself three questions: 'Should it be said? Should it be said by me? Should it be said now?" - Dr. Kim Kimberling "When giving your spouse feedback, don't speak negatively. Speak to the potential that you see in them." - Christina Dodson SPONSORS Thank you to Honoring Intimates for sponsoring this podcast episode! Honoring Intimates is a safe place for believers to learn about marital sex and shop for the highest quality lubricant, lotions, and lingerie items at reasonable prices. There are no inappropriate images on the site and the company uses mannequins to display their lingerie. Use the code "AWESOMEMARRIAGE" to receive 20% off your entire order. RESOURCES Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here!

It's not all that uncommon to experience jealousy when our spouse succeeds OR to not celebrate them well in other ways. Dr. Kim & Christina dive into this topic and give practical advice for how to best handle your spouse's success for the edifying of your marriage. We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox! *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "Because you are a team as a married couple, your spouse's success is your success." - Christina Dodson "Ask God to help you celebrate your spouse's successes." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "Your spouse's success does not equal your failure." - Christina Dodson "Sometimes we really do appreciate our spouse we just forget to tell them that." - Christina Dodson "We're still a team in our marriage, even if we have different jobs and careers and wins. What happens in our relationship plays a big part in how successful we are." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "As a spouse, your words matter so much more to your spouse than anyone else's." - Christina Dodson "Never stop building up your spouse." - Christina Dodson SPONSORS Thank you to Honoring Intimates for sponsoring this podcast episode! Honoring Intimates is a safe place for believers to learn about marital sex and shop for the highest quality lubricant, lotions, and lingerie items at reasonable prices. There are no inappropriate images on the site and the company uses mannequins to display their lingerie. Use the code "AWESOMEMARRIAGE" to receive 20% off your entire order. RESOURCES Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here!

God loves reconciliation! Praise be to God, there are a number of couples who experience life change after divorce happens and are able to reunite and reconcile their marriage again. But starting a marriage again after the pain of divorce, naturally comes with a set of unique challenges. In this episode Dr. Kim shares some practical tips for walking through this. If you are married and thinking about divorce, we urge you to check out our resource 10 Things To Do Before You Get A Divorce. If you are walking through reconciliation with your spouse, we are praying that God would show up in mighty ways for you as you reunite together. Even if this isn't your story, there is still some wisdom to glean from this episode. Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox! *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "You don't get married just to get a divorce." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "Even if you don't reconcile after a divorce you have to forgive each other or you'll carry that burden for a long time," - Dr. Kim Kimberling "You can't drag unforgiveness into your next marriage and expect it to be healthy, you just can't." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "If you choose to reconcile after divorce and put God first, He will make that happen if you let Him." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "The healthiest marriages are when both people are healthy." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "We are all sinners and all have things we need to work on." - Christina Dodson "It takes two to have an awesome marriage." - Christina Dodson "Usually if you're divorced there has been trust broken at some level." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "You have to talk about your expectations with your former spouse to make sure you are on the same page." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "Seeing a counselor when you're reconciling after divorce can provide invaluable accountability for you and your former spouse." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "Make a game plan for re-engaging with other family members as a reconciled couple; it's going to be an adjustment for everyone around you." - Christina Dodson "Give reconciliation time. There is no shortcut to see if a person has changed" - Dr. Kim Kimberling "If you were in an abusive marriage and are seeking to reconcile but your spouse hasn't gotten help for their abusive behavior, their intentions may be good but they are going to fall back into abusive behaviors." - Dr. Kim Kimberling SPONSORS Thank you to Honoring Intimates for sponsoring this podcast episode! Honoring Intimates is a safe place for believers to learn about marital sex and shop for the highest quality lubricant, lotions, and lingerie items at reasonable prices. There are no inappropriate images on the site and the company uses mannequins to display their lingerie. Use the code "AWESOMEMARRIAGE" to receive 20% off your entire order. RESOURCES 10 Things To Do Before You Get A Divorce Tiffany & Micah's podcast Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here!

Last episode we shared about the little things that make a marriage awesome. In this episode Dr. Kim & Christina talk about big romantic gestures, because they certainly have their place in marriage! Big romantic gestures can be great for a marriage when they are coupled with the little consistent things. This episode will give you some great ideas for valentines day around the corner and great tips for big anniversaries! Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox! *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "A big romantic gesture can have the effect of supercharging your marriage." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "Big romantic gestures are really good for celebrations in your marriage." - Christina Dodson "Big romantic gestures are NOT good for fixing major issues in your marriage; they will NOT do that." - Christina Dodson "Stay within your budget and be creative when planning big romantic gestures." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "Don't compare your big romantic gestures with anyone else; everyone's marriage, budget and spouse is different." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "Commit to doing one big, romantic gesture a year." - Dr. Kim Kimberling SPONSORS Thank you to Honoring Intimates for sponsoring this podcast episode! Honoring Intimates is a safe place for believers to learn about marital sex and shop for the highest quality lubricant, lotions, and lingerie items at reasonable prices. There are no inappropriate images on the site and the company uses mannequins to display their lingerie. Use the code "AWESOMEMARRIAGE" to receive 20% off your entire order. RESOURCES Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here!

We love romance and it's easy to think that when your marriage is struggling or needs a boost - some big romantic gestures will fix it. But what makes a marriage awesome is not the big things, more often than not it's the little things. The daily practices, the rhythms and routines we create as habits, the small things done over a consistent period of time that really make the difference in marriage. In this episode Dr. Kim & Christina talk about just that - the little things that make a marriage awesome. Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox! *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "Letting our spouse know we're thinking about them when they don't think we're thinking about them makes a difference." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "The surprise connection points and planned consistent connection are the little things that really matter." - Christina Dodson "An important little thing is making time to do whatever your spouse loves." - Christina Dodson "Love doesn't have to be a dramatic gesture to be love. It has to be intentional and small daily practices." - Christina Dodson "The little things you do in your marriage are like the foundation of a house; you can't see it but if it begins to break the whole house is in trouble." - Christina Dodson SPONSORS Thank you to Honoring Intimates for sponsoring this podcast episode! Honoring Intimates is a safe place for believers to learn about marital sex and shop for the highest quality lubricant, lotions, and lingerie items at reasonable prices. There are no inappropriate images on the site and the company uses mannequins to display their lingerie. Use the code "AWESOMEMARRIAGE" to receive 20% off your entire order. RESOURCES Want to talk about sex?! Take our Love Making Survey to open up the way for you and your spouse to work towards better sex and intimacy in marriage! This month's resource is our Love Making Survey and it is designed to help you have a safe, genuine conversation about your sex life with your spouse. This survey is a nonthreatening way to evaluate your sex together. The questions are designed to get you thinking about all aspects of your love making and to shed light on ways your sex could be more satisfying. Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here!

