Open Your Eyes with McKay Christensen

In today’s episode, McKay shines a spotlight on the concept of being a bucket filler and how listeners can live their lives with more intention and kindness. The inspiration for the episode is rooted in a poignant story from paramedic Jamie Erickson's life, and throughout the episode, our host discusses the concept of filling others' buckets with positivity to make them feel valued and appreciated. The episode also explores different themes that relate to the concept of bucket filling, such as the Platinum Rule, emotional bank accounts, social connection, empathy, perspective, and grief. McKay emphasizes the importance of being authentic and finding ways to fill others' buckets with things that are important to them, rather than what the filler might like. His words here today will inspire listeners to become more intentional about making a positive impact in the lives of those around them, to enhance their relationships with others by building trust and communication, and to listen intently to others in order to serve them and fill their buckets.Episode Highlights:Bucket fillingThe power of empathyThe role of perspective in navigating difficult situationsThe importance of small daily actionsGrief and how it affects individuals differentlyThe significance of resilience in overcoming adversityThe power of community support during times of griefBeing intentional about filling others' buckets with positivity.The Platinum RuleEmotional bank accountsSocial connectionListening intently to othersQuotes:"I want to be inspired, I want to learn, I want to improve my thinking.""My worst nightmare as a paramedic has come true.""Bucket filling is a way of life.""Fill their buckets with the things that are important to them, not you.""Just connecting, just sharing, just listening, can and does make all the difference.""A bucket filling move may be to spend time helping them, to give of your time, to help them set appointments or practice their work skills.""To be sincere in your connections or your bucket filling is to simply not have an agenda other than to be interested, to give, and to help.""One must continually make deposits of honesty, kindness, unconditional love, patience, all of those essential virtues that strengthen any relationship.”Links:https://www.mckaychristensen.org/

The term “expecting” refers to the act of anticipating something or someone that is likely to arrive, and in today’s episode, McKay reveals that it also holds the potential to unlock untold possibilities and transform our lives for the better. He begins by recounting some remarkable stories of mothers who were expecting, and goes on to explore such aspects as geographical location and the science behind twin pregnancies to highlight how our expectations can be shaped by external factors.The episode also touches on the power of setting expectations for oneself, and how, by creating neural pathways in our brains, we can learn to form expectations that enable us to achieve our goals. Practical tips on how to create empowering expectations, starting with visualizing our best possible selves, and writing down our future goals in a positive light, are shared as well. As you will hear in today’s inspiring episode, whether it's in the context of pregnancy or personal growth, expecting is a powerful force that can shape our lives in profound ways, and by learning to set empowering expectations and visualizing our future selves, we can create a life that aligns with our deepest desires and aspirations.Episode Highlights:Unique stories of mothers who were expecting The changes that occur when a  woman's is expecting Setting the right and reasonable expectationsCreating neural pathways in the brainImagining your best possible self and writing down everything about your future lifeDepicting explicit images of achievement and you vision of the futureThe impact of expectations on identityThe effort and thought necessary in forming expectationsQuotes:"But one mother from Mali who was expecting recently did something remarkable. 25 year old Halima Sissy set a new world record when she gave birth to nine babies at once.""And based on my experience with a wife and three daughters who have had children, it is obvious that more than their bodies change when they're expecting.""Expecting is an apt or fitting term because getting pregnant does change your life.""Time spent to set the right and reasonable expectations may have more power to influence outcome than training or many other factors.""When you imagine yourself doing something, you create a neural pathway.""Studies show that depicting explicit images of achievement, which I call priming, helps you more than you realize at reaching your goals.""Once you do this, like expecting mothers, you begin to put on a different identity, and that identity begins to guide your efforts."Links:https://www.mckaychristensen.org/

In this week’s episode, McKay’s focus is on change and how there can be little change in the world until we have the courage to change ourselves. He begins by looking at the advancements of artificial intelligence including the story of the development of OpenAI, a nonprofit organization founded in 2015 by tech entrepreneurs such as Elon Musk and Reid Hoffman. McKay notes that, despite the potential positive impact of AI, there are also concerns about its negative effects, and he encourages us all to learn more about this momentous change that is coming to all our lives.He also highlights the inspiring stories of Marva Collins and Tererai Trent, two women who overcame obstacles and changed their lives and those of others through education. Both women's stories demonstrate the transformative power of education and the importance of instilling people with belief in their own potential.  Our host concludes by reminding us all that our belief in ourselves will do more for us and those around us than we can possibly imagine, and to put our fears aside, choose change, and rise - to become who we can truly become.Episode Highlights:Artificial intelligence and its potential benefits to humanity The story of OpenAIChatGPT and concerns about its useMarva Collins, Tererai Trent and the positive change they have made in the world The power of belief, discipline, and hard workThe transformative nature of educationEmpowering people with the belief in their own potentialEnvisioning and reframing the future for yourself and your teamSharing evidence and stories of successQuotes:"OpenAI is located in San Francisco and runs the fifth largest supercomputer in the world.""AI systems work by ingesting large amounts of data, analyzing the data for patterns, then using those patterns to do the work.""The news has reported that students won't ever have to write their own research papers again. They'll just go to ChatGPT, ask a question, and the AI will write the lesson for them.""When you give them belief and they can see their own power to change, you will change your team.""Almost all beliefs are hand-me-downs.""If you have belief the size of a mustard seed, you can move mountains.""Both Marva Collins and Tererai Trent's stories illustrate the transformative nature of education and the importance of empowering people with the belief in their own potential.""Belief also comes from experience and evidence, as well as envisioning and reframing the future for oneself and one's team."“May God bless you this week as you and I both choose to change.”Links:https://www.mckaychristensen.org/

In today’s episode, McKay explores the power of knowing and learning through experience.  Recounting a variety of stories and examples, McKay emphasizes the importance of this way of learning and living, and highlights the negative impact of shifting from knowing by experience to knowing by description. Throughout the episode, he encourages listeners to engage with the world around them and put in the effort to truly come to know and learn.Our host also touches upon the idea of being a prisoner in our own lives and the walls that can keep us from learning and growing. Through the story of Ingrid Olsen, a recently divorced mother who takes a long bike ride in search of spiritual solace, the host illustrates the power of faith and determination in overcoming life's challenges. His words of wisdom today serve as a reminder for listeners to step out of their comfort zones and actively seek out new experiences and knowledge, regardless of the challenges that may arise. By learning through experience and engaging with the world around us, McKay assures us all that we can break down those walls that may be holding us back and live a more fulfilling life. Episode Highlights:Trivia and knowledgeThe importance of experiential knowledgeThe impact of the shift from knowing by experience to knowing by descriptionThe effort necessary to really know and understand a person or a principleParents becoming ‘personal assistants’ to their childrenExpanding knowledge in all areas of our livesAvoiding falling back into negative patternsEmbracing opportunities to learn and growQuotes:"But is knowing trivia really knowledge? Is it useful?""Well, it might be a good sign that you can remember things, but does it make you a better decision maker? Does it give you direction in your life?""Those with whom you are interacting are either buying into you or not buying in at all.""It's not really about the product or message. It is about you.""We have a lot of knowledge about a lot of things, but we've lost the power, the personal power of knowing by experience.""The mentally poor life is a life that lacks feeling, depth, or emotion.""What you come to know can bless your life for years to come.""There's more in life than what we know today.""We have choices that can help us step out and come to know new and amazing things in our lives.""Success comes from taking risks and learning from experience."Links:https://www.mckaychristensen.org/

This week, McKay turns the spotlight to the power of laughter and humor as a powerful anecdote to the stresses and worries of life.  He examines the skills of those who talk funny and the research behind laughter’s ability to improve our well-being.Throughout the episode, McKay shares some personal experiences with humor and how it has helped him get through difficult times. He also looks at how you can improve your sense of humor, the importance of being able to see the funny side of things, and the power of preserving amusing moments. Overall, our host emphasizes the significance of finding humor in life's challenges, as it can bring a brighter outlook, help to overcome difficult situations, and create a positive impact on our lives. Whether through self-reflection or seeking out new experiences, McKay’s sage advice here today is to embrace humor as a means to improve your wellbeing.Episode Highlights:The impact of laughter on the brain and physical healthLaughter as a powerful tool for influenceLaughter therapyThe science behind laughter and its effects on neurotransmittersThe power of humor in personal and professional lifeMcKay’s experiences with humorSeeing the funny side of things and improving your sense of humorKeeping a catalog of amusing momentsQuotes:"Laughing is a magical antidote to the stresses and worries of life.""Laughter is proven to strengthen your immune system, relieve pain, and improve personal wellbeing.""We are meant to laugh.""And they were laughing in such a big way I couldn't help but smile when I drove past them.""Well, some funny people will tell you to take a half an hour a day for a week and write amusing things that you've seen or have happened in your life.""This catalog of amusing things will become fuel for your humor fire.""Humor is not about one-liners or being able to tell jokes. Things happen on their own that are funny.""You don't have any idea what you're doing as a parent.""When your first child eats dirt, you rush them to the doctor. When your second eats dirt, you wash out their mouth...By the time you get to child number three, when he eats dirt, you think, great. Don't need to feed him lunch.""You'd stop worrying so much what people think about you if you really knew how seldom they do."Links:https://www.mckaychristensen.org/

This week, McKay introduces the theme of finding purpose in life, sharing insights and tips he has learned over time, and emphasizing that having a purpose can bring powerful health and mental benefits. The episode is inspired by a five-year study conducted by two professors and two medical doctors, which concluded that purpose-driven people were 42% less likely to die in the next five years compared to those without purpose. The potential of some remarkable medical advancements in extending and improving our lives is also explored.McKay goes on to share the story of Mother Teresa and her journey to find her purpose in life. He recounts some common misconceptions about finding purpose, highlights the impact of a small, meaningful purpose, and notes that Mother Teresa's commitment to relieving poverty and suffering resulted in a legacy that continues to inspire and bring hope to those in need. In the end, our host concludes that "nothing is more important than knowing your purpose in life,” and that "a purpose-led life is powerful enough to extend life and bestow health and mental benefits" - valuable insights that we would all do well to take to heart.The Finer Details of This Episode:Regenerative medicine and some predictions about it future capabilitiesAdvancements in the science of immunotherapyThe study regarding purpose and mortalityThe health and mental benefits of having a purposeCommon misconceptions about finding purposeThe impact of a small, meaningful purposeMother Teresa's legacy and her journey to finding her purposeFinding your purposeThe power of a purpose-led lifeQuote:"Your cells already know how to make all the organs or limbs in your body and science just needs to discover how to trigger and convince your cells to do what we want your cells to do.""The science of immunotherapy is advancing quickly and the advancement in immunotherapy is likely to transform cancer care.""These discoveries will change life as we know it, allowing us to regrow limbs, repair damaged organs, and cure debilitating diseases.""Sometimes we wait for God to reveal something huge, when in fact we could be about a meaningful purpose that is small but could bring great purpose and wealth to our life.""Mother Teresa's legacy continues to inspire and bring hope to those in need.""She gave herself to it to live among the poor and help them.""Her purpose kept her going.""She opened a hospice for the dying, a hospice for lepers, and a children's home for homeless children."“I've also learned that finding your true purpose almost always has to do with helping other people because that is God's purpose.”“When you find your purpose, you will find your life.”Links:https://www.mckaychristensen.org/

In this episode of Open Your Eyes, McKay delves into the theme of taking control of one's life and reaching one's potential, and he does this through the lens of the Boston Marathon. The stories of some Marathon runners, as discussed by McKay, offer insight and encouragement to do the hard things in order to achieve success. The rigorous process of qualifying for the marathon, the dedication and hard work required to be considered as a participant, the emotions and experiences of race day, and the camaraderie and support of the spectators and fellow runners are all explored. Our host also shares the power of determination and perseverance, and introduces listeners to the "Scream Tunnel" -  a powerful reminder of the impact that support and encouragement can have in an individual's journey towards their goals. During the episode, McKay also recounts the remarkable story of Katherine Switzer, and emphasizes the importance of proving our abilities and the price we must pay to truly run the race of life. As you listen in today, you will gain insight into how to take your life back and do the things necessary to grow your business and achieve success - including losing things such as idle time and the willingness to procrastinate so that you can gain energy, satisfaction, and a sense of being remarkable. Inspirational and motivational, today’s episode answers that most crucial of questions: Isn’t it time to do the hard things necessary to take your life back?The Finer Details of This Episode:Overview of the Boston Marathon and its significanceThe power of determination and perseveranceThe "Scream Tunnel" Doing the hard things in order to achieve successThe story of Katherine Switzer Taking your life back and doing the necessary thingsLosing a few thingsThe importance of training and working hard, even when no one is watchingProving yourself yourselfMaking the effort to be remarkableQuotes:"500,000 spectators line the route and gather at the finish line to cheer on a brother, a sister, a friend, or to just watch runners reaching their goals.""Race day is an experience all by itself.""One magical place on the course is called ‘Scream Tunnel.’""Isn't it time to take your life back, do the hard things when it's time?”"And soon you'll be in the habit and your life, yourself, your self worth, will return.""It also means you may gain a few things - energy, satisfaction, and a sense of you being remarkable.""She trained and worked and finally ran a marathon plus an extra 5 miles to prove to her coach that she could run the distance.""And in Katherine's case, she proved her ability in training by herself with no one watching.”"The other runners were happy to see her and supportive of her.”Links:https://www.mckaychristensen.org/

In this week’s episode of Open Your Eyes, McKay introduces and explores the topic of getting your life back. He begins with the very recent story of Damar Hamlin, a defensive back for the Buffalo Bills, who collapsed on the field during a game due to cardiac arrest. Christensen highlights the shock and surprise of both players and audience members at the event, and uses it as an example of how our behavior and beliefs are deeply rooted in the way we see the world and ourselves in it. He goes on to discuss other examples of individuals in high-stress fields, such as professional athletes and performers, who have experienced similar events.McKay also recounts the story of the 1846 Donner party, a group of pioneers who were leaving Missouri and Ohio and headed to Oregon and California. He reveals how the party was persuaded to take a shorter, less-traveled path, how this decision ultimately led to their downfall, and the lessons we can learn from this famous event. Through the examples discussed in the episode, McKay highlights the notion that gaining a new perspective can empower us to think and live differently - essentially allowing us to get our lives back.The Finer Details of This Episode:How our behavior and beliefs are deeply rooted in the way we see the world and ourselves in itSome stories that are illustrative of this conceptGaining a new perspective on the way we see the world and ourselves in itEmpowering yourself to think and live differentlySome real life examples including the story of Damar Hamlin and The Donner partyFinding what really matters in life and how to get your life backThree questions to ask yourselfFinding renewal and resuscitation in your lifeAdding new elements to your lifeQuotes:"This podcast is born from a deep desire to help us all live a happier life, and the belief that a powerful way to make that happen is to open our eyes to new ways of seeing life.""We believe that the foundation of our behavior and beliefs is the way we see the world and ourselves in it.""The fact that Hamlin had in fact died, his heart stopping on the field was a shock to the players and the audience.""We can come back from the dead. We can resuscitate our goals, we can give our true effort when we're working for what matters.""Thinking clearly about what we've lost and what it means to us can help us find the strength to make the changes we need""We all need to revive a few things in our life from time to time""You have to act as if you have purpose.”"New people bring inspiration, new ideas, energy, and new interests""Learn something new. Read. Newness in one area of your life will help you find newness in other areas as well.""We all need a few signposts or names or symbols to help us remember to stay on the right road and remind us to keep our life on track."Links:https://www.mckaychristensen.org/

McKay launches today’s episode by introducing the metaphor of sailing a ship and how it relates to your life. In the process, he delves into the importance of taking control of your life as the captain of your own ship and how this can lead to a renewed sense of purpose and direction for the new year.Throughout the episode, McKay relates the stories of some historic incidents at sea as he discusses the significance of "nailing one's colors to the mast" and the importance of perseverance and leadership in navigating difficult times. The concept of applying this idea to your personal and professional life, and the importance of not giving up and continuing to push through difficult times instead are also highlighted. Listen in today to gain a deeper understanding of the importance of perseverance and leadership and how they can help you navigate through difficult times in life.The Finer Details of This Episode:The metaphor of a ship and how it relates to our livesMaking good, smart choicesThe host talks about the importance of being open to new opportunities and experiencesStories of ships that sank and how they relate to the metaphor of our livesThe tragic eruption of the White Island volcano and the Phoenix tourist shipBeing prepared and aware of potential dangersHistorical sea battles and the significance of "nailing your colors to the mast"  Perseverance and leadership in difficult timesQuotes:"I believe there are new and wonderful things waiting for you this year.""Ultimately, we get to choose how our story will be written, and the choice is ours.""Nail your colors to the mast.""When the wind goes out of your sails, when you lose your mast, so to speak, the fleet assumes you've surrendered.”"Be the captain of change for your team and for yourself.”"It's time to shift from the life you've had and the person you've been into the new life and better person you are seeking.""I know it will require sacrifice. And I get it. You're trying to change a long-standing habit.""It's your ship. And your ship can be remarkable.""Adding ‘ship’ to ‘partner’ does the same thing. It brings in this power and this responsibility that the relationship is yours to navigate"Links:https://www.mckaychristensen.org/

Today’s episode of the Open Your Eyes podcast is all about the journey towards finding purpose in life and the power of perspective in shaping our experiences. To begin, Mckay introduces the story of Eugene, a man who had a script for his life with careers in the police force, Air Force, and as a professional pilot, but was left wondering what he was looking for after a plane crash left him unable to fly. From there, our host delves into the theme of examining our views and perspectives in order to make good choices that lead us towards finding our purpose. McKay also discusses the importance of taking bold steps and going outside of our comfort zones in order to find our purpose, using the story of William Shatner as an example. Additionally, he explores the idea that we often have the skills and abilities we need to succeed, and that changing our perspective can help us reach our goals. Our host goes on to use his own experience, and the story of a business owner with whom he worked, to illustrate these themes and encourage us all to think about our own journey towards finding purpose and achieving success.The Finer Details of This Episode:Shaping your own story Making good choicesKnowing what you’re looking forExamining your views and perspectivesBeing open to new opportunities and experiencesThinking about what you are looking for in lifeTaking steps towards finding your purposeQuotes:"I believe there are new and wonderful things waiting for you and me this year.""Ultimately, we get to choose how our story will be written.""I think this happens to us now and then... we come to realize, ‘I don't really know what I'm looking for.’""Sometimes you need to boldly go where you otherwise wouldn't to really find what you're looking for - to find you.""To discover something more valuable... do something unexpected.""Hesitate less. Go to that event. Make the phone call. Extend yourself and swallow your pride.""The rewards are so great because so few ever succeed. Too many succumb to despair and fail along the way without realizing they already possess all the talent necessary to reach success.""Everything was waiting for her to switch her belief window to, ‘I am prepared, I am ready for just a moment as this, and I can seize today and act with urgency.’""We can't let our past dictate our present or our future.""We must be willing to let go of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us."Links:https://www.mckaychristensen.org/