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Kay Lock Kolp
This show is for the dreamers and the doers. It’s for anyone who was told “get your head out of the clouds!” - and who still dared to dream BIG.
I'm Kay! I am a coach helping people who show up for others to stay true to themselves❣️
My background is in human development.
I've spent more than 30 years supporting as people of all ages connect, communicate, enjoy their lives and bring about their best and biggest dreams.
What fun!
Connect with me at kaylockkolp.com.. wishing you very well today ✨
PS This show used to be called We Turned Out Okay… and then Practical Intuition with Kay… You're in the right place!
This show turned 10 years old on May 1st 2025!! How wild is that!!
Much has changed around here, but much has stayed the same. I'm glad you are here. kaylockkolp.substack.com
I'm Kay! I am a coach helping people who show up for others to stay true to themselves❣️
My background is in human development.
I've spent more than 30 years supporting as people of all ages connect, communicate, enjoy their lives and bring about their best and biggest dreams.
What fun!
Connect with me at kaylockkolp.com.. wishing you very well today ✨
PS This show used to be called We Turned Out Okay… and then Practical Intuition with Kay… You're in the right place!
This show turned 10 years old on May 1st 2025!! How wild is that!!
Much has changed around here, but much has stayed the same. I'm glad you are here. kaylockkolp.substack.com
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Apr 16, 2019 • 47min
When Your Spouse is Not On Board | Podcast Episode 274
As life partners, we all have some disagreements. But what if you feel like your disagreements are interfering in family life? That's what this episode is all about, so if you're worrying about any of this you're in the right place! I've got 3 ways to get your spouse on the same page as you are. Plus: in Parenting News, we consider coding as one of the academic 3Rs. Join us! Go to weturnedoutokay.com/274 for: A cheat sheet of the 3 ways discussed today Links to a whole bunch of good stuff, including the key links talked about today and free potty training and temper tantrum free guides The video of the week: "My spouse isn't on board with how I'm raising our kids" And thank you so much for listening! Live Q&A and Open House Tour Ever wished you could check out the private coaching community that I run for parents of young children? Do you have questions about if it could work for you, even in your busy, insane life and with whatever technical skills you possess (especially if you feel like they're not very good)? You're in luck! On Thursday, April 25 at 1 PM EST I am throwing open the doors to the Ninja Parenting Community! I'm taking you right inside, and showing you: – What our members love about it – How the community helps parents turn family time into "the best time of the day" – And I'm taking questions too! It's free… I'm so excited to bring you in and show you around! It's live… But even if you can't be there live, signing up gets you the replay so you can rewatch as many times as you like. It's where my heart and soul is… because I get to work closely with so many amazing parents. Don't miss out on discovering this secret to happy parenting… Click weturnedoutokay.com/tour to sign up! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

Apr 9, 2019 • 1h 3min
Actual, real happy families with returning champion Audrey Monke today, plus new "Parenting News" segment! Podcast episode 273
A conversation with Audrey Monke is always welcome, even more so when she's written a book that can fix so many of the worries we confront on a daily basis. Which this one totally is! If you're worried about: – How to keep your kids close while giving them their independence – If they'll ever make friends, and what might happen to them if they don't – How in heck they will develop the skills necessary to make it in this world You are going to LOVE our conversation! Also: included in this episode is the first installment of Parenting News, a segment highlighting one news item that seems worthy of your attention. Today's is all about young boys and Fortnite, and if you should be concerned about video-game addiction. Got some news that you want me to bring up in a future Parenting News? Click here and let me know! Go to weturnedoutokay.com/273 for: A cheat sheet of ideas from our conversation Links, including a special one to Audrey's book, Happy Campers The video of the week: "How to help your child make a friend" And thank you so much for listening! Live Q&A and Open House Tour Ever wished you could check out the private coaching community that I run for parents of young children? Do you have questions about if it could work for you, even in your busy, insane life and with whatever technical skills you possess (especially if you feel like they're not very good)? You're in luck! On Thursday, April 25 I am throwing open the doors to the Ninja Parenting Community! I'm taking you right inside, and showing you: – What our members love about it – How the community helps parents turn family time into "the best time of the day" – And I'm taking questions too! It's free… I'm so excited to bring you in and show you around! It's live… But even if you can't be there live, signing up gets you the replay so you can rewatch as many times as you like. It's where my heart and soul is… because I get to work closely with so many amazing parents. Don't miss out on discovering this secret to happy parenting… Click weturnedoutokay.com/tour to sign up! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

Apr 2, 2019 • 1h 13min
How to get quality childcare: A masterclass | Podcast Episode 272
If you've ever struggled with less-than-quality childcare, whether in daycare or in a school setting, today's episode is for you! Because you are not alone. I've been working closely with people whose childcare providers do inscrutable things – one mom tells of an "aggression journal" her 3-year-old son's childcare teachers are keeping about him! – and another who found her most recent parent-teacher conference frightening and overwhelming. Which is why today I'm bringing you, in audio format, the class I taught just last week, all about "How to get quality childcare." During this master class I share: 1) The three most important keys to finding the best childcare 2) One crucial factor that can hold you back from getting quality childcare 3) The questions you should - and should not - ask potential and current childcare providers 4) An Open House Tour of the private coaching community where quality childcare has been our in-depth focus for the last 3 months 5) A Case Study of one class attendee, Amanda, and her 3-year-old son's struggles with nap time at daycare I hope it's super helpful as your child moves out into the wider world, in daycare, preschool, or school! Go to weturnedoutokay.com/272 for: A cheat sheet of ideas from this masterclass Links, including to the private coaching community I run (current members: click here for the audio, video, and expanded notes for this masterclass) The video of the week: "3 crucial factors for quality childcare" And thank you so much for listening! Temper Tantrums and Potty Training: Today I share about two helpful free guides I offer. While the podcast is long-form – your opportunity to look into the mind of a child development expert – the free guides are super quick. You can watch the video, read the checklist, and immediately handle the temper tantrums or get started with potty training (depending on which guide you choose : ) Click here for the FREE video and checklist to handle every temper tantrum Click here for the FREE video and checklist to successfully potty train your child Want to receive valuable ideas and tips on parenting, without either free guide above? Click here for my weekly parenting newsletter! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

Mar 26, 2019 • 43min
3 Ways your mindset works either for – or against – your kids' success | Podcast Episode 271
What's your go-to approach for getting work done? Do you view something difficult as an exciting challenge, or a way to prove to yourself and others – once again – how crummy you are at difficult stuff? Today, we look at how our own mindset impacts our children's eventual success. Take a listen! Go to weturnedoutokay.com/271 for: A cheat sheet on getting your best mindset for your child's success Key links from today's episode The video of the week: "What is a good mindset for learning? How to get my child the best educational mindset" And thank you so much for listening! How to Get Quality Childcare: Free Online Class! Learn: – The keys to finding the best child care for your young child – To avoid one crucial factor that can derail your efforts to find good childcare – Which questions to ask – and which not too – to assure your child thrives in others' care We cover this and more in the FREE online class I'm teaching on Thursday, March 28! Sign up today – even if you can't be there live, the replay will be available for several days after. Get the best child care for your kiddos by taking this class, for free! Sign up here and I will see you on March 28: ) This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

Mar 19, 2019 • 1h 4min
Creativity: crucial for all ages. My conversation with Dan Blank (rebroadcast) | Podcast Episode 270
You may have heard that creativity is important to our children's developing minds. But have you ever thought about how important creativity is for yourself? Today's guest, Dan Blank, not only helps us understand how important it is… He helps us figure out ways to incorporate creativity into our busy parenting lives. I hope you enjoy today's conversation, whether you heard it when it was originally broadcast about 18 months ago, or if this is your first listen. Cheers! Go to weturnedoutokay.com/270 for: Favorite ideas from our conversation Dan's answer to a question that didn't make it into the interview The video of the week: Off this week, returning Thursday, March 28 And thank you so much for listening! How to Get Quality Childcare: Free Online Class! Learn: – The keys to finding the best child care for your young child – To avoid one crucial factor that can derail your efforts to find good childcare – Which questions to ask – and which not too – to assure your child thrives in others' care We cover this and more in the FREE online class I'm teaching on Thursday, March 28! Sign up today – even if you can't be there live, the replay will be available for several days after. Get the best child care for your kiddos by taking this class, for free! Sign up here and I will see you on March 28: ) This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

Mar 12, 2019 • 35min
Why does my child ask the same questions over and over? | Podcast Episode 269
Last summer, the two-year-old son of a Ninja Parenting Community member was in a car accident. Thankfully no one was injured. But the car was totaled. And this little boy kept asking the same question, over and over: "Why did Daddy crash Daddy's car?" The accident was not Daddy's fault. But you couldn't convince the boy of that! Everyone just wanted to move on. But this little boy struggled to do that. Maybe your child hasn't recently been in a car accident, and so this isn't the question that keeps getting asked. But I bet, if you've got a toddler or preschooler, or even an elementary school kid, you know this phenomenon very well. Today: what to do about it, when your child asks the same question again and again! Go to weturnedoutokay.com/269 for: A cheat sheet on how to handle it when your child keeps asking the same question over and over, and it's driving you nuts Key links from today's episode The video of the week: Off this week, returning March 28 And thank you so much for listening! How to Get Quality Childcare: Free Online Class! Learn: – The keys to finding the best child care for your young child – To avoid one crucial factor that can derail your efforts to find good childcare – Which questions to ask – and which not too – to assure your child thrives in others' care We cover this and more in the FREE online class I'm teaching on Thursday, March 28! Sign up today – even if you can't be there live, the replay will be available for several days after. Get the best child care for your kiddos by taking this class, for free! Sign up here and I will see you on March 28: ) This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

