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"Learning" can mean different things to different people: – Getting good grades – Passing a test – Reading, writing, coding, mathematics, etc. But how do we get to the point where we know, and can demonstrate, our knowledge? It all starts in early childhood. Today we dive into how young children learn best. Plus in Parenting News: As parents, we can't be all serious and big-business. Without some downtime, we can't keep going, in child-rearing, in outside-of-the-home jobs, or within ourselves. I have been going through some pretty major burnout, and today in Parenting News, I share about a resource that has been making me feel way better: The Adventure Zone, in both podcast and graphic novel form. If this completely awesome, totally-not-for-kids sci-fi-fantasy thing is not for you, that is absolutely fine! But take this moment to find something that does get you the downtime enjoyment that you need. Join us! Go to weturnedoutokay.com/292 for a cheat sheet on the 3 ways kids learn best, key links from this episode, free guides (on potty training, picky eating, and how to handle every temper tantrum), and lots more resources! Also: Support Right to Your Inbox Get weekly support to help you maintain your sanity as you raise your kiddos! Sign up here for my Weekly Parenting Newsletter Click here to join the We Turned Out Okay Facebook group, where every Monday I offer Magic Words for Parents, a quick word or phrase for you to take into your parenting week! Click here to learn more about working closely with me, either as a private coaching client or as a member of the Ninja Parenting Community And thank you so much for listening! Today's episode is sponsored by the amazing Janine Halloran, expert in teaching kids coping skills, and an incredible resource she has created to help your child handle even the biggest feelings! Click copingskillsforkids.com/coping-cue-cards to check out Janine's Coping Skills for Kids Cue Card Decks. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

Today's guest, Anna Seewald of the Authentic Parenting Podcast, experienced a truly traumatic event in her childhood, an earthquake in which she lost her mother. In part because of this experience, she went on to become a therapist, a woman who has dedicated her life to helping others through their toughest moments. "My true passion is to help children to thrive," she writes. Today we discuss many ways to help your child to do exactly that. I know you will get a lot out of this conversation. Many thanks to Anna Seewald for coming on We Turned Out Okay! Plus in Parenting News: Back in July I got to be a guest on Anna's show! Extending on this theme about how childhood experiences shape us, I share that I was sexually assaulted at age 7. This experience fundamentally changed my personality, and has had repercussions through all of my life. But here's the thing, while I would of course never wish something like this on anyone, not all the repercussions have been bad. Click authenticparenting.com/185 to listen to our conversation. Though certainly tough in parts, overall it's a hopeful, and I really hope helpful (hence the sharing as Parenting News) conversation. Join us! Go to weturnedoutokay.com/291 for key links from this episode, free guides (on potty training, picky eating, and how to handle every temper tantrum), and lots more resources! Also: Sign up for the resource where I share great ninja tactics, a positive mindset, and some good stories to boot: Click here for my weekly parenting newsletter. Click here to learn more about working closely with me, either as a private coaching client or as a member of the Ninja Parenting Community And thank you so much for listening! Today's episode is sponsored by the amazing Janine Halloran, expert in teaching kids coping skills, and an incredible resource she has created to help your child handle even the biggest feelings! Click copingskillsforkids.com/coping-cue-cards to check out Janine's Coping Skills for Kids Cue Card Decks. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

We have all been hit hard by the news recently. And if we, as adults, are feeling the strain and stress, it's a safe bet that our children feel it too. How can you help? In this bonus episode I offer five ways. Helpful links: Click here for episode 261 of We Turned Out Okay, my conversation with Maureen Healy (whose Bubble Breathing exercise I suggest in this episode.) Click here for the link to the Eckerd College article about Marjorie Sanfilippo, whose study about kids and guns I talk about in this episode. Click weturnedoutokay.com/weekly to sign up for my parenting newsletter, which right now (in real-time) is an in-depth, 4-part series on how to handle overwhelmed at the start of the school year. Click here to read this post in your browser. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

(Possibly due to Mommy Brain, I don't mention the survey link in today's episode until I've practically already said goodbye. So, here it is: weturnedoutokay.com/wreck Click there to help me wreck this podcast : ) Also included in the survey: the chance for you to have a quick 1-to-1 call with me in September! Completely free, and without obligation. September is really hard for a lot of you, and I want to help you make it better.   Today I am asking the questions: How can this show be better? How can it help you more? What do you like, what do you love, what do you wish was different? A few months back, we passed 400,000 downloads of We Turned Out Okay. 400,000! That's almost half a million! When I started the show more than four years ago, I couldn't even imagine 4000 downloads, never mind a hundred times that. I felt, and still feel to this day, such gratitude to you. For getting us here, and most importantly for sticking with the show. I do it for us. For anyone raising kids. Because I have been where you are. I totally know, from the inside, that raising kids and staying sane at the same time is a juggling act, and sometimes we feel like all the balls are falling down around us. Let's wreck We Turned Out Okay, in the best way possible. Here is the link to the survey I created asking those questions above. Cheers! (Here is the link to this episode in your browser.) Key Links: Click here for the book Wreck this Journal, which first showed me how useful (and fun) it can be to get into the wrecking mindset! Click here to check out the We Turned Out Okay Facebook group. Click here to get the weekly Parenting Newsletter I send out each and every Wednesday. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

