Ladies, We Need To Talk

This is a guided meditation to help with chronic pain.  Endometriosis hurts. It can be a gnarling, twisting, stabbing, relentless source of pain. Finding a way through that pain can be overwhelming at times. Meditation can help.  Gynaecological surgeon and endometriosis specialist Dr Pav Nanayakkara guides you through a series of breathing exercises to shift your relationship with pain.  This isn’t a standard Ladies, We Need to Talk episode, it’s a tool for your mindfulness toolbox. One you can come back to any time you need.  These meditations aren't designed to replace medical pain relief or the advice of a good doctor, rather to compliment them.What to listen to next:Endometriosis: Pain, periods, medical gaslightingThe rage in my pelvisWhen sex hurtsPerimenopause: WTF is happening to our bodiesFree to bleed: escaping menstrual shameYou can binge more episodes of Ladies, We Need to Talk on the ABC listen app (in Australia) or wherever you get your podcasts.What to read next:Shame and disgust: Why we find this STI so hard to talk aboutWhat happens to your sex life during perimenopause?How Turia Pitt's body image changed in motherhoodThis episode contains references to endometriosis, gynaecology, period pain, chronic pain, pain management, meditation, attention, acceptance, mindfulness, breathing, breath work. 

Around one million Australian women live with endometriosis. That's around one in seven, so chances are you know someone dealing with debilitating pain, medical misogyny and fertility issues because of the disease.Awareness about endometriosis has expanded in the last few years, but there's still a long way to go. Yumi Stynes meets women who've spent a lot of time and money seeking a diagnosis and fighting to be heard.She also sits down with Professor Caroline Ford from the Ainsworth Endometriosis Research Institute at UNSW who offers hope for a future with tailored treatments and less BS.Helpful links:Endometriosis Foundation  (these folks run support groups)National Endometriosis Clinical and Scientific trials registryEndometriosis AustraliaPelvic Pain foundationEndo ZoneWhat to listen to next:The rage in my pelvisWhen sex hurtsPerimenopause: WTF is happening to our bodiesFree to bleed: escaping menstrual shameShedding the shame of herpesThe new way to dateYou can binge more episodes of Ladies, We Need to Talk on the ABC listen app (in Australia) or wherever you get your podcasts.What to read next:Shame and disgust: Why we find this STI so hard to talk aboutWhat happens to your sex life during perimenopause?How Turia Pitt's body image changed in motherhoodThis episode will answer questions like:What is endometriosis?How can you tell if you have endometriosis?Is it normal to have painful periods?What are the treatment options for endometriosis?Does endometriosis affect your fertility?Does endometriosis affect your sex life?This episode contains references to endometriosis, gynaecology, period pain, chronic pain, painful sex, medical, gaslighting, medical misogyny, cancer, fertility, infertility, IVF, uterus, lesions, laparoscopy, endo, endometrial tissue, chronic pelvic pain, adenomyosis, dysmenorrhea, chocolate cysts, blood, National Action Plan for Endometriosis.

Laura Bates, feminist writer and researcher on gendered abuse, shares her experience of having an AI‑generated sexually violent image made of her. She explores how deepfake pornography, cyber brothels, sex robots and online communities weaponize women’s images. The conversation spotlights tech failures, legal gaps and why these harms replay old misogyny in new, more pervasive forms.

Trying to find a life partner on a dating app who's not a gun toting, fish wielding weirdo can be like trying to find a needle in the haystack. But according to Professor Jennie Young, there's a much more empowering way of sorting through all that hay. She's come up with a technique to hack the apps called 'The Burnt Haystack Method' to help women wade through the online swamp.Jennie never thought she would use her academic background to become a dating influencer. She was 50 when she first started online dating and was struck by the onslaught of stilted, mundane, and rude conversations. She kept getting the same advice — make yourself as appealing as possible and give men the benefit of the doubt. But Jennie, along with her army of followers, is turning that advice on its head. She's giving women permission to be as judgemental as possible and be totally yourself along the way.Jennie chats with Yumi Stynes about how to hack the apps and win at dating. Think of this episode as a tool in your arsenal if you're dating, or a trusty guide if you're close to someone who is.What to listen to next:Ditching dating appsPaying for sex at 70How to have better sex, with Emily NagoskiRosie Waterland and Jamila Rizvi's broken brainsYou can binge more episodes of Ladies, We Need to Talk on the ABC listen app (in Australia) or wherever you get your podcasts.What to read next:The women staying single by choice in a world of relentless dating pressureSugar babies give rich, older men the 'full girlfriend experience' at a priceThis episode will address questions like, why are conversations so weird on dating apps? How can I have a better time on dating apps? Who should I avoid on the dating apps?This episode contains references to burned haystack dating method, BHDM, B2B, block to burn, block2burn, Jennie Young, dating apps, couples, partner, love, relationships, dating events, Match Group, Hinge, Tinder, Bumble, OkCupid, divorce.

Dating apps are a drag. And women are ditching them in droves. Beyond the swiping, more of us are daring to date in real life. Yumi Stynes chats to women moving away from the apps and towards in-person singles events.From post-divorce blind dates to queer speed dating, dinners with strangers and exercise classes, all in the name of finding love. Or at least a little lust.Plus, friend of the pod and Lifestyle Editor at Guardian Australia, Alyx Gorman helps us understand why more women are dating IRL.What to listen to next: Loneliness — you're not alone Relationship resuscitation — coming back from the brink 'All Women Want' — how to have great sex, with Alyx GormanDigital dating despairWhat to read next:The women staying single by choice in a world of relentless dating pressureSugar babies give rich, older men the 'full girlfriend experience' at a priceGlobal study shows online dating does not always lead to happy relationshipsThis episode will address questions like, why are people logging off the dating apps? Where did dating apps go wrong? Why are single in-person events on the rise?You can binge more episodes of Ladies, We Need to Talk on the ABC listen app (in Australia) or wherever you get your podcasts.This episode contains references to dating apps, single events, couples, partner, love, relationships, dating events, in-person, running clubs, pickle ball, paddle, boxing, Match Group, Hinge, Tinder, Bumble, OkCupid, divorce.

As part of Women's Health Week we're bringing back our episode on Poly Cystic Ovary Syndrome (PCOS) and the difficulty of getting a diagnosis. Weight gain, bristly hairs, no period. Welcome to Poly Cystic Ovary Syndrome.  PCOS is one of the leading causes of infertility worldwide and it can cause debilitating physical and psychological symptoms. 1 in 8 women have PCOS, so that’s at least a couple of friends in your group chat. So why do we still know so little about it?  Yumi Stynes catches up with ladies who’ve been battling PCOS for years and finds out how they get on top of it. Featured in this episode: Professor Helena Teede, female endocrine specialist from Monash UniversityThis episode will answer questions such as: What is PCOS? Why does PCOS cause weight pain?What is the link between PCOS and infertility? How is PCOS diagnosed?  What to listen to next: Has Ozempic killed body positivity? Calling out wellness bullsh*t with Dr Jen GunterPerimenopause: but aren't I too young? You can binge more episodes of Ladies, We Need to Talk on the ABC listen app (in Australia) or wherever you get your podcasts. This episode contains references to PCOS, weight gain, excess hair, medical misogyny and infertility. 

Stand-up star Sashi Perera called off her wedding at the last minute. There were tears and tantrums but that wasn't the final time the lawyer-turned-comedian blew up her life.Moving to a country in the middle of civil unrest? Tick. Dating a series of duds? Tick. Quitting a well-paid job for stand-up comedy? Tick.Sashi's redefined what success means to her through career changes, relationship breakdowns and IVF struggles. Yumi Stynes sits down with Sashi to find out how she's learned to run her own race.What to listen to next:How to give zero f*cks with Gina Chick, Jessie Tu and Anna Broinowski Jessie Tu, on miscarriage and doing motherhood her way Emotional labour with Rose Hackman The price of perfectionism What to read next: The price of perfectionism for womenHow Turia Pitt's body image changed in motherhoodSandy seemingly has a perfect marriage, but she’d never been lonelierYou can binge more episodes of Ladies, We Need to Talk on the ABC listen app (in Australia) or wherever you get your podcasts. This episode contains references to marriage, wedding, runaway bride, comedy, stand-up, dating, Tinder, online dating, shame, depression, mental health, immigrant, immigration, family, IVF, pregnancy, miscarriage, relationships. 

A herpes diagnosis can come with a whole lot of stigma, but it shouldn't. Around 15% of us carry the antibodies to genital herpes, making it one of the most common STIs in Australia.Yumi Stynes finds out what it's like hearing you have herpes for the first time and how to best manage. From itching to tell partners to soothing your symptoms and how to keep sex humming. Plus, STI expert Dr Ellie Freedman explains the science behind the virus and how it changes over time.What to listen to next: The secret lives of vaginasEsther Perel — how to have a hard conversationBody image and babies with Turia Pitt and Sophie WalkerYou can binge more episodes of Ladies, We Need to Talk on the ABC listen app (in Australia) or wherever you get your podcasts.  What to read next:   Why Kate chose to 'stay flat' after breast cancer surgeryHow Turia Pitt's body image changed in motherhoodWhat loving someone with an addiction or dependence can look likeThe dark side of being a perfectionistThis episode will answer questions like: What is genital herpes?What does it feel like to get genital herpes?What's the difference between HSV-1 and HSV-2?How is herpes spread?Why is there stigma around herpes?How do people manage genital herpes?How are relationships and sex impacted by herpes?This episode contains references to genital herpes, herpes simplex virus type one, herpes simplex virus type two, antibodies, sexual health, womens health, shame, stigma, mental health, vagina, vulva.

Approaching her 70th birthday, Gail Rice booked herself an appointment with a sex worker. She'd never done anything like it in her life. As a younger woman, Gail had enjoyed a string of sexual and romantic partners. As the years passed, her sexual currency dwindled and she was hungry for intimacy. But exchanging money for sex taught Gail much more about herself than she was expecting. This is a story about erotic power, ageing and finding the courage to ask for what you want. What to listen to next: Loneliness – you're not alone Sugar babies – dating men for money You can binge more episodes of Ladies, We Need to Talk on the ABC listen app (in Australia) or wherever you get your podcasts.  What to read next:   Why Kate chose to 'stay flat' after breast cancer surgeryHow Turia Pitt's body image changed in motherhoodWhat loving someone with an addiction or dependence can look likeThe dark side of being a perfectionistThis episode contains references to sex work, ageing, women, sexuality, escort, paying for sex, erotic power, getting older, orgasm.Correction: this episode describes Gail Rice approaching Mitch's escort agency for a refund. However, Gail contacted Mitch directly and got him to agree to a refund. 

Ozempic has entered the group chat. Since GLP-1 agonist drugs burst onto the scene, they've been hailed as a weight-loss game changer, but they've also raised uncomfortable questions about what bodies are acceptable, or not.For years, the body inclusivity movement pushed back against the idea that only thin bodies can be 'healthy' but Ozempic & co are drowning out this message.So, what do these drugs mean for fat liberation? And how can we shift our collective thinking around weight and morality?Yumi Stynes chats to a panel of amazing women about the impact of this new generation of weight-loss drugs and how we can all find ways to be kinder to our bodies.Featured in this conversation:Dr Emma Beckett, nutritionistEvie Gardiner, size inclusivity advocateNat Atkinson, mum taking WegovyWhat to listen to next:The Ozempic eraI'm fat, don't hate me—Aubrey GordonFat talkYou can binge more episodes of Ladies, We Need to Talk on the ABC listen app (in Australia) or wherever you get your podcasts.What to read next:Why Kate chose to 'stay flat' after breast cancer surgeryHow Turia Pitt's body image changed in motherhoodThe women staying single by choice in a world of relentless dating pressureSugar babies give rich, older men the 'full girlfriend experience' at a priceThis episode will address questions like, what does it feel like to be a fat woman today? Is there increasing pressure to go on weight loss drug Ozempic? How has the rise in Ozempic impacted fat women? What is it like to loose a lot of weight? How does society treat you differently after weight loss?