

The Allender Center Podcast
The Allender Center
The Allender Center Podcast features Dr. Dan Allender and his team engaging topics on healing and restoration through the unique intersection of theology and psychology. Through questions submitted by listeners, stories, interviews, and conversations, we engage the deep places of heartache and hope that are rarely addressed so candidly in our culture today. Join us to gain refreshing insight into understanding your story, handling relational struggles, recovering from trauma and abuse, and more.
The mission of The Allender Center is to help people tell their stories with awareness and integrity, and to train them to listen to the stories of others with care, artistry, and skill so that they may foster redemption and healing in their lives. The Allender Center is a pioneering organization committed to boldly engaging the impact of trauma and abuse, providing healing and teaching to individuals, couples, and communities, and training professionals to listen and enter into stories in a way that facilitates transformation and hope. For information on all our programs and live events, visit theallendercenter.org
The mission of The Allender Center is to help people tell their stories with awareness and integrity, and to train them to listen to the stories of others with care, artistry, and skill so that they may foster redemption and healing in their lives. The Allender Center is a pioneering organization committed to boldly engaging the impact of trauma and abuse, providing healing and teaching to individuals, couples, and communities, and training professionals to listen and enter into stories in a way that facilitates transformation and hope. For information on all our programs and live events, visit theallendercenter.org
Episodes
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Mar 17, 2020 • 31min
Love and Courage in a Global Pandemic, Part One
In light of recent, world-altering events, Dan and Rachael sat down to check in with each other and have an honest conversation about the impact of COVID-19. A global pandemic cannot help but bring issues of trauma to the surface. Though we are not trying to resolve all that is unfolding in your own circumstances, we do want to be present and offer encouragement in the midst of these uncertain times. Resources: Love in the Time of Coronavirus by Andy Crouch Listen to a podcast episode on Scapegoating

Mar 13, 2020 • 22min
Trust and Submission to Authority
Rachael Clinton Chen and Dr. Dan Allender continue their conversation about authority, this week diving into who we're meant to trust and submit to in a healthy, biblical way that leads to our flourishing. To begin the episode, Dan reads from Romans 13, a passage often referenced in conjunction with the topic of authority. Both Rachael and Dan acknowledge they are in complex waters and that the words "submission" and "obedience" can be triggering for many listeners due to the misuse and violence done by those in positions of authority. What authority, then, are we to submit to? The phrase Paul uses implies a "quality superior," not all authority, Dan notes, but someone who bears a kind of qualitative goodness—a likeness to the goodness of God. Jesus authorizes others for the sake of addressing the brokenness in the world, extending a sense of empowerment, dignity, and call to life. People who are authorized by God typically do not have to tell others they have authority, Rachael says, as it is gained through respect, participation, service, and honor. The series will conclude next week as Dan and Rachael will address the questions: What is submission, what does it mean to interact with those in authority? Listener Resources: If you are interested in learning more about the topics mentioned in this podcast: Listen to our most recent series about Attachment and Relationships Listen to a podcast episode about Suspicion and Loyalty in Spiritual Abuse Listen to our podcast series featuring Cathy Loerzel on Complexities in Leadership

Mar 6, 2020 • 22min
Complexity in Authority
Rachael Clinton Chen and Dr. Dan Allender dive into a three-part series that wrestles with complex questions about authority. In a culture that grows increasingly divisive, this is a topic not without its own divisions. Throughout this episode, you'll hear Rachael and Dan raise poignant questions and grapple with the implications of trust and mistrust of authority. The conversation opens by acknowledging we are living in a hyper-polarized world where there are deep levels of trust and mistrust in many realms. We need to be able to recognize the difference between suspicion and discernment and to know when suspicion is appropriate and when it is damaging and dismantling. How then do we find balance as we ask questions of authority so that we do not surrender blindly and accept the status quo when there is a need for change, but do not become so hardened that we only mistrust and question those in authority? Listener resources: If you are interested in learning more about the topics mentioned in this podcast: Listen to our podcast episodes on Spiritual Abuse

Feb 28, 2020 • 22min
Attachment and Relationships, Part Three
In this episode, Rachael and Dan continue a series about attachment; how our earliest relationships impact who we come to be. Throughout their conversation, you'll hear attributes of secure attachment, how our brains are wired for attachment, and the three categories of insecure attachment and how they affect our styles of relating.

Feb 22, 2020 • 23min
Attachment and Relationships, Part Two
In this episode, Rachael and Dan continue a series about attachment; how our earliest relationships impact who we come to be. Throughout their conversation you'll hear attributes of secure attachment, how our brains are wired for attachment, and the three categories of insecure attachment and how they affect our styles of relating.

Feb 14, 2020 • 22min
Attachment and Relationships, Part One
Rachael Clinton Chen and Dr. Dan Allender begin a series about attachment and our individual styles of relating and how they can be, as Dan describes, a "kind of gravity" that shapes how we affect other people. We are not static beings, yet who we are and how we relate to others is deeply impacted by the beauty and brokenness of our upbringings.

Feb 12, 2020 • 40min
Reconnection in Marriage with Dr. Dan Allender and Dr. Steve Call (re-release)
Revisiting an insightful conversation between Dr. Dan Allender and Dr. Steve Call, a therapist and Affiliate Faculty member at The Seattle School of Theology & Psychology, about how unaddressed hurt and shame can harm meaningful connections in marriage and practical tools to help rebuild connection where it has been lost.

Feb 7, 2020 • 24min
What Women Wish Women Knew about Women's Sexuality
Rachael Clinton Chen leads an open and honest conversation with Cathy Loerzel and Christy Bauman about what they wish other women knew about women's sexuality.

Jan 31, 2020 • 22min
What Women Wish Men Knew about Women's Sexuality
Dr. Dan Allender and Rachael Clinton Chen are joined by guests Cathy Loerzel and Christy Bauman to have a vulnerable discussion about what women wish men knew about women's sexuality.

Jan 25, 2020 • 26min
A Time of Transition, Part Two
Podcast co-hosts Dan Allender and Rachael Clinton Chen continue a conversation about transitions, in particular what it means to transition well. Both offer valuable insights and wisdom regarding successful transitions and highlight the importance of find


