Feminist Wellness
Béa Victoria Albina
You weren't born anxious, depleted, and second-guessing yourself. You were taught to be.
The Feminist Wellness podcast is where nervous system science meets the truth nobody wants to say out loud: most of what you think is "self-care" is just performing wellness while your body stays stuck in survival mode.
Host Béa Victoria Albina - NP, life coach, and Somatic Experiencing Practitioner - breaks down the codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits that keep you trapped in what she calls Emotional Outsourcing™: constantly looking outside yourself for permission, validation, and proof that you're enough.
This isn't another show about bubble baths and boundaries. It's about understanding why your body says yes when you mean no, why rest feels impossible, and how to stop treating your own needs like an inconvenience.
If you're done white-knuckling your way through life, performing okayness while feeling like you're constantly failing some invisible test, this show will help you see what's actually happening - and what becomes possible when you stop abandoning yourself to please everyone else.
New episodes weekly. Start anywhere.
The Feminist Wellness podcast is where nervous system science meets the truth nobody wants to say out loud: most of what you think is "self-care" is just performing wellness while your body stays stuck in survival mode.
Host Béa Victoria Albina - NP, life coach, and Somatic Experiencing Practitioner - breaks down the codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits that keep you trapped in what she calls Emotional Outsourcing™: constantly looking outside yourself for permission, validation, and proof that you're enough.
This isn't another show about bubble baths and boundaries. It's about understanding why your body says yes when you mean no, why rest feels impossible, and how to stop treating your own needs like an inconvenience.
If you're done white-knuckling your way through life, performing okayness while feeling like you're constantly failing some invisible test, this show will help you see what's actually happening - and what becomes possible when you stop abandoning yourself to please everyone else.
New episodes weekly. Start anywhere.
Episodes
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Jul 30, 2020 • 46min
Ep #76: Acceptance and Closure
Welcome to the final installment of my mini-series on apologizing. Over the last few weeks, we’ve taken a really deep dive into the anatomy of apologies and mastering the language of apologies, and today, I’ll be sharing what to do if someone won’t accept your apology, how to accept an apology yourself, and how to give yourself closure when you don’t get the apology you want.Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/76Mentioned in this episode:Grab my book, End Emotional Outsourcing!Please support my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing, by ordering a copy and reviewing it on Amazon or GoodReads! You can leave a review even if you bought it somewhere else. Bring your screenshot to: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ for gifts and raffle goodies. Thank you for helping this work ripple out.EEO Pre-Sale
Jul 23, 2020 • 39min
Ep #75: Mastering the Language of Apologies
Listen in this week as we explore the language around the resistance to apologizing, the importance of recognizing the difference between intent and impact, and the reframing of some common terms we use so that we can find our power and strength. This process is all about practicing apologizing in a way that serves you, and not about perfecting it or doing it "better," so you can step into living an intentional life with radical self-love every day.Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/75Mentioned in this episode:Grab my book, End Emotional Outsourcing!Please support my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing, by ordering a copy and reviewing it on Amazon or GoodReads! You can leave a review even if you bought it somewhere else. Bring your screenshot to: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ for gifts and raffle goodies. Thank you for helping this work ripple out.EEO Pre-Sale
Jul 16, 2020 • 38min
Ep #74: The Dangers of False Pre-Apologies
Join me on the podcast today as I show you what false pre-apologizing is and why we do it. It can show up in so many different ways, and it’s crucial to investigate the impact this behavior has on us. There is never a need to falsely pre-apologize, and I’m showing you why and how doing this is so disempowering.Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/74Mentioned in this episode:Grab my book, End Emotional Outsourcing!Please support my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing, by ordering a copy and reviewing it on Amazon or GoodReads! You can leave a review even if you bought it somewhere else. Bring your screenshot to: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ for gifts and raffle goodies. Thank you for helping this work ripple out.EEO Pre-Sale
Jul 9, 2020 • 49min
Ep #73: 6 Steps to a Healthy and Meaningful Apology
Join me this week to discover how to apologize from a place of radical self-love and unconditional love for others. We get to ask ourselves some intense questions in this process, and this is a core part of understanding the need to apologize. You get to pause here and take note of all your feels so that you can come to it with a deeper understanding of your own truth and maintain the relationships in your life that are healthy and fulfilling to you.Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/73Mentioned in this episode:Grab my book, End Emotional Outsourcing!Please support my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing, by ordering a copy and reviewing it on Amazon or GoodReads! You can leave a review even if you bought it somewhere else. Bring your screenshot to: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ for gifts and raffle goodies. Thank you for helping this work ripple out.EEO Pre-Sale
