The Meaning of Men

What do you do when the life you’ve built suddenly disappears?  In this episode of The Meaning of Men, I speak to Adam Clayton, former professional rugby player and founder of APEX Everest, about overcoming adversity, rebuilding identity, and finding purpose after life-altering setbacks. After his career ended at 24 due to injury, Adam battled steroid addiction, loss of identity, and the struggle to find direction, before turning his experience into a mission to help others. In this episode you will learn: How to navigate life-changing setbacks, identity loss, and personal crisis The role of community, shared experience, and mentorship in rebuilding purpose How physical challenges and endurance activities can support mental health, resilience, and personal growth Lessons from Adam’s journey from rock bottom to founding a transformative organisation Practical insights for anyone facing adversity, career change, or searching for meaning This conversation is essential for anyone interested in men’s mental health, resilience, personal growth, overcoming adversity, and building purpose, offering inspiration and actionable insights for turning challenges into opportunities.   Timestamps: 03:21: From Rugby Dreams to Professional Reality 06:21: The Harsh Realities of Professional Sports 09:09: Injury and Identity Crisis 13:01: The Struggles of Post-Rugby Life 15:35: The Dark Side of Recovery: Steroid Use 19:45: Hitting Rock Bottom and Finding Hope 22:55: Confronting the Past: A Conversation with My Younger Self 24:30: The Balance of Ambition and Contentment 26:52: The Birth of Apex: Building Community Through Challenge 32:15: Understanding Men's Struggles: Confidence, Purpose, and Loneliness 35:12: Transformational Journeys: Stories of Growth and Healing 37:27: Overcoming Fear: The Power of Belief and Community 40:53: Healing Through Helping: The Journey of Self-Discovery 44:53: A Message of Hope: Taking the First Step Forward

What does it really take to build a strong and healthy romantic relationship as a modern man?  In this episode of The Meaning of Men, I speak to Kristal DeSantis, marriage and family therapist and author of Strong: A Relationship Field Guide for the Modern Man, about how men can navigate the challenges of emotional intimacy, connection, and modern masculinity in relationships. Kristal shares practical tools and strategies to help men build meaningful, lasting partnerships. In this episode you will learn: How men can overcome common barriers to emotional intimacy and vulnerability Practical strategies from Kristal’s STRONG model for communication, conflict management, and self-regulation How to develop relational skills for dating, long-term partnerships, or marriage Ways to create trust, connection, and mutual understanding in romantic relationships Why showing up fully as a partner contributes to relationship satisfaction, personal growth, and emotional wellbeing This conversation is essential for anyone interested in men’s mental health, modern masculinity, relationship skills, emotional intelligence, and building strong partnerships, offering actionable insights and encouragement for navigating love and connection as a man today.   Hear more from Kristal: Book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Strong-Relationship-Field-Guide-Modern/dp/1959099027 Schedule a call: https://calendly.com/kristal-desantis Speaker Website: www.strong.love Therapy Website: www.austinstrongrbc.com Instagram @atxtherapist  https://linktr.ee/atxtherapist   Timestamps: 04:28: Cultural Dynamics in Relationships 07:11: Men's Perspectives in Relationships 09:55: The Strong Model for Healthy Relationships 12:34: Redefining Masculinity in Modern Society 14:27: Self-Regulation and Emotional Intelligence 25:12: Self-Regulation in Conflict Resolution 28:16: Navigating Gender Roles in Relationships 31:37: The Shift from Function to Connection 33:24: Traits of Healthy Relationships 36:34: The Importance of Presence Over Performance 38:47: Challenges of Modern Dating 44:17: Emotional Vulnerability in Men 45:51: Celebrating Positive Male Contributions 47:01: Hope and Growth in Relationships

