Nobody Told Me!

'** Hidden Valley Road' has been had quite a year! It's been named as one of Barack Obama's Top Favorite Books of 2020, #1 NEW YORK TIMES bestseller and one of their top ten books of the year, OPRAH'S BOOK CLUB PICK, PEOPLE MAGAZINE'S book of the year, and one of the WALL STREET JOURNAL's books of the year. *** On this episode, we're joined by journalist Robert Kolker, author of the new book 'Hidden Valley Road: Inside the Mind of an American Family', a #1 New York Times bestseller and Oprah's Book Club Pick. It tells the heartbreaking, and at times, terrifying, story of the Galvin family—a family with 12 children, six of whom were diagnosed with schizophrenia. The Galvins, were so unusual that they were studied by the National Institute of Mental Health in an effort to learn more about the genetic origins of schizophrenia. Their story is one of shame, denial, shock, trauma and misunderstanding as it relates to mental illness. **** Note: this episode aired earlier this year, but is being reposted due to the year-end success of the book! *** Thanks to our sponsor of this episode! --> BetterHelp: get 10% off your first month of online counseling if there are issues that are interfering with your happiness or preventing you from achieving your goals by visiting betterhelp.com/nobody. --> AirMedCare: If you're ever in need of emergency medical transport, AirMedCare Network provides members with world class air transport services to the nearest appropriate hospital with no out of pocket expenses. Go to airmedcarenetwork.com/nobody and use offer code 'NOBODY' to sign up and choose up to a $50 Amazon or Visa gift card with a new membership! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When we were celebrating the holidays in 2019, could we have ever imagined how different things would look just a year later? This year, we're spending our first Christmas without Jan's daughter and Laura's sister, Sarah, who made the tough decision not to travel home. In this episode, we have an honest conversation about how the pandemic has impacted our relationships, the lessons we have learned from spending so much time at home, the impact of an overnight transition to a digital workplace, what the holidays mean to us, and how at the end of the day, we feel more gratitude this year than we ever have before. We hope that you enjoy this very, very special conversation as much as we did! **** Thanks to our sponsor of this episode! --> BetterHelp: get 10% off your first month of online counseling if there are issues that are interfering with your happiness or preventing you from achieving your goals by visiting betterhelp.com/nobody. --> AirMedCare: If you're ever in need of emergency medical transport, AirMedCare Network provides members with world class air transport services to the nearest appropriate hospital with no out of pocket expenses. Go to airmedcarenetwork.com/nobody and use offer code 'NOBODY' to sign up and choose up to a $50 Amazon or Visa gift card with a new membership! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Joining us on this episode is the charismatic and inspiring Ty Pennington, who's very familiar to millions of television viewers thanks to the hit shows Trading Spaces and Extreme Makeover: Home Edition. Now, Ty is sharing his behind-the-scenes story in his new book, Life to the Extreme: How a Chaotic Kid Became America's Favorite Carpenter. He opens up about what it was like growing up with undiagnosed ADHD, how he turned his energy into creativity, and how important it has been to trust his instincts in every aspect of life. ****** Thanks to our sponsor of this episode! --> Calm: Over 85 million people are using the Calm app to sleep better! Want access to hundreds of hours of sleep stories, guided meditations, and soundscapes? For a limited time, get 40% off of a Calm premium subscription by going to calm.com/nobodytoldme. --> Glossier: get 10% off your first order by going to glossier.com/podcast/ntm. ****** Note: this show is part of our 'Best Of' series. It originally aired in May 2019. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you're even somewhat of a country music fan, chances our you've heard of Bobby Bones, the host of the host of The Bobby Bones Show, which has an audience of more than five million people per week. He's a member of the musical comedy group, "Bobby Bones & The Raging Idiots' and even mentored the top 24 on American Idol. His latest book, "Fail Until You Don't: Fight. Grind. Repeat.", is about how he and some of his famous friends made it through their failures and found their way to enormous success. You can check out his website at: https://bobbybones.iheart.com You can buy his book at: https://www.amazon.com/Bare-Bones-Lonely-Youre-Reading/dp/0062417355 ****** Thanks to our sponsor of this episode! --> Calm: Over 85 million people are using the Calm app to sleep better! Want access to hundreds of hours of sleep stories, guided meditations, and soundscapes? For a limited time, get 40% off of a Calm premium subscription by going to calm.com/nobodytoldme. --> Glossier: get 10% off your first order by going to glossier.com/podcast/ntm. ****** Note: this show is part of our 'Best Of' series. It originally aired in June 2018. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This year, more than any other in the lives of most of us, has been a year of pain and loss. We've watched helplessly as family, friends, and even strangers on television describe losing people they care about to the pandemic. How do we process these losses? Our guest on this episode, Hope Edelman, is an internationally recognized expert in the field of grief. Hope was a teenager when her mother passed away and she says the death of a loved one isn't something we get over, get past, put down or move beyond. She's written extensively on the topic and is the author of the books, Motherless Daughters and Motherless Mothers, among others. Her newest book is called, The AfterGrief: Finding Your Way Along the Long Arc of Grief. You can read the episode transcript at https://www.nobodytoldmeshow.com/post/how-to-deal-with-grief-the-pandemic-and-the-holidays. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When a romantic relationship ends, for whatever the reason, we can find ourselves devastated. How can we pick up the pieces of a broken heart and move forward with our lives, when even getting up in the morning feels like an overwhelming challenge? Our guest on this episode, Amy Chan, found herself jobless, homeless and single, all at once when a relationship with her boyfriend ended. Since then, she's not only found a way to turn heartbreak into healing for herself, but for others as well. Amy founded a "breakup bootcamp" to help women heal themselves first and their hearts, second. And she's now written a book called, Breakup Bootcamp: The Science of Rewiring Your Heart. You can read the transcript at https://www.nobodytoldmeshow.com/post/amy-chan-that-the-right-relationship-won-t-feel-like-a-struggle. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What does it take for boys and men to thrive in America these days? Our guest on this episode, Andrew Reiner, says it's time for us to change the way we think and talk about males in our society. He says many boys and men are struggling now, worse than ever before, and that affects all of us. Andrew has written on men's issues for the New York Times and Washington Post. He's a Professor at Towson University where he offers a seminar on "The Changing Face of Masculinity" and he's the author of the new book, Better Boys, Better Men: The New Masculinity That Creates Greater Courage and Emotional Resiliency. ****** Thanks to our sponsor of this episode! --> Calm: Over 85 million people are using the Calm app to sleep better! Want access to hundreds of hours of sleep stories, guided meditations, and soundscapes? For a limited time, get 40% off of a Calm premium subscription by going to calm.com/nobodytoldme. --> Glossier: get 10% off your first order by going to glossier.com/podcast/ntm. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Could you use some wisdom, encouragement and enlightenment? Our guest, Ashly Perez, is here to give it! Ashly spent more than five years producing, writing, acting and directing short-form internet content for Buzzfeed. She was a Buzzfeedsensation, starring in more than 250 videos, many of which became viral. These days, she's a television writer and artist and the author of a new book called, Read This for Inspiration: Simple Sparks to Ignite Your Life. ****** Thanks to our sponsor of this episode! --> Calm: Over 85 million people are using the Calm app to sleep better! Want access to hundreds of hours of sleep stories, guided meditations, and soundscapes? For a limited time, get 40% off of a Calm premium subscription by going to calm.com/nobodytoldme. --> Glossier: get 10% off your first order by going to glossier.com/podcast/ntm. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, we talk to Sue Klebold about how she would give her own life to stop her son Dylan's mass shooting at Columbine High School. Sue reveals how Dylan had no mental illness diagnosis, and no one knew about the dark depression he wrote in personal journals. Eventually, his suicidal thoughts turned homicidal, and his friendship with fellow shooter Eric Harris developed into extreme rage amongst the two which led to that unforgettable tragedy in 1999. We discuss how she has spent the last fifteen years excavating every detail of her family life and trying to understand the crucial intersection between mental health problems and violence, what she feels she missed in Dylan's mental state, the idea of forgiveness, and the urgent need to change how society responds to psychological disorders in order to prevent future tragedies. This episode originally aired in January 2019, but we felt that we had to share it again. We are all going through a difficult time right now and if you need help, it is available. W **** Thanks to our sponsor of this episode! --> BetterHelp: get 10% off your first month of online counseling if there are issues that are interfering with your happiness or preventing you from achieving your goals by visiting betterhelp.com/nobody. --> AirMedCare: If you're ever in need of emergency medical transport, AirMedCare Network provides members with world class air transport services to the nearest appropriate hospital with no out of pocket expenses. Go to airmedcarenetwork.com/nobody and use offer code 'NOBODY' to sign up and choose up to a $50 Amazon or Visa gift card with a new membership! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Most people are having a difficult time finding gratitude this year. It's hard not to be bitter and take the good things in our life for granted since we have all been, at the very least, inconvenienced, and at the most, death of a family member. We're all in search of ways to feel better, and on this episode, we talk to bestselling author and journalist Spike Carlsen, who says that you can feel thankful and grateful by just stepping out (with a mask, of course) and really noticing things in our neighborhood. Spike has written a fascinating new book called, A Walk Around the Block: Stoplight Secrets, Mysterious Squirrels, Manhole Mysteries and Other Stuff You See Every Day (And Know Nothing About). **** Thanks to our sponsor of this episode! --> BetterHelp: get 10% off your first month of online counseling if there are issues that are interfering with your happiness or preventing you from achieving your goals by visiting betterhelp.com/nobody. --> AirMedCare: If you're ever in need of emergency medical transport, AirMedCare Network provides members with world class air transport services to the nearest appropriate hospital with no out of pocket expenses. Go to airmedcarenetwork.com/nobody and use offer code 'NOBODY' to sign up and choose up to a $50 Amazon or Visa gift card with a new membership! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices