The Penis Project Podcast: Breaking Taboos in Men’s Sexual Health

Host: Melissa Hadley Barrett   Guest: Carlotta Thomas   Category: Partner Support | Prostate Cancer | Intimacy and Sexuality | Penile Rehabilitation   Episode Summary: Prostate cancer does not just affect one person. It can affect the couple, the relationship, the way intimacy feels, and the confidence both people bring into the bedroom. Many men and their partners feel alone in that. This episode reminds listeners that they are not broken, they are not failing, and they are definitely not the only ones trying to work out what comes next.  It also gently challenges the old idea that intimacy only “counts” if there is penetration or a reliable erection. Thankfully, human connection is a bit more creative than that.    Episode Description: In this episode of The Penis Project Podcast, Melissa Hadley Barrett speaks with Carlotta Thomas about something that does not get talked about nearly enough, the partner perspective after prostate cancer. Carlotta is a breast cancer survivor and the partner of a prostate cancer survivor, and she shares a deeply honest, thoughtful, and hopeful perspective on what it means to navigate love, intimacy, communication, and recovery in a relationship touched by cancer.   Melissa first met Carlotta through a Canadian support and education organisation (The Walnut Foundation) for men and their partners affected by prostate cancer and was struck by how openly and powerfully she spoke about the realities of being the partner of someone going through treatment and recovery.   Together, Melissa and Carlotta explore the reality that for many couples, sex and intimacy after prostate cancer may need to look different, especially in a newer relationship. They talk about the common assumption that sex must always mean penetration and why broadening that definition can be both freeing and healing. Carlotta shares how she and her partner navigated those early conversations, how they learned what worked for each other, and why intimacy can be as simple as touch, affection, holding hands, and being emotionally present.   This episode is particularly valuable because it normalises the awkward bits. The conversations that feel hard. The fear that a partner may withdraw. The uncertainty around erections, desire, and body confidence. Melissa and Carlotta talk openly about how communication is not optional if couples want to stay connected through change.   There is also a strong message of hope in this episode. Melissa reflects on how many men eventually regain erectile function, sometimes naturally and sometimes with support such as rehabilitation or injections, but that the process can even improve people’s intimate lives. Carlotta’s message is that this journey is one that involves faith, love, courage, resilience, and communication.   In this episode we discuss:  the partner perspective after prostate cancer  navigating intimacy in a new relationship  why sex is more than penetration  how to talk about awkward or emotionally difficult topics  the impact of treatment changes on connection and confidence  how couples can adapt and find new ways to be intimate  why communication is one of the most important tools in recovery  hope, resilience, and learning together as a couple  About Carlotta Thomas:  Carlotta Thomas is a breast cancer survivor, advocate, leader, and the partner of a prostate cancer survivor. Melissa describes being struck by Carlotta’s honesty and vulnerability when they met through a Canadian prostate cancer support and education event. In this episode, Carlotta shares her lived experience of navigating love, partnership, communication, and intimacy in the context of cancer recovery.     Need support with Prostate Cancer or Intimacy?  At Restorative Health Clinic, we support men and their partners with:  penile rehabilitation after prostate cancer treatment  erectile dysfunction  intimacy and sexual recovery  partner-inclusive support where appropriate  practical, evidence-based strategies for getting confidence back  We offer telehealth consultations Australia/ World-wide, making it easier for men to access experienced, compassionate support no matter where they live.  Resources & Links:  Book a telehealth consult with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic  For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com  Listen & Subscribe  If you found this episode helpful, don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review the podcast! Your feedback helps us continue bringing important conversations to light. Search for The Penis Project Podcast on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favourite podcast app.  Connect With Us   We love hearing from real people, navigating penile health. If you’d like to share your journey or ask a question, get in touch. Email: admin@rshealth.com.au    Websites:  https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders  https://makehardeasy.com.au   https://melissahadleybarrett.com   Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/  https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@melissahadleybarrett   TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett  Facebook:  https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/  https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814  Linkedin:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/   TEDX:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA 

In this eye-opening episode of The Penis Project Podcast, Melissa chats with Chris Bustamante—better known online as Injector Chris — a New York and San Diego–based Nurse Practitioner who has become one of the world’s leading experts in penile aesthetics, including penis fillers, scrotal enhancement, ShowTox, Scro-Fill, HoleTox, and more.  Chris brings a unique combination of artistry, anatomy, and sexual-health expertise to a niche area of men’s health that is rapidly growing but often misunderstood. Together, Melissa and Chris unpack the science, the artistry, the risks, and the motivations behind male cosmetic procedures—from girth fillers to anal Botox—while smashing stigma and celebrating patients’ right to feel confident in their bodies.  Whether you're curious, skeptical, or considering enhancement yourself, this is an honest, deeply educational, boundary-pushing conversation you won’t want to miss.   This Episode, We Cover:  Chris shares his journey from makeup artistry → biology → nursing → nurse practitioner, and how combining aesthetics with sexual health led him to create Lushful Aesthetics, one of the most recognised male-enhancement clinics in the US.  Melissa and Chris dive into:  The difference between cosmetic artistry and simply “knowing the technique”  Why penile filler is nothing like facial filler  The rise of revision work—and why many patients are coming in after botched jobs elsewhere  Ideal candidates for girth enhancement  Why proper technique preserves sensitivity  What partners think—and why many return to get procedures themselves!  Chris also explains some of the most intriguing procedures in modern sexual health:  ShowTox™  Botox in the shaft to reduce retraction and help men appear more like a “shower” than a “grower”.  HoleTox™  Anal Botox for:  Easier and more comfortable anal play  Anal spasms  Proctalgia fugax  Chronic fissures  Post-surgical spasm  (With important safeguards to prevent incontinence)  Scro-Fill™  Scrotal filler to enhance fullness, particularly for men experiencing:  Testicular retraction  Loss of volume from testosterone suppression  Aesthetic concerns  Preference for a fuller “hang”  Penile Filler 101  How Chris approaches girth enhancement with an artist’s eye  Why anatomy varies dramatically and requires tailored technique  The dangers of “one-size-fits-all” injectors  Typical filler volumes, costs, longevity & touch-up schedules  Why shaft fillers should be placed along the sides, not the top  Preserving the dorsal nerve to maintain sexual sensation  How to counsel men who want only subtle changes vs. those wanting dramatic gains  Peyronie’s Disease & Aesthetics  Why filler cannot treat plaque—but can improve post-treatment symmetry  When cosmetic filler can help visually balance a penis after deformity  Premature Ejaculation & Fillers  Can glans filler help?  What the early research shows  Stigma, Masculinity & Why Men Want Enhancements  The shift toward openness in gay and straight communities  Generational differences in disclosure  Why older men (including 70+) are embracing enhancements  Male cosmetic procedures as the new “sports car”    Connect with Chris  Instagram: @injectorchris  Clinic: Lushful Aesthetics (NY & San Diego) https://www.lushfulaesthetics.com/     Resources & Links:  Book a telehealth consult with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic  For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com  Listen & Subscribe  If you found this episode helpful, don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review the podcast! Your feedback helps us continue bringing important conversations to light. Search for The Penis Project Podcast on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favourite podcast app.  Connect With Us   We love hearing from real people, navigating penile health. If you’d like to share your journey or ask a question, get in touch. Email: admin@rshealth.com.au    Websites:  https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders  https://makehardeasy.com.au   https://melissahadleybarrett.com   Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/  https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@melissahadleybarrett   TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett  Facebook:  https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/  https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814  Linkedin:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/   TEDX:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA 

In this episode of The Penis Project Podcast, Melissa is joined by internationally recognised intimacy expert and relationship coach Allana Pratt for a wide-ranging conversation about emotional healing, embodiment, vulnerability, and what it truly means to build meaningful, intimate relationships.  With over a decade of podcasting experience and more than 20 years working with individuals and couples, Allana brings a powerful blend of psychology, spirituality, body-based awareness, and practical tools to help people reconnect — with themselves first, and then with others.  This episode goes far beyond sex, exploring how unresolved emotional pain, self-rejection, and disconnection from the body can show up as relationship struggles, sexual dysfunction, and ongoing dissatisfaction — and how learning to truly feel can be transformative.  This episode offers a powerful reminder that sexual health is not just physical — it’s emotional, relational, and deeply human.    In This Episode, We Discuss:   Allana’s journey into intimacy and relationship coaching — and why intimacy is about far more than sex  How intimacy with self is the foundation for intimacy with others   The link between emotional suppression, trauma, and physical symptoms — including sexual dysfunction  Understanding the autonomic nervous system and emotional regulation   Why repeating relationship patterns is a sign of unresolved emotional work   What “becoming the one before finding the one” really means  Practical communication tools for couples to build safety, presence, and trust  Why structured check-ins can prevent resentment and emotional drift   Dating as a practice ground for honesty, boundaries, and self-worth   How to respond to rejection without collapsing into self-blame  Why vulnerability is a strength — not a liability    Key Takeaways  Healing doesn’t happen in the head alone — it happens through the body  Secure intimacy starts with self-acceptance, not performance or achievement  Relationships thrive when two whole people come together — not two people trying to complete each other  Communication isn’t about being right; it’s about being heard  Emotional safety allows desire, pleasure, and connection to return  About Allana Pratt  Allana Pratt is a globally recognised intimacy expert, relationship coach, and host of the Intimate Conversations Podcast, now in its 14th season. She works with individuals and couples to heal heartbreak, develop emotional resilience, and create deeply fulfilling relationships grounded in authenticity and embodiment.    How to Work with Allana  Podcast: Intimate Conversations with Allana Pratt  Instagram / YouTube: @allanapratt  Patreon Community: Weekly Q&A and teachings  Website: www.allanapratt.com/connect   Special Offer for Penis Project listeners:  Use the code READYNOW to access a subsidised Intimacy Breakthrough Experience call with Allana.    Resources & Links:  Book a telehealth consult with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic  For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com  Listen & Subscribe  If you found this episode helpful, don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review the podcast! Your feedback helps us continue bringing important conversations to light. Search for The Penis Project Podcast on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favourite podcast app.  Connect With Us   We love hearing from real people, navigating penile health. If you’d like to share your journey or ask a question, get in touch. Email: admin@rshealth.com.au    Websites:  https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders  https://makehardeasy.com.au   https://melissahadleybarrett.com   Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/  https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@melissahadleybarrett   TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett  Facebook:  https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/  https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814  Linkedin:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/   TEDX:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA 

In this an honest and emotional episode of The Penis Project Podcast, Melissa and Kate shift the spotlight to a voice that is far too often missing in prostate cancer conversations — the partner.  Rachel bravely shares her lived experience of navigating intimacy, grief, love, patience, and reconnection after her partner underwent prostate cancer surgery. What unfolds is not a clinical education session, but a raw, validating conversation about what happens to relationships when erections, continence, desire, and confidence change overnight.  Together, they explore how prostate cancer is not just a medical diagnosis, it is a life changing event. One that impacts communication, identity, sexuality, and emotional safety on both sides.  This episode is essential listening for partners, couples, and clinicians who want to better understand the unseen emotional labour carried by those standing beside the man with the diagnosis.  In This Episode, We Discuss:  Why prostate cancer is a couple’s condition, not just a men’s health issue  The silent grief partners experience   Why erectile dysfunction, incontinence, and medicalised sex can affect intimacy  Feeling out of sync: when one partner is focused on survival and the other on connection  The loss of spontaneity, desire signals, and sexual confidence  The emotional complexity of “being supportive”  Why saying “I don’t mind if we never have sex again” can feel like rejection  The impact of ED on a partner’s sense of desirability and femininity  Navigating injections, pumps, implants   Shifting from performance and penetration to connection and shared pleasure  Practical strategies that may help   Key Takeaways  Desire doesn’t disappear after prostate cancer — it changes shape.  Partners grieve too, and their pain deserves space and validation.  Intimacy is about connection, not outcomes.  Support for partners is a glaring gap — and one that must be addressed.  Support for Partners  If you are a partner navigating life after prostate cancer and would like to connect with others in a similar situation, you can email: admin@rshealth.com.au  (Your details can be passed on confidentially — partner anonymity respected.)    Resources & Links:  Book an in clinic or telehealth consult with our sexual health practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic  For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com  Book: Come Together – Emily Nagoski  Listen & Subscribe  If you found this episode helpful, don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review the podcast! Your feedback helps us continue bringing important conversations to light. Search for The Penis Project Podcast on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favourite podcast app.  Connect With Us   We love hearing from real people, navigating penile health. If you’d like to share your journey or ask a question, get in touch. Email: admin@rshealth.com.au    Websites:  https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders  https://makehardeasy.com.au   https://melissahadleybarrett.com   Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/  https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@melissahadleybarrett   TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett  Facebook:  https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/  https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814  Linkedin:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/   TEDX:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA   

