The Overwhelmed Brain
Paul Colaianni: Relationship and Emotional Abuse Expert
Get to the root of emotional issues and learn the best way to relate to yourself and others by honoring your personal boundaries and making decisions that are in alignment with what's most important to you.
This is not a "common-sense" personal growth and development show. You won't be told to think positively or create affirmations. The Overwhelmed Brain is about accessing that deeper mental and emotional strength inside you so that you can decrease or even eliminate old fears and evolve into the person you want to be.
Learn what your parents or caretakers never taught you about emotional wellness and creating strong, non-toxic bonds with others.
If you want the exact instructions that will help improve your life, you're in the right place.
This is not a "common-sense" personal growth and development show. You won't be told to think positively or create affirmations. The Overwhelmed Brain is about accessing that deeper mental and emotional strength inside you so that you can decrease or even eliminate old fears and evolve into the person you want to be.
Learn what your parents or caretakers never taught you about emotional wellness and creating strong, non-toxic bonds with others.
If you want the exact instructions that will help improve your life, you're in the right place.
Episodes
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Jun 21, 2020 • 1h 9min
Dealing with mean family
There is a way to deal with mean family members. It may involve treating them like other people instead of family, which can help you disconnect from wanting to impress them or be loved by them. Or if you're not trying to do that, and you're just trying to get along with them, you might have to dive further into your bag of tools. Visit https://theoverwhelmedbrain.com and https://loveandabuse.com for more episodes.
Jun 14, 2020 • 1h 2min
Sometimes you have to take a stand to make a change in your life, even if you're scared as hell.
When you're in a situation that needs to change, but you're too afraid to take a stand or just hope it changes on its own, you may be waiting forever. Unfortunately, waiting for changes can often involve exposing yourself to a toxic environment, causing long-term emotional damage. If you want change, you might have to take a big scary step to get it.
Jun 10, 2020 • 56min
Your life's purpose does not have to be about you
When you can't find meaning and purpose in your life and you're not sure what your next steps are, and perhaps you're feeling antsy or anxious about those next steps, sometimes you have to think outside yourself and figure out what really brings you meaning. I keep the existential very practical in this episode, so maybe it's the trip you've been wanting to take for a while. Visit theoverwhelmedbrain.com for more episodes.
Jun 7, 2020 • 1h 13min
Can love enable those you care about to do bad behavior_
If you love someone, can you set them free to the point where they hit bottom? Sometimes the bottom is the only way back to the top. Tough love exists for a reason and sometimes it is the only way to see true change in someone who is being self-destructive. At that same time, it's important to define what love really is and if you are showing it and receiving it in a way that is healthy for everyone. It's not always easy to love, but it can be extremely rewarding when you have the right formula. Visit https://theoverwhelmedbrain.com/ and https://loveandabuse.com/ for more episodes on relationships
May 31, 2020 • 57min
When people don't like you
Ever have someone just not take a liking to you? When that happens, do you brush it off and move on with your day? Or do you brood about it wondering what you did wrong and what you can do right to make them like you? Is it okay to not be liked? I talk about that and more in this episode. visit https://theoverwhelmedbrain.com and https://loveandabuse.com for more episodes
May 27, 2020 • 33min
When you have to make a big decision about the relationship
Sometimes when you're in a relationship with someone, you might not know where it's going or if it will even make it. I prefer taking action instead of waiting for things to happen. In this episode, I share some ways to take action when there's a decision to be made about the relationship. Visit https://theoverwhelmedbrain.com/ and https://loveandabuse.com/ for more episodes on relationships
May 24, 2020 • 1h 4min
Waiting for someone else to change so that your life will be better
When you're doing the work, but the people around you aren't, and you are hoping, wishing and even praying that they "see the light" and make the changes that will be good for them, but they simply don't or won't work on themselves, what's your next step? That's the subject of today's episode. visit https://theoverwhelmedbrain and https://loveandabuse.com for more episodes.
May 21, 2020 • 58min
The emotional aftermath of getting free of the narcissistic relationship
The emotional challenges you experience after breaking up with a narcissist usually go way beyond grieving the end of a relationship. You can be stripped of your ability to see life clearly from that point on unless you heal. In this bonus episode, I cover a lot of ground when it comes to dealing with what happens to your mind and body as you transition out of one of the more toxic relationships that exist. Visit https://theoverwhelmedbrain.com and https://loveandabuse.com for more episodes about this and more subjects.
May 17, 2020 • 56min
Why you're not getting a second chance
When you get a second chance at a job, relationship, or anything that you wanted a do-over on, what's the best way to show up? Do you try to impress and show others how much you've changed? Or does that actually work against you? Visit https://theoverwhelmedbrain.com for more episodes and check out https://quietbegins.com for The SAFE System on Anxiety
May 10, 2020 • 56min
The toxic residue that lingers inside you from people that make you feel bad about yourself
When someone treats you badly, you can hold on to the emotions of that moment... forever. That diminishes your feelings of fulfillment and satisfaction and can linger with you even on your happiest days. It's time to address those emotional triggers that sneak up on you and ruin your day. Websites: The Overwhelmed Brain Difficult Relationships: Love and Abuse
