Typology

How do you do the things within your control without falling under the illusion that you are in control? Control is a big theme in all of our lives...it just shows up in different ways. No matter your type, we all try to control others with the suite of behaviors that go with our type. In fact, we train people to respond to us and interact with us in a certain way based on our type. So, how does an Enneagram 3 respond when faced with something they can't do -- something that's out of their control? National bestselling author, speaker, founder/CEO of the Own It Academy, and host of SHE, a top-rated podcast for women, Jordan Lee Dooley opens up about one of her most challenging struggles, how she is responding to the complex emotions surrounding grief, and learning to let go of the things she can't control. We love it when our guests get vulnerable because it reminds us that we are not alone. And, you are not alone.

As we navigate the current climate it's easy to become disconnected. But as humans, we're actually wired for connection. We must look for opportunities to connect with each other. Connection is fuel for the soul. And who better to explain the beauty of connection, of togetherness, than Morgan Harper Nichols. For Enneagram Fives who may already isolate, and be comfortable there, Morgan's words illuminate the importance and the challenge of balancing that space and connection. Morgan Harper Nichols is an artist and poet whose work is inspired by real-life interactions and stories. Morgan spent the first couple of years of her professional life as a college admission counselor, and then, as a full-time touring singer-songwriter and musician. It was on the road that she cultivated her curiosity and passion for writing, art, and design and slowly began to share her work online.

I often get emails from our listeners asking how the Enneagram can help their marriage. And usually, the email is asking for advice on a specific type-combination. That can be difficult to answer because there are so many variants with the Enneagram. But, when you understand the Enneagram--and not just your own type--it can be an invaluable tool for communication and support in any relationship, in any type-combination. Today, we've got a young couple joining us to talk about how the Enneagram allows them to help each other do 'work' within their own type. Our special guests, Maddie and Paul Voge, owners of the sparkling water line, Aura Bora, share: What a relationship between a 7 and a 9 is like Where their types go in stress, and How the Enneagram helps them manage extreme stress Listen in for some great Enneagram insights then set a reminder to watch Shark Tank on Friday, January 22nd to find out whether they "got a deal."

I'm often asked how trauma affects your Enneagram type. The answer is: it's complicated. Trauma is the result of an extraordinarily stressful event that shatters your sense of security and safety and makes you feel isolated and helpless in the world. It can be a one-time event or ongoing, complex trauma. Your response to trauma largely determines the type toward which you gravitate as a little child as a way of coping in the world. In today's episode, Chris Cook opens up about his childhood trauma and how healing his broken spirit exposed his true self. We also dig into unconscious motivations, subtypes, and the inner critic. You don't want to miss this in-depth conversation. Christopher Cook believes people should be able to live successful, meaningful lives, far above the status quo of "just getting by." Put simply, he believes people should be able to win today. He exercises this belief as a leadership coach and business consultant to both Fortune 1000 and non-profit organizations. Additionally, he is the host of "Win Today with Christopher Cook," a weekly podcast available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, iHeart Radio, and most other outlets. Through his work at WINTODAY.tv and as a featured writer for SUCCESS Magazine, he serves as a guide to wellness-minded men and women who are eager to confidently design their roadmap to wholeness and show up each day fully-alive in their true identity.

We often think of Enneagram Eights as powerful, charismatic, and natural leaders. They make great mentors with an uncanny ability to inspire and uplift people. Our guest today is a wonderful example of a healthy Eight leader who understands how to balance the power of her personality with self-restraint and vulnerability while motivating others. Dr. Sasha Shillcutt shares what drives her as an Eight, how she's managed the past year of the pandemic, and why it's important for her to empower other women to live life "brave enough." In this episode, we hope you will discover: When and where to lean into the 7 wing or the 9 wing of an Enneagram Eight Enneagram Eight subtypes and how they show up differently in the world A few tips for mitigating the passion (lust) of the Eight ABOUT DR. SASHA SHILLCUTT Sasha K. Shillcutt, MD, MS, FASE is a renowned cardiac anesthesiologist, Tenured Professor and the Vice-Chair of Strategy and Innovation in the Department of Anesthesiology at the University of Nebraska Medical Center (UNMC). Sasha is also a wife, mother, well-published gender-equity researcher, and Founder of Brave Enough, where she leads over 12,000 female physicians. She teaches professional women resilience, self-care, and negotiation through events, retreats, and courses. Sasha speaks frequently to executives and companies on the topics of professional burnout, resilience and gender equity and has a featured TEDX Talk on Resilience: The Art of Failing Forward. Her writing has been published in both the New England Journal of Medicine and JAMA. Her book, Between Grit and Grace, and podcast, The Brave Enough Show, elevate women to lead authentic and empowered lives.

At their best, Enneagram Twos truly radiate the unconditional, altruistic love of God. They just sort of signal love out into the world in a way that no other type can. But they also have a hard time being able to stop meeting the needs of others which can empty their tanks and lead to resentment. This episode resonated so well with a lot of our Two listeners. So, take another listen as Lisa-Jo shares what has changed for her at mid-life, what led her to embrace the superpowers and the kryptonite of an Enneagram Two, and how she knows when it's time for her to refuel. Cheers to a New Year!

Decision making takes courage. But sometimes the commitment to find the best option consumes an enormous amount of mental energy and can leave any of us exhausted and stuck. However, when you learn to stop overthinking you can start spending time on things that bring more peace, love, and joy into your life. Today, we're revisiting my interview with Anne Bogel on getting decisive. Though we focus a lot on Enneagram Nines in this conversation, I think you'll find her advice applicable -- no matter what your type is! So, take another listen as Anne gets to the heart of decision-making as an Enneagram Nine, shares what perfectionism-driven overthinking looks like, and suggests a few disciplines that Nines can use to get out of analysis-paralysis. Wishing you all a very happy holiday!

What is right and what is wrong? What is good? What is not good? We all tend to believe we know, but each one of us would answer these questions differently. Enneagram Ones, in particular, tend to be pretty black and white when it comes to right and wrong. Typically, it's harder for Ones to see the gray. So, learning to see the fundamental perfection, or goodness, at the core of all things is an important area of growth for Ones. Today, author Jelani Memory and I explore the nuances of The Improver, the impact family of origin has on personality, and how he's learned to find good in the gray. Jelani Memory is a black man of faith, who originally founded Circle Media which is now Co-owned by Disney and launched an amazing publishing company called A Kids Book About. The mission of "A Kids Book About," is to help kids and their grownups have honest conversations by making books about challenging, empowering, and important topics told by diverse authors who know that topic first-hand. They cover a range of topics such as racism, white privilege, empathy, anxiety, and addiction. He's spent his career creating products for families, changing the way they engage online and with each other. He lives in Portland OR with his wife and six kids. He still hopes to become an artist when he grows up.

This week I continue the conversation with Leeann and Michelle. Blending humor, motherhood, and the Enneagram, Leeann and Michelle show how they approach self-awareness and personal growth with lightheartedness and compassion towards themselves and others. Tune in through the end of the show to hear the advice they each share for processing big emotions. With backgrounds in commercial acting, television news, and comedy – Leeann and Michelle are a firehouse combination. You recognize them from their viral hits like, "Look What Joanna Made Me Do," "If You're My Friend Then You'd Buy This," and "The Diet." The success of videos like those fuels their passion to create great comedy in many mediums; parodies, sketch humor and live shows. Leeann & Michelle have attracted 40 million views of their videos, and have received national attention from USA Today, The New York Times, TODAY and Southern Living. Leeann & Michelle routinely appear in local media, sell out their improv shows, and have even earned the adoration of the one and only, Joanna Gaines. Between shoots, you can find Leeann & Michelle sweating it out in Phoenix, AZ. Leeann is likely cleaning or organizing her home (again), while Michelle is avoiding laundry. You can watch more of Leeann and Michelle on YouTube. **If you love this episode and want to hear more about Fours and Eights, listen to Tori Kelly and Andre Murillo discuss the role the Enneagram plays in understanding their friends and family, respecting each other's strengths, and navigating their emotions.

What happens when two comedians who love the Enneagram get together to make YouTube videos? You get over 50 amusing Enneagram-related videos to entertain you. With backgrounds in commercial acting, television news and comedy, Leeann Dearing and Michelle Fortin are a firehouse duo who create great comedy in many mediums: parodies, sketch humor and live shows. You can catch their "Enneagram Funnies" here. These two join me in witty banter to discuss how the Enneagram has transformed their lives. You're going to love them.