In this candid and surprising episode, Melissa is joined by guest host Kira and anonymous guests “George and Mildred” for a deep dive into their relationship story, how menopause and erectile dysfunction impacted their marriage, and how a journey into the swinging lifestyle ultimately strengthened communication, intimacy, and connection.  This conversation explores the real relationship work behind non-monogamy, including boundaries, ground rules, consent culture at clubs, the importance of emotional safety, and how past breaches of consent can shape future intimacy.  What You’ll Hear in This Episode  How they met (army posting, friendship-first, and a hilariously blunt pickup line)   Menopause, libido changes, and the ripple effects inside a long-term relationship   What ED did to confidence, connection, and communication — and why many men withdraw silently   Their first visit to Restorative Health Clinic, and the moment treatment helped restore intimacy   The relationship rupture: online searching for connection, betrayal, and rebuilding trust   The turning point: honest conversations that revealed the issue wasn’t “just sex” — it was the relationship   How and why, they entered swinging (slowly), why it wasn’t instant confidence, and what helped   Attraction, compatibility, and why “the whole package” matters more than perfection   Sexual identity and exploration (bisexuality, comfort, and removing shame)   The “unicorn” dynamic: what it means, how it works, and why friendship matters as much as sex   Clubs explained for beginners:  what swinging clubs are like  what “play areas” are  how different venues have different vibes (more social vs more kink-friendly)   The Dom/Sub dynamic: how it developed, how they practised safely, and why education matters  Consent and confidentiality: what “yes” must look like, and why assumptions can be harmful   A powerful consent story: what happens when boundaries are crossed, and how recovery can take time   Jealousy (teased at the end): acknowledging it exists and setting up the next part of the conversation  Key Takeaways  ED and libido changes don’t just affect sex — they affect identity, confidence, and emotional connection  Silence and embarrassment can create distance in long-term relationships  Non-monogamy isn’t a “quick fix” — it often requires more communication, not less  Healthy swinging relies on boundaries, consent, and emotional safety  Consent isn’t a one-time checkbox — it’s ongoing, clear, and must be re-established  Intimacy can be rebuilt, but breaches of trust (or consent) can take months to heal    Listener Note  This episode includes frank discussion of sex, non-monogamy, and consent experiences. Please listen with care.    Resources & Links:  Book a telehealth consult with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic  For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com  https://breathworkforsurfers.com.au/ Mentioned in the podcast Ryan did this program with tom Carroll  Listen & Subscribe  If you found this episode helpful, don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review the podcast! Your feedback helps us continue bringing important conversations to light. Search for The Penis Project Podcast on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favourite podcast app.  Connect With Us   We love hearing from real people, navigating penile health. If you’d like to share your journey or ask a question, get in touch. Email: admin@rshealth.com.au    Websites:  https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders  https://makehardeasy.com.au   https://melissahadleybarrett.com   Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/  https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@melissahadleybarrett   TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett  Facebook:  https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/  https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814  Linkedin:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/   TEDX:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA 

Let’s talk bollocks — literally. In this candid and funny episode of The Penis Project Podcast, Melissa chats with Kurt Brookes and James McConnell, co-hosts of the bold new podcast Never Mind My Bollocks, produced by Made in Manchester. Together, they’re breaking the silence around vasectomy — a topic often buried in myths, awkwardness, and outdated notions of masculinity.  Kurt, a comedy creator, and James, an NHS scientist and geneticist, bring their lived experience and friendship to the mic. What started as a casual post-comedy-night confession (“You’ve had one too?!”) became a mission to normalise the conversation about vasectomy — with honesty, humour, and zero shame.  From misconceptions about “losing your manhood” to the truth about recovery, ejaculation, and “blue balls,” this episode goes where most won’t — cutting through the misinformation with science, storytelling, and a laugh or two.  In This Episode, We Cover:  How Never Mind My Bollocks began and why the world needs to talk about vasectomy  Myths that persist: masculinity, testosterone, and “dry orgasms”  What really happens before, during, and after the snip  Why vasectomy doesn’t make you “less of a man”  Lived experience vs. medical expertise — and why both matter  Common misconceptions around reversibility, chronic pain, and recovery  How humour helps break taboo around men’s sexual health  Kurt Brookes is Deputy Creative Director at Made in Manchester. James McConnell is a geneticist and allied health professional working within the NHS. Together, they created Never Mind My Bollocks to make vasectomy conversations real, relatable, and stigma-free — sharing stories from men and experts alike to help others make informed choices about their reproductive health.     