

Feminist Wellness
Béa Victoria Albina
You weren't born anxious, depleted, and second-guessing yourself. You were taught to be.
The Feminist Wellness podcast is where nervous system science meets the truth nobody wants to say out loud: most of what you think is "self-care" is just performing wellness while your body stays stuck in survival mode.
Host Béa Victoria Albina - NP, life coach, and Somatic Experiencing Practitioner - breaks down the codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits that keep you trapped in what she calls Emotional Outsourcing™: constantly looking outside yourself for permission, validation, and proof that you're enough.
This isn't another show about bubble baths and boundaries. It's about understanding why your body says yes when you mean no, why rest feels impossible, and how to stop treating your own needs like an inconvenience.
If you're done white-knuckling your way through life, performing okayness while feeling like you're constantly failing some invisible test, this show will help you see what's actually happening - and what becomes possible when you stop abandoning yourself to please everyone else.
New episodes weekly. Start anywhere.
The Feminist Wellness podcast is where nervous system science meets the truth nobody wants to say out loud: most of what you think is "self-care" is just performing wellness while your body stays stuck in survival mode.
Host Béa Victoria Albina - NP, life coach, and Somatic Experiencing Practitioner - breaks down the codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits that keep you trapped in what she calls Emotional Outsourcing™: constantly looking outside yourself for permission, validation, and proof that you're enough.
This isn't another show about bubble baths and boundaries. It's about understanding why your body says yes when you mean no, why rest feels impossible, and how to stop treating your own needs like an inconvenience.
If you're done white-knuckling your way through life, performing okayness while feeling like you're constantly failing some invisible test, this show will help you see what's actually happening - and what becomes possible when you stop abandoning yourself to please everyone else.
New episodes weekly. Start anywhere.
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Oct 3, 2024 • 42min
Ep #294: Getting Anchored with Hedy
#294: I am so thrilled to be joined this week by my Anchored alum Hedy, a full-time job-haver, a full-time mom, and a dog mom. After joining Anchored, she describes the growth she has seen in her life since as profound. Hedy took a chance on herself, said yes, and learning how her life has changed on the other side of Anchored is the medicine we all need right now.Tune in today to hear Hedy’s story of letting go of control, perfectionism, and codependency in a community that met her where she was, so she could change where she was. Hedy shares how she improved the way she shows up in relationship with others, learned to live in her body, and she vulnerably dives into using the lessons she learned in Anchored long after she left. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/294Mentioned in this episode:Grab my book, End Emotional Outsourcing!Please support my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing, by ordering a copy and reviewing it on Amazon or GoodReads! You can leave a review even if you bought it somewhere else. Bring your screenshot to: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ for gifts and raffle goodies. Thank you for helping this work ripple out.EEO Pre-Sale

Sep 26, 2024 • 20min
Ep #293: Bracing Tolerance vs. Intentional Tolerance
#293: Do you find yourself constantly accommodating others at the expense of your own needs and desires? In this episode of Feminist Wellness, we explore the profound shift from bracing tolerance to intentional tolerance in the healing journey out of emotional outsourcing. Tune in to discover how you can cultivate a grounded presence and emotional resilience, so you can thrive in life without losing yourself in the process. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/293Mentioned in this episode:Grab my book, End Emotional Outsourcing!Please support my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing, by ordering a copy and reviewing it on Amazon or GoodReads! You can leave a review even if you bought it somewhere else. Bring your screenshot to: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ for gifts and raffle goodies. Thank you for helping this work ripple out.EEO Pre-Sale

Sep 19, 2024 • 29min
Ep #292: How to Break the Self-Abandonment Cycle
#292: Most people think that if they’ve been living at one extreme of always saying yes, they need to swing to the other extreme of always saying no and become wildly independent. But that’s no way to be in a loving, caring relationship. The magic lies somewhere in the middle, and it starts by making the choice to no longer self-abandon, which takes a whole lot of self-love. Join me this week to learn my roadmap for breaking free from the self-abandonment cycle and embracing a life of greater interdependence. You’ll hear how to use somatics and thought work to manage difficult emotions, the importance of setting boundaries, and concrete tools for interrupting this cycle so you can reclaim your authentic sense of self.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/292Mentioned in this episode:Grab my book, End Emotional Outsourcing!Please support my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing, by ordering a copy and reviewing it on Amazon or GoodReads! You can leave a review even if you bought it somewhere else. Bring your screenshot to: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ for gifts and raffle goodies. Thank you for helping this work ripple out.EEO Pre-Sale

Sep 12, 2024 • 31min
Ep #291: Break the Self-Abandonment Cycle and Reclaim Your Authentic Self
#291: Many of us have received messages from society that our authentic, most real, and embodied selves are simply not okay. What’s logical is for us to step away from being that person out in the world. In this episode, I dive deep into the self-abandonment cycle that many of us find ourselves trapped in.Join me this week to learn why you might be stuck in a self-abandonment cycle, and the somatic impact of over-functioning in your life. You’ll hear how our childhood experiences shape our adult behaviors, how the self-abandonment cycle manifests, and questions that will help you begin to recognize it in your own life. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/291Mentioned in this episode:Grab my book, End Emotional Outsourcing!Please support my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing, by ordering a copy and reviewing it on Amazon or GoodReads! You can leave a review even if you bought it somewhere else. Bring your screenshot to: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ for gifts and raffle goodies. Thank you for helping this work ripple out.EEO Pre-Sale

Sep 5, 2024 • 37min
Ep #290: Getting Anchored with Mary Angione
#290: Mary is a high school teacher with a passion for mind-body science who joined my program, Anchored, looking for a greater sense of ease and confidence, especially as she contemplated a big career transition. This week, Mary is sharing how the inner work she did in Anchored is helping her navigate uncertainty with grace and dream bigger for her life and career. Tune in to hear how our work together has impacted Mary's family system, what it’s really like to be coached in a group, and the transformations Mary is continuing to experience as an alum.Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/290Mentioned in this episode:Grab my book, End Emotional Outsourcing!Please support my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing, by ordering a copy and reviewing it on Amazon or GoodReads! You can leave a review even if you bought it somewhere else. Bring your screenshot to: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ for gifts and raffle goodies. Thank you for helping this work ripple out.EEO Pre-Sale

Aug 29, 2024 • 38min
Ep #289: Embracing the Grey Area: Breaking Free from the All-or-Nothing Trap
#289: Why does it feel so cozy to think in extremes? All-or-nothing thinking limits the possibilities available to us and is a habit we can fall into without ever realizing it. That’s why this week, I challenge you to step out of your own unintentional thinking and start seeing the glorious, grey middle ground that will help you create a life you love.Join me this week to learn why you might be spinning in all-or-nothing thinking and how to break free. I show you what happens when you buy into all-or-nothing thinking, why it both fuels and is fueled by emotional outsourcing tendencies, and practical remedies that will help you take a more nuanced approach to lifeGet full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/289 Mentioned in this episode:Grab my book, End Emotional Outsourcing!Please support my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing, by ordering a copy and reviewing it on Amazon or GoodReads! You can leave a review even if you bought it somewhere else. Bring your screenshot to: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ for gifts and raffle goodies. Thank you for helping this work ripple out.EEO Pre-Sale

Aug 22, 2024 • 29min
Ep #288: Remedies for Shame
#288: We can’t heal hurt with more hurt, so when life feels way too life-y and you’re spiraling in your shame stories, this is the tool you can lean on to introduce a little gray into those negative thoughts.Join me on this episode to hear what my GRACE protocol entails, and how it will shift you out of the story that says shame is who you are, into an identity where shame has just been a part of your history. I show you how to systematically recognize and shift out of the shame identity, so you can foster a healthier, more resilient self-concept. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/288Mentioned in this episode:Grab my book, End Emotional Outsourcing!Please support my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing, by ordering a copy and reviewing it on Amazon or GoodReads! You can leave a review even if you bought it somewhere else. Bring your screenshot to: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ for gifts and raffle goodies. Thank you for helping this work ripple out.EEO Pre-Sale

Aug 15, 2024 • 23min
Ep #287: Shame, the Nervous System, and Emotional Outsourcing: Exploring the Interconnections
#287: Understanding how shame embeds itself in our emotional outsourcing tendencies is super important if we are to shake free of it and step into interdependence. That's why this week I'm exploring how shame takes root in our formative years and becomes intertwined with our sense of self-worth and identity.Join me as I outline the complex and often hidden nature of shame, and how it can drive codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing behaviors. You’ll learn the somatic and psychological manifestations of shame, the role of the nervous system in responding to shame, and the importance of cultivating a more supportive relationship with yourself.Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/287Mentioned in this episode:Grab my book, End Emotional Outsourcing!Please support my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing, by ordering a copy and reviewing it on Amazon or GoodReads! You can leave a review even if you bought it somewhere else. Bring your screenshot to: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ for gifts and raffle goodies. Thank you for helping this work ripple out.EEO Pre-Sale

Aug 8, 2024 • 60min
Ep #286: How to Optimize Your Genes to Transform Your Health with Dr. Tyler Panzner
#286: One of the biggest themes we talk about on Feminist Wellness is living an intentional life where you’re tuned into what’s happening in your body, mind, spirit, and world. The vital next layer to this is slowing down enough to pay attention to the minutia of your life, and that includes your genes.Dr. Tyler Panzner is a Ph.D. scientist turned holistic genetic health coach. Join us this week as Dr. Panzner walks us through the role our genetics play in our emotional, physical, and mental wellness. We explore what Holistic Genetic Health Optimization entails, his insights on supplements, and how Dr. Panzner can help you feel less "blah" each day of your important life.Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/286Mentioned in this episode:Grab my book, End Emotional Outsourcing!Please support my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing, by ordering a copy and reviewing it on Amazon or GoodReads! You can leave a review even if you bought it somewhere else. Bring your screenshot to: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ for gifts and raffle goodies. Thank you for helping this work ripple out.EEO Pre-Sale

Aug 3, 2024 • 4min
Mega-Super-Awesome Birthday Giveaway!
My tender ravioli! It’s my birthday!! We are celebrating Leo Season on the Feminist Wellness Podcast and we’re doing a giveaway to mark the occasion! Help other folks find this free resource by leaving a rating and review! In turn—and because Leo's love giving gifts—I would like to thank you for taking the time! All you have to do to receive your free (can't get this any other way) sleep meditation— is leave a rating & review! Then take a little screenshot and email it to us at support@victoriaalbina.com. Need help with the steps to leave a review? Head to victoriaalbina.com/birthday! Happy Leo Season! Mentioned in this episode:Grab my book, End Emotional Outsourcing!Please support my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing, by ordering a copy and reviewing it on Amazon or GoodReads! You can leave a review even if you bought it somewhere else. Bring your screenshot to: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ for gifts and raffle goodies. Thank you for helping this work ripple out.EEO Pre-Sale