Mar 5, 2019 • 38min
Want successful kids? They'll need this. | Podcast Episode 268
If you've been listening to our Successful, Fulfilled Kids series (of which this is part 7), I know you're implementing some great tactics, like making sure your child does chores, and doing something besides "parenting." But today's episode gets into a concept that is really key. It's a mindset shift that parents need to make, if only to show our kids what is possible. Yup: we've finally come to the topic of Grit. Listen in to find out why it's important and how you can make sure your children have it! Go to weturnedoutokay.com/268 for: A cheat sheet on Grit Key links from today's episode The video of the week: Off this week! Returning March 28 And thank you so much for listening! How to Get Quality Childcare: Free Online Class! Learn: – The keys to finding the best child care for your young child – To avoid one crucial factor that can derail your efforts to find good childcare – Which questions to ask – and which not too – to assure your child thrives in others' care We cover this and more in the FREE online class I'm teaching on Thursday, March 28! Sign up today – even if you can't be there live, the replay will be available for several days after. Get the best child care for your kiddos by taking this class, for free! Sign up here and I will see you on March 28: ) This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

Feb 26, 2019 • 1h 38min
Your questions – about dealing with intolerance, surviving crummy daycare, shoe-throwing, and more – answered with veteran preschool teacher Tricia Tomaso | Episode 267
Wondering what to do when: – Your child fills the pull up or leaks through, every single night, despite being potty trained during the day? – You are stuck – at least for a little while – with subpar childcare? – Your child is being picked on due to intolerance? We answer these questions and more, in today's episode! I'm so excited to bring you another round of Ask the Experts with Tricia Tomaso! [FYI: in the break I mention having One Question for you… Click here to hear the bonus episode about the question, and click here to answer the question!] Go to weturnedoutokay.com/267 for: A cheat sheet on the questions and answers we share in this episode Key links from today's episode The video of the week: "How to help your child if they're being picked on or bullied" And thank you so much for listening! Temper Tantrums and Potty Training: During today's break I share about two helpful free guides I offer. While the podcast is long-form – your opportunity to look into the mind of a child development expert – the free guides are super quick. You can watch the video, read the checklist, and immediately handle the temper tantrums or get started with potty training (depending on which guide you choose : ) Click here for the FREE video and checklist to handle every temper tantrum Click here for the FREE video and checklist to successfully potty train your child Want to receive valuable ideas and tips on parenting, without either free guide above? Click here for my weekly parenting newsletter! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

Feb 19, 2019 • 47min
4 Ways Kids Aren't Like Submarines – The problem with Zero Tolerance | Podcast Episode 266
What's your biggest parenting challenge? I really want to help you with it! (For context, listen to this recent quickie bonus episode : ) Click weturnedoutokay.com/contact to go to my contact page and share what's toughest for you as a parent. Thank you sooooo much! How do you react when your child makes a mistake, does something wrong, mouths off? If you respond to bad behavior with lesson-teaching/consequences mode engaged – in other words, if you have "zero tolerance" for your child's transgressions – you're doing your child a disservice. Even worse, you're doing your relationship with your young child a disservice. That's what this episode posits, anyway. Take a listen and see if you agree! PS The title and subject of today's episode came from conversations with my therapist. "We can't have zero tolerance when we're talking about kids," he often says; "zero tolerance is for submarines." If these two concepts seem completely unrelated to you, and your daily life with your young child, I encourage you to listen in to today's episode! All will become clear : ) Go to weturnedoutokay.com/266 for: A cheat sheet on the 4 ways kids are not like submarines – and what works better than "zero tolerance" when they do something wrong To share your biggest parenting challenge, and/or sign up for one of our free guides The video of the week: "How to handle your child's bad behavior" And thank you so much for listening! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

Feb 15, 2019 • 8min
I need your help (quick question)
I am struggling with something, and it would mean so much to me to hear from you about it… I hope you'll answer me just one question, which I ask in this episode. You can answer my question in 2 ways: Click weturnedoutokay.com/contact and respond right on my contact page; or Email me directly– I share my email address in this episode Thank you SO much! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe


