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Several years ago, I was meeting with a teenage boy who, with striking honesty and a disarming sense of cultural awareness, looked at me and said, “Mr. Thomas, you don’t wear Walmart to high school.” His words were clear, unfiltered, and surprisingly profound. In that simple statement, this young man had unwittingly diagnosed one of the most pervasive and deeply embedded issues that afflict every human heart: the powerful pull of the fear of man. With his comment, he laid bare his internal struggle—one we all know too well—the temptation to let the collective opinions of others define our choices, values, and even our self-worth. Though he may not have used theological language, he was describing the reality of being mastered by what others think of him. Read, Watch, Listen: lifeovercoffee.com/the-story-of-th…lled-by-others/ Will you help us to continue providing free content for everyone? You can become a supporting member here lifeovercoffee.com/join/, or you can make a one-time or recurring donation here lifeovercoffee.com/donate/

When your heart is not being obedient because you “just don’t feel like doing the right thing,” you need to be obedient anyway to get your heart in the right place. We’ve all had those times of being out-of-sorts and apathetic about doing the right thing. It’s not a posture of the heart to applaud, but how do you move forward when desires are low? In such cases, rote, black-and-white obedience is a great way to change what’s going on inside of you. Read, Watch, Listen: https://lifeovercoffee.com/when-obedience-collides-with-emotion/ Will you help us to continue providing free content for everyone? You can become a supporting member here https://lifeovercoffee.com/join/, or you can make a one-time or recurring donation here https://lifeovercoffee.com/donate/

Ryan Maher joins me to talk about one of the most pressing questions Christians face: how do you trust God when life doesn’t make sense? In this conversation, we move beyond surface-level answers and wrestle with the deeper issue—what we actually believe about God’s character when suffering enters our lives. Ryan shares his burden to confront common misconceptions about God and to help people rebuild a biblically grounded trust in Him. We also explore how distorted views of God quietly shape fear, control, and functional unbelief in everyday life. If you’ve ever struggled to reconcile God’s goodness with your experience, this conversation will challenge and help you think more clearly and trust more deeply. Show Notes: https://lifeovercoffee.com/podcast/ep-576-ryan-maher-the-god-worth-trusting/ Will you help us to continue providing free content for everyone? You can become a supporting member here https://lifeovercoffee.com/join/, or you can make a one-time or recurring donation here https://lifeovercoffee.com/donate/.

Our memories can play tricks on our minds, and if we’re not careful, we can grow dissatisfied with our lives while giving too much thought to a past that was not how we had hoped. We may even revise our past—unwittingly—to fit a narrative we prefer. Learning how to capture these uninvited, rogue memories and submit them to Christ’s obedience is crucial. Let me illustrate what I mean with my friend, Biff. Read, Watch, Listen: https://lifeovercoffee.com/memories-forgetting-past-relationship-thoughts/ Will you help us to continue providing free content for everyone? You can become a supporting member here https://lifeovercoffee.com/join/, or you can make a one-time or recurring donation here https://lifeovercoffee.com/donate/.

Faithful shepherding in a digital age begins when parents recognize how technology both reveals and shapes the desires of the heart. Devices do not create our problems—they expose what is already ruling us—making wise, intentional discipleship in the home essential. As screens influence identity, relationships, attention, and worship, parents must move beyond managing behavior to shepherding hearts, helping their children interpret life biblically and follow Christ in a world that is constantly discipling them in a different direction. Show Notes: https://lifeovercoffee.com/podcast/ep-575-shepherding-your-family-in-a-digital-age/ Will you help us to continue providing free content for everyone? You can become a supporting member here https://lifeovercoffee.com/join/, or you can make a one-time or recurring donation here https://lifeovercoffee.com/donate/.

If your life was put in three different file drawers that represented your past, present, and future, which of the file drawers drains the most joy out of your life? For example, if there is a disruption of your contentment, it would indicate something has gone wrong in—at least—one of your file drawers. Thus, you would identify the problem and begin to restore contentment by isolating the issue and initiating a process to bring the gospel to bear on what seeks to disrupt your mind. To help drill down into this concept, I have developed three mind maps to bring clarity to taking our rogue thoughts captive. Read, Watch, Listen: https://lifeovercoffee.com/how-to-change-your-thought-life/ Will you help us to continue providing free content for everyone? You can become a supporting member here https://lifeovercoffee.com/join/, or you can make a one-time or recurring donation here https://lifeovercoffee.com/donate/

The noetic effect of sin means our thinking can be stinking at times. Humans, born in the image of God, fell into sin. Our fall broke the purity and clarity of the mind that God gave to us. We need a change of mind, which the mind map in this chapter will help us to understand. Read, Watch, Listen: https://lifeovercoffee.com/mind-mapping-stinking-thinking-thoughts-on-how-to-change-your-mind/ Will you help us to continue providing free content for everyone? You can become a supporting member here https://lifeovercoffee.com/join/, or you can make a one-time or recurring donation here https://lifeovercoffee.com/donate/

Physical intimacy in marriage is not merely a physical act—it is a spiritual indicator of the health of a relationship. Because the fall introduced shame, selfishness, and hiding into the human heart, couples carry broken patterns into marriage. But through repentance, gospel-centered love, and biblical koinonia, God transforms intimacy from self-centered desire into a Christ-reflecting union. Watch or Listen: https://lifeovercoffee.com/podcast/ep-574-redeeming-physical-intimacy/ Will you help us to continue providing free content for everyone? You can become a supporting member here https://lifeovercoffee.com/join/, or you can make a one-time or recurring donation here https://lifeovercoffee.com/donate/.

Have you ever accused yourself of something that was not true? It’s when you gaslight yourself, telling yourself something that is false. Any false argument launched against yourself can quickly turn into a mental stronghold that could debilitate you spiritually. We are susceptible to false arguments that can take control of our minds. These recurring thought patterns, when left unchecked, will become the dominating arguments of our minds, even to the point where they become our new truth—our new way of thinking. A stronghold is the instrument that shapes how we interpret and respond to life. Read, Watch, Listen: https://lifeovercoffee.com/how-to-take-every-thought-captive-the-battle-for-your-mind/ Will you help us to continue providing free content for everyone? You can become a supporting member here https://lifeovercoffee.com/join/, or you can make a one-time or recurring donation here https://lifeovercoffee.com/donate/.

Your emotions can be good or bad, but in either case, they accurately reflect what is happening in your thought life. If the emotions are right, the person is thinking and responding correctly. If a person’s emotions are not biblically aligned with God’s Word, they need intentional, compassionate, and patient biblical care to help change their thinking. Let me illustrate. Read, Watch, Listen: https://lifeovercoffee.com/emotional-problems-point-to-a-poor-thought-life/ Will you help us to continue providing free content for everyone? You can become a supporting member here https://lifeovercoffee.com/join/, or you can make a one-time or recurring donation here https://lifeovercoffee.com/donate/.