Listen to Never Mind My Bollocks on all major podcast platforms.    Key Takeaway:  Talking about vasectomy shouldn’t be taboo. Kurt and James remind us that openness — not silence — is the real sign of strength.  Resources & Links:  Book a telehealth consult with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic  For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com  Listen & Subscribe  If you found this episode helpful, don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review the podcast! Your feedback helps us continue bringing important conversations to light. Search for The Penis Project Podcast on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favourite podcast app.  Connect With Us   We love hearing from real people, navigating penile health. If you’d like to share your journey or ask a question, get in touch. Email: admin@rshealth.com.au    Websites:  https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders  https://makehardeasy.com.au   https://melissahadleybarrett.com   Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/  https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@melissahadleybarrett   TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett  Facebook:  https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/  https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814  Linkedin:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/   TEDX:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA 

In this special episode of The Penis Project Podcast, the tables are turned — and Melissa Hadley Barrett is the one being interviewed!  Joining her is Sangeeth Sebastian, a journalist and sexuality writer from Kerala, India, and the founder of VVOX — a groundbreaking platform with a mission to make accurate, science-based sexual and mental health knowledge accessible to everyone and end sexual shame.  With nearly two decades in journalism, Sangeeth brings empathy and investigative depth to the conversation as he and Melissa explore everything from erectile dysfunction and Peyronies disease to libido, body image, and the silence surrounding sexual pain. Together they unpack why shame remains one of the biggest barriers to intimacy, how open communication can transform relationships, and what it means to create a culture of curiosity over judgment.  In This Episode, We Cover:  Sangeeth’s journey from award-winning journalist in Kerala to sexuality educator and founder of VVOX  Why he launched VVOX and how its helping people unlearn sexual shame  Melissa’s insights into men’s sexual health — erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, Peyronie’s disease, and post-cancer recovery  The social and cultural roots of shame around sex  How misinformation affects both men’s and women’s confidence and pleasure  The importance of empathy, language, and education in sexual healing  What it takes to build a healthier, shame-free global conversation around sex  Key Takeaways:  Shame is cultural — but it can be unlearned through education and open dialogue.  Science and compassion together heal more than medicine alone.  Sexual health is human health: it affects confidence, connection, and quality of life.  True intimacy grows from honesty, curiosity, and mutual respect.  Access to accurate information is the foundation of sexual freedom.  About Sangeeth Sebastian:  Hailing from Kerala, India, Sangeeth Sebastian is the founder of VVOX (pronounced we-vox), a platform dedicated to ending sexual shame by making reliable, evidence-based education about sexuality and mental health available to everyone.  With nearly 20 years of experience as a journalist, he has worked with major Indian media houses including The Hindu, Hindustan Times, and India Today Group. An award-winning sexuality writer and DAAD researcher, his work has been recognised internationally and featured in outlets such as BBC, The Guardian, AFP, Channel 4 UK, and The Daily Mail.  Sangeeth also received the Likho Award for Excellence from the Humsafar Trust for fair and inclusive LGBTQ+ representation in media.  Learn more about VVOX:   https://www.youtube.com/@vvoxIndia  www.vvox.in  Resources & Links:  Book a telehealth consult with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic  For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com  Listen & Subscribe  If you found this episode helpful, don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review the podcast! Your feedback helps us continue bringing important conversations to light. Search for The Penis Project Podcast on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favourite podcast app.  Connect With Us   We love hearing from real people, navigating penile health. If you’d like to share your journey or ask a question, get in touch. Email: admin@rshealth.com.au    Websites:  https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders  https://makehardeasy.com.au   https://melissahadleybarrett.com   Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/  https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@melissahadleybarrett   TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett  Facebook:  https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/  https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814  Linkedin:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/   TEDX:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA 

In this special Christmas edition of The Penis Project Podcast, Melissa is joined by members of the Restorative Health Clinic team for a candid, funny, and surprisingly heartfelt look back at the year that was.  From awkward inbox messages and clinic mishaps to deeply meaningful patient moments, the team reflects on what it’s really like working in men’s sexual health — a space where humour, vulnerability, trust, and life-changing conversations collide every day.  This episode is part thank-you, part behind-the-scenes, and part reminder that sexual health work is serious — but laughter matters too.   Key Takeaways  Men’s sexual health is about much more than erections — it’s about confidence, connection, and quality of life  Trust takes time, but once it’s built, men open up in powerful ways  Porn has skewed expectations — most penises are completely normal  You don’t need to have a penis to understand men’s sexual health — listening matters more  A good clinic culture blends professionalism, compassion… and humour   Clinic Updates & Announcements  New clinic location: Icon Cancer Centre, Midland  Expanded support for men post-radiation (prostate, bladder, colorectal cancer)  Telehealth services now supporting rural, remote, interstate, and overseas patients  Upcoming training & conferences:  International Society of Sexual Medicine (Porto, Portugal)  Advanced Botox training for penile health applications  Christmas closure:  19th December- 12th January    Resources & Links:  Book a telehealth consult with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic  For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com  Listen & Subscribe  If you found this episode helpful, don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review the podcast! Your feedback helps us continue bringing important conversations to light. Search for The Penis Project Podcast on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favourite podcast app.  Connect With Us  We love hearing from real people, navigating penile health. If you’d like to share your journey or ask a question, get in touch. Email: admin@rshealth.com.au    Websites:  https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders  https://makehardeasy.com.au   https://melissahadleybarrett.com   Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/  https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@melissahadleybarrett   TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett  Facebook:  https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/  https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814  Linkedin:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/   TEDX:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA 

In this deeply insightful episode of The Penis Project Podcast, Melissa Hadley Barrett sits down with Jeremy Lipkowitz — a former Buddhist monk turned mindfulness teacher and men’s recovery coach — to explore how compulsive behaviours like porn addiction can quietly undermine men’s sexual health, relationships, and sense of self.  Jeremy shares his personal journey from genetics research at Duke University to living as a monk, and how mindfulness, neuroscience, and self-compassion became the tools that helped him (and now others) break free from addiction. Together, Melissa and Jeremy unpack the neuroscience of porn use, its impact on intimacy and erectile function, and how men can rewire their brains to rediscover genuine connection and confidence.  In This Episode, We Cover:  Jeremy’s unique path from scientist to monk to men’s recovery coach  How porn addiction develops — and why it’s often hard to recognise early  The neuroscience of addiction: dopamine, neuroplasticity, and “amygdala hijack”  How compulsive porn use impacts erectile function, libido, and intimacy  The truth about porn, body image, and unrealistic sexual expectations  The role of mindfulness and meditation in rewiring the brain and regaining control  How to “urge surf” — using 90 seconds of awareness instead of autopilot  The power of community and accountability in creating lasting change  How mindfulness helps men face emotions rather than escape them  Key Takeaways:  Addiction isn’t about weakness — it’s about avoiding uncomfortable emotions.  Porn rewires the brain to crave novelty, dulling connection and satisfaction in real life.  Mindfulness builds awareness and self-control, allowing men to choose consciously rather than react automatically.  Healing comes through connection, compassion, and understanding — not shame.  You don’t have to be perfect to make progress; awareness is the first step to change.  About Jeremy Lipkowitz:  Jeremy is a certified mindfulness and emotional intelligence teacher, former Buddhist monk, and founder of Unhooked Academy — a global community helping men break free from compulsive behaviours and build discipline, purpose, and fulfilling relationships. He also hosts the Unhooked Podcast, where he interviews experts and shares practical tools for self-mastery and recovery.  Learn more: www.UnhookedAcademy.com  Follow Jeremy: @jeremylipkowitz  Listen to his podcast: Search “Unhooked” on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favourite podcast app.  Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@JeremyLipkowitz     Resources & Links:  Book a telehealth consult with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic  For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com  Listen & Subscribe  If you found this episode helpful, don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review the podcast! Your feedback helps us continue bringing important conversations to light. Search for The Penis Project Podcast on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favourite podcast app.  Connect With Us   We love hearing from real people, navigating penile health. If you’d like to share your journey or ask a question, get in touch. Email: admin@rshealth.com.au    Websites:  https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders  https://makehardeasy.com.au   https://melissahadleybarrett.com   Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/  https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@melissahadleybarrett   TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett  Facebook:  https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/  https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814  Linkedin:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/   TEDX:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA   