Jul 2, 2020 • 31min
Ep #72: Anatomy of an Apology
Listen in today as I lay out the four steps of apologizing, and how to keep your center when an apology is due. I’ll also be touching on how the thought work protocol ties in here and why being present and getting out of your own way is the key to keeping your sense of self intact and making your relationships stronger in the long-term.Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/72Mentioned in this episode:Grab my book, End Emotional Outsourcing!Please support my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing, by ordering a copy and reviewing it on Amazon or GoodReads! You can leave a review even if you bought it somewhere else. Bring your screenshot to: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ for gifts and raffle goodies. Thank you for helping this work ripple out.EEO Pre-Sale
Jun 25, 2020 • 43min
Ep #71: The Fixer Thought Fantasy
Join me this week as I outline what the fixer thought fantasy is and some of the motivating factors and thought errors that lead us down this path. This fixer or savior complex is keeping you out of awareness and acceptance, which we know in this family is the key to living a truly intentional life, and so I’ll be sharing some ways for you to start remedying this thought habit to focus on self-love and collective healing.Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/71Mentioned in this episode:Grab my book, End Emotional Outsourcing!Please support my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing, by ordering a copy and reviewing it on Amazon or GoodReads! You can leave a review even if you bought it somewhere else. Bring your screenshot to: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ for gifts and raffle goodies. Thank you for helping this work ripple out.EEO Pre-Sale
Jun 18, 2020 • 22min
Ep #70: When You Stop People Pleasing and People Aren’t Pleased
Tune in today as I show you how you can engage your brain to decide that it’s not a problem if people aren’t happy with you, and how you get to retrain your brain to understand that it doesn’t mean anything about you that someone else might have a negative thought. You get to remember that other people are allowed to have their reactions, and you can choose new thoughts to radically love and accept yourself every day.Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/70Mentioned in this episode:Grab my book, End Emotional Outsourcing!Please support my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing, by ordering a copy and reviewing it on Amazon or GoodReads! You can leave a review even if you bought it somewhere else. Bring your screenshot to: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ for gifts and raffle goodies. Thank you for helping this work ripple out.EEO Pre-Sale
Jun 11, 2020 • 40min
Ep #69: The Power of Thought Work in Becoming an Anti-Racist Ally and Accomplice
Listen in today as I invite you to make becoming anti-racist a practice, and encourage you to come to this work with self-compassion and gentleness for yourself. Shame and guilt are never useful, and showing up however you can will help you bring consciousness to your internal biases, push you out of your comfort zone, and take action.Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/69Mentioned in this episode:Grab my book, End Emotional Outsourcing!Please support my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing, by ordering a copy and reviewing it on Amazon or GoodReads! You can leave a review even if you bought it somewhere else. Bring your screenshot to: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ for gifts and raffle goodies. Thank you for helping this work ripple out.EEO Pre-Sale
Jun 4, 2020 • 29min
Ep #68: How to Interrupt the People-Pleasing Cycle
The work that you have to start doing to interrupt the vicious people-pleasing cycles that we get stuck in, and why embracing discomfort is such a vital part of this process. I also address how the tools I share on the podcast will hopefully be helpful in the fight to address racism and dismantle white supremacy in our current climate.Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/68Mentioned in this episode:Grab my book, End Emotional Outsourcing!Please support my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing, by ordering a copy and reviewing it on Amazon or GoodReads! You can leave a review even if you bought it somewhere else. Bring your screenshot to: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ for gifts and raffle goodies. Thank you for helping this work ripple out.EEO Pre-Sale
May 28, 2020 • 34min
Ep #67: Why We People Please
Join me this week as I show you why people-pleasing leaves you overwhelmed, exhausted, and ultimately, displeased. I’m inviting you to cultivate awareness this week about how you’re living these habits out in your life, where they came from, and how they’re impacting you in your day-to-day. And make sure to tune in next week where I’ll be sharing the remedies to help you shift through this thought habit!Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/67Mentioned in this episode:Grab my book, End Emotional Outsourcing!Please support my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing, by ordering a copy and reviewing it on Amazon or GoodReads! You can leave a review even if you bought it somewhere else. Bring your screenshot to: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ for gifts and raffle goodies. Thank you for helping this work ripple out.EEO Pre-Sale