In this episode Dr. Kim has 2 longtime friends of his here to share their story. This couple experienced the devastation of an affair with what looked like no hope for reconciliation - but God. God did something great and redeemed their story. We can't wait for you to be encouraged and challenged by this couple's story. Tune in to hear more! Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox! *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "No one sets out to destroy their marriage." - Arly "The affair was my solution to a deeper problem: my low self esteem and wrestling with who I was." - Arly "I knew he was struggling with something, I just couldn't get him to open up about what he was struggling with." - Amber "When I found out about his affairs I felt like I was married to a complete stranger, like a didn't know what reality was." - Amber "I wanted to demonstrate to my kids that it's ok to to put up boundaries with people you love who aren't safe." - Amber "I always said, 'If Arly had an affair I would kick his butt to the curb and move on' but when you actually find yourself in that situation and you have three kids and this history, it's not an easy decision to make. I never judge anyone who is reacting from an affair." - Amber "Setting those boundaries can be extremely scary but God will give you the strength and will remind you that you will be ok." - Dr. Kim "The boundaries that Amber set helped me as the unfaithful spouse to wake up and realize how important my family was to me." - Arly "We would not be together today had he not experienced healing and transformation on his own." - Amber "It takes time to restore trust after an affair." - Dr. Kim "Learning to trust him after the affairs was a process." - Amber "He doesn't put me in the position anymore of wondering where he is. He lets me know where he is and what is going on so I am not triggered and don't have to wonder." - Amber "An unfaithful spouse at some point has to believe that their betrayed spouse can handle the truth." - Arly "It's so powerful in our marriage when we realize that God made us different from each other for a reason." - Dr. Kim "We didn't want to keep things a secret from our kids. They knew the truth at a level that was appropriate for their age." - Amber "I think the worst thing we could have done to our kids was to act like nothing was happening; they could feel the tension. Kids are incredibly resilient and this was an opportunity to show them how to suffer well." - Amber "He had to rebuild his relationship with not only me but our kids as well." - Amber "Setting boundaries is the only way to pull someone who is being unfaithful out of their fantasy world." - Arly "The God who was healing my heart after this betrayal looked different than the God who I grew up with." - Amber "Our marriage did not come back together until after we both took care of ourselves individually." - Amber "Her healing process looked totally different from mine." - Arly "There is something very powerful in marriage intensive weekends and times away because you can focus on something specific on your marriage together." - Dr. Kim "We have learned to just enjoy each other's presence and to live in the moment." - Arly "Being intimate after an affair has taken place is awkward and complicated. You have to be patient and you have to stay at the comfort level of the spouse who was betrayed." - Amber "There can be great healing and transformation in this process but you have to go through the dark parts to get to the light." - Arly "I want couples to know just how good life can be on the other side." - Amber SPONSORS Thank you to Honoring Intimates for sponsoring this podcast episode! Honoring Intimates is a safe place for believers to learn about marital sex and shop for the highest quality lubricant, lotions, and lingerie items at reasonable prices. There are no inappropriate images on the site and the company uses mannequins to display their lingerie. Use the code "AWESOMEMARRIAGE" to receive 20% off your entire order. RESOURCES Affair Recovery (https://www.affairrecovery.com/), Arly attended Basecamp, a retreat affiliated with True North Ministries in Oklahoma: https://truenorth.live/basecamp/, Amber attended a retreat run by Changed Women's Ministries, also in Oklahoma: https://www.changedokc.com/, together they attended a couple's retreat run by Affair Recovery called Hope Rising: https://www.affairrecovery.com/hope-rising Want to talk about sex?! Take our Love Making Survey to open up the way for you and your spouse to work towards better sex and intimacy in marriage! This month's resource is our Love Making Survey and it is designed to help you have a safe, genuine conversation about your sex life with your spouse. This survey is a nonthreatening way to evaluate your sex together. The questions are designed to get you thinking about all aspects of your love making and to shed light on ways your sex could be more satisfying. Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here!

We are continuing our Enneagram Series with Beth McCord talking about How to Have A Thriving Relationship with an Enneagram 9. For the next several weeks Beth will be breaking down some real, practical tips for being married to each Enneagram number. If you are married to a 9 this is YOUR episode. But even if you aren't married to a 9, we know you will find this episode helpful in learning more about your 9 friends. Part of loving people is knowing people. So use this series as a tool to know your people better, understand them deeper, and love them better. Beth McCord founded 'Your Enneagram Coach' and has been an Enneagram speaker, coach and teacher for over 17 years. She is seriously the best of the best so we are so blessed to have her share her time and expertise with us. Having been trained by the best Enneagram experts and pouring hundreds of hours into advanced certifications, Beth is leading the industry in simplifying the deep truths of the Enneagram from a Biblical perspective. Beth does one-on-one coaching, in-person events and workshops and online courses. She also offers training and support for those interested in becoming an Enneagram coach. So make sure you give her a follow on Instagram @yourennegramcoach and check out her website yourennegramcoach.com for more great info. We pray you enjoy learning more about 9s in this episode! Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox! *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "Type 9s are the peacemakers: easy going, non-judgemental, they love harmony with others." - Beth McCord "Type 9s are all able to see the viewpoints from all other personality types." - Beth McCord "Type 9s avoid conflict and tension at all cost." - Beth McCord "Type 9s core fear is being in any kind of conflict, tension or discord." - Beth McCord "Type 9s desire to have inner stability and peace of mind." - Beth McCord "Unhealthy Type 9s merge their needs, desires and wants with those around. They lose themselves just to go with the flow." - Beth McCord "Type 9s just want everyone to be happy." - Beth McCord "Because Type 9s can understand things from different perspectives they make excellent mediators." - Beth McCord "Type 9s long to hear, 'Your presence matters.'" - Beth McCord "Type 9s are excellent listeners." - Beth McCord "Type 9s can struggle with knowing how to talk about their needs and wants in a direct way." - Beth McCord "Type 9s have a hard time saying no because they're afraid of displeasing people." - Beth McCord "If you're married to a Type 9, it's important to let your spouse know that it's ok to say no." - Dr. Kim "It's very painful for a Type 9 to be overlooked." - Beth McCord "It's important for a Type 9 to know how to set healthy boundaries with others so that they're not taken advantage of." - Beth McCord "Approach conflict with a Type 9 with gentleness, responsiveness, and patience. It may take them some time to figure out how they really feel about something." - Beth McCord "Let your Type 9 know the good things that you see in them because they can't see it in themselves." - Beth McCord "Treating a Type 9 like they treat you will go a long way." - Dr. Kim "Ask a Type 9 why they did what they did can help you understand them and can help them verbalize their motivations." - Beth McCord "Type 9s are extremely stubborn, when they don't want to do something, it ain't happening." - Beth McCord "Type 9s are extremely big hearted and they have a place in their heart for everyone." - Beth McCord "Type 9s want everyone to be accepted and loved for who they are." - Beth McCord SPONSORS Thank you to Honoring Intimates for sponsoring this podcast episode! Honoring Intimates is a safe place for believers to learn about marital sex and shop for the highest quality lubricant, lotions, and lingerie items at reasonable prices. There are no inappropriate images on the site and the company uses mannequins to display their lingerie. Use the code "AWESOMEMARRIAGE" to receive 20% off your entire order. RESOURCES Find everything you need at becomingus.com! Including the course for YOUR marriage's Enneagram combination. Beth & Jeff have a 'Becoming Us Course' for each couple type combination. That is 45 courses customized for each couple type combination. They go deeper into the "dance" (relational dynamics) and give you practical resources and insights to help transform your marriage. Buy 'Becoming Us' today! Not sure what your Enneagram Type is? You can take the free assessment here! Also be sure to take the FREE MARRIAGE ASSESSMENT here. Learn more about each type with this FREE SUMMARY! Check out more great insights by Beth on her blog. Discover your Enneagram number with the Discovering You course. Already know your Enneagram Type? Then it's time to take a deeper dive with the Explore You course. You can get some one-on-one coaching with Your Enneagram Coach here. Want to talk about sex?! Take our Love Making Survey to open up the way for you and your spouse to work towards better sex and intimacy in marriage! This month's resource is our Love Making Survey and it is designed to help you have a safe, genuine conversation about your sex life with your spouse. This survey is a nonthreatening way to evaluate your sex together. The questions are designed to get you thinking about all aspects of your love making and to shed light on ways your sex could be more satisfying. Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here!

We are continuing our Enneagram Series with Beth McCord talking about How to Have A Thriving Relationship with an Enneagram 8. For the next several weeks Beth will be breaking down some real, practical tips for being married to each Enneagram number. If you are married to a 8 this is YOUR episode. But even if you aren't married to a 8, we know you will find this episode helpful in learning more about your 8 friends. Part of loving people is knowing people. So use this series as a tool to know your people better, understand them deeper, and love them better. Beth McCord founded 'Your Enneagram Coach' and has been an Enneagram speaker, coach and teacher for over 17 years. She is seriously the best of the best so we are so blessed to have her share her time and expertise with us. Having been trained by the best Enneagram experts and pouring hundreds of hours into advanced certifications, Beth is leading the industry in simplifying the deep truths of the Enneagram from a Biblical perspective. Beth does one-on-one coaching, in-person events and workshops and online courses. She also offers training and support for those interested in becoming an Enneagram coach. So make sure you give her a follow on Instagram @yourennegramcoach and check out her website yourennegramcoach.com for more great info. We pray you enjoy learning more about 8s in this episode! Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox! *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "Type 8s are very decisive and have great leadership skills." - Beth McCord "Type 8s move things forward and are powerful change agents in the world." - Beth McCord "Type 8s are very intense, direct, and blunt." - Beth McCord "A Type 8s core fear is to be weak, powerless, harmed, controlled, vulnerable, and left at the mercy of injustice." - Beth McCord "A Type 8s core desire is to protect themselves and those in their inner circle." - Beth McCord "A Type 8s inner circle of people is usually very small." - Beth McCord "Type 8s can be described as a giant snowplow; their directness and intensity can be intimidating to those in the way of where they are trying to go." - Beth McCord "Type 8s are extremely big-hearted and tender but they don't always show it with a tough and blunt exterior." - Beth McCord "Type 8s long to hear 'You will not be betrayed.'" - Beth McCord "Type 8s are the most authentic on the enneagram; what you see is what you get." - Beth McCord "Type 8s want their intensity to be met with intensity; they do not fear conflict." - Beth McCord "Type 8s are confident under pressure, they can say what needs to be said when it needs to be said." - Beth McCord "When Type 8s are not doing well they can be demanding, insensitive and quick to anger." - Beth McCord "Type 8s do not like avoiding problems, they want to tackle them head on." - Beth McCord "Type 8s do not like it when someone is not straightforward or trustworthy." - Beth McCord "Honesty and straightforwardness are so important when you're interacting with a Type 8." - Beth McCord "Type 8s want to know that you have their back and your own back in an argument." - Beth McCord "If you're the spouse of a Type 8, it's important that you never betray or blindside them, so you need to be very careful in who you approach in getting help for your relationship." - Beth McCord "Type 8s want to know that you're able to be vulnerable and open with them." - Beth McCord "When your Type 8 opens up to you emotionally, recognize that that is a big deal." - Beth McCord "Type 8s defensive mechanism is denial." - Beth McCord "Type 8s have no problem putting themselves in harm's way to protect those that are at the mercy of injustice." - Beth McCord "Type 8s tend to know how people are gifted and they know how to put them in positions where they will succeed." - Beth McCord SPONSORS Thank you to Honoring Intimates for sponsoring this podcast episode! Honoring Intimates is a safe place for believers to learn about marital sex and shop for the highest quality lubricant, lotions, and lingerie items at reasonable prices. There are no inappropriate images on the site and the company uses mannequins to display their lingerie. Use the code "AWESOMEMARRIAGE" to receive 20% off your entire order. RESOURCES Find everything you need at becomingus.com! Including the course for YOUR marriage's Enneagram combination. Beth & Jeff have a 'Becoming Us Course' for each couple type combination. That is 45 courses customized for each couple type combination. They go deeper into the "dance" (relational dynamics) and give you practical resources and insights to help transform your marriage. Buy 'Becoming Us' today! Not sure what your Enneagram Type is? You can take the free assessment here! Also be sure to take the FREE MARRIAGE ASSESSMENT here. Learn more about each type with this FREE SUMMARY! Check out more great insights by Beth on her blog. Discover your Enneagram number with the Discovering You course. Already know your Enneagram Type? Then it's time to take a deeper dive with the Explore You course. You can get some one-on-one coaching with Your Enneagram Coach here. Want to talk about sex?! Take our Love Making Survey to open up the way for you and your spouse to work towards better sex and intimacy in marriage! This month's resource is our Love Making Survey and it is designed to help you have a safe, genuine conversation about your sex life with your spouse. This survey is a nonthreatening way to evaluate your sex together. The questions are designed to get you thinking about all aspects of your love making and to shed light on ways your sex could be more satisfying. Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here!