In this week's episode of We Turned Out Okay, we examine a parent's role in a child's education! Lots of parents have no idea how to help their kiddos in learning how to read, write, do math, or code. But these are the essential skills of the future. How do we help our kids, when they're young, get ready for all that learning? Find out by listening to this episode of We Turned Out Okay! Plus in Parenting News:  A really fascinating episode of Experiential Wisdom, all about lifelong learning and why it matters now, more than ever. Join us! Sign up for my Weekly Parenting Newsletter Each Wednesday I send out a Parenting Newsletter, to help you remain sane while raising your kiddos! Past editions have included: – How to get your child to take more responsibility – How to teach your child social skills – Under what circumstances, if any, you should let your child watch YouTube. Useful stuff. Click weturnedoutokay.com/weekly so it zooms right into your inbox each week!   Go to weturnedoutokay.com/289 for lots of key links mentioned in today's episode, for free guides (on potty training, picky eating, and how to handle every temper tantrum), and lots more resources! Also: Click here to learn more about working closely with me, either as a private coaching client or as a member of the Ninja Parenting Community And thank you so much for listening! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

Do you ever feel like your family life is sliding in a direction you don't want? In today's episode you will hear how one mom, a coaching client of mine, worked with me to take control. [caption id="attachment_2614" align="alignleft" width="300"] NPC member Jen, with her two daughters.[/caption] Getting control over the direction her family is going has brought has meant many good things, including fun, fulfillment, and real joy. Listen in as Jen, mother of 2 young girls, talks about what she's learned in our private coaching community, and how it has changed her life, and her family life.   Plus in Parenting News:  the You Are Not So Smart Podcast did a recent episode on the super-famous Marshmallow Experiment, which has been used to predict how successful a child will be, based on their ability to delay gratification. I LOVE this podcast, which I actually started listening to because of another episode, and it is the subject of today's Parenting News because I think you would find it really helpful too. Join us! Go to weturnedoutokay.com/288 for a rundown of the HEART method of handling every temper tantrum, which comes up in this episode! Also: Click here for Positive Discipline Ninja Tactics, the book Jen mentions as essential reading in getting control of the direction her family was going Click here to learn more about working closely with me, either as a private coaching client or, like Jen, as a member of the Ninja Parenting Community And thank you so much for listening! Sign up for my Weekly Parenting Newsletter Each Wednesday I send out a Parenting Newsletter, to help you remain sane while raising your kiddos! Past editions have included: – How to get your child to take more responsibility – How to teach your child social skills – Under what circumstances, if any, you should let your child watch YouTube. Useful stuff. Click weturnedoutokay.com/weekly so it zooms right into your inbox each week! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

How does one mom handle it, when she finds her daughters throwing dirt at each other? (FYI: I'm taking your questions for an upcoming episode! What's on your mind about your kiddos right now? I'm a child development expert and parent coach, I'd love to help! Ask, and I'll address your question in our August 6 episode... I'm taking questions until Thursday, August 1 (which is when I'll record the episode.) Go to weturnedoutokay.com/contact to ask your question : ) No matter the season, there's always an opportunity for kids to come into conflict with other kids. Whether siblings, cousins, classmates or just somebody at the playground, mean words, pushing, and other acts of frustration or aggression abound. So, do we parents just have to live with it, put up with the bickering and hard feelings? Nope! This masterclass is a distillation of three months' worth of work in the private, online community I run for parents of young children. During April, May, and June 2019 we dove headfirst into the problems real parents really experience, and how to alleviate it when kids aren't getting along. Today I'm bringing you behind the scenes, directly into the Ninja Parenting Community, sharing the information you need to help your kids actually get along! Some of these ideas may seem unconventional, and likely (unless you are a member of NPC) they are new to you, but they REALLY work. In fact we finish out with a success story! How does one mom handle it, when she finds her daughters throwing dirt at each other? Find out in this episode of We Turned Out Okay! Plus in Parenting News: This article in the Atlantic, on Fred Rogers (of Mister Rogers' Neighborhood) and how he approached speaking with children, is one of those articles I wanted to hug to my chest I share why in today's Parenting News segment. Plus I read my recent review of Audrey Monke's wonderful book, Happy Campers! Join us! Sign up for my Weekly Parenting Newsletter Each Wednesday I send out a Parenting Newsletter, to help you: remain sane while raising your kiddos! Past editions have included: – How to get your child to take more responsibility – How to teach your child social skills – Under what circumstances, if any, you should let your child watch YouTube. Useful stuff. Click weturnedoutokay.com/weekly to receive my Weekly Parenting Newsletter, so it zooms right into your inbox each week! Go to weturnedoutokay.com/287 for: Notes from this Masterclass on How to Help Kids Get Along with Other Kids The Masterclass video Links to free guides on potty training, handling every temper tantrum, and more And thank you so much for listening! Today's episode is brought to you by… You, if you have purchased one of my parenting books! I write books that help parents truly enjoy family time, by sharing tools and formulas that you can use to change your child's behavior from bad to good, and also that help you feel happy inside. Go to weturnedoutokay.com/books to check them out! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

In today's bonus podcast episode I answer WTOO Facebook group member Jennifer's question about how to get kids to take responsibility without continually hovering around them and "politely interrupting" in order to get kids to clean up their messes. I put this in the context of a roadmap, which includes three crucial steps to independence, responsibility, and guilt-free parenting. (BTW: I share about a conversation I had recently on a wonderful show, Authentic Parenting. Click here for Anna Seewald's conversation with me, in episode 185 of her show, all about how our childhoods impact our whole lives. (You should listen away from kiddos, there are some adult themes in this episode.) Thank you so much for listening! I'm offering a special program, "How to do less for your kids, and feel good about it: 21 days to Independence," which starts this coming Monday, July 15. Everything I cover in this episode – and it's a lot! – has been a starting point. This 3-week workshop is tailored specifically to your needs, very personalized (even includes videos that I make just for you each week!) and so helpful as you work to get your child to be independent and responsible. Registration ends Sunday July 14, if spots don't run out first! (I am strictly limiting enrollment, and there are just a few spots left now.) Go to weturnedoutokay.com/indy to learn more about the program, watch a video overview, and to sign up! If you're listing after Sunday, July 14, 2019, and you want to learn how to get your child to be independent and responsible, I recommend that you join the private coaching community I run for parents. Go to weturnedoutokay.com/workwithme to learn more! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

What are the factors that matter – like, REALLY matter, over the long haul – versus those that don't, in your child's education? (Quick heads-up: starting this coming Monday, July 15 I'm offering a program to help you do less for your child, and feel good about it! It's called "21 Days to Independence for your child… and for you." In these 3 weeks we will cover: how to not be your child's personal entertainer; how to stop hovering, for your benefit AND theirs; how to help them resolve conflicts, and more! The program takes place right in your inbox, so it's super convenient as well as helpful. Because I'm working closely with each participant, space is limited, and spots are filling up! Click weturnedoutokay.com/indy to learn more and register.) I'm sure you'll agree that getting a kid's education right is critical. It's not just critical while they're small. Screwing up a kid's education can impact their whole lives. And yet, it happens every day, when even well-intentioned and goodhearted people focus on the wrong stuff. Because you listen to this show, I know that you are well-intentioned and goodhearted. So I'm helping you focus on the right stuff today. Find out what really matters in your child's education in this episode of We Turned Out Okay! Plus in Parenting News: In this recent Education Weekly article, the idea of "growth mindset versus fixed mindset" is re-examined… We investigate in this week's Parenting News segment. Join us! Go to weturnedoutokay.com/286 for: A cheat sheet on what's crucial to include in your child's education What does not matter.. what you can (and should) leave out of your young child's education Links to free guides on potty training, handling every temper tantrum, and more And thank you so much for listening! The show is sponsored this week by Julian Coffee, a unique and amazing coffee that comes from a family farm in Puerto Rico and that will help you start your day off right! Listen to today’s episode for the code that will get you 10% off when you go to juliancoffeepr.com or Julian Coffee’s page in Amazon. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

Dr. Michael Reichert, founding director at the University of Pennsylvania’s Center for the Study of Boys and Girls Lives and author of "How to Raise a Boy," shares valuable insights on empowering boys. He discusses the complexities of boyhood, emphasizing the importance of emotional connection and healthy relationships. Reichert also addresses the societal pressures boys face and how parents can nurture their emotional resilience. The conversation is a must-listen for anyone invested in raising empathetic and kind children, regardless of gender.