Are we obsessing over sleep in all the wrong ways? Sleep is essential for men’s mental health, but chasing perfection can sometimes do more harm than good. In this episode of The Meaning of Men, I speak to Dr. Chris Winter, neurologist and sleep expert, about the crucial connection between sleep, mental health, and emotional wellbeing. Dr. Winter challenges common myths about sleep and shares insights on how to cultivate restorative rest without stress or obsession. In this episode you will learn: How poor sleep contributes to anxiety, depression, and cognitive challenges Why falling asleep too quickly can be a warning sign rather than a mark of good sleep The importance of sleep consistency over simply achieving “perfect” rest How quiet, reflective moments before sleep support emotional processing and mental health Practical strategies to improve sleep quality, reduce insomnia, and reclaim energy and focus This conversation is essential for anyone interested in men’s mental health, sleep science, wellbeing, stress management, and emotional resilience, offering research-backed guidance and practical tools for transforming your relationship with rest. Hear more from Dr Chris: Instagram: @drchriswinter Webpage: www.wchriswinter.com Podcast: Sleep Unplugged with Dr. Chris Winter   Timestamps: 05:14: The Impact of Sleep on Mental Health 09:37: Defining Sleep: What It Is and Why It Matters 14:29: The Gender Dynamics of Sleep Deprivation 16:25: Optimising Sleep: Quality, Quantity, and Consistency 26:53: Recognising Sleep-Related Warning Signs 34:05: Understanding Sleep Quality and Mental Health 35:31: The Mechanics of Sleep and Mental Processing 47:53: Creating a Pre-Sleep Routine for Better Mental Health    

What happens when society defines you by your illness, but you decide to define yourself? Living with mental illness is challenging, but reclaiming your identity and purpose is possible. In this episode of The Meaning of Men, I speak to Kody Green, mental health advocate and one of the most influential voices speaking out about schizophrenia and men’s mental health online. Diagnosed at 21, Kody shares his journey through hallucinations, delusions, addiction, incarceration, and stigma, and how he rebuilt his identity and self-worth. In this episode you will learn: The lived experience of schizophrenia and how it intersects with identity, masculinity, and stigma Strategies for overcoming isolation and reclaiming purpose after a mental health diagnosis How peer support, advocacy, and community can foster resilience, recovery, and personal growth Lessons on challenging societal narratives and redefining yourself beyond labels Insights for anyone supporting loved ones with mental health conditions or navigating their own journey This conversation is essential for anyone interested in men’s mental health, schizophrenia, resilience, recovery, masculinity, and advocacy, offering honest, inspiring guidance on living fully despite life-altering challenges. Hear more from Kody: https://www.kodygreen.com https://www.tiktok.com/@schizophrenichippie?lang=en   Timestamps:   04:31: Understanding Schizophrenia 07:32: Personal Journey with Schizophrenia 10:37: Misconceptions About Schizophrenia 11:57: Impact on Identity and Relationships 14:58: Resilience and Strength in Adversity 17:39: Becoming an Advocate 20:37: Mind Over Meetings: The Book 23:36: Workplace Accommodations for Mental Health 27:24: Reflections on the Journey 30:18: Final Thoughts and Takeaways  

What if healing isn’t just about fixing your mind, but learning to listen to your body as well? True mental health and personal growth often start with reconnecting to your body. In this episode of The Meaning of Men, I speak to Brad Golphenee, trauma-informed somatic coach, about somatic healing, men’s mental health, and overcoming trauma. Brad shares nearly two decades of experience helping men move from emotional disconnection to embodied self-awareness, resilience, and purpose. In this episode you will learn: How unresolved trauma can live in the body for decades, influencing identity, relationships, and behaviour The role of shame in men’s mental health and how acknowledging it can be transformative Techniques for reconnecting with your body through somatic practices, retreats, and group work How body-based approaches empower men to release stored trauma and access inner wisdom Practical strategies for cultivating purpose, freedom, and emotional wellbeing This conversation is essential for anyone interested in men’s mental health, trauma recovery, somatic healing, emotional resilience, and personal growth, offering actionable insights to help men live with greater presence, authenticity, and empowerment.   Timestamps: 03:59: Understanding Trauma and Its Impact 07:48: Exploring Somatic Practices 14:00: The Role of Movement and Breath 20:02: Navigating Shame and Emotional Awareness 26:38: Fatherhood and Emotional Modelling 32:27: Hope for Men's Mental Health 38:40: Getting Started with Somatic Practices

What if the first step toward healing isn’t talking, but writing? Creative expression can be a powerful tool for men’s mental health and emotional wellbeing. In this episode of The Meaning of Men, I speak to poet and author Drew Horner about how writing, poetry, and creative outlets can help men navigate grief, anxiety, and emotional isolation. Drew shares his journey of using poetry as therapy during the pandemic and reflects on insights from his book My Life in Pieces. In this episode you will learn: How writing and creative expression support mental health, emotional processing, and self-awareness The role of poetry in navigating grief, anxiety, and emotional isolation Practical ways for men to begin expressing emotions safely, even when talking feels difficult How creative outlets can foster resilience, healing, and personal growth Why putting feelings into words contributes to mental health awareness and emotional wellbeing This conversation is essential for anyone interested in men’s mental health, creative therapy, emotional expression, grief processing, and personal growth, offering inspiration and practical insight into using writing as a tool for healing and self-discovery. Hear more from Drew: My Life in Pieces: https://linktr.ee/TalesoftheNook?lt_utm_source=lt_share_link#275948678 The Rage Whale movie podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/6FSLdhTwH9WNMqcePFW31x?si=i_D4fXQfQMySjgRAqKQNXA&nd=1&dlsi=4e32c5bce1fd4008 (also on Instagram: @ragewhale_podcast) Timestamps: 03:39: The Power of Poetry as Emotional Expression 06:51: The Journey of Discovering Poetry 13:38: Life in Pieces: The Meaning Behind the Title 20:48: Resilience and Rebuilding Through Adversity 25:35: The Essence of Poetry and Self-Expression 31:38: The Power of Poetry in Public Spaces 35:34: Exploring the Depths of Emotion 38:29: Mental Health and Vulnerability 41:29: Finding Meaning Through Poetry 44:29: Getting Started with Writing 52:19: Legacy and Impact of Drew's Poetry  

With nearly two-thirds of young men following masculinity influencers, isn’t it time we asked why?  In this episode of The Meaning of Men, I speak to Dr. Krista Fisher from Movember about their latest research, Young Men’s Health in a Digital Age, exploring how digital content and masculinity influencers impact men’s mental health, identity, and relationships. We discuss the rise of these online voices, why young men are drawn to them, and the complex mix of hope and harm they can create. In this episode you will learn: How online spaces and social media influence young men’s mental health, identity, and behaviour Why masculinity influencers attract millions of followers and the messages they convey The potential risks and benefits of consuming online content focused on masculinity Insights from Movember’s research on supporting young men’s health, emotional wellbeing, and personal growth Practical ideas for parents, educators, and mentors to help young men navigate digital pressures This conversation is essential for anyone interested in men’s mental health, youth wellbeing, masculinity, digital culture, and online influence, offering research-backed insight into the challenges and opportunities facing young men today.   Link to the full report: https://uk.movember.com/movember-institute/masculinities-report   Timestamps: 00:00: Introduction to Young Men's Health Research 07:15: Understanding Online Influences on Young Men's Health 12:55: The Impact of Media on Young Men's Perception 17:30: Engaging Young Men in Conversations 21:48: The Role of Masculinity Influencers 27:09: Decoupling Toxicity from Masculinity 34:17: Contradictions in Young Men's Mental Health 39:27: Case Study: Will's Journey with Influencers 42:16: The Search for Masculinity 43:40: Understanding Influences on Young Men 46:03: The Impact of Loneliness 49:03: Social Media: Connection or Isolation? 50:31: Contradictions in Relationships 55:17: Frustrations with Dating 01:03:05: A Healthier World for All 01:08:28: Future Directions for Young Men's Health

What does true gender equality in the home really look like, and how does it impact men’s mental health?  In this episode of The Meaning of Men, I speak to Kate Mangino, gender expert and author of Equal Partners, about the crucial link between household equality, men’s mental health, and emotional resilience. Kate shares research and stories of men worldwide who have embraced equal partnership in their relationships, highlighting the benefits for both partners’ health and happiness. In this episode you will learn: How traditional gender roles and expectations affect men’s emotional health, stress, and resilience The impact of being the “breadwinner,” problem-solver, or “strong, silent type” on men’s mental wellbeing How equal partnership in domestic roles supports mental health, relationship satisfaction, and personal fulfilment Insights from real men who have experienced the benefits of sharing responsibilities at home Practical strategies for creating balanced, healthy, and emotionally fulfilling family dynamics This conversation is essential for anyone interested in men’s mental health, gender equality, relationships, emotional wellbeing, and family life, offering actionable guidance for building more balanced and fulfilling lives for men and their families. Hear more from Kate: Website: https://www.katemangino.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/katemangino/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/manginokate22/   Timestamps: 07:10: Defining Gender Equality in the Household 10:14: The Importance of Communication in Partnerships 13:07: The Inspiration Behind 'Equal Partners' 15:55: Challenging Misconceptions About Gender Roles 17:32: The Impact of Gender Equality on Mental Health 25:28: The Perception of Fathers and Their Roles 27:24: The Need for Support Networks for Men 30:01: Gatekeeping in Parenting 32:24: Shaping Gender Equality in the Household 34:38: Challenging Traditional Gender Roles 37:50: The Impact of Gender Equality on Mental Health 41:12: The Importance of Emotional Openness 43:07: Concluding Thoughts on Gender Equality and Self-Care

What does it really take to raise boys into good men in today’s world?  In this episode of The Meaning of Men, I speak to Andrew Reiner, author of Better Boys, Better Men, about the evolving landscape of masculinity, boys’ mental health, and emotional development. Andrew shares insights into the challenges boys face today and how cultural expectations shape their behaviour and wellbeing. In this episode you will learn: Why many boys are struggling emotionally, socially, and academically What the “boy code” is and how it teaches boys to suppress vulnerability and avoid asking for help How fatherhood, mentorship, and role models can support emotional resilience and healthy masculinity Strategies to break the cycle of depression, emotional suppression, and disconnection in boys and young men How to cultivate healthy vulnerability and prepare boys for meaningful, fulfilled adulthood This conversation is essential for anyone interested in men’s mental health, raising boys, emotional intelligence, masculinity, and personal growth, offering actionable insights for parents, educators, mentors, and anyone invested in supporting the next generation of men.   Timestamps: 06:14: Inspiration Behind 'Better Boys, Better Men' 18:10: The Boy Code and Its Impact on Mental Health 22:32: The Impact of Testosterone on Male Brain Development 28:33: Challenges for Single Mothers Raising Boys 34:03: Unlearning Damaging Behaviours in Men 41:17: The Importance of Emotional Resiliency in Boys

Why does rejection affect us so deeply, and what can we do about it?  In this episode of The Meaning of Men, I speak to Professor of Psychology Mark Leary about the science of rejection, social belonging, and men’s mental health. Drawing on decades of research, Mark explains why our sensitivity to rejection is evolutionarily hardwired and how it continues to influence our self-esteem, relationships, and emotional wellbeing. In this episode you will learn: Why humans, especially men, are deeply affected by rejection and social exclusion How rejection impacts self-esteem, mental health, and interpersonal relationships The role of societal expectations in discouraging men from expressing vulnerability or emotional pain Strategies for responding to rejection in healthier, more resilient ways Practical insights for building emotional resilience, confidence, and self-awareness This conversation is essential for anyone interested in men’s mental health, emotional intelligence, resilience, social psychology, and relationships, offering research-backed guidance for understanding and coping with the impact of rejection.   Hear more from Mark: Interpersonal Rejection Book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Interpersonal-Rejection-Mark-R-Leary/dp/0195130146 Blog: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/toward-less-egoic-world Timestamps: 04:46: The Impact of Rejection 11:42: The Evolutionary Roots of Acceptance 15:11: Friendship Dynamics and Acceptance 18:57: Types of Rejection and Their Impact 26:00: Rejection Sensitivity: Genetic and Experiential Factors 31:14: Perception of Rejection: Overestimating and Underestimating 33:06: Understanding Sensitivity to Rejection 35:19: The Balance of Acceptance and Rejection 37:44: Reframing Rejection: A Positive Perspective 41:55: Navigating Romantic Rejection 46:09: The Complexity of Self-Worth and Rejection 49:11: Hurt Feelings: The Core of Rejection 51:25: Moving Forward After Rejection