In this deeply human episode of The Penis Project podcast, Melissa sits down with former NRL legend and now men's mentor Ryan Girdler, whose life after professional football has taken an unexpected and transformative turn.  Ryan talks candidly about growing up in a blue-collar household in the 70s, the pressures of masculinity, and how being driven hard as a child shaped his identity. He reflects on his footy career, the unspoken expectations to “be tough,” and how those patterns carried over into life after retirement—leading him to overwork, burnout, and eventually, a total personal reset.  Through meditation, breathwork, and support from his wife, Ryan found a new path. Today, he mentors men through profound emotional, physical, and spiritual work, helping them reconnect with themselves, develop healthier expressions of masculinity, and live with more balance, softness, and purpose.  This conversation goes far beyond sport. Ryan opens up about parenting, vulnerability, inner dialogue, relationships, and why so many men feel lost in today’s world. He also explores his work with Reconnected Men, breathwork retreats, and his partnership with the enigmatic healer, Imrah, known to many as “the alchemist.”  This Episode, We Cover:  Ryan’s early life & sporting beginnings  Growing up under pressure in a hardworking family and feeling driven to please others  How internal and external expectations pushed him into rugby league  The emotional impact of a “boys don’t cry” upbringing  Masculinity, identity & the struggles men face today  Why modern masculinity feels confusing—and why “toxic masculinity” breaks Ryan’s heart  The lack of healthy male role models  Balancing discipline with vulnerability  Why many men feel they must fix everything rather than be present  Life after professional sport  Losing identity and purpose at 30  Overworking to fill a void—“trying to beat yoga at yoga”  How breathwork and meditation became lifesaving tools  The profound influence of his wife in redirecting his path  Breathwork, nervous system regulation & healing  Ryan’s introduction to meditation through a big wave surfer  Using pranayama as the “cheat code” to stillness  How breathwork helped him “wield the mind” rather than be controlled by it  Why he believes every man should experience nervous-system regulation  Reconnected Men & the work he does now  One-day and three-day men’s retreats in Queensland and Sydney  Holotropic/transformational breathwork sessions  Corporate breathwork and team integration sessions  His mentoring program combining discipline, stillness, personal story, and emotional growth  The story of Imrah – “the alchemist”  How Ryan reconnected with Imrah after 25 years  Imrah’s unusual upbringing in the Pilbara and his unique abilities  Their partnership in retreats and breathwork events  Why I have named Ryan  “the conduit”   Parenting, relationships & emotional presence  Raising daughters with boundaries, connection, and regulated technology use  Letting go of control in relationships  How softness, listening, and heart-led responses change family dynamics  Ryan’s message to men  "You don’t always have to be in control. And you don't have to do it on your own."  Key Takeaways:  Masculinity isn’t the problem—disconnection is.  Men thrive when they learn discipline and vulnerability.  Breathwork, meditation, and nervous system tools can fundamentally shift a man’s internal world.  Healing begins with self-awareness, not fixing others.  You can be strong and gentle at the same time—and your family will feel the difference.  Sometimes your partner sees your path before you do.  Life after high-performance sport requires finding new meaning, not new metrics to “win.”  Connect with Ryan Girdler & Reconnected Men  Reconnected Men (retreats & programs): https://www.reconnectedmen.com   Instagram: @ryangirdler  Transformational Breathwork & Retreats  Resources & Links:  Book a telehealth consult with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic  For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com  https://breathworkforsurfers.com.au/ Mentioned in the podcast Ryan did this program with tom Carroll  Listen & Subscribe  If you found this episode helpful, don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review the podcast! Your feedback helps us continue bringing important conversations to light. Search for The Penis Project Podcast on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favourite podcast app.  Connect With Us   We love hearing from real people, navigating penile health. If you’d like to share your journey or ask a question, get in touch. Email: admin@rshealth.com.au    Websites:  https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders  https://makehardeasy.com.au   https://melissahadleybarrett.com   Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/  https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@melissahadleybarrett   TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett  Facebook:  https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/  https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814  Linkedin:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/   TEDX:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA