Healing Honeys with Louise Rumball

Explore the often-overlooked fearful avoidant attachment style and its roots in childhood trauma. Discover how this complex dynamic affects adult relationships, sparking a desire for closeness while also instilling fear of intimacy. Learn effective communication strategies to promote understanding and emotional regulation. The discussion emphasizes patience and self-awareness, highlighting the importance of personal growth for both partners. Uncover the delicate balance of vulnerability and trust needed to build healthier connections.

Ever dated an avoidant man or woman? They disappear when conflict starts or a conversation heats up? You feel like you get close to them, but never quite fully there? Maybe you are one yourself and other people feel ‘too needy, too much’, or that being independent and alone is safer and less hectic. Maybe you don't see the point in talking about your feelings, don't like to depend on others for help, think relationships are a lot of work or just prefer 'being mysterious?' If this is you, or it sounds like your partner, this episode is for you. After the success of our anxious attachment series, we know you will take deep value from this episode  Louise Rumball & clinical psychologist Dr Tari Mack discuss: ⇢What is an avoidant attachment style ⇢How did it form in childhood ⇢What are avoidantly attached people actually scared of (you might be surprised!) ⇢Why do the avoidantly attached live life with a ‘buffer’ between them and others  ⇢Why the fear of true intimacy drives an intermittent reinforcement cycle ⇢Why an anxiously attached person is often an avoidantly attached person’s worst nightmare ⇢Why you can never truly thrive with an avoidant attachment until you are working on it ⇢How conflict can actually bring you closer together if you learn to regulate your attachment style And more! Louise also shares her own experiences with: The difference between solutions based love and reassurance based love when in conflict ⇢Tolerating avoidantly attached relationships ⇢Trying to pull men closer to get them to experience true intimacy; and ⇢ Dr Tari shares why there is only one person who can fully break the cycle. If you are anxiously attached, be sure to listen to Episodes 38, 39 and 40 of the podcast before getting into this one.  Daily Devotion™ is now live on the App Store & Google Play — unlock your healthiest, happiest, highest self with somatic daily wellness rituals, free for 7 days → [⁠⁠⁠REDEEM⁠⁠⁠]  Real talk, honest conversations, and stories that make you think—welcome to The Healing Honeys. Hit play and let’s get into it. ------ 🤍 FOLLOW LOUISE / HEALING HONEYS 🤍 https://www.youtube.com/@healinghoneys https://www.instagram.com/iamlouiserumball/ https://www.tiktok.com/@healinghoneys_ https://www.instagram.com/healinghoneys/ HEAL WITH LOUISE ✨ 7 Day Somatic Healing Trial: Daily Devotion ✨ Therapy + Healing PDFs: Therapy Shop ✨ 7 Day Free Confidence Queen Overhaul: Waitlist Sign Up ✨ There She Glows: 12 Week Life Transformation: Waitlist Sign Up Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sarah Murphy, Friend of Louise, joins the podcast to discuss the biology of anxious attachment. They delve into topics such as the nervous system, triggers, grounding techniques, the connection between mental health and the nervous system, and Sarah's product recommendations. They also explore the impact of the dorsal state, emotional suppression, reconnecting with the body, co-regulation, and the importance of diet and magnesium for managing stress.

Dr Tari Mack, a clinical psychologist, and Louise Rumball explore the four stages of an anxious attachment style, the underlying fears behind it, and the triggers that provoke an attachment attack. They discuss protest behaviors, navigating anxious and avoidant attachment in relationships, and the healing power of self-love. The chapter also dives into finding peace and grounding with an anxious attachment style.

Our top performing episode ever. Having an anxious attachment is stressful as f**k. And what’s even more stressful? When people don’t talk about how stressful it is. In this episode, we look at an anxious attachment style *in action* as Louise feels anxious about the new man she is dating. Dr Tari helps to talk her through what she is feeling, where the fear is coming from, how to handle the situation and more.  Louise and Dr Tari explore ⇢ What it means to have an anxious attachment style; ⇢ How to manage and regulate your anxious attachment style;  ⇢ How to communicate this with someone else;  ⇢ How to finally break your own attachment cycles once and for all.  Louise also asks Dr Tari: ⇢ Whether you can fully heal the anxious attachment style;  ⇢ Who you should be avoiding when dating; and ⇢ How to stay regulated when things really feel out of control.  Daily Devotion™ is now live on the App Store & Google Play — unlock your healthiest, happiest, highest self with somatic daily wellness rituals, free for 7 days → [⁠⁠⁠⁠REDEEM⁠⁠⁠⁠]  Real talk, honest conversations, and stories that make you think—welcome to The Healing Honeys. Hit play and let’s get into it. ------ 🤍 FOLLOW LOUISE / HEALING HONEYS 🤍 ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@healinghoneys⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/iamlouiserumball/⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/healinghoneys/ HEAL WITH LOUISE ✨ 7 Day Somatic Healing Trial: Daily Devotion ✨ Therapy + Healing PDFs: Therapy Shop ✨ 7 Day Free Confidence Queen Overhaul: Waitlist Sign Up ✨ There She Glows: 12 Week Life Transformation: Waitlist Sign Up HEALING HONEY PODCAST SPONSORS BetterHelp: 10% off your first month of therapy at betterhelp.com/healinghoneys with code HEALINGHONEYS. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Waiting for someone who is just not ready to date you, to be ready to date you? I ask my therapist, should we wait for them to start their healing, get over their ex, let their busy period at work calm down for them to step up to the plate - or should we just move on? Should we entertain them as a friend? Should we stay in contact? Should we keep things going until they see how good you two could be together?  Louise and Dr Tari explore ⇢ The clear, conscious and subconscious ways that people say they ‘can’t show up for you right now’ ⇢ What to do if someone is acting nonchalant or is expressly communicating that they don’t want a relationship but they like you; ⇢ How to ask someone what they want in a relationship (and when you should do so);  ⇢ How and why people use sex and hook ups to avoid emotional vulnerability and intimacy. Louise also asks shares: ⇢ Her personal story around how meeting someone who ticks ‘most of the boxes’ can lead you on a wild goose chase of waiting for them to be ready; ⇢ Her friends recent story, and whether you can really be friends with someone you have slept with;  ⇢ Her experience of why not all men’s word can be trusted. Daily Devotion™ is now live on the App Store & Google Play — unlock your healthiest, happiest, highest self with somatic daily wellness rituals, free for 7 days → [⁠⁠⁠⁠REDEEM⁠⁠⁠⁠]  Real talk, honest conversations, and stories that make you think—welcome to The Healing Honeys. Hit play and let’s get into it. ------ 🤍 FOLLOW LOUISE / HEALING HONEYS 🤍 ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@healinghoneys⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/iamlouiserumball/⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/healinghoneys/ HEAL WITH LOUISE ✨ 7 Day Somatic Healing Trial: Daily Devotion ✨ Therapy + Healing PDFs: Therapy Shop ✨ 7 Day Free Confidence Queen Overhaul: Waitlist Sign Up ✨ There She Glows: 12 Week Life Transformation: Waitlist Sign Up Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The best sagittarius duo, Louise & Monica and their epic friendship bring the fire in this first ever GIRL TALK episode between the two of them. After recently being together in Tulum and knowing they need to share their healing lessons with the world.  Now you can join this powerful pairing as they talk real life, dating, men, falling in love, sex, intimacy and more, covering: Why you keep texting men to distract yourself, instead of actually doing the work to find a good one;  Why our nervous systems are always f&cKING on & how dating only perpetuates this cycle;  How your childhood wounds drive the partners you are picking and dating today; Louise & Monica's own personal stories around their childhoods; Why you are probably your own red flag; Polarity between masculine & feminine energy & why this is so important in your romantic relationships;  Monica's new boyfriend & the guy Louise is dating in Tulum; How sex can be a healing experience, as can relationships; And MORE! Daily Devotion™ is now live on the App Store & Google Play — unlock your healthiest, happiest, highest self with somatic daily wellness rituals, free for 7 days → [⁠⁠REDEEM⁠⁠]  ------ 🤍 FOLLOW LOUISE / HEALING HONEYS 🤍 https://www.youtube.com/@healinghoneys https://www.instagram.com/iamlouiserumball/ https://www.tiktok.com/@healinghoneys_ https://www.instagram.com/healinghoneys/ HEAL WITH LOUISE ✨ 7 Day Somatic Healing Trial: Daily Devotion ✨ Therapy + Healing PDFs: Therapy Shop ✨ 7 Day Free Confidence Queen Overhaul: Waitlist Sign Up ✨ There She Glows: 12 Week Life Transformation: Waitlist Sign Up Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Attracted to looks, power, status and aesthetics but want to really find true meaningful connections?  This episode is for you.  Today, Dr Tari Mack and Louise Rumball explore why today’s society are attracted to external metrics and what we really need to be focusing on to be building deeper, healthier and more conscious connections.  The pair explore:  ⇢ The external metrics of attraction ⇢The concepts of superficial love vs. deep intimacy and emotional vulnerability  ⇢How social media today makes you feel ‘less than’ others ⇢How a focus on the external world does not cultivate the internal world that ultimately attracts the right people around you ⇢How a focus on the external in terms of appearance, aesthetics and ‘fine tuning our facial work’ will not take you to true happiness ⇢How to cultivate a deeper relationship with yourself and those around you  ⇢The concept of ‘non-judgment’ in relationships ⇢What it means to be attracted to money, success and status ⇢What subconscious fears are running what you are attracted to + Louise’s personal experiences of ⇢How not being ‘the prettiest’ at school shaped her relationship with her self and body ⇢How her dating has changed throughout her 20s and into her 30s - and how dating attractive people & used to validate her ⇢What is important for her now in a relationship Daily Devotion™ is now live on the App Store & Google Play — unlock your healthiest, happiest, highest self with somatic daily wellness rituals, free for 7 days → [⁠⁠REDEEM⁠⁠]  ------ 🤍 FOLLOW LOUISE / HEALING HONEYS 🤍 https://www.youtube.com/@healinghoneys https://www.instagram.com/iamlouiserumball/ https://www.tiktok.com/@healinghoneys_ https://www.instagram.com/healinghoneys/ HEAL WITH LOUISE ✨ 7 Day Somatic Healing Trial: Daily Devotion ✨ Therapy + Healing PDFs: Therapy Shop ✨ 7 Day Free Confidence Queen Overhaul: Waitlist Sign Up ✨ There She Glows: 12 Week Life Transformation: Waitlist Sign Up Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You ghosted me then ‘orbited me’ so my therapist told me to block you. Exploring the psychology of orbiting Orbiting is the newest toxic relationship trend. Orbiting is when someone breaks off direct contact with you after you have been talking, dating or sleeping together, but then they continue to engage with you on social media - orbiting around you.  In this quick fire OPEN(HEART) episode of the OPENHOUSE Podcast, Louise sits down with Dr Tari Mack for a live coaching session on what to do with a guy that is orbiting her.  Louise and Dr Tari explore ⇢ What is orbiting; ⇢ Why people do it; ⇢ What it means; ⇢ What to do if you are on the receiving end of it;  Louise also asks whether: ⇢ You should block someone who is orbiting you;  ⇢ Whether blocking someone seems too dramatic;  ⇢ Whether she should have a conversation with the person.  Daily Devotion™ is now live on the App Store & Google Play — unlock your healthiest, happiest, highest self with somatic daily wellness rituals, free for 7 days → [⁠⁠REDEEM⁠⁠]  ------ 🤍 FOLLOW LOUISE / HEALING HONEYS 🤍 https://www.youtube.com/@healinghoneys https://www.instagram.com/iamlouiserumball/ https://www.tiktok.com/@healinghoneys_ https://www.instagram.com/healinghoneys/ HEAL WITH LOUISE ✨ 7 Day Somatic Healing Trial: Daily Devotion ✨ Therapy + Healing PDFs: Therapy Shop ✨ 7 Day Free Confidence Queen Overhaul: Waitlist Sign Up ✨ There She Glows: 12 Week Life Transformation: Waitlist Sign Up Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this bite size episode, Louise Rumball & clinical psychologist Dr Tari Mack look at orbiting - the newest toxic relationship trend when someone breaks off direct contact with you after you have been talking, dating or sleeping together, but then they continue to follow, engage or stalk you on social media - orbiting around you.  Louise and Dr Tari explore ⇢ What is orbiting; ⇢ Why people do it; ⇢ What it means; ⇢ What to do if you are on the receiving end of it;  Louise also asks whether: ⇢ You should block someone who is orbiting you;  ⇢ Whether blocking someone seems too dramatic;  ⇢ Whether she should have a conversation with the person.  There is also a major surprise at the end of this episode! It’s good fun! Daily Devotion™ is now live on the App Store & Google Play — unlock your healthiest, happiest, highest self with somatic daily wellness rituals, free for 7 days → [⁠⁠REDEEM⁠⁠]  ------ 🤍 FOLLOW LOUISE / HEALING HONEYS 🤍 https://www.youtube.com/@healinghoneys https://www.instagram.com/iamlouiserumball/ https://www.tiktok.com/@healinghoneys_ https://www.instagram.com/healinghoneys/ HEAL WITH LOUISE ✨ 7 Day Somatic Healing Trial: Daily Devotion ✨ Therapy + Healing PDFs: Therapy Shop ✨ 7 Day Free Confidence Queen Overhaul: Waitlist Sign Up ✨ There She Glows: 12 Week Life Transformation: Waitlist Sign